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Wednesday, October 10, 2012

If I ever had any doubts that a lot of my overeating is emotionally based, this week is demonstrating it to the max. What I am noticing is that I am not only not overeating, but I'm not really all that hungry. I was going to make vegetable beef soup for dinner last night, and realized when it was time to make it that I wasn't really very hungry for it. Instead, I had a big salad with some grilled chicken breast on top of it. It lasted me the entire evening (I usually am feeling snackish by 9PM). It wasn't the healthiest diet in the world, but what impresses me is that I'M NOT HAVING THE URGE TO EAT ALL THE TIME!!

I have gotten a few things done around the house, and need to get up and do some more. I have a committee meeting tonight, and haven't even started to get ready for it--but hey, I have the whole rest of the day, right? Tomorrow I am going to lunch with my daughter and have Choral Union rehearsal in the evening, so think I am just going to stay in town and mess around. I have a few errands to run (things like buying kitty litter and stopping by work to check for anything that absolutely has to be taken care of now--blech) but then I am going to go to some of the local art galleries, go to Hobby Lobby, generally mess around town doing nothing much of use except for its enjoyment value.

Guess I should get done with my committee stuff while I am on the computer, then get up and do some stuff around the house. Ho-Hum. Maybe. If I feel like it.

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NORASPAT 10/11/2012 11:53AM

    I have frequently posted on this site I very rarely feel hungry and all of a sudden, i want to eat food too.
There have been a lot of recent stresses and disappointments and I am certain that is the problem for me. I never thought about emotional eating I also never thought about the medical issues the family is facing.

I am happy to have been reading the book I reviewed it said it quite well that is a big cause of always feeling like you are hungry for food when you are just hungry for satisfaction. That is my take on it. If my hands are busy they cannot find anything to eat and If they do there is only nutritious food here.
However I can easily eat too much fruit. I am planning to put carrot sticks out ready and see if they help. HUGS Pat in Maine.
ENJOY THE REST of your Vacation time. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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HUNGRYWOMAN2 10/10/2012 12:24PM

I agree. Many individuals will eat out of boredom. My significant other does.
I will too, to a certain extent, however, for me it is when there are stresses or other issues involved, and the eating just is an impulse.
You have one of the best solutions-refocus.
It sounds as though you are extremely busy-barely enough time to eat. emoticon emoticon
I needed this today-Thank you for sharing. emoticon

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Reporting from vacation

Monday, October 08, 2012

Ahhhhh. I know I was off for the weekend as well, but this is the first morning I woke up and thought--I really don't have to go to work today!!! I have great plans for my time off (about six months' worth to stuff into a week), and I have to admit I haven't done much of anything today. Saturday I did a "rough mow" on the lawn with my little riding tractor. I need to get out and mow it really well, mow the side of the road, and mow down to the lake and get the dam mowed down before winter sets in. I really do need to get some of that done today, and probably will here pretty soon. I also washed the outside of the windows. It has been so dusty this summer I could barely see out of them. Still need to do the insides, but the house is so much lighter I can't believe it. Yesterday, I went to church, went to the grocery store, came home and took a nap. Today, so far I have read an entire book, done a load of laundry, and started some split pea soup for dinner. I know, not much getting done, but it sure is feeling good.

I really do need to get some fall housecleaning done, and get some yard work done this week, and at the same time I have promised myself copious down-time to do whatever feels good at the moment. I know from experience that it takes about two days for me to start to get to the point where I actually feel like doing something.

I turn 64 on Thursday, so I am exactly two years from being able to pull full retirement for social security and my pension. I have a calendar set up at work, hidden behind my real calendar, and each month I mark it off, one month closer to retirement. I feel like a little kid, waiting for the first day of kindergarten, or to turn 16 so I can get my license. I can't reach 66 too soon. Just think, YEARS of vacation time in which I can do anything I want whenever I want, without having to worry about pleasing a boss.

