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Choosing the hardest of the hard.

Friday, August 29, 2014

Let's remind ourselves of a few things we already know.

Being fat is hard.

Losing weight is also hard.

Maintaining weight is probably the hardest of the three.

But do you know what's even harder than all of them? Regaining! Simply because in our minds it's translated as failure. And I know I shouldn't be thinking of a backslide as failure, I know that only quitting should be considered failure and all these motivational – and true – things that we've been taught here on sparkpeople. But let's just face the fact as it is.

Regaining weight = Failing to maintain it

I mean it's simple English, right?

And I'm not writing all this to disappoint and dishearten all of you who are facing a bigger number on the scale at the end of this summer. Believe me, I know how you feel, I'm in the same boat. I had a close look at my weight over time report as soon as I came back from vacation. What I discovered wasn't encouraging at all. Starting exactly a year ago, my weight began moving upwards. And it did so in the sneakiest way possible. Slow and unnoticeable. Insignificant between months but it makes quite a difference a year later. Seven pounds up in a year. And they may not seem a lot compared to the 45 I'd lost but you only need to have regained once to realize the danger. The red lights are on, the sirens have gone off and I have to act before the situation gets out of hand!

Which brings me back to the title of this blog. There's something even harder than regaining.

Re-losing.

Having to face the fact that you're doing something wrong. Trying to find out where exactly you've gone off track. And embarking on the same journey all over again, trying to lose the same pounds and facing the same difficulties and the same challenges once again.

We all have to choose our hard, right? From all the hard ones, I choose the hardest. Because it's the only thing that makes sense. Maybe staying assured and going on with my life as it is would be the easiest thing to do. I mean, hey, it's just seven pounds, right? But the way I see it, any weight regain that exceeds three pounds means something. It's not just a normal fluctuation. It proves there's a flaw in the maintenance strategy we follow. It means we were derailed at some point and lost focus of our ultimate goal which is a normal and healthy weight range for life. And you don't leave such a thing unattended. If you don't deal with it, it is bound to grow. The 5 or 7 or 10 pounds will settle in comfortably and the flaw in your strategy will allow them to make room for the rest of their friends, too. And that's when real failure happens.

So, if you're facing regaining, do something NOW. Don't underestimate the power of returning pounds. They can have an avalanche effect. Re-examine your maintenance strategy and your recent habits and find the flaws. Make the necessary corrections and help yourself get back to maintenance mode. It's definitely a safer and nicer place to be.

That's what I intend to do. Watch me!


  
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KALISWALKER 8/30/2014 3:08PM

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    I agree with all that you said. I too have lost and regained. For me, I have never been able to maintain my loss for too long. I've learned from my mistakes though, and I'm ready to try again. I wish you the best on your journey! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CANNIE50 8/29/2014 11:01PM

    You & your beautiful blogs & your undeniable wisdom. I'm right there, having lost 30 & regained, in ounces & increments & bits & bites & binges, all 30. I've now lost 10 of the 30. I've recommited to tracking nutrition & doing the work of re-losing. Thank you for articulating my experience& for honestly relating your own.

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DAISYBELLEKIA 8/29/2014 1:57PM

    So true! Thanks for sharing this, it's good to be reminded.

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TRAVELGRRL 8/29/2014 1:29PM

    I too need to do "the hardest of the hard" and lose my summer vacation weight! Ignoring it doesn't make it happen. Thanks for the kick in the pants this morning! I needed it!

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MCJOYFUL 8/29/2014 1:18PM

    great blog!

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    great blog!

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MICKEYH 8/29/2014 12:13PM

    Great blog. Thanks for sharing. I'm working on get back to maintenance mode as well. emoticon

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NEW-CAZ 8/29/2014 9:35AM

    great blog!

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ISLAMOM 8/29/2014 9:33AM

    Awesome blog. I, too, am trying hard to get back on the losing wagon after a year of "maintaining" that wasn't really maintaining, but slowly regaining 6 pounds!

