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Missed me, misssed me. Now you have to kiss me.

Tuesday, July 06, 2010

Okay, you dont have to kiss me if you dont want to. (but I AM single).

They say rehab never takes the first time. Your head is not in the right place. You are doing it for the wrong reasons. All you want to do is get your 28 days in and go home to your 'normal' life. And when you do things happen to distract you, derail you.

The trick to long term recovery is to keep coming back again until you get it right. And thats what I am doing. I have had a few relapses, but I am better prepared this time around. I have clearly defined goals and motivation. I have a good support system. And I have all my lovely SPFs.

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CHATTIEGIRL 10/10/2010 11:13PM

    Hi Ophelia:

Been here before and I have come to see how you are doing but you have not blog or changed anything so i can't tell. I just want to tell you stay faithful in what you want to accomplish in your life. There is only 1 person that can do it it for you and that is you. You are a strong person so start back with your healthy eating, routine exercises and reach that final goal you have set and buy those black, red trimmed shoes. I have faith in you and want to see you succeed. God bless you.


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CHICAT63 7/6/2010 9:28AM

    emoticon back, we're here for you ! And I will be cheering you on emoticon. There is always bumps in the road, always look forward and not back. You can do this, one day at a time, focus on you and your wellness. emoticon

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CHATTIEGIRL 7/6/2010 2:55AM


Hope you find someone good to kiss you. This time will be the charm and you will get it right. Don't try to take too much on at once, 1 step at a time. Look at 1 pound at a time. Stay true to yourself and keep eating healthy foods, keep up with your routine exercises and reach your goals you have set. Each day try and follow what you have laid out and it will all come together. I have faith in you and may God watch over you always.

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All out of bubblegum

Wednesday, March 31, 2010

It has been more than three months since my last blog. So I felt like I really had to come out with something awesome so you would see past my neglect and stand transfixed at my wit and brillance. This will have to do instead.

Let me expalin. Wait, there is no time, leeme sum up. My internet went away. Now it is back and so am I. My life hasnt been the same without you. I am glad we are together again.

I am cleaning SP house. I am re-seeting my program and all my streaks. I am leaving groups that I am not active with. I am rethinking my goals. I may even change my background. I am an insomniac and need a project.

Back to kicking names and taking ass. You're welcome to tag along'

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CHATTIEGIRL 1/6/2011 7:09PM


Would like to see you back again you have been gone too long. I hope you are continuing with your healthy eating, routine exercises and reaching your goals. God bless and watch over you. Love the Spark people, teams and friends, learn from them.


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XINIXINIX 4/13/2010 7:03PM

    (snork) ...I hear ya loud and clear.


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MISSANTHROPY15 3/31/2010 1:32PM

    I am taggin' along. And I AM standing transfixed at your wit and brilliance. emoticon

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FOXXYROXXYD 3/31/2010 8:28AM

    Welcome Back - glad to see you again! Together we can do this - Let's go!

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    I am sooooooooooo happy to have you back girlfriend I was worried!!! Glad to see you spring cleaning and refocusing!

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CHICAT63 3/31/2010 6:43AM

    Welcome back, let's go get'em Sista ! emoticon

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WISLNDR 3/31/2010 6:14AM

    Good to see you back! Sometimes it's useful to be away to know for sure what's really important.

Have a great day!!

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SEAGLASSQUEEN 3/31/2010 5:53AM

    Welcome back.

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Thursday, December 10, 2009

When I joined Spark People I decided that goal-setting was going to be an important part of gearing up for this healthy life style. I thought of a few date-specific goals and posted them on my page for everyone to see. It went a little something like this:

One Month Sparkiversary
-10 pounds

Valentine's Day
-25 pounds

My Un-Birthday
-50 pounds

Cesar and Robert's Wedding.
Have a great time!!

My 30th Birthday
-100 pounds

The problem with these is that I have been better than I anticipated. At my one month Sparkiversary I was down 16 pounds. I am just about two week away (fingers crossed) from meeting my February goal. What a fantastic problem to have. I am doing TOO well. Lol!!

The August goal remains the same. I just want to be secure and confident enough to have a really great time at my friends' wedding. The scale won't even be a factor.

So while I rework my goals I thought I would get some feed back from you out there in the interwebs. What are some non-weight goals you have set for yourself? How strict are you about a 'weightloss timeline'? How do you reward yourself for a job well done?