I'm not with the program at all, still, as far was watching diet and exercise. I do eat a lot better when I am home, though. I'm rested and relaxed, and have time to actually do some real cooking. I spent $100 at the grocery store on Sunday, and have all kinds of good, healthy stuff in the fridge to eat. I also indulged myself in some of the thin bagels, cream cheese, and a package of lox, and got a small round of brie. I don't normally get such things, mostly due to the cost, but decided it is my vacation and I am going to indulge.

Take care of yourselves, and keep on blogging and working. I will be back on track soon I think. The job had just gotten the better of me again, and I haven't been able to do that and take care of myself at the same time. See you soon.

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EFFIEANNIE 10/14/2012 8:06PM

    Hope you are enjoying yourself. I like that you read a lot, I like to do that too.
I made 66, collect my social security now, but still can't seem to make myself retire! I work part time. It would be nice, I just can't make that final disconnect!!

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AAAACK 10/9/2012 3:09PM

    This part, "I have great plans for my time off (about six months' worth to stuff into a week)" sounds SO much like me!

Enjoy your time off and doing your wants as well as your needs. You deserve it!

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JJAQUES41 10/8/2012 8:23PM

    If your list are things you WANT to do on your vacation, then go for it! And remember, all that window washing and working in the yard burns calories so you can't say you aren't track for exercise, it's just a different track! Reading a book sounds positively wonderful, glad you took the time to do that AND a nap.

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BEARGODDESS 10/8/2012 8:16PM

    Women seem to have an easier time with retirement than men do. I live in an area which is full of retired folk and the men finish their household projects and then don't know what to do with themselves. All of the women I know (myself included) have PLENTY to fill our days with!
Two years will fly by! You'll see! Pre Happy Birthday wishes for Thursday! emoticon emoticon

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2WHEELEDSHARON 10/8/2012 7:29PM

    Enjoy your time off doing whatever you want! emoticon

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TUBLADY 10/8/2012 6:40PM

    Enjoy your time off. I know you have a dozen things you want to do, but it's your vacation, take some time for yourself. you don't want to go back all tired out from working at home.
I know we usually don't want those birthdays to come round, but in your case I can understand the yearning.
I have thought about full retirement. I have retired twice always to get pulled back in. Once because I had to and the other because the family need me.
I would have no trouble filling my days with all the things I do or want to do.
It sounds to me like you have had a full day. At least by my standard.
take care,
Tisha emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Eating at McDonald's

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Yep, I just finished eating at McDonald's. I'd like to tell you that it is an abberation, but I have been totally off track for the last couple weeks again. Part of it is busyness. The lack of exercise is due to physical ailments.

After our garage sale, I was so tired and achy that I didn't get any exercise done for a couple days, and seem to have just gotten out of the habit. Of course, that means that I have started to stiffen up again, and that makes it harder to get going.

Then last week I had a mandatory training for my job. Most of it is baseline stupid, given our clientele, but it sounds all touchy-feely, so the hospital thinks it is an impressive thing to do. It involved spending two days sitting around getting our consciousness raised, then a morning of how to stay safe and keep the more violent of our patients (not, ironically, those most people think of as mentally ill, but rather those who are too immature to take responsibility for themselves but do know how to use the system). That is what we really need a longer training on. However, it is physically demanding. I was busy trying to protect my shoulder, which is still unhappy, and instead managed to pull my back out. After the session I went into one of our nursing home facilities where there is no good place to sit and type on a computer, so that wasn't great on my back either. I am still taking ibuprofen and waiting for the pain to abate. It is down to discomfort only now, and I can bend a little bit again.

In the meantime, I have still been going to rehearsals twice a week, led a group meeting Saturday night, taught Sunday school (3-5 year olds. They are a total kick.), and spent quite a bit of time, like two hours, in my guise of co-chair of the church membership team talking to newcomers after church. We are having a "Discover UU" session for newcomers next week, so I have been issuing invitations, receiving RSVPs, and coordinating with my co-chair to get that together. I finally have most of that done, and had time to get back to you.