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RAINBOWMF 8/29/2014 9:31AM

    Great blog
Now getting turned around is the hard part for some of us. I keep procrastinating day after day.
Best of luck to you.

Mary

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FUNLOVEN 8/29/2014 9:26AM

    I am in the process of trying to lose 10# regained myself. I don't have to look very far to figure out what went wrong. It was me! After my last surgery and then faced with summer time fun I managed to eat and drink those 10# back and they are holding on tightly. Although I am thoroughly disgusted with myself, I have not yet managed to get into losing mode. I love your final statement:

" That's what I intend to do. Watch me! "

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KANOE10 8/29/2014 7:47AM

    Well said. Re-losing is very hard. When you make a detour, you really need to use all of your successful tools to regain the motivation to lose again. I have the same boundaries. Any gain over 3 pounds is not fluctuation and needs to be worked on.
That is excellent advice: re-examine your maintenance strategies and recent habits and to act now!

Thanks for reminding all of us to stay focused and to continue to work on maintenance. I know you will achieve your goals and do exactly what you intend to do! emoticon

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Back-to-basic knowledge: A rescuer on demand!

Monday, July 14, 2014

A few days ago we had a power cut.

My daughter has been reading her first book in English. (English is not our native language, I remind you.) I'm the one who's been teaching her English so when she comes across an unknown word, she prefers to "google" it instead of asking me so she can impress me later with the new things she has learned.

But… there was a power cut.

No power, no internet.
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I had to remind her. "There is something in our bookcase called DICTIONARY. That's how I checked unknown words when I was learning English." She already knew, of course, but it isn't a knowledge that has been used repetitively and can be recalled when needed. And that's a big difference!



It made me think a lot about this generation. They were literally born among technological inventions! If technology ceases to exist, they find themselves at a loss. We are so much luckier. We have lived without cellphones, without internet and even though we know how to use them, we also know that life can go on without them. And as parents, we have tried to pass this knowledge on to our children but it's not the same. For them, life without technology is like academical knowledge that never had to be put into use.

Knowledge from experience can be so much more useful. Think about all these things that you learned while at your weight loss journey. You experimented, you failed, you retried, you found out what works for you and what doesn't, what it takes and how hard you have to try. You may still be at this process. All this knowledge is one of the biggest pieces of your success story jigsaw puzzle. Together with desire, hard work and persistence.

But even if you've reached your goal, this knowledge remains co crucial for your maintenance success. At some point, you're human and you'll fall off the wagon. A few more treats, some workouts missed and the scale will start moving the unwanted way. You'll panic! You may think about resorting to unconventional solutions like crash diets, fat-burning pills or the latest bootcamp that promises fast results. That's when your "primitive" knowledge will save you. You'll know from experience which are the things that really work. Your back-to-basic knowledge will have you tracking food again, drinking lots of water, working out consistently, keeping in touch with SP and your sparkfriends and staying focused. You already know what it takes. You just have to dig it up through thick layers of disappointment, panic and other negative feelings. And you will, eventually, because logic will conquer in the end.

So, keep strong hold of this back-to-basic knowledge. Every mistake that you make, every setback on your road is one more sentence in your own book of knowledge. Think about it, learn your lesson and let your brain absorb the wisdom.

Knowledge from experience. It comes with the free wisdom of knowing when, where and how to use it. And most importantly, it never fades!


  
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FLYCHRISTI 8/16/2014 3:12PM

    A great blog in a critical moment of my journey. Due to dekapentavgousto I was out of the wagon and I needed to read your thoughts and start all over again.
Thanks again

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STILLMENEWBODY 8/14/2014 8:47AM

