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A closet full of clothes and nothing to wear...

Monday, January 30, 2012

Actually, my clothes are in TWO closets (hubby gets the walk-in closet; I took the other 2...and I may have a few things in the walk-in closet). I sort my clothes by season, so when the temps change, I swap seasonal items out.

When I dropped sizes, I bought a few pair of pants that fit at the new size. Take it from me: don't wear baggy clothes! You'll feel better in clothes that fit, and you'll have a constant reminder that you don't need to eat another helping. For the same reason, stay away from elastic waists (except in workout clothes).

I was still able to wear some of the larger size pants, I just needed a belt. One Sunday, I was almost late for Sunday school because everything I tried on was falling off of me! The new, smaller sizes were baggy too!

When I got home, I tried on every pair of pants I had. I decided to get rid of the clothes that were too big. I don't want the option of growing into them again. I had a pair of black pants with a silver pinstripe that I'd had for at least 2 years and never been able to wear (don't buy anything thinking you'll fit into it someday). THEY FIT!!!

Mom gave me $ for Christmas, and I hit the after Christmas sales for some new pants.

Now that the oversize clothes are gone, I've caught up all my ironing and found a system to keep me from wearing the same 10 or 12 things over and over. Every night, I hang whatever I've worn that day on a rack attached to the closet door. On the weekend I wash and iron what I've worn all week, then put it to the back of the closet.

I've taken some of my shirts and a blazer to my mom to alter. They fit fine in the shoulders, but they are a big in the torso. I worked really hard to drop those inches, and I want to SEE the results!

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CCASKEY37 2/2/2012 7:25AM

    The best reward is giving away your "fat" clothes.

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BLESSEDTOBEME1 1/30/2012 10:50PM

    I'm so proud of u! I can't wait to lose some.

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Can Eeyore & Tigger live happily ever after?

Saturday, January 28, 2012

I'm a Tigger. Hubby is an Eeyore.

Sometimes his Eeyoreness makes me just want to shake him! I'm betting that it's not so easy for him to live with a Tigger either.

This morning we had some nice quiet time; no TV, some music playing. Just a quiet morning. It was great. I even postponed my plans to run. We don't have many days like that. I pretty much have somewhere that I have to be every single day. M-F is work; Saturday I meet my running partner (she couldn't run this morning), Sunday is church (hubby doesn't go).

Sometimes he'll sleep for close to 20 hours in a day on the weekends! I've asked him to talk to his doc about depression but he "doesn't want to take more pills."

That really frustrates me because he could probably quit taking some of the meds he's on if he'd exercise and eat right. But if he's really depressed, meds might be the ONLY thing that would help.

At the end of the year hubby took a week off to get back to exercising. He didn't leave the house at all that week. He slept all day and all night. He even lost about 5 lbs because he wasn't eating...just sleeping.

He was 48 when we married. It took me so long to find him. For the first time in my life, I have what I always wanted: I'm married to my best friend. I just want him to be healthy so we have a better chance at more years together.

I know that I can't push him to do anything. I try to get him to go to the park with me or go to the Y. Sometimes he will. I only buy and cook healthy foods. Sometimes I fix him a healthy breakfast or lunch to take to work with him. He does eat out a lot. He'll do things like going to the drive-thru for a milkshake.
He CAN lose the weight! I've seen him do it. We were friends for many years before we dated. He had some health scares that were bad enough for him to quit drinking, start exercising, and go on a diet ( He did NutriSystem. I'm sure they have non-packaged options, but he did just about all packaged foods. So guess what happened...

Then he lost a good bit of weight when we started seeing each other because I was feeding him healthy food and he was going to the gym with me. For years he's been a non-drinking alcoholic. He started drinking wine because of the much touted health benefits. (And it really makes me angry that all those articles about the benefits of drinking wine don't mention THIS DOES NOT APPLY TO ALCOHOLICS!) He drinks WAY more than the recommended quantities. I can usually get him to stop drinking just by telling him how much it worries me. My ex was an alcoholic, mom's 2nd husband was an alcoholic, the grandmother we lived with for a few years after my parents divorced was an alcoholic. Hubby knows all of that.

I love him with all my heart, but I cannot go thru what I did with the ex ever again. For my own sake.

I tried to talk to him about the wine contributing to depression, but he didn't want to hear it. He has cut way back for the time being. If he'll go back to tracking his food, I'm sure he'll stop because of the empty calories. (No, he's not a Spark member. He's a geek...he has his own tracking program!)