Which gets us back to McDonald's. I am on dial-up at home, and would you believe that the one place that has free WiFi on my way home is McDonald's? They know what will pull people in, I guess. Actually, they have all of the calories listed on their menu now, and I didn't really do all that bad. It is just the idea. I mean, McDonald's.... Really?

Honestly, I am just not feeling like staying on task right now, partly because I am tired and overcommitted, and partly because those old habits are so easy to fall back into. I've decided that I am going to give myself a vacation for the rest of this week, not worry about what I am eating except for keeping it down to a dull roar, and that I am not going to worry about official exercise until my back, knees and hips are all reasonably happy with me again. On the other hand, the weather is nice now, and I might get into a short walk tonight. Nothing vigorous, just a stroll. Just to start getting up to speed again when my vacation from health is over.

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AAAACK 9/19/2012 3:08AM

    Hey, you at least looked at the calories, right? That is still progress. I'm sorry that you had to give up those good feelings you were having when you were on a roll, but you'll get back there again. When my back was it's worst I had to walk just to keep the pain from increasing, and so I did it around the house so the neighbors or the people who know me at the gym didn't have to see my shambling. And now I'm in the habit of doing a half hour in my house at 8pm each night - even if watching TV. It's been close to 25 days and I have lost 6 lbs (largely b/c that 8pm start time is right in my worst binge time so I'm not binge eating either). So, when you feel like getting back on track, you know you'll find something that works for you!

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DREAMWEAVER1637 9/18/2012 11:17PM

    I work at McD's. We just put up the new menu boards and it is interesting the reactions of people who are studying the menu.

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NORASPAT 9/18/2012 10:30PM

    I wrote a long response I LOVE McDonalds and I lost it GRRRR
I hope you can get back on track it will help emoticon emoticon emoticon your pain issues to keep moving HUGS Pat .

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2WHEELEDSHARON 9/18/2012 9:04PM

    I was going to suggest doing something leisurely for exercise, like going for a walk or whatever might be a bit consciousness altering but not strenuous, if you can.
I hope your health problems ease up very quickly.

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NANCYPAT1 9/18/2012 7:10PM

    Eating at McD's is NOT a terrible thing. My son loves hanging out there and using their WiFi. You sound like you have been busy and active and that you are making the best choices you have available at this point in time. PLANNING helps but sometimes life really does require that you simply LIVE it for a while. Hang in there life is sure to get better or worse depending on how lucky you are this week.

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Guess it frees up my Mondays at least.

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

I know I disappeared for a good week there. No problem, just really busy. First of all, I have just plain overcommitted. Things will calm down in about three months, but for right now I have more going on than I have time.

Last week, the biggest busyness was getting ready for a garage sale with my SILs parents, hereafter referred to as the ILs. They have been through a really long hard time, with caring for their parents for 16 years, the last four seeing his father move in with them in ill health after the death of his wife, the death of her mother, and about a month ago the death of his father. They had committed to keep their parents out of nursing homes if they possibly could. I admire their committment. I know I couldn't do it.

Anyway, we had talked about having a garage sale earlier this year, before Papa John become so ill, and they decided they needed to do it before winter sets in. I had a bunch of stuff here, and my DD and SIL and their daughter also threw stuff in. I ended up making about $100 and they made about $500, but the biggest thing is that we got a lot of stuff out of our houses that we didn't need or want, and that were just clutter. They took all the left overs to GoodWill yesterday, and I took the left over books to the library book sale.

It was a really pleasant day, beautiful weather, and in many ways it was enjoyable, but we of course had to put out all this stuff in the morning, and put away the left overs in the afternoon. DD and SIL helped with some, but DD had the Girl Scouts out helping with the MS Bike-a-thon, and SIL is studying for an important test for his job, so it was mostly us mid-60s people, and we were pooped and in pain by the end of it.

Sunday, I was scheduled to co-lead a meeting, and had to prep for that as well. Have another one I am leading this Saturday, and then the following weekend another meeting that I need to lead. I told you I was over committed. And, of course, I have rehearsals on Wed and Thurs each week, and am going to be teaching Sunday school most weeks starting this week through November.

