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Friday, January 30, 2009

I'm not saying it's my favorite word, but I love the way it rolls across my tongue.

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TARABEAR 2/2/2009 12:41PM

    Too close to panhandle for my liking

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MALEFICENT1964 2/1/2009 3:14PM

    handling men is always a fun thing to do :)

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My pedicure is NOT a "reward".

Saturday, January 24, 2009

I see so many people describe a pedicure, or a salon visit of any type, as a reward: "lose 25 lbs = pedicure".
I get one every 4-6 weeks regardless. I consider it routine maintenance!
I'm DEFINITELY not going to wait until I lose 10 more pounds to schedule my next root touch-up with my hairdresser. I'm far more likely to make the decision by looking at my appointment calendar, figuring out when I'll NEED a salon visit, when I'll be in town to get one, and when I'll need to look my best for some upcoming event.
Just like clothing... how do I know if the stuff I want will WAIT for me to get to that certain number on the scale? Experience tells me, if I wait, it will be GONE every time! I've had to buy many different sizes along this journey. I think ahead, and look for sales.
Personally, I don't believe in, or even UNDERSTAND the rewards concept. To ME, weight loss is it's own reward. Losing weight IS the reward for staying the course, working hard, and sticking to my plan. NO pedicure can top it.
And if you're focused on achieving a fitness goal, why wouldn't you reward yourself with something that helps you do that- like fitness equipment? If you want to reward yourself with some material thing, why not jumpropes or a stability ball?
Shoe sales and grey roots wait for no woman.

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MBSHAZZER 1/30/2009 2:19PM

    LOL! I love it! Personally, a pedi would fall under "torture" for me (I have a toe "issue") but I get just what you mean!

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PHEBESS 1/25/2009 9:46AM

    Yeah, you are SO right! For me, my nails and hair and facials are routine maintenance - they let me know I'm beautiful and worth taking care of myself.

It's the conceptual and intangible reward that means the most to me - being able to buy the clothes in smaller sizes, or NEEDING to buy clothes that aren't falling off, are the best rewards! Not holding out for it, just having it happen because the lbs are gone and the muscle tone is there.

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SECRETFUN 1/24/2009 6:36PM

  I am glad to read this. I will say, I always figure, for some people their money is strapped and this would in fact not be routine and thus a treat. I feel the same way with equipment, though, unless you need to be a certain weight to use it. Do not reward yourself with new running shoes in 20 lb, buy two pair that FIT WELL now and use them and any other shoes you need to shed those 20lb! Maybe the reward is to buy an upgrade to your stability ball, or add a third pair of exercise shoes to your rotation, or for the salon go to that really nice place you would not normally go. Buy what you need to succeed and what will help you when you need it and can.

I think if you deny, you may just keep feeding the idea that you are not good enough. Part of the barrier is not just weight but in your full world, take good care of yourself, your whole self, first. Take care of the needs and wants, yours included and not last.

Thus, I am glad your pedicure is not a reward for you. I would also be sad to see if you put running shoes on your. Now, if you said, my elliptical works but I am getting an upgrade when I hit my goal weight so I can stay there in style...that I would think was fine. At the same time if 10 lb to goal you said, 'oh, my current one is broken beyond repair and I will have to go it alone until I get down 10 more lb' I would say go buy the new one now!

Like you said, you have to stay on the PROPER goal and task and not let the smaller reward (or punishment) in front of you stand in your way negatively. If certain things work for certain people for a while I suppose it is fine, but eventually that is where you need to move. For me, looking good in my clothes and moving well is fine reward.

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With GREAT expenditure of effort....

Thursday, January 22, 2009

ONE more pound has FINALLY taken leave of me. With careful monitoring of my caloric expenditures, and monstrous workouts, I am rid of it.
The progress has been frustratingly slow. Losing the first hundred pounds was a walk in the park compared to trying to lose the last thirty.
Will it really take another 30 months to lose these last 30 pounds???
Although I finally had my long awaited doctor visit early this month, my health issues are unresolved. My follow-up appointment is in another week. PLEASE don't let me break down and weep this time! I'm willing to trust my doctor, why can't she trust ME? I have to make her understand this is not a mental issue. My tears are the product of frustration and sheer exhaustion. I don't want antidepressants; I just need more thorough evaluation and more aggressive treatment!