Hubby did go to the Y today emoticon emoticon while I was doing my Saturday stuff (church brunch, got mom to pin some clothes she said she can alter for me because they are TOO BIG!, took mom to Home Depot, then went to the park).

I know that worrying about all of this won't change a thing. I just keep asking him to go to the gym with me. I tell him every morning and every night that I love him. I hug him extra tight when he's feeling down. And I apologize to him for being so irritating. I've had some minor bouts of depression and I know how irritating overly happy people are to me when I feel like crap.

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OBIESMOM2 1/29/2012 8:18AM

    some good ideas here. Thanks for another perspective.

Although it may sound like I'm constantly pestering DH to exercise, eat right, etc. I actually say very little to him. I make sure that what I fix is healthy (for my sake and his). I don't say anything about portion control to him. He knows all that stuff from his own food tracking. When he's ready get back to healthy living, he will.

I'll ask him once about going to the gym or park with me as I'm getting ready. If he said no, I may ask him once more as I leave.

he's always been very supportive in my struggles to get to a healthy weight, and he's very proud of me for finally getting there.

I know he has some minor insecurities about the changes in me. That's natural because often when folks start making changes, they want to change everything (including their marital status). He's asked once or twice if I'm going to leave him. My response is pretty much the same, "Why...have you done something I don't know about?"

as far as the drinking, because he knows very well about all the alcoholics in my past, I pretty much just say, "would you mind not having any beer this weekend?" or "if you don't mind, could you skip the wine tonight?"

and I should probably have mentioned that Eeyore was always my favorite. I have an Eeyore watch (wear it every day), and my bathroom has a Disney shower curtain (and my collection of Eeyore figurines).

I just want MY Eeyore to be healthy, so I can keep him for as many years as possible.

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ROSALIEESTHER 1/29/2012 5:47AM

    I love the Tigger/Eyore metaphor! That its a great way to describe how my marriage used to be and, I suppose, sometimes still is.

Here's the biggest change I can suggest to you (that I didn't read here though you may do it): Every time you see your husband doing something you don't like, think of 10 things you appreciate about him. Don't appreciate just in order to justify being mad st him for not exercising or drinking too much.

Maybe you think that you only criticize because you love him so much, but it sounds to me like you are laying your standards in him based on your phased experiences.

He does sound depressed. Maybe You could spend more time being there for him rather than just expecting him to change for you. Make him those nutritious meals. Listen to your friend/husband. Better than pills, smudge him to talk. When I started thanking my Eyore for all he did do, when I changed my perspective and looted at myself as the only person that I could change, surprise surprise, my Eyore became Christopher Robin, our really maybe I became Kanga/Pooh/Owl/Me.

I know you love him. Appreciate him. Be Compassionate. Be grateful. You are a kind imaginative and loving person.

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MARVEEME 1/28/2012 8:47PM

    Move his bed. Move his favorite chair. Change something of HIS that will give him a new perspective, even if it is that he will have to re-navigate to the bathroom in the dark, or that he sits a little closer or further away from the TV.

Embrace this change, and help him embrace it too. A fundamental change like this can sometimes get the conversation and action started, and it's free.

He is too busy being miserable to notice it's taking a toll on everyone around him. Shake things up a little, and he may see the light, even if it now streams through the window and wakes him earlier.


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I have my own insanity workout! (AKA - people keep telling me I'm crazy)

Friday, January 27, 2012

before the new year, my workout routine was spin on Mon & Wed, run with my running partner Sat mornings, and the other days were 'do what you feel'. I'd do weight training 3 times a week. I'd do treadmill or outdoor runs 3 or 4 times a week. I usually do Pilates at home 5 times a week in the morning. If I was able to get to the Y by 5:10 on spin nights, I'd run a 1 mile lap before spin class (weather permitting).

of course in January the crowds pick up at all gyms. I decided to sign up for Boot Camp. It's on Mon and Thur. I knew I'd miss Mon night spin, but I figured I would have 2 nights of workouts away from the crowd (Boot Camp is limited to 20 people).

Spin on Mon and Wed had been the same instructor (and I just love her!) but the schedule changes had her set up to teach only on Mon. Great...the one night I have something else! Wed night's instructor is OK, but she's just not my cup of tea. Oh wait...spin starts at 5:30. Boot Camp is at 6...hmmm. So brilliant me decides that I can do 25 minutes of spin as a warm up for Boot Camp on Mondays.

it wasn't as bad as it sounds, but I'm not going all out during the Mon night spin. And if the class is full, I'll give up my bike.