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CHATTIEGIRL 4/17/2011 9:15PM

    Hi Ophelia;

Going backwards on your blogs because you have not written any new ones or let us know how you are doing. We want to stand by you along you travels. Hope you are staying on you healthy eating and exercises. God bless and watch over you always.Learn from Spark people every day.


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TUBBYSHUKER370 1/7/2010 5:01PM

    For me it all balances out. If i have a good month then when i have a bad month hopefully it works itself out in the wash and I reach my goal at the same time regardless. The important thing is to be as consistent as possible, so that way you know it is your body that is fighting and you fighting you

Keep it up Chuck!

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HTENIGMA 12/12/2009 10:54AM

    I haven't set weight loss goals. I HAVE set lifestyle change expectations. So, like on the Silver Stars team, my goals were to watch my diet and exercise. Poundage goal? Nope. But in three weeks, I'm down about 8 pounds. It tends to be easier for me if I DON'T set a pound-per-week goal, and just say "as much as possible." Then, I have to "live right" in between the weigh-ins. :) As for the rewards, every pound I lose brings me closer to being able to wear my old wardrobe. I can wear four pairs of pants and three suits now that I couldn't three weeks ago. Have I worn them? You better believe it. :) And rewards don't have to be buying stuff, either. For me, sitting on my fanny for 10 minutes with a good book and ignoring everything that I "should" be doing is its own reward. :)

Congratulatiokns for exceeding your expectations, and keep on keepin' on!

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JUSDUCKY 12/11/2009 9:21AM

    I've been a little lack with the specifics of goal setting. I was here a year and lost and gained the same 14 pounds.

Started over fresh and now I'm being more diligent about the specifics.
I have a plan in place for food, exercise, and now you're reminding me to set goals for achievements.

Rewards? It's just been the feeling I get from succeeding right now.

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SILLYSTUDENT 12/10/2009 11:07PM

    okay, this one is going to be weight related, but bear with me! my goal is to be under 200lbs by my birthday of next year (july 7th). when i started at the beginning of sept i was around 250, so that gave me approx 43 weeks to lose 50 lbs. i didn't want to set a goal too high. and i think i set a pretty reasonable goal, especially since, like you, my first month i lost more than anticipated. that got me off to a good start and right now i am a little ahead of schedule according to the chart spakpeople makes with the red line as your weight timeline. i also didn't want to set myself up for disappointment if i set too high a goal and didn't reach it. i figured with my reasonable goal, it gave leeway for ups and down, especially with major holidays (thanksgiving & christmas) in between then and my goal date.

okay so now for some non-weight related goals! i have to admit i didn't really set any none weight related ones, except obviously fit into a smaller size! i can say that after 18 lbs down i am in some of the bigger 18's, down from between a 22-24! for christmas this year i am asking for some new jeans because my belt is getting pretty worn down from being used every single day.

i haven't really rewarded myself yet. i should probably start. but being a college student means what little money i have is basically gone before i even get the check. i think i could start with maybe some new music downloads or just "me" time for now. it's hard for me to reward myself because i don't want to be one of those people that rewards themself for every 5lbs. sure that might work if you aren't trying to lose vast amounts like i am! maybe it's just me.

anyways! sorry i kind of veered way off! anywho, good lick with your goals, and congrats on the success so far!

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Spark People, a love story

Wednesday, December 02, 2009

So much has changed for me since joining Spark People back in October. In addition to losing near twenty pounds I have over-hauled my entire life. Of course that means drinking water and working out and tracking my food. Those are all good tools and I use them daily. But what really made this work for me is the community support.

There are literally dozens of people who I can turn to for advice or simply vent to. People who cheer when I do well and boost me up when I have a rotten day. I recevied 8 pages birthday well-wishes from teammates and other Spark Friends. That made my day. To feel like I have people rooting for me, and even a little friendly competition, is a valueable assest I didnt even realize I was missing.

I am working every day on changing my body. But I am also working on fixing my thought process. The same way I am switching my eating habits I need to switch my way of thinking. I have wasted so much time beating myself up for being heavy. Beating myself up the first time I hit a snag on my weigh-loss journey.

What if I were sick instead of fat? Would I quit taking my medication after missing a day or two of meds? Would I stop my therapy because I couldnt make it to an appointment? No. I would just tell myself tomorrow is a new day and I would get back on track.