    Once again you have spoken to me at a time where I am so ready to absorb important information to help me along this journey. I absolutely agree about technology. It has come so far and is very valuable and useful in our world today. I am so grateful I knew what it was like before many of these tools existed though as I see how many things have been lost since technology took over. I refuse to use my cell phone for anything but emergencies or a very brief call....I am going to be late, or there has been a change in plans..etc. My kids do not get it, they think I am so technically challenged. Well...I am but not when it comes to a silly phone, I have just noticed how little people contact there is, how little play goes on, yes very young kids are attached to their phones these days. How little table time happens with families and so on.
Back to why we are here on SP......technology served me well here.....I doubt I would have reached out again had I not saw this. I was tired of meetings, tired of feeling alone and now....I feel hopeful and eager to achieve my goal! Thanks again for being here at a very important part of my journey, and for showing us it can be done! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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VIXSTERLU 8/1/2014 12:29PM

    This gives me an idea...No cell phone Sunday? Not sure I could do it, lol. But you make a good point about not knowing where to get the info without the internet? We know how to do it, but our kids are at a loss, that's sad and ridiculous.

Well said Elle! Thanks for sharing.

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SWEDE_SU 7/25/2014 11:46PM

    great blog and great reminder! we know what works, what we have to do. we just have to get back to basics!

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TINAJANE76 7/25/2014 4:46PM

    Awesome words of wisdom, Elle! So simple, but a lesson that takes many of us a LONG time to finally understand and put into practice.

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DDOORN 7/21/2014 9:55AM

    Through our journeys most of us pick up an inordinate amount of knowledge and wisdom. Sometimes we just don't know it. Or we forget. Mental muscle is a crucial skill to hone and use to build successful results! Thx for the reminder!

Don

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MILLIE5522 7/16/2014 9:39AM

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TRAVELGRRL 7/15/2014 6:11PM

    Excellent blog! You are one of those Sparkfriends who keeps me grounded in my journey. I still feel that I have a long way to go, because my "acceptable" range is too big, but your insight and words of wisdom help me maintain the 40 pounds I have lost.

Ha, about the dictionary! I remember a few years back my parents were renting a vacation home in Florida and had forgotten their scrabble dictionary. They were keeping a list of words to look up when they got home, even though their computer was 5 feet away! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 7/15/2014 7:12AM

    What a terrific wise blog -- and no, I cannot imagine ever achieving your degree of graceful literacy in a language which is not my "first"!!

A wish is not a plan.

There is virtue only in action!! (Said tough old Aristotle . . . ).

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THOMS1 7/14/2014 9:49AM

    Very well said and oh sooooo true! Thank you for this wonderful blog. emoticon

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KANOE10 7/14/2014 8:56AM

    You do know from experience what will really work. It is that back to basics approach that was successful in weight loss. That was a good reminder that we all know from experience what to do if we detour on our journeys.

Bookstores are losing money as people are reading online with Kindle. You are right about these kids of today growing up with technology.
Was French your native language?

Thanks for a well written insightful blog.

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FUNLOVEN 7/14/2014 8:55AM

    Great blog, Nuovaelle! I especially liked the saying from Marie Osmund. I actually have quite a bit of knowledge when I stop to thing about it. It is the learning to use it that I struggle with many times. Well, like they say "Practice makes perfect".

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NELLJONES 7/14/2014 7:24AM

    In her book "The Story of Weight Watchers", founder Jean Nidetch said that she weighs herself regularly, and if she is a pound or two up, she doesn't panic because she knows what to do. The panic really isn't about the pound or two, but the feeling that "Dang, I have to eat less for a few days, I thought I'd gotten past this." If you catch it at a pound or two, it really is just a few days to get back to equilibrium.

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ISLAMOM 7/14/2014 6:36AM

    Great blog and it's so true!! Why do we have to keep "relearning" the basics!!

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"So, keep strong hold of this back-to-basic knowledge. Every mistake that you make, every setback on your road is one more sentence in your own book of knowledge. Think about it, learn your lesson and let your brain absorb the wisdom. "

Great quote to keep on hand! Good job!

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MICKEYH 7/14/2014 6:22AM

    Great blog! You are so right on! Basic knowledge and applying the knowledge is very important in our success of everything we do. emoticon

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You gotta want it, they say. Understatement, I say!

Monday, July 07, 2014

I've had some wonderful sparkfriends!
And through their stories I was lucky enough to realize the importance of a key ingredient of weight loss early in my journey.

