Thursday, May 05, 2011
This is basic. And, no, it's not my original thought, but one that has always had strong meaning for me.
One has to be strong, confident, a warrior, in fact. One must believe in what one has to offer. No one gets rewarded who cannot exude confidence. I need to revisit that. And often. I have to believe in myself. If I don't, no one will "buy" what I'm "selling". And if that is so, then whose fault is that?
Men, most certainly "get" this. Women really need to get on this bandwagon as well. Perhaps more than they usually do.
The business world loves this. And as I head for Interview #2 today (the more important one), I am reminded of this.
And, yes, I am for myself. And if not now, when?
Sunday, May 01, 2011
Bet you thought I was going to say, "It's so incredibly easy to lose the weight, that it is the maintaining that will prove to be the harder of the two tasks." Well, that's not where I am today.
What is so incredibly easy, is to gain back weight. When we struggle so mightily to lose a pound, even miraculously sometimes, two pounds a week. To put back four in a week is not a difficult task. THAT we know how to do expertly. We've been doing it for decades. What we are seeing now is HOW MUCH, calorie-wise, it takes to put back that amount weekly, if we are religious trackers. That little computation can be positively astounding.
And then there are the games we love to play:
If we eat 500 calories above SP's recommended allowance, can we maintain our current weight? Can we even lose weight by doing that?
How about this:
I can't go to the gym, or go for my daily walk this week, because there is SO much work to do elsewhere, so if I stay CLOSE to the calorie range, that should be okay, right?
It's amazing how much noise we can generate in our own heads. No one else needs to know. It's just "us" in here.
So many, myself included, started "this time" with tremendous passion and dedication to the task at hand. Months and months into it, we get tired of being "so good". We start to lose our way: We don't need to be on Spark anymore, we "get" it. This is the face of addiction: Heavy duty denial, Charlie Sheen-style, if you will. I can just "will myself" to be thin (to paraphrase).
There is a tremendous disconnect with the "tried and true" methods. It's so simple really, at least on paper: Less calories in, more calories out. We need to rekindle our original passion. We know all the reasons why we're doing this, but we also know, at least intellectually, that it takes time. We need to revisit regularly what works and what doesn't. Especially at so-called "plateau" time. If the exercises are becoming boring, routine or monotonous, or the menu, routine fair, mix it up!
Lifestyle changes are fluid not static. Nothing, absolutely nothing, is written in stone. Some activities we promised to accomplish are not as agreeable as we thought they would be. So what? That's not a fail. We tried, it doesn't work for us. Try something else more enjoyable. Again, it's all about calories in, calories out. Can it be simpler?
The biggest issues in weight loss, I believe, is internal. THAT requires a lot of introspection. Once that can be addressed, understood, and conquered, the work with weight loss will get easier. I honestly believe that to be true. As one looks inwardly, one is bound to discover other elements that are also "out of sorts." It's all part of the total gestalt. It doesn't really matter which came first, and which followed, but ultimately, it all has to be addressed. Not overnight. Not in a week, but slowly, like the SP program. One innovation at a time. One day at a time. One meal at a time. One bad habit at a time.
In an extremely crowded stress-filled day, I need to find a measure of quiet time. I need to spend more time with just me. I need to reassess what my goals are, and where I want to go and how I'm going to get there. Not just about the losing of weight, but of the re-finding of me. That, too, is for the long haul.
And it starts with today.
Sunday, January 09, 2011
I learned something interesting tonight. I renewed my membership at the local "Y", and as the young woman started going through the directory looking for me, I took out my membership card to assist her with the spelling of my name. She was somewhat chastened by my gesture, more annoyed with herself than anything else, as she remarked to me, "I should know you! You're one of my regulars!" Wow! I never perceived of my membership that way, albeit I do go at the least three times a week, and when I know I'm going to be coming up a tad short for the insurance reimbursement, upwards of six or seven times a week. Recently, I started tallying manually how many hours I go to the gym (as SP unfortunately is not pulling it in 100% correctly for the strength training sessions that I design for myself) and I'm finding I've been going lately about 4-1/2 hours a week. That's a mix of cardio (treadmill and swimming) and strength training.
I'm starting to see the changes in my body for all the effort I've been making. The recent photos, as well as remarks from family and friends (even neighbors I hardly see!) reinforces what I already know: I am changing. The gym (except for when I'm sick - hey! I'm not a fanatic!) is becoming second nature to me, like brushing teeth. I know when I don't go, my body actually craves the workout.
I AM moving in the right direction. And these changes are changes I can live with.
So, re-upping my "Y" membership for the third year in a row, apparently makes me a regular. And THAT is truly a good thing.
Thursday, November 25, 2010
In the hustle and bustle that is inherent in this day, I had to take a momentary pause to reflect. It's what I do, so bear with me.
What is so striking about this uniquely American family holiday, is that no matter what your faith, we all can participate in remembering what is truly important, as we gather with family and friends, and are grateful for this peaceful nation. As other nations contemplate war, we are at blessed peace.
As we reach a new holiday to celebrate, we Jews have a prayer that thanks G-d for allowing us to reach this new season. I am grateful for that as well.
I am thankful for the friends and family I have, even when they drive me nuts. And I've pretty much told them so already.
When many are seeking employment, I have a job. Ditto the thanks for that. I have decent coworkers and a boss that is any employee's dream. In a work environment, what more is there?
I am grateful for this warm, embracing community that Chris Downie created. Who would have thought that total cyberstrangers can be so supportive of other total strangers? I think it's safe to say that Chris' original dream reached above and beyond his own expectations. There's thanks to be given for that as well.
Take a moment, not a long one, but take a moment to pause, yourselves, and see the bounty that is in your own lives. And after that, enjoy your Thanksgiving, surrounded, hopefully, by people you love.
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