Went to my first, and last, Zumba class last night. The leader was a very nice young woman who actually had a sense of rhythm (not true of all athletic types), but it was too high-impact for my knees and hips, with lots of hops and bounces. About half-way through, I told her I just couldn't do it, and left. She suggested water aerobics, and said she teaches Zumba water aerobics. I may look into it, but most of these things locally seem to happen during the work day. I have to say, I was very disappointed, especially since there were other women there who were probably no more than 10 years younger than me, and I was a little tearful last night. It was mostly that I always liked to dance, and haven't been able to for years. By this morning, I was reminding myself that I can dance a little again now, and that the Zumba, although it included some dance moves, was basically aerobics for the limber. I was thinking about Pat's recent comments that there need to be exercises for older people who are still fairly able, but just can't jump and bend the way they used to. On the other hand, I have one less thing on my agenda each week for the next 11 weeks, so that is a good thing.

Anyway, during all of this, I have been off track again. Although getting ready for the garage sale should count as exercise, I can't figure out how to track it, and didn't do anything official all last week. Sunday afternoon I did the absolute minimum of housework I could get away with, and spent the rest of the time aching, and today, after the great Zumba experiment, my knees and hips are really achy again, so no exercise today. I'm going to try to get back on track with that tomorrow. The food had been pretty good until last night, although I have to admit that the old emotional eathing thing got the best of me, and I ate WAY too much, all of it junk food, last night. Getting it back together today. Need to get back to tracking again, but don't have the wherewithal to deal with it tonight.

Hope all of you have been doing OK while I was off on my own process. Going to go do some catch up with blogs now, but I will probably never get through all of last weeks--that time thing again.

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AAAACK 9/11/2012 11:37PM

    You'll get back on track b/c it made you feel so good! And jettisoning stuff from your house always feels good (at least it does to me!), makes you feel so light and free.

I'm also trying to not get bummed out about my new exercise limitations. I'm not that old, but shoot, my body seems to disagree more and more as the years pile on. I still have a 10 year old! I can't start just sitting around. So I, too, am looking for FUN workouts that aren't high impact on my spine and legs. I might be going back to boxing slowly, maybe you can try that? It's fairly easy on the knees, as long as you don't do kick-boxing. And it leaves me more "at peace" than yoga ever did.

Let's try and look at our limitations as an excuse to try new adventures in exercises. Like what? I don't know yet, time will tell. But that's the cool thing about Spark, we can pick each other's ideas up and try them out on ourselves.

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BEARGODDESS 9/11/2012 10:13PM

    I'm impressed that you TRIED the Zumba class! I stay far away from anything jumpy, bouncy or dancey. Like Sharon, I have trick ankles and toes which are forming bunions. Don't feel bad! I wouldn't have made it through the front door of the class. You COULD put some of the preparation for the garage sale under heavy housework. I would! I've had a garage sale before. I know they're a lot of work to put together. Rest your poor aching muscles and start again tomorrow.

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2WHEELEDSHARON 9/11/2012 10:01PM

    Sorry the Zumba is a bummer. I believe Zumba is for people who can do Zumba and not for people who can't. I can't and I'm only 41. My ankles and toes are too messed up. I don't understand why teachers don't offer more classes for people who's body parts are limited. I hope you find other things you can do and enjoy. You know, in your spare time, ha ha.

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NORASPAT 9/11/2012 8:47PM

    All in all it was a busy week and frankly it could have been worse with more emotional eating getting in the way.
Yes you are over extended, you need yourself some BOUNDARIES so you will have a little bit more latitude for what you want to do.
The garage sale went well it's the best time to de-clutter the house. In the fall we fall back inside in places where we do get cold weather and that means we get to be in the clutter longer than in the summer. We can at least escape outside and do some yard work in summer.
OAK Take it easy and give yourself little me time. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon Pat in Maine.

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LHLADY517 9/11/2012 7:52PM

    Really sounds like you've been busy.

