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My teacher is bullying me

Thursday, July 07, 2011

I have to admit that I don't get along with her at all.
I'm not the only one- there are only 4 students in the class, because everyone else withdrew after ONE DAY with her.
Just so you know... it's not just me feeling alienated and offended. But I am her 'special' one. Her target.
I tried to ignore this and even to deny that it was true, but last week, one of my classmates commented to me "boy, she really has it in for you, doesn't she?" Yesterday, after another public humiliation session, another student came up to me (after the teacher left the room) and said 'if it makes you feel any better, I have to redo my whole project." I replied "No, it doesn't, but thanks".
I have tried to stick it out, remain placid and professional, and ignore the personal jabs and inappropriate comments. There are only 18 hours (3 class meetings) left, but I'm so demoralized I'm ready to pop. I couldn't eat dinner last night, I could barely sleep, and woke up crying over how horrible this one teacher is. I want to be done with this SO BAD. I just don't know if I can make it through three more 6-hour classes without WALKING OUT. I finally wrote an email to my department head about her. Now I fear reprecussions.
I'm pretty sure she's breached professional behavior enough times to be fired if I spill my guts. She's not allowed to ask what religion we are during class, right?

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SAFEINMYFRAME 7/25/2011 10:44AM

    Reporting her is the right thing to do, and believe me, your best bet is to take a hidden tape recorder with you next class.

I had to report a professor once for spending an entire class bemoaning how we punish "nice college boys" with "rape claims" and comments about how if a woman goes home with you and is kissing you, how are you supposed to stop? When a male student (bless him) said, "But no means no," said prof snorted and said, "How cold is YOUR shower?" He conveniently marked my first test paper with zeroes on questions that were clearly right and when I called him on it, he said "oops!". I dropped the class late without penalty and he lost his position as head of the department (but because he had tenure, no firing... UGH).

She shouldn't be asking your religion.... And ideally, please take the student that said to you that the teacher was singling you out as back-up if you can. The tape recorder is helpful, too - my lovely prof lectured about "just trying to stimulate discussion" and insulting people who comnplained in broad comments the next lecture.

Good luck and stay strong - you do NOT have to tolerate this.

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MRS.PRINCIPAL 7/25/2011 7:33AM

    This SHOULD NEVER happen to students (at any age!). Don't just report her to the department head, they may be friends, or it may be hard for the department head to face the teacher with this kind of problem, go higher up too. Ask friends in the class to write a statement about what they have witnessed. Good luck.

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BUBBLEJ1 7/25/2011 4:59AM

    WOW! I hope she gets fired, and quickly!

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SECRETFUN 7/8/2011 5:24PM

  Ask the other students to go to the department, too. Good luck, dear. May peace and tranquility stay with you during, after, and between your classes.

You can hold your head high with many others around you. This person may feel people have to be torn down instead of lifted up.

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DANDELIONESS2 7/8/2011 11:51AM

  I'd bring a (digital) tape recorder to class. If you can't get close enough to record her, make sure she sees it so it acts as a deterrent. If you can record it . . .

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JLPNURSE 7/8/2011 7:48AM

    That is terrible. I'm glad you said something. Did you hear anything back?

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MBSHAZZER 7/7/2011 6:17PM

    I'm glad you said something to the department head. If nothing else, at least you'll feel like you're doing SOMETHING about the situation.

Hope you are OK for the next 18 hours - try not to take it personally. She's clearly an unbalanced person. Easier said than done, I'm sure.


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PHEBESS 7/7/2011 5:05PM

    OMG, that is horrible!!!!! It is against the law for her to ask what religion you are, especially if it's a state school but even if it's a private school. And she DEFINITELY needs to be reported!!!!! There is ZERO reason a teacher should bully a student!

Hugs to you, sweetie, and you can do this, just to spite her!!!!

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LORENVER 7/7/2011 4:51PM

    I saw this blog scrolling on the CF page and thought I'd check it out.

OH MY GOSH! This should not be happening. I am glad you reported it though. Hopefully they will do the right thing by you and the other student that didn't have the guts to bring it up. You are almost done adn you are super strong. You can make it!


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My Franklinia tree has flower buds all over it!

Sunday, June 26, 2011

This is so exciting. I've only had this tree for a year, and have moved it three times (most recently about 3 months ago).

This tree is just so delightfully unusual- the most common time of year for plants to bloom is spring. And usually it's pretty fast (several days) between buds breaking and full bloom. According to what I've read, the buds on my Franklinia will swell over a few months, and bloom when the leaves are at the peak of fall color (which is a dramatic red)!

I can hardly wait to see this sight!
And get this: they're FRAGRANT too!

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CARLA-216 7/8/2011 10:14AM

    Oooh, I'd love a tree like that. I will research to see if it will do well in my zone.

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PHEBESS 6/27/2011 7:38AM

    Gorgeous tree!!!!! I'd be thrilled too!!!!!!!!!

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_UMAMI_ 6/26/2011 3:24PM

    What a fascinating tree! It has an interesting history, too.
emoticon Thanks for teaching me something new!

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It's Saturday. Does your garden need watering?

Saturday, June 25, 2011

My neighbor, who lives on the corner lot, asked me for a tree.

I have been maintaining the city easement in front of her house for about 10 years. I had a whiskey barrel with perennials there, but a some drunk driver smashed it up, so she asked me if I had any plans to replant something there. I had a couple of spare trees, so I planted one there- a lovely little Saucer Magnolia.