Desire.

The stepping stone, the initial impetus, the driving force, the only thing that can gain momentum and drive us along the road leading to success.

Back in 2011, when I found myself at the beginning of this uphill road, I used to read about it all the time.



And it's true.
But the word "want" is not strong enough to express what it takes.
Wanting it is just not enough.

You have to long for change to be able to get up again every single time you fall.

You have to crave a new version of yourself to fight all the obstacles that will come your way.

You have to yearn for a healthy and active body to be able to keep your eyes on the prize and fight away all distractions.

And when you finally reach your goal, you need double and triple doses of this strong desire to be able to maintain. Just wanting it is simply not enough. You will also want to re-visit your old habits at some point. You will want to indulge in your favorite treats. You will want to take a break from exercise. And you don't know which desire will be stronger when the time comes. You can't leave this to chance. Your desire to maintain your weight, your health, your energy has to be strengthened to the maximum to be able to withstand the temptations. You have to place this desire on the tip of your priorities pyramid. And push it back up every time it slips towards the base!

The stronger your desire, the better your chances of losing or maintaining.

So, keep it strong. Just like you do with your muscles.


  
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MRSRIGS1 8/29/2014 5:51PM

    You ARE so right! Thank you for sharing!

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TETONS1 8/20/2014 1:21PM

  Thank you for being a true inspiration and sharing your thoughts.

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  great blog very thought provoking thanks

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GREYGOSSAMER 8/19/2014 12:17AM

    Think like an athlete still running a race! See that distraction, run past that distraction and re-focus ahead of you, keeping your chin slightly raised, and keep going so you don't miss the end!

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  Thank you for this post. This is what I needed to read in order for me to stay on track with my weight loss goals. I have been struggling the last few days and this helped to motivate me! emoticon

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BCARR0122 8/17/2014 5:52PM

  Exactly. I have exercised everyday for 15 months, now. During the last 4 months (since I've reached my weight loss goal) whenever I get on the treadmill or start the weights, I spend the entire hour trying to justify to myself why I don't need to finish. It is a daily struggle (just in my mind). What keeps me going is to look at a picture of myself when I weighed 300 and look at myself at 170 and know for a fact that if I stop for just one day that I'm on the way back to morbid obesity. Eating healthy and exercise is first in my life for each day. I don't like the preoccupation with the whole idea, however. I just wish I could just live life and not think about it and be the way I am now. Desire is the essential ingredient to reach your goal (healthy), but discipline keeps you there. But... one has to desire to stay the course (discipline), I suppose.

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IJUSWANNABOK 8/17/2014 3:10PM

    I totally 100% agree with this. Everyone "wants" to change something about themselves, but if that was enough, more people would be healthy and happy. My journey changed when my desire to be healthy and happy was stronger than my wanting to feel good at that moment.

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ROSEMARYWRITER 8/17/2014 10:07AM

  A really timely post. I've been talking about this in relation to another area of my life and, if you like, reading your post seems like validation of where I'm going. It has also given me a bit of a kick about dragging myself back on track with my weight. The gain is not too huge, but it's there and it has to go. Thank you! Great post. Good luck with following your desires.

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SHIMMYHIP 8/16/2014 9:30PM

    Great explanation for change is what you said.......you have to Desire it!

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NEWTINK 8/16/2014 5:46PM

    At some point you know you must commit each and every day to a process that no one else will ever understand. You come to realize that your new life is always being mindful of everything, After a while though it becomes second nature to you and you just know it as reality. Great Blog .

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MTRANCHWOMAN 8/16/2014 12:52PM

    This is so ture for any life style change-smoking, alcohol, drugs and yes dieting. Well said.

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FLYCHRISTI 8/16/2014 6:32AM

    Thanks for the blog. First time I know about Napoleon Hill.
Thank you very much
Christina

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ROXYHON 8/15/2014 11:58AM

    Well said! Thank you for your excellent blog.....
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SANDICANE 8/15/2014 9:57AM

    Oh yeah, you gotta want it and NEVER EVER forget how much! Especially once the maintenance phase is entered!!!