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Feels much more like Missouri today.

Friday, August 31, 2012

It has finally rained for an entire day!! I wish our neighbors to the south hadn't had to take such a beating for it to happen, but in the wake Isaac it has actually been raining most of the day here. I walked out of work into air that felt like a wet blanket--much more what I am used to in Missouri than the dry heat we have had all summer. I'm a little achy with the barometric pressure change, but I can and will live with it.

In the meantime, I have continued to do pretty well this week, in spite of being both tired and overworked. I did slip on the calories today (almost 2200) and ate at Steak N Shake (which explains the calories and a little extra money spent), but made a deliberate decision that I wanted to do that, so I don't feel badly about it at all. I also did an hour on the treadmill, in spite of the achiness, so I ran a lot of it off.

Only missed one day for getting at least 10 minutes of exercise, and don't feel badly about that, either. Yesterday, I was at work at 7:30 AM, didn't get away until almost 5:30, and had rehearsal at 7:00. I knew that was going to happen, and had planned not only to eat out, but what I was going to eat, so that was all good. By the time I got out of rehearsal and gave someone a ride home, it was almost 10PM, and I had to get up at 5:15 this morning to be at work by 7:00. I knew something had to give, and it had better not be sleep. So, not even 10 min. of WiiFit, but did so well otherwise (250 minutes this week) that I am feeling good about the week in general.

This weekend is going to be busy again, and I am really glad it is a long one. My SILs parents are throwing a garage sale next weekend, so I am getting stuff pulled together, dusted off, and priced this weekend to take over to that. I also do volunteer work at church, and need to make some calls for that and then turn up to help, and I am throwing a Laid Back Labor Day picnic there as well. It's my kind of party. I turn up with some drinks and some ice and a few extra chairs and blankets. Other people show up with chairs, potluck dishes, and a few yard games. We sit out behind the church and visit until all of us are relaxed and ready to go home for a quiet evening. Stress free, even for me, the planner.

Next week is going to be busy at work again. Believe it or not, my do-nothing job has been really busy this last month, and I got an entire 1 1/2 hours of over time during August--and have been told that this must absolutely not happen. Geeze. I've decided that I am going to take a little vacation time each week, and let the time keeper sort out how much to charge to that after any overtime is accounted for, and the boss agrees with the plan. I discovered when I talked to Benefits that I have to use all of my vacation time before I retire, and I have almost 30 days right now. I am looking forward to NOT having to work 40 hours a week and still get paid for full time. Sort of the best of all worlds, even if I was annoyed by getting an attitude for helping out in other areas than my own a lot.

Going to continue the same program next week: watch the calories, eat out only on Thursday (inevitable), and get at least 10 minutes exercise in each day. It seems to be working for me, so why mess with the program?

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MMRB7111 9/4/2012 8:11AM

    Well, I live in the South and oh it has been raining every week for the last several weeks. I know we perhaps need the rain but my body does not .You see, I have budges in my back due to an car accident ten years ago. When it looks like rain or rains, my back hurts. I have learned to live with it over the years but it is still a bit uncomfortable.

You are doing so good. Keep it up, all of our hard work will pay off.

Have a wonderful day.

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2WHEELEDSHARON 9/1/2012 3:11PM

    Good for you, you have found your strengths! Way to go!

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AAAACK 9/1/2012 11:59AM

    hey, what kind of rehearsal? Are you going to be in a show of some sort? Do you sing? Dance? Act? Tell us more!

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SLIMMERJESSE 8/31/2012 10:27PM

    Please send some rain to San Diego. We've had a terrible drought for a long time now.

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LHLADY517 8/31/2012 10:05PM

    Yes, the rain is greatly appreciated even though it wasn't as much as expected. And I agree with what you said: "I wish our neighbors to the south hadn't had to take such a beating for it to happen,"

I walked to and from school today in the rain. It was definitely a wet blanket.

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ELRIDDICK 8/31/2012 9:11PM

  Thanks for sharing

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