This Boot Camp is different from the other 2 I've taken. The instructor is with the PD (I think he's SWAT). The class is held in an old basketball gym. Lots of running bleachers (I absolutely love to run bleachers. Sick, I know...what can I say?)

so this week:
Mon - 36 min of spin; 1 hour Boot Camp
Tue - 50 min Pilates; 5.5 mile run
Wed - 30 min elliptical; 50 min spin
Thur - 50 min Pilates; 1 hour Boot Camp

last night was pretty odd. A co-worker had a death in her family. Visitation at the funeral home was 5-8 PM, a 30 minute drive away. My good friend in town told me she was going if I wanted to ride with her. But the class I'm paying extra to attend starts at 6. So I asked if she would be able to leave work at 4:30, we get to the funeral home at 5, and leave there by 5:30. I told her if that wouldn't work for her, I completely understood.

She checked with her boss, and that's what we planned to do. I told her I'd throw my workout clothes in her vehicle and change in the back seat on the ride back. The weather here was getting crazy, so we actually left a bit earlier. We were headed back with time to spare, so I'd have time to change at the Y. I did take off my boots and put on my tennis shoes to run in to the Y. I changed quickly, grabbed a paper towel and wet it down to wipe off my make-up, and ran back to the car. Dumped the clothes, grabbed my water, towel, and mat.

I know it sounds like I'm going crazy, pushing myself to do way more than I'll be able to stick with long term. Here's the deal: If I feel like exercising morning and evening, I do. If I feel like I can sleep longer (I haven't used an alarm clock since middle school), I do. I know that there will be stretches when I don't want to get up early enough every day to exercise; I know that there will be times when all I do is go to the exercise classes and do very little on my own. If I've been really consistent with my workouts, I give myself permission to miss a day.

and when the days get longer, I'll ride my bike from the office to the Y instead of driving (it adds an extra 30 minutes of cardio).

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ETA: I just checked my email and what do I have from Spark? An article about overtraining! Hey, big brother...I have a dr's appt this afternoon. I won't be able to workout, OK? This morning I'll do Pilates and that's it for the day, OK???


ETA 2: shhhh...don't tell but I ended up doing 10 minutes on the elliptical and 50 minutes of Pilates. But I promise I won't have time to exercise tonight. I have errands to run after the doc appt!

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BLESSEDTOBEME1 1/27/2012 10:47AM

    I wish i could work out! Enjoy it. I fell and have injured my knee. I can't afford the surgery that I need to fix it so I can't bend my leg at all. I can't work out any more. I can't even go for a walk. It has been real hard to lose weight when I have to set on a recliner with my leg up all the time.

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ASPECK303 1/27/2012 3:47AM

    Sounds like you're having fun! And professional athletes work out more than this -- so it's probably not the effort that's crazy, but maybe the schedule feels crazy? Anyway, as long as it brings you joy and you're not ignoring injuries, enjoy the ride!

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Thursday, January 26, 2012

look who's up early AGAIN.

got the Furminator after the pups and brushed their teeth.

managed to get 25 Spark Points so I could get a bonus spin emoticon I know I'll get more points with food and fitness tracking today, but I've been trying to get a daily bonus spin.

I'll definitely do Pilates this morning (really NEED the stretching); maybe I'll get on the elliptical too. I have Boot Camp tonight, so if I feel like I can grab a few more minutes of sleep this morning I give myself permission.

I think I'm going to write a note and leave it on Zoey's family's windshield. The weather is going to be nice this weekend so I'm hoping they will let her come over and play. She loves to run and our boys love having somebody else to chase. I still REALLY miss her. They've had her tied out a few times, but now they tie her where she can get up on the porch. She sees me or hubby come home and she wants us to come get her. It breaks my heart not being able to bring her over. I did go over and talk to her. She just wants somebody to love her...don't we all?

starting to feel that I might be able to doze off, so I'm going to try for a quick nap.

happy Thursday

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BLESSEDTOBEME1 1/27/2012 12:13AM

    Sounds like a sad dog. I hate to see them tied out and not in with their family! It's nice that u let her come to play!

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CCASKEY37 1/26/2012 6:34AM

    Hope you get good and stretched out before doing any hard work.

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it's hump get humpin'

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

look at me, up super early AGAIN.

oh well. That gives me time for the elliptical AND Pilates. I have to be at work earlier than normal because the boss and I are driving to Athens for a training workshop.

calves are still a bit tight from last night's run, but nothing major. I really wish I had more work clothes I could wear flats with on days when my calves need a rest.

Tonight is spin class. Weather and time permitting, I usually do a quick 1 mile run before the class. As long as I leave work on time I should be able to do that tonight because we get another sunny in the 60s day today.

happy Wednesday
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