Almost every time I plant something for someone other than myself, it dies. Because of inadequate watering.

People SWEAR to water it. Then, when they finally notice the brown leaves falling, they call me and ask what is wrong with the plant I gave them (as if I am responible or gave them a diseased specimen). When I ask them about watering, the SWEAR they are watering it well.

So back to my neighbor in the corner house. She tells me she has been dutifully watering every time I see her, when I know she has NOT. The tree is less than 100' from my front door. I think my dog waters it more than she does.

Bottom line: a 15-30 second sprinkle with the hose does NOTHING. That is not even enough to penetrate the mulch she piled on the root zone. It takes me 20-30 minutes to water this ONE tree. Just to give you some idea.

So.... the weekend is here. Unless you live in an are currently submerged by flood waters, you may need to water. Get out there.

Happy gardening.

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PHEBESS 6/26/2011 11:19AM

    Poor tree!!!! Magnolias are so gorgeous, you'd think she'd be happy to water it at least twice a week - more on those 100 degree days!

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Call in and Ask the Experts

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

I just got back from the local TV station, where the evening news did a story about the trees in our city. They also invited viewers to phone in their tree questions, or "ask the experts". I was one of the four "experts".
I found out there are a lot of crazy people out there watching the five o'clock news.
I did answer a few questions about trees.

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NOTBLUSHING 6/25/2011 11:30AM

    JLPNURSE- Callers who lived outside the city (we couldn't help them). Callers complaining about lack of county services (we are CITY and only do TREES). Callers complaining about TREES being planted "with my tax dollars!"(we aren't even planting trees now, just trying to get help watering what's already there). Callers complaining about their dishwasher or their leaky roof (honest to God). Callers complaining about worms (???).

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MBSHAZZER 6/23/2011 10:32PM

    That's awesome! And yes, it is my theory that 90% of people are some form of noticeable crazy!

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JLPNURSE 6/23/2011 4:16PM

    That is so awesome!!! What were some of the "crazy people" asking?

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PHEBESS 6/23/2011 4:15PM

    And why do the leaves fall off every year? Why can't they just stay on the tree???

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TERRBEAR12 6/23/2011 12:03AM

    Oh, please. Wacky people in t.v. land? Sounds like you had fun and helped a few people out. Good Job!

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DANDELIONESS2 6/22/2011 9:49PM

  But where do the elves go?

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My "Half-Years" Resolutions are going great!

Friday, June 10, 2011

What can you in one hour a day? LOTS.

My commitment to fight for my health, and vigorously defend my workout schedule at any cost is paying off. Ten days in, and I'm already feeling better. I will admit, it isn't painless. It's a hot, sweaty, exhausting commitment. It takes a lot out of me. It pounds my feet, my toes, my hips, my legs, and my back. I try not to think about the tough part, and focus on the goal.
I feel especially gratified that in the past 10 days, I have exceeded my exercise goal by a significant margin, having already completed two weeks worth of exercise hours. I have my trail hiking to thank for a lot of that. It takes me at LEAST an hour and 20 minutes to do my loop (it isn't a long walk, it's just real hot and I go very slowly). So, I couldn't stop in an hour if I wanted to... because I'm still so dang far from home.
The canal along the trail is drying up. It's hard to believe my dog used to jump in and swim there. What used to be a strong, waist-deep current is now a grassy meadow. The few parts that still have water are only a few inches deep, with dead fish floating, and trapped fish gulping in the hot, stagnant mud.
No snakes today, and no chipmunks (too hot when I was walking), but many birds, most notably the new batch of goslings in the park. I have to pass through the park to get to and from the trail, and today, as I was crossing the huge lawn, I saw something ahead of me flopping in the grass. As I drew closer, I saw it was a large gosling, lying flat on his back, unable to right himself.
I have no idea how long he'd been there, but he was in direct sun, and he was getting it full force. He flailed his big webbed legs helplessly when I approached him, but his wings had not yet fledged, and they were tiny and useless to help him lift himself. He was clearly exhausted and almost dead.
The other geese had long since moved on, and left him lying alone on the lawn.
Looking him over, I could see no obvious injury, so I knelt down and righted him. He was badly disoriented, and in his panic, he stumbled and fell again, right back where he started. The second try worked better. I got him up, and he staggered away quickly, in the direction of the lake. I followed, and watched him jump in, and drink copiously as he paddled. Soon, he rejoined the gaggle, and was indistinguishable from the rest of the young geese.

Now, I don't really care much for the Canadian geese in the park. Although they do delight the local children, they're kind of a messy nuisance to the rest of us pedestrians. But I'm sappy enough to take pity on helpless little critters, and saving the life of a Canada gosling was my good deep of the day.

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GRAYSHA1 6/15/2011 12:44PM

    I am so glad to hear that you are committed but realistic. I have been making excuses why I can't exercise but I have committed to exercising 6 days this week -- taking one week at a time. I can tell you that my feet, knees and back hurt, especially at my weight but there is another part me that feels inspired. So I will keep going. I know as i keep going I will get stronger and of course weight will come off making it easier for me but right now it really is just determination. I bring my clothes to work, change before i leave and don't allow myself to do anything but go right to the gym. Good luck to you.

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MBSHAZZER 6/11/2011 4:53PM

    AWWW, I love that you saved that goose! Good karma for you!

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PHEBESS 6/10/2011 8:05PM

    YAY for saving the gosling! And YAY for keeping up the hiking!

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