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    emoticon It is more than wanting it; you have to desire it make it a part of your daily purpose, know that it is part of your life and stick to it. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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MISSENG 8/15/2014 8:55AM

    Thank you for sharing your inspiring story. Reminding us that wanting it is not enough. You have to desire it, also. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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DENNIS2014 8/15/2014 8:21AM

    I think you've figured it out - This is one great post and really inspires me to go forward doing my best - In the beginning I had the desire, but lately I've slipped into the want mode - Thanks for reminding me - I need to get my desire back.

You win the trophy for best blog!!!

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CATNURSE1 8/15/2014 2:55AM

    I'm glad I read this blog. I love the Napoleon Hill quote.

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JIBBIE49 8/15/2014 1:38AM

    Week of 08/14/2014 - Featured Blog Post

You've Got To Want It, They Say. Understatement, I Say!

Great to see your blog in the Spark Mail.

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MARYJEANSL 8/15/2014 12:23AM

  You said it!

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LISALASHAE 8/15/2014 12:16AM

  I luv this post. So true. I will pass it on:)

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WONDERWISH1 8/14/2014 11:26PM

    Very very true :) Excellent points!

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RPERCIVAL4 8/14/2014 8:14PM

    Thank you amazing inspiration and motivation you are completely right

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SCOTMAMA 8/14/2014 6:39PM

    Very well written blog. And you are absolutely right, want is much too mild -- you need to DESIRE IT, YEARN FOR IT, BE WILLING TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES!

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    I can so relate!

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    emoticon great blog

Makes perfect sense to me.

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MAGMATTIN 8/14/2014 5:57PM

  Thanks! I will chew what you have said..........desire...........for my myself and not food!!

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NIKKIFLASH 8/14/2014 5:20PM

    Wow! I really needed to hear this today!! Man, isn't it the true that other things can sometimes take priority in your brain over what you really "want". I am struggling with this more than I realize.

Thanks for enlightening me!

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BAJOHNSON00 8/14/2014 5:07PM

  Wonderful post! I believe that when we find the desire that we also ignite that empowerment from within us. It's in that empowerment that we find our will, strength and courage to heal. Change is possible!

Brooke
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SUSIEMT 8/14/2014 3:53PM

    Good Post!
When I started this journey I did not have the "desire". I did not want to fail yet again but after reading many of the nutrition articles I thought I could try baby steps making only small changes to see what would happen. My sister Thoms1 and I began the journey in July 2008 and haven't quit yet. I have been able to maintain my 160 lb. weight loss since July 2010.
You are right for sure that you might have to redouble your efforts but you know what it is worth it! I don't ever want to go back to the way I was.
Keep up the good work!

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Weight maintenance can be a highly-skilled life coach!

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Every experience in our lives has something to teach us. Every ordeal, every struggle that we go through leaves their mark on our personality, our behavior, our way of thinking. Weight loss couldn't be an exception to this. We learn many things about ourselves while in the battle with our weight and we adapt our frame of mind according to the difficulties that we face and the problems we manage to overcome. But who would have thought that this wonderful process continues and gets even stronger after we reach our weight goals and start deciphering the maintenance riddle?

All of you maintainers out there know what happens when we enter the maintenance phase. We go through a period of "deflation". There is no obvious progress anymore and our enthusiasm starts to decrease. People's comments get rarer and the amazement in our great accomplishment starts deflating like a helium balloon. Soon, people register us in their minds as normal-weight persons. And the journey is over for everyone. But not for us. Because this is the milestone of our journey. This is where we are tested as to whether we have learned the most important lesson: how not to quit.