Lately, my body has been retaining Pinot Noir....

Seems like I just got back from my last business trip when another fast-forwards into view. The first two weeks of January, I had TWO. In the next two weeks, I'll have two more.
It's not that the Pinot Noir cures what ails me, but it does make me feel much better during waking hours. It's actually become one of the ways I plan my travel itinerary: make sure there will be no driving, and enjoy the wine.
My corkscrew collection (because I always seem to forget packing one in my suitcase) is growing.


"Oh, they're GREAT, they make your feet look smaller."

WHY on earth is it considered a compliment to tell someone (okay, a woman) that her shoes make her feet look smaller?
I was shopping in Bloomingdales recently, standing in the shoe department, busily trying on a pair of platform pumps. A lady from cosmetics comes mincing along and makes this comment to me. I stare at her, furrow my brow, and say "yeah, they look like hooves" as I kick them off and lower myself back down to ground level. She smiles and blinks, uncomprehending.
I ask you- with a body this size, WHY would I want my feet to look SMALLER? Am I nuts to think that that would actually make the rest of me, particularly my tree-trunk legs, look FATTER?
I think not.


No snow but damn cold

How much longer 'til March? And, will I be broke?
I am desperate to market myself, and running out of money to do so. Meeting my career and educational goals will require thousands more dollars in travel expenses. The last thing I want to do is use my spouses money. Not that I'm not entitled to, and not that he's unwilling, and not that it would break us, it's just that it creates such an accounting nightmare to cover what should be business expenses with money from other sources.
There is more than enough winter work to keep me busy for a thousand lifetimes, provided I can convince people that
A) it needs doing, and
B) I'm the person to do it.
Spring work is already starting to trickle in.
While some might argue that spring work is easier, or more pleasant than winter work, because it involves little more than sitting indoors at my desk, I completely disagree. I love working outdoors, and I love the physical labor of winter. Not only that, I'm well suited to it. If you could feel these rock-hard shoulders, you'd agree.
And making money is all the incentive I need to get out into the frigid weather. Trust me, jogging with the dog is not adequate.

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TARABEAR 1/23/2009 5:52PM

    congrats on the pound! You will get there! Good luck with the dr appt and with getting new work.

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MBSHAZZER 1/23/2009 1:01PM

    Hi there - I am with you on the foot comment. I mean, foot size is like height, you can't change it! So why comment on it?! WTF?!

I am sending you good vibes that the last 30 lbs floats away when you're not looking, that your medical issues are resolved, and your business takes off.


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MALEFICENT1964 1/23/2009 7:35AM

    Can you go to a different doctor? if you're current doctor isn't meeting your expectations, which aren't unreasonable, go to another doctor...

I'm so with you on those last 30lbs... the first 200 were easy.. .it's the remainder that are driving me batty :) they'll come though -you know what to do and are doing it...

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PHEBESS 1/22/2009 9:06PM


Hope you get the medical stuff resolved soon!

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SECRETFUN 1/22/2009 8:13PM

  My only problem with this blog is I was already desiring a glass of red wine. :-)

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"How old do I look?"

Saturday, January 10, 2009

If you're like most people, you HATE this question. And, if you're like most people, you lie through your teeth when cornered with it.
Once again, if you're like most people, right now you're nodding in agreement.
Why is it, then, that so many people brag about how people always guess they look 5, 10, or even 15 years younger than their actual age? Do they really believe the aforementioned statistics apply to everyone else, and not them?
I've had this conversation with friends more than once. They all admit that, when faced with a person who insists they play the age guessing game with them, they try not to groan with annoyance, and they end up answering with some outrageously low number. Invariably, they admit that the number they spit out is far, far lower than what their eyes tell them. Everyone agrees that this is a universal phenomenon, and very well known; so the facts don't really matter. The consensus is, it's a form a benign flattery. But you hear it again and again: "People tell me I look much younger".
So, if everyone knows the game, why do they resist in applying it to themselves?

I, for one, routinely hear that I look much younger. Even from my closest and most trusted friends, which really makes me want to believe it. However, I can't buy into it, hook, line and sinker; I rationalize it instead: I tell myself that I simply take better care of myself than a lot of people they know, and our senses are overwhelmed daily with multitudes of people who do not. And there's our barometer.

