Thursday, November 27, 2008
I tracked in the morning, but a potluck with friends just doesn't lend itself well to tracking. But since I have inadvertently lost a few extra pounds, down to the 142, a no-count day isn't going to hurt me.
I actually had 2 plates of food, but mostly just little portions of many things and I wanted to try everything... so I did go back. Then I had a small sliver of each of 4 pies. I felt full but not bursting, satisfied but not uncomfortable.
I think it's okay. I am sort of talking myself into that still. But I'm just going to give myself a day off of tracking.
I did get in a brisk 2.18 mile walk before going to my friend's house. I may do Jillian Michaels tonight or I might not.
It was a wonderful meal and chance to visit with lots of old friends, one of whom is visiting from Minneapolis for the long weekend!
Happy Thanksgiving to all and to all a good night!
Monday, November 24, 2008
I really enjoyed this and it makes a great deal of sense!
Thanksgiving Survival Guide to Mental Health
a holiday half-kick
1. Manage Your Expectations. Remember: Thanksgiving is just like any other day in life. It's filled with ups, downs, glitches and unexpected happenings . Whatever your expectations of Thanksgiving may be, please lower them right now!
Do you think every dish is going to be delicious? Think again.
Do you think that none of your buttons are going to get pushed? Think again.
Do you think that the air will be filled with happiness and gratitude every single second of this fabulous family day? Think again.
Manage your expectations!
2. Don't Regress. Your brother isn't 13, and you're not 9. It doesn't matter that he was bigger than you, elbowed you, teased you, took your favorite toy and smashed it! NO! It really is NOT relevant in the NOW. Let go of the past!
3. Celebrate You. If you find that your self-esteem suffers around your family or your partner's family, make sure to go in armed with the knowledge of all the wonderful qualities that you possess. Are you strong? Thoughtful? Creative? Whimsical? Friendly? Determined? Caring? Funny? Celebrate you! Write down the qualities you like most about yourself and bring the list with you to the meal. If you start to feel insecure, excuse yourself and take a quick peek. It will be hard to feel low about someone so great!
4. Give the Little Kids a Break. All that energy, all that food, all that sugar. It's inevitable. Someone is going to spill something, cry, get cranky, fall down, break something. Prepare ahead of time. Bring enough games, DVDs and books to occupy the little ones. And bring a bag of extra patience for yourself.
5. Pretend "They" are Someone Else's Family. Don't we all love our friend's family? Don't we find them interesting, loving, and funny? Pretend that you are not related to "them." Get a fresh start; a new perspective and you may be surprised find that they're not so bad after all.
6. Become a Foto-Food Journalist. Bring a camera and give yourself a journalistic assignment. Perhaps you can take a photo of each person eating, or holding a plate filled with their favorite food? Interview them and ask " What is it that is so compelling about pumpkin pie?"
7. Wear Tight Pants. Take your winter sweats, loose pants, elastic waist bands and ditch 'em. You will definitely eat less if there is no room to grow.
8. Say No, Thank you." Even though some people show their love through food, you don't have to eat it! Rehearse saying "No, Thank You!" In numerous languages, just in case English doesn't work.
9. Visualize. Instead of losing control and feeling really bad about yourself at the end of the day, in addition to possibly feeling ill from 'it all,' at the very onset of the day, before you venture out into the world, sit in a quiet place and visualize.
Visualize that it is the end of the day. Yes, you made it through the day, and you are feeling proud. You enjoyed the day, practiced moderation, enjoyed the company of others, felt grateful for what you do have in your life (your glass is more than half full). Add any details to vision in your mind's eye that bring forth visions of happiness, success, actions that are in alignment with your values and goals. Make it real, set your intention and carry this image with you! Yes, you can make it through the holidays without the glaze!
10. Thanksgiving is NOT a Gateway Holiday. Contrary to the agreed upon reality, you do NOT have to gain 6 or 7 pounds this holiday season. Create a new reality.
Sunday, November 23, 2008
This morning I woke up and got ready for church and was very distracted trying to get my Thanksgiving shopping list together so I would only have to make one long trip out of it... but I didn't get the list done before church, which was going to necessitate a return home and going back out. I was kind of in a weird headspace already and then I noticed that someone had dumped 4 bags of fast food waste in my yard. (We don't live in the best neighborhood, nor the neatest, but this was way more than the ordinary debris we see.)
So anyway, I was really angry on the way to church and was glad to be going there. I was just angry about the lack of thought, consideration and manners that it represented.
While at church I figured out what I wanted to do in response to that which was perpetrated on my property... especially since there was no way to ID the idjits that did it... I decided to make good on my promise (both to myself and to some very nice young men who helped push my daughter's car to the gas pump the other night)... and pay it forward. So instead of fuming, once I was home from buying groceries, I grabbed a trash bag and went for a walk and picked up trash.
It worked well to work out my grumpies and do something positive with the energy. And I really realized that I was BEING the change I want to see in the world. I managed a fairly slow pace, but I did burn some calories and clean up the environment a little.
But I must say I am looking forward to Thanksgiving since one friend is coming to visit from Minneapolis and I haven't seen her in 2 or 3 years. So a large group of us are having a massive meal together on Thursday!! We are looking at 17+, it will be so fun. Some of my friends have had kids much later than I did, so we will have kids from ages 1 to 19 and a group of groovy adults. And lots of food, both healthy and not-so-much.
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