So why was it that I was so unforgiving of myself when it came to healthy living? One slice of cheesecake and all I could think is what a fat loser I was. If I was too ill or tired to get a full 60 minute work out in I would decide that I was too big to exercise and should just accept my fat fate.

Joining SparkPeople has changed all that for me. I have learned to take the journey one step at a time. And stumbling doesnt mean quitting. It means dusting yourself off and trying again. I wake up and tell myself to just focus on today. Making good choices today. Get my ass moving today. And as the days build up, so do the good habits and the positive effects.

So let me sum up with some Spark love. Mad love to the Done Being The Fat Girl team! You ladies rock my world!! Love again to my challenge teammates, The Snowmen and The Silver Stars! Thanks for a daily boost. Love, love, love to all my SPFs. I dont have time to name you one by one but you know who you are. Keep fighting the good fight and just being you!

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TUBBYSHUKER370 1/7/2010 4:57PM

    Awe shucks!

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VEMAN1 12/8/2009 7:40PM

    Your tribute is fantastic.

I congratulate you on finding Sparks and regaining your life. Sometimes we all need a hug. This community is grateful for your participation. Without you we would be less, too.

A special kudos on the 20 lbs loss. You are definitely on your way!


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AKELAZ 12/7/2009 7:35AM

    I've been away without www access and so only just seen this. Great Blog - must go to all our hearts. It has particularly spoken to me. I have always been the first to give up because of that slice of cheesecake or day without exercise (all just excuses to indulge further!) Now all the wonderful Sparkers keep me going. I haven't done as well as I hoped but for the first time EVER I don't want to give up thanks to people like you.

Congrats on doing so well in the weightloss stakes - but more so on the understanding you have gained and are putting into practice. I have copied your blog and stuck it on my bedroom wall so it's the first thing I see when I wake up and on my fridge door so I see it before I open it up - may even stick in on my forehead - all in the hopes that I will end up on my way to your great attitude.

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WINDSONG26 12/2/2009 10:11PM

    Congrats on your success!! Success doesn't just show on the shows up everywhere. I"m glad that spark helps you get there :)

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LUCKYIMYOURS87 12/2/2009 5:45PM

    This post articulates EXACTLY how I feel about this website! I am so glad to hear that you have had success here. I think we all have days where we view that slice of cheesecake or non-exercise as the end of the world, but your realizations about those situations are SO refreshing. You go, girl!

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RANDOM00B 12/2/2009 2:17PM

    CONGRATULATIONS on your success so far!!

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BOJANGLES17 12/2/2009 10:28AM

    emoticon Great posting, and every word is so true! I love your attitude!

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KARVY09 12/2/2009 9:12AM

    We love you too! You're doing fab!!!

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SWAZY33 12/2/2009 7:54AM

    Great blog! So true for me too!
I am always amazed at the wonderful
positive support here on spark.
It really DOES help knowing ppl are
there for you to cheer you on when you succeed
or pick you up if you had a bad day!
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DENRNAJ 12/2/2009 7:47AM

    Spark out LOUD!!!!!
I love this place too

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4MYBOYSANDSELF 12/2/2009 7:31AM

    WAHOOOO!!! Well written. I agree with every word!

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WISLNDR 12/2/2009 7:25AM

    Isn't this an amazing place?? We're so blessed to be here!

Thanks for the blog!

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KENDALL7261 12/2/2009 7:20AM

  SparkPeople is definitely changing lives!

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HTENIGMA 12/2/2009 7:20AM

    Wow - you rock, girl! Way to overhaul the stinkin' thinkin'. :) {hugs}

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I think I just threw up in my mouth a bit

Friday, November 06, 2009

Note: The names are changed to protect the not-so-innocent. I am sure you can crack my secret code.

Another sleepless night. I wasn't actually hungry but I found myself wanting to go to a chain hamburger place that rhymes with Schmack Schmonalds. Instead, I fired up my trusty internets and decided to look up the nutritional value of my favorite meal. The restuarant has a well-developed website that allows you to build a meal out of your favorite items and then get nutrition info on the entire order. So I entered in one of my favorite meals. 2 two-patty cheeseburgers, fries and a Coke (both large). I was shocked and disgusted by the numbers I was shown. That particular combo is......wait for it.......
1690 calories and 70 grams of fat. I almost puked. Just knowing that last month that would have been my lunch and now it is as many calories as I eat in a day was truly revealing. I checked some of my other old haunts to stare the ghost of meals past right in the face. Junior Carl's Guacamole and Bacon burger, fried zucchini (a little treat I would give myself on rough days), fries and coke comes at 2120 calories and 138 grams of fat. Jack in the Bocks Bacon Ultima Chesseburger with (you guessed it) fries and a coke: 2110 calories and 92 grams of fat. Windy's, Burger Prince, they are all ther same. I selected different sandwiches to create different meals, all with large fries and large Coke. The lightest meal that I found was 1380 calories and 54 grams of fat.