This "deflation" period actually introduces us to the battle that we'll be fighting for the rest of our lives. If we let our vigilance sleep, the weight will come back. If we start forgetting about the healthy habits we have established, the weight will come back. If we loosen our diligence, the weight will come back. And occasionally we will do all these. And the weight will, indeed, start coming back. And we'll start practicing the most important lesson we've learned: how not to quit. And how to keep going without the excitement of having lots of pounds to lose and expecting to see huge changes on our bodies. There's no cheering and applause in maintenance, no standing ovations. Just pure will to continue fighting against the odds.

But what's really amazing is that this fighter's mentality, this will to go on and not quit follows us to all other aspects of our lives.
I used to be a quitter before. I would easily forget about my goals upon stumbling on the very first difficulties.

Not anymore.

I recently had to deal with many obstacles while fighting unemployment and trying to set up a small business of my own. I hit a wall many times and I will definitely find myself in the same situation in the near future. But I realized that the thought of quitting never crossed my mind. I would always try to find a way to climb the wall. And keep on trying. Until I hit the next one.

The mind of a non-quitter. The gift of maintenance, one of the best life coaches we've ever had. Lessons learned while fighting with the weakest parts of ourselves. Lessons practiced daily.

For the rest of our lives.


  
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OHMEMEME 7/29/2014 7:52PM

    Searching for inspiration on the maintenance team and found your blog. Thanks for sharing. So so so true. Needed this today. Keep Sparking!
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BHENDRICK2 7/8/2014 12:37PM

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MUDGE4 7/8/2014 8:12AM

    Awesome! I love your thinking about obstacles- it's a gift that life gives us! emoticon

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ONEKIDSMOM 6/30/2014 7:16AM

    Wow! What a great blog... don't know how I missed it before. I followed you home when you added me as a Spark friend, and found... a kindred spirit! Like it, like it, like it! emoticon emoticon m

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BAKER1009 6/30/2014 6:11AM

    Sorry I'm so late on reading this, but what a great read! You should be a writer Elle, I'm tellin' ya! (Side note: I keep forgetting to tell you that I'm in class with a girl named Eleni! Always makes me think of you!!)

You're such a strong, passionate, woman and I love you for that. Thanks for this lesson. Now let's push ourselves, because we know we can handle it!

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KIMBERLY_Y 6/18/2014 9:29PM

    Well said! Thank you.

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BELLENGLISH 6/17/2014 11:19PM

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JEANKNEE 6/17/2014 12:36AM

    Your blog is so timely! I claimed yesterday as my *official* entry into maintenance. I am both excited and scared. Love the thought of maintenance gifting us with a life coach.

Excellent insight. Thanks for sharing it.

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SUNSHINE20113 6/15/2014 6:04PM

    Great blog!

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ROXYCARIN 6/15/2014 1:04AM

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AEROBISAURUS 6/14/2014 6:29PM

    Wow Elle! Look at all the comments girl!! And an award too emoticon you my friend deserve it. This is a beautifully written blog and I absolutely love it! You took inspiration in your little slump and made it a motivation not only for you but for our whole SP community too! There is a lesson in everything :) I hope you are feeling stable again in your person life. You are a beautiful warrior and fighter, and you have a beautiful spirit. Best way to keep your shine ... gettin' sweaty! Everyday is day to get stronger. LOVE YOU!!

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MEXGAL1 6/14/2014 5:58PM

    great blog...love when we "get it"
Have a great week end.
Sallie

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DSJB9999 6/14/2014 9:50AM

    emoticon emoticon emoticon for sharing your emoticon thoughts, hope I can be as strong as you when I get to my target at last!
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MJREIMERS 6/13/2014 10:38PM

    Isn't it great when we finally "get it?" Well stated, articulate and an emoticon blog! Congrats on all your accomplishments. Keep going!

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WENDYANNE61 6/13/2014 3:43AM

    Thank you for this insightful, empowering blog! Keeping involved in the Spark Community has really helped me along this never-ending maintenance journey! Great to read all the comments too!

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TORTISE110 6/12/2014 3:55PM

    Bravo!

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AMARILYNH 6/12/2014 2:48PM

    So VERY VERY true!! Great blog!! emoticon emoticon

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SUSIEMT 6/12/2014 12:55PM

    What a great blog! How true! Thank you for putting it so eloquently!

