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lessons learned (part 1)

Monday, November 12, 2012

October was a busy month. Lots of traveling. I spent one night in Mississippi, several nights in Louisiana, one night in Alabama, one night in Tennessee, and two nights in St. Louis. Whew. I'm tired just thinking about it!

The trip to Louisiana was to reconnect with family. It was wonderful to see my uncles (one divorced, one widowed) and several of my cousins. Sis and I will see them at least once a year from now on.

We'd lost touch because mom quit speaking to her brother and sister. Not some major blowout. Mom and her sis (who passed away December 2011) always were back and forth. My aunt was not the easiest person to get along with, but mom isn't either. Mom and her brother were very close. She stopped speaking to him because “I'm always the one to call him. He never calls me.” Seriously? That may be a reason to stop seeing somebody you are dating or a casual friend, but your family? Craziness, IMO.

Mom still doesn't know that we went out there. I keep praying that she'll just let go of the anger. She'd be so much happier if she did. Mom sees herself as a happy person, and on the surface she is. But that surface has gotten more and more shallow over the years. She can go from smiling to growling in a nanosecond. And you never know what will set her off. I'm pretty sure that's due to holding on to years of grudges.

I'm pretty good at holding on to those myself, but I do eventually let go. It may take years, but when I finally come to terms with it, I can feel the weight lifted from my shoulders. After I originally blogged about mom & her holding on to anger, I had a dream about my former boss (the only person I was still really harboring hard feelings about). In the dream, I saw him and he was so furious with me after all these years. I thought that was silly and kept asking him, “why are you still so angry?” When I woke up, my first thought was, “see how stupid that was? You are talking about mom...and YOU need to let go of some things too!” I felt like the heavens parted and the sun came through the clouds. I have seen the man once since I left that job (DH still works for him) and I was cordial but distant. Now I could actually be pleasant and converse with him.

Yes, God...message received and lesson learned!

More to come in my next blog...

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QUEENMOXIE 11/12/2012 8:01AM

    I think that it was good of you to let go of your ill feelings towards your old boss. I understand about your mom. Mine is BPD and she controls everyone like puppets. It was hard, but I quit trying to keep my mom happy. I'm sure you know how well that goes with someone like that. I understand why you don't want her to know, but are you prepared for when she finds out? emoticon emoticon emoticon

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AMANDAROX 11/12/2012 6:44AM

    Isn't it interesting how sometimes our dreams become enlightening experiences?

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GHOSTFLAMES 11/12/2012 4:58AM

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dog confessions - part 5

Saturday, November 10, 2012

they may be messy, but who can't love those sweet faces?

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AMANDAROX 11/12/2012 6:50AM

    LOL, these are too cute! My dog loves paper too, but I'm lucky she doesn't mess with my shoes!

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QUEENMOXIE 11/10/2012 3:58PM

    I love these...Thanks for the smile! emoticon

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CCASKEY37 11/10/2012 9:12AM

    My dogs would so let in a robber if that robber had a box of cookies.

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dog confessions - part 4

Thursday, October 25, 2012

happy Thursday emoticon

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FANGFACEKITTY 10/30/2012 3:50PM

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Cats rule, dogs drool!

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REMEMBER2BME 10/30/2012 12:49PM

    Oh my!

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CAT609 10/25/2012 7:05AM

    uh oh!

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QUEENMOXIE 10/25/2012 7:01AM

    We love them no matter what! Adorable! emoticon

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dog confessions - part 3

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

yep. I've seen a very similar mess and a similar expression before!

emoticon EWWWWWW!

happy Wednesday!

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 10/30/2012 1:26PM

    We have a boxer.... totally fits their personality!!!

These are great!! Thanks for sharing

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DORCAS9 10/24/2012 3:34AM

    Aaaw, wonder if we look so sorry when we make a mess!! Love the pics! emoticon emoticon

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SUSANBEAMON 10/24/2012 1:40AM

  dogs will be dogs. And that is why my sister crates her dogs when they leave the house.

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dog confessions - part 2

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

happy Tuesday!

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REMEMBER2BME 10/30/2012 12:47PM

    Oh my goodness. Joggers. i can totally relate to that.

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PICKIE98 10/23/2012 3:59PM

    I needed that.. thank you for helping my day along...

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QUEENMOXIE 10/23/2012 8:38AM

    Adorable! emoticon

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TWEETYKC00 10/23/2012 5:13AM

    These are great!

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