Not to say that these were the healthiest things on the menu. Each place has salads and grilled chicken sandwiches and fruit trays and of course diet coke and water. They have lots of better optons, but I never ate those things. I made differnt choices.

Looking back on my old eating habits, it is no wonder I got to be this heavy. It was no big deal for me to have those meals a few times a week. Maybe even twice in the same day if things were really hectic. A days worth of calories, horked down so fast during my lunch break that I would barely remember tasting it. And that's not counting the days when I tacked on a slice of pie or shake or cookie because I "deserved to splurge". My dear sweet arteries, what have I done to you?!?

You do what you know. And when you know better, you do better. I know that the drive-thru no longer holds the sway over me it once did. And I also know by taking an active role in selecting the foods I eat, I am one step closer to my goals. The information, the resources, the support, it is all out there. All here. In the cyberwebs warm glowing warming glow. So I say research, get in the forums, blog, read blogs. You might be suprised about what you find. I know I sure was.

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1TOBFIT 1/7/2010 9:46PM

    I love your last paragraph . When we know better we do better !
I cant even believe my body is healing itself so well after all the years of abuse I did to it. We are remarkable beings !
Great that you took the time to look that up and even better that you shared it with us ! emoticon

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    This is what I will have to deal with when I start traveling for work again.... all fast food, all the time! It's very intimidating right now! I need to research all the different places and find the best choices so I don't get off track....

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KARVY09 1/7/2010 7:59PM

    Yeah, I would easily eat 500+ calories at breakfast, 1,000+ calories at lunch, and 1,500 at dinner. It's insane how I can make a delicious burger and oven crisped fries for 500-600 calories and the same meal at a fast food joint is three times as much!

Good for you for looking before you went!

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WANDAC2013 1/7/2010 7:53PM

    Great information. Disgusting what we do (or did!) to ourselves. Keep up the good work!!!!

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IZZYJEAN 1/7/2010 5:51PM

    LOL! Yep, I even struggle with the decision now when someone wants to go out and eat. Yikes!!

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    yep, I had that same eye opening experience a few weeks ago. Since then, I have not been to a fast(fat) food place since.

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UNIQUELY_BELLA 1/7/2010 5:26PM

    I made the same discovery myself last year and what an eye-opener it has been! Losing weight is a process, and it requires a lot of "moments" like these and learning experiences before we get to our ultimate goal, which is to live free and healthier and happier and longer (among other things I could add more). Like you said, if we would have known better, we would have acted better in those given situations so bravo for the discovery =] You are now officially one step closer to where you want to be!!! Keep up the great work! Thanks for posting this up btw!

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TUBBYSHUKER370 1/7/2010 5:04PM

    I was at over 5,000 calories daily. Good god!

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FOXXYROXXYD 12/8/2009 5:15PM

    Great Blog post! I am right there with you... earlier this year I was living on fast food... or maybe a better way to say that is "dying" on fast food! You are doing great!

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ANITAWPG 12/5/2009 11:57AM

    We stopped going to Culvers when we go to Grand Forks for that reason
my usual double sourdough melt plus fries was 1021 calories

might go agains ometime though and have the chicken cashew with flame roasted chicken - still 463 calories, but if I plan for it it is workable

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CWAZYONE 11/24/2009 4:21AM

    Completely agree with you, I used to do the same thing, get those kind of meals or something similar...and thinking how many calories they have in them compared to what i eat now, is just ridiculous.

Knowledge is the key in something like this...knowing how many calories we're allowed each day vs how many calories something like that would take up of makes you not want that thing anymore.

and you said that you would eat it fast...I've noticed that with healthier foods it not as easy to eat it fast, it's like you enjoy it and so you actually savor what it tastes like. Do you notice that?

Best of luck!!! :)

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WANNABTHIN53 11/21/2009 1:44PM

    Thanks for sharing this information. It's an eye opening, hair raising experience to know that we've all at some point in our lives have eaten this kind of poison. But, as you said when we know better, we do better. Again, thanks for the info. Keep up the good work.