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KATIE3908 6/12/2014 12:14PM

    Oh so true. You hit the nail on the head.

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PACKERMANN 6/12/2014 10:08AM

    thanks for sharing your maintenance insights!


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FELINA 6/12/2014 10:00AM

    So very true! Thank you for a great, inspiring blog.
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CELIAMINER 6/12/2014 8:21AM

    Very inspiring!

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TORTISE110 6/12/2014 7:57AM

    I so agree with you. We will do what it takes. We will!

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KELLIEBEAN 6/12/2014 5:58AM

    Hey hey! I'm so behind in blogs! This is definitely a must-read for all maintainers! I have found working hard at maintaining has helped me improve in other areas if my life. This has been so much more than weigh loss!

Excellent blog!

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ELLEKTRA 6/12/2014 2:51AM

    Amazing blog and really honest and those struggles are so real! But you seem keep TKOing them!
Thank you for this!

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BOPPY_ 6/12/2014 12:34AM

    Congratulations! You're plotting your course, and continuing to succeed.

Steady state requires attention. It is a direction and plan, not a place.

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    emoticon emoticon I know with your positive attitude you will go far in your maintenance journey! You are right when you say that is when our journey really begins is once we have reached our goals and we have to maintain the weight. I find it's the hardest chapter of our journey. Best wishes to you and maintaining your goals! emoticon emoticon emoticon

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BESSHAILE 6/11/2014 10:10PM

    All the great achievements of my life came when I just did not quit.

And then

Started over again.

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JANCARD 6/11/2014 10:01PM

    Thank you for this blog. VERY timely for me and spot on!

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GEMLADYONE 6/11/2014 9:56PM

    Hi Elle! You have hit the nail on the head, as usual....great blog!

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ECCOVISION1 6/11/2014 9:39PM

    I appreciate this blog very much!!

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MOONCHILD8 6/11/2014 9:17PM

    So true. Do not quit. I am a maintainer too. I have been so busy working and have not focused on the eating and exercising. I have it in a habit form now. I am working on avoiding the extra summer foods. No high calorie drinks for me. No Dunkin colattas, no soda, no sweetened ice teas, no big burgers, no fries and no sweets. Linda from bean town

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GLORIAMAJDI 6/11/2014 8:58PM

    Your blog is amazing, thank you! I relate to this very much. I have quit before but am so determined not to this time. I try to find ways to keep myself motivated because you are right...there are no more pounds to come off, no more compliments from others. So I think of it as a compliment to myself that people DO see me as a normal weight person now! I see so many people lose and gain it back due to boredom, stress, and crazy in their lives. I hope that I have learned to manage those obstacles. Sounds like you definitely have!

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HMMILLER007 6/11/2014 8:34PM

    Awesome blog! You couldn't have said it better! It can be a slippery slope once you let yourself go, and it will always be a bit of a struggle to continue with diligence to stay in a healthy weight range. I never thought about how that struggle and subsequent strength could spill over into all aspects of daily life!

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HOLLYM48 6/11/2014 8:14PM

    You are absolutely right. What a fantastic blog. We have fought a hard battle but it is not over, we must continue to fight every day so that we can maintain this weight loss. It is not always easy because we have to stay disciplined forever. It is truly a lifestyle that we must adopt forever or we will be right back in the same boat and we will have to try to lose the weight all over again. I choose to fight daily to maintain because weight loss is hard and I don't want to do it again. Thanks for a great reminder of what we have gone through and what we must do to stay in this fight! All the best to you.
Congrats on your 2 years of maintenance! That is just pure awesome!

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SLENDERELLA61 6/11/2014 7:02PM

    Wonderful blog. Thanks. Never giving up is the key for sure!! Celebrating myself when no one else is celebrating is another key. Glad you are on my team. Together we are strong!!! -Marsha

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RR1_RR1 5/30/2014 9:27AM

    Really cool! I just read a book on willpower. He defines it in 3. I "will" power. I "won't" power and I "want" power. Reminds me of this blog, seems like all 3. emoticon

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_JODI404 5/25/2014 9:38PM

    I super *L*O*V*E* this blog!!