The fact is, we have so many BAD examples out there of what a middle-aged person is supposed to look like, and so few good ones.
I think I look my age. But, I'll be the first to admit, I'm pretty vain about my looks. My appearance is one of my biggest motivators.
Is that why we're so amazed when we look at middle aged celebrities? I mean, the ones who HAVEN'T had "work done"?
It's the old "results not typical" ideal. Meaning, it's POSSIBLE for just about anyone, but not typical. Why? Because typically, we don't do what is required.

Folks, the "results not typical" thing applies to everyone in some way.
If you are a typical person, you do what people typically do. And consequently, you have typical results. If there's any doubt about what the typical results are, or look like, just open your eyes and look around.

Do something atypical this time.
Do something atypical with your career, your meal plan, and your exercise routine.
And don't think in terms of looking younger for your age, think in terms of being atypical.

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MALEFICENT1964 1/23/2009 7:37AM

    Amen to that...

This has been on my mind of late - beucase I really do wonder how old I look (sadly, I'm the oldest in my department) I can't figure out what 44 is supposed to look like... When I was a kid, 44 seemed ancient... and people that age looked really old -now i'm not so sure... I don't feel old -I feel 25... i know I don't look 25 but 25 year olds look like they are 15 to me... :D

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MBSHAZZER 1/14/2009 1:31PM

    Great post! You know, I always think of myself as pretty "typical" - it was a big eye opener when I realized that most people don't exercise every day and avoid fast / processed food!

I have no idea how old you are, but I think you look terrific and really, we should all just strive to look the best we can... with no qualifiers!

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KALISWALKER 1/11/2009 7:08PM

    I am aiming for a healthy appearance and I so agree with you.

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TRECECOOKS 1/10/2009 12:58PM

    That's what I'm aiming for!!

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Revisiting (and recyling) 2008's Goals

Friday, January 02, 2009

This is a great time for us all to revisit the goals we set in 2008, and ask ourselves how we did- how many did you achieve? What fell by the wayside, and why? What are your NEW goals? How many are reruns from last year?
Here's my list:

My 2008 weight goal: reach 160 lbs -NOT ACHIEVED!
As par for the course, I lost focus and found old habits of sloth and gluttony. Winter's bad weather and high calorie foods took a toll.
Goal is recycled for 2009.

My 2008 fitness goal: Run my fastest 8k -NOT ACHIEVED!
I registered for the local 8k, but on race week I found myself in Milwaukee on business. Not a bad trade off, all things considered.
Goal recycled for 2009.

My 2008 financial goal: double my income -ACHIEVED!
When I came up with this outrageous goal in November of 2007, I had no idea how I was going to achieve it. But I wrote it down on my employment evaluation and confidently declared it to my boss. Minutes later she gave me the biggest raise of my life and a fine head start toward the goal. My business did so well in 2008 I quit that job, and still exceeded my goal. Unbelievable!

My 2008 career goal: become an Arborist -ACHIEVED!
I enrolled in a preparatory class for the exam, and ordered the study guide. When the text arrived, I had 3 days to look it over, and decided on a lark to apply early for the exam. I got a seat at the last possible minute, by the skin of my teeth... and passed! I still attended the prep classes a month later. I'd already booked the hotel.

My 2008 educational goal: get back in school -ACHIEVED! Based on my job experience, the department head has waived several courses required for my degree. I'll finish early!

Can you believe how fast this year is flying by??

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TRECECOOKS 1/8/2009 2:12PM

    Your blogs, outlook, perspective and attitude are so welcome in my life. I appreciate watching you succeed, and I attempt to reprogram my thoughts and actions, so that one day, I, too, can have "results not typical;". May 2009 be your best year ever!!

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SECRETFUN 1/2/2009 8:09PM

  WOOHOO! I want to hear about the degree!

What races are you doing this year?

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TYEASLEY 1/2/2009 7:10PM

    You're revved up. I'm so glad that you met some of the really big goals. What an accomplishment, in a market where folks are worrying about their job, you increased your income AND quit another job. Wonders never cease. Very inspirational. Good luck in the new year! emoticon emoticon

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