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MIRDREAMS 11/8/2009 2:30PM

    It's amazing how much easier it is to say no to the bad stuff if I google the nutrition first. Love being able to do it on my phone with the menu in front of me, definitely motivation to choose wisely.

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BRANDIAUNNA83 11/6/2009 12:01PM

    Still reminding me of myself. :0) I once did that same thing and it also made me sick. I've been learning about real food and real nutrition, and it makes you realize that most of what we have eaten all our lives isn't actually food. It's a series of chemical substances that are edible. As you research you'll find out what foods are really good for your body and for lifelong health. WTG.


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HUGMONKEYMOM 11/6/2009 11:33AM

    Since making the same discovery myself, I find myself unable to even consider ordering at such places. I wonder how ANYBODY eats it and isn't immediately sick.

Great blog, and great reminder how we don't need that stuff anymore.

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KARVY09 11/6/2009 11:17AM

    Yep, I definitely used to have 1500 calorie meals every week. Barf. Crazy how a 400 calorie lunch fills me up now!

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NCSUALUM03 11/6/2009 11:13AM

    The GOOD thing with knowing the calorie content is that you are able to make good choices and better decisions. The BAD thing with knowing the calorie content is that ignorance is bliss. When you didn't know how many calories were in a combo it was nothing to just scarf some food now. Now it makes me think before ordering because it really does make me sick to my stomach.

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BOJANGLES17 11/6/2009 11:05AM

    Wow great post, so true, and so funny! Definitely an eye-opener.

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BECKTY 11/6/2009 10:27AM

    Wow, sounds like the way I was living a month ago too. And always with a little "I earned this. I deserve this" tacked on. Why did I think I deserved to be 40 lbs overweight and heading toward Type 2 diabetes and high cholesterol????

Thank you for this post! Keep on doing what you're doing.

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MANDAO97 11/6/2009 10:08AM

    Great blog! It really is amazing how unhealthy fast food and even many chain restaurants are. This is promoted as the normal way to eat and half the time they advertise a new product the big seeling feature is that it is BIG or it has MORE BACON. What a joke! I have been mainly eating food from the grocery store/cooked at home lately and I have to make an effort to get in my 32 grams of fat. We can have yummy satisfying food wtihout all the garbage!! It is sad to me that this way of eating has become acceptable in our society and that I too - not very long ago - hit up the drive thru like it was no big deal. I knew it was awful and did it anyway. Happy that we have found a new and better way!! Now when I am at Schmack Schmonalds it is only to get a low-fat vanilla ice cream cone for a special treat.

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SHANNJ77 11/6/2009 9:47AM

    A hard lesson to learn - but now you can move forward and make healthier choices! It's all part of the progress made on your journey, and that is a good thing!

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SLIM4LIFE09 11/6/2009 9:41AM

    Oh yes, the discovery of those icky calories. I've been there too! It sort of sucks because we can no longer use ignorance as an excuse. But the non-sucky part is that using these resources and information abound on the net, we can take control over what goes in our mouths and we CAN change our lives.
I'm a huge beleiver in resources and learning more- one of the reasons emoticon.
I hope you try some of those healthier options and of course wish you the best in your weight loss journey! SOunds like you're definitely on the right path!!! emoticon

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    Inspired, I fired up the interwebz and took a gander at my favorite lunch from Cue-doba: Chicken burrito, extra rice, all the fixins. 1450 calories, 52 grams of fat, 3000mg of sodium. For lunch. Not including those days when I would split some queso & chips with my husband as well (500 cal & 32g of fat for HALF)...and end up ordering pizza that night. Ugh!

I dont understand how places can take a generally healthy meal and turn it into a huge pile of fat. Even salads and vegetables are slathered with oil & butter & salt. It really makes you think twice about ordering out so much - even the "healthy" options.

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ANMISU 11/6/2009 9:37AM

    Wow, that really is an eye-opener. I had one of those yesterday with finding out the value of some boiled new potatoes!

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THE_NEW_MELISSA 11/6/2009 9:23AM

    I know exactly how you feel! I was shocked when I checked out the Shmcdonald's website. To be honest, it's a wonder I didn't weigh more than I did, because the nutritional content never crossed my mind. I ate for pure pleasure. Looking back, I feel terrible, but am glad I know now and from now on, can make much better decisions! Have a great weekend!

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