I especially love the conclusion, and the picture:
"The mind of a non-quitter. The gift of maintenance, one of the best life coaches we've ever had. Lessons learned while fighting with the weakest parts of ourselves. Lessons practiced daily.

For the rest of our lives."

Such a great perspective! I'm glad we are equipped with the knowledge and skills to take on the challenges. Prior success means we CAN do it. We KNOW what to do.... just must continue to do it!

Best wishes for much success in your new business too!

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MICKEYH 5/25/2014 9:10PM

    Great blog! This is so true and I've learned " how not to quit"is so difficult.
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PATTISTAMPS 5/24/2014 1:26PM

    that is so inspiring! Yes, we often look at that goal weight as an "end", when in fact, it is a beginning of a new phase. And who has not lost weight and put it right back on - because we were on a "diet" and not changing our lifestyles. Hurray for your achievements, and hurray for your sticking to it... in Spark and in life!!!

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GINA180847 5/24/2014 12:59PM

    This is so true and a great lesson for life. You have done a great job laying it all out there and I thank you.

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International No Diet Day. Hmm…

Tuesday, May 06, 2014





I have repeatedly voiced my objection towards diets. So, finding out that such a day exists was a nice surprise. I came across an announcement this morning on Facebook and thought "What a great idea to spread the word about the ineffectiveness and health risks of dieting!" Then I saw more posts on the same subject and realized that the concept had been misinterpreted by many. The "World Anti-Diet Day" had been translated to a "Freedom-of-indulgence Day!"

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I searched for the facts on this day. When it all started, what were the reasons, what are the goals.

en.wikipedia.org/wiki/International_
No_Diet_Day


The day was first celebrated in 1992 in an attempt to establish body acceptance and body shape diversity and fight weight discrimination and size bias. But it is also dedicated to promoting a lifestyle that focuses on health and raising awareness on the dangers of dieting.

But unfortunately, in a world completely overtaken by both the fast food industry and the weight loss one, the day has been misused and the messages it was supposed to convey were lost. The day has even been recommended as a marketing technique for restaurant owners who would offer free indulgent treats for their customers on this particular day!

Don't get me wrong here, I have nothing against indulgence! I even believe in it, when it's done in a controllable and moderate way. But not when fighting one extremity with the other! Weight discrimination should be banished because it's awful as every kind of discrimination is. Because it leads people to "dark" places like being victims of bullying, depression and eating disorders. You can't fight these things with extreme dieting but you can't fight them with overindulgence either. You need to inform people about the health benefits of balanced eating, about the importance of other health indexes apart from a number on the scale, and you have to make them realize that loving your body does not mean accepting your fat and continuing your health-destructive habits. It means nurturing your body and keeping it as healthy as possible in order to give it the chance to function at its best.

That's why we should make every day of our lives a No-diet-day. We should fight any kind of weight discrimination but at the same time encourage people to care for their health enough to put an end to their bad habits.
Not by dieting.
By learning.
By making the right choices.
By getting healthy one step at a time.

  
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BHENDRICK2 7/8/2014 12:38PM

    well put :)

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PAULALALALA 5/7/2014 9:53PM

    I cannot add anything to your very persuasive comments abut this topic. I agree wholeheartedly.

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KANOE10 5/7/2014 7:03AM

    Good informative blog. I have never heard of that day. I agree with you. Change your lifestyle and develop healthy habits. I would also like to see an end to the discrimination against weight.

It does not surprise me that restaurants put a new twist on the day to encourage indulgences.

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MICKEYH 5/6/2014 5:17PM

    emoticon emoticon thanks you for sharing. Very in site full.

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GINA180847 5/6/2014 10:36AM

    The problem is if I indulge it goes straight to my middle and that is bad. So I will eat healthy but not follow a diet.

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