Sunday, March 16, 2008
my power today lies in realization. I am NOT my mistakes. I CAN'T do this alone or pretend any more. The illusion of comfort in denial or sacrifice is no longer mine. There is NO shame in my suffering -- no healing in silent self-torment. It is here at the surreal crossroads of the "soul search" where dawning truth meets the anguish of overwhelming resistance in mind over matter that I can finally wake up, change my mind, let go of what no longer works or own my losses or choices. I am empowered by intense acknowledgment or epiphany and my virtue is gratitude or relief in
Saturday, March 15, 2008
Ok, so we need to lose weight. For some of us, if not all of us it is imparative. Some of us even have doctor's orders because if we don't lose the weight we stand a very good chance of serious health risks.
So, now we've taken it seriously and we've taken the steps toward working on losing the weight.
And we start out with grit and determination and we actually do well for the first while. Then it starts to wane and eventually peter's out and we are right back to where we started from. WHY?
Did you know that one of the biggest reasons people fail to reach their goals--whether losing weight, exercising consistently or eating healthier--is because they actually fail to prepare. Anyone can set a goal, but it takes preparation, planning and motivation to see it through to the end.
So I asked myself a few hard questions to find out just where I stood with myself. I took this assessment quiz to find out just how serious I actually was in reaching my goals! And what did I find? That I am serious but not serious enough! And from what you here know of me you know how dedicated and determined I already am. So now we step it up a notch!
Here were the questions I asked myself. It's actually one of the quizes here on site.
1. Is your goal specific, meaning that it includes details like numbers (lose 20 pounds, eat 5 fruits and veggies, walk 30 minutes) and dates (by January, every day, each week)?
Yes, it's got all that!
It includes one of the above (numbers or dates), but not both
C. No, it's simple and kind of vague (lose weight, exercise more, eat better)
2. How much time are you giving yourself to reach your goal?
A. I didn't set a timeline because I don't know how long it should take
Get there as fast as possible!
Several weeks or months
3. Have you told anyone about your goal?
I don't think it's anyone's business
Everyone who will listen!
C. A few close friends or family members
4. Who will you turn to when you need encouragement and support?
My partner, family, friends and goal buddy
B. My best friend or a support group
I don’t know yet
5. How are you tracking the progress you make to reach your goal?
I take a mental tally of my progress
C. I track my daily actions online or in a journal/planner (but not often enough)
6. How will you reward yourself when you reach your goal?
Reaching my goal is a reward in itself!
Something fun--a party, a vacation, or some new clothes
C. Why wait 'til then? I reward myself along the way!
7. Do you believe you can reach your ultimate goal?
Definitely! I can do anything I set my mind to!
B. I hope so. I'm pretty determined!
I often doubt myself since I’ve failed in the past
8. What happens when you mess up along the way?
I try not to let it get me down. Nobody's perfect.
I'll enlist my support system and motivational techniques to stay on track.
C. I usually lose momentum and blow it for the rest of day...or longer.
9. What do you do when you get bored or impatient?
That's when I usually give up or give in!
I change things up for variety and to keep myself excited.
C. I look back over everything I've accomplished so far.
10. Why did you set this goal?
To prove that I can do it
Because someone I care about told me that I should
C. For myself alone
Friday, March 14, 2008
my power today lies in denial or blocking. 'Don't even go there.' I will not let myself be limited, paralyzed, held hostage or alienated by fear or fantasy that relies on exploitive emotional rescue, sacrifice of truth, or victimization. I will not be a prisoner to my own perceptions or expectations. Why did Cinderella stay? Do I want to be right or alone? Why have I placed a mental gag order on my own suffering or thinking? I am empowered to question or endure by virtue of my own self-worth because there is no honor in sacrificing my self to victim hood.
Thursday, March 13, 2008
you now have unlocked your power and knowledge. So we’re going to turn it up a notch and really get to work. You first need to learn to crawl, then walk and then run with the wind—wind that will sweep you through your life with a positive blow. So I want you to say out loud, “I am completely successful!” Say it loud and say it with meaning. Say it with passion. Feel the fire inside you, and make a decision that your life is in your control. Say it and know that you can do it. Say it and know you can make the right decisions and you have the power. Say it and be determined to complete this course, complete the Train Your Brain sections and make this program a way of life. You are going to think about your entire being—the “whole.” As they say, “failure is not an option.”
You have to remember that the brain is a muscle. The more correct decisions you make, the stronger you get, the stronger your life becomes. The more correct decisions you make, the easier it is to make more correct decisions. In tough times, it will give you more strength. I can give you a million examples including not littering, not driving drunk, recycling, and more. The point is as you continue to make correct decisions to keep your whole life in balance and be completely successful, your inner voice becomes stronger. It can bench a million pounds. It’s so strong and guides you so well that many decisions become automatic and require no effort. Do we take time and think about stopping at a red light? No, we just stop, at least the healthy people do. We don’t ponder over it; we just stop. When our brain is strong and healthy we don’t ponder over many things; we just do them. Litter goes in the trashcan. Kids say no to drugs. A person doesn’t cheat on his or her partner. Things that really should not require decision-making skills become automatic. You don’t drink and drive. You don’t eat seconds and overstuff yourself. You get up and feel good. After all, “I’m having a great day.” You exercise, stretch, brush your teeth, enjoy your shower, have a good breakfast, get to work on time, don’t yell at anyone, come home, pay attention to your love partner, pay attention to your kids, don’t smoke, and enjoy life. You see, these should not be hard decisions; they should be automatic and they can be.
Thursday, March 13, 2008
Recently I overheard a mother and daughter in their last moments together at the airport. They had announced the departure.
Standing near the security gate, they hugged and the mother said, 'I love you and I wish you enough'.
The daughter replied, 'Mom, our life together has been more than enough. Your love is all I ever needed. I wish you enough, too, Mom'.
They kissed and the daughter left. The mother walked over to the window where I was seated. Standing there I could see she wanted and needed to cry. I tried not to intrude on her privacy but she welcomed me in by asking, 'Did you ever say good-bye to someone knowing it would be forever?'.
Yes, I have,' I replied. 'Forgive me for asking,
but why is this a forever good-bye?'.
'I am old and she liv es so far away. I have challenges ahead and the reality is - the next trip back will be
for my funeral,' she said.
'When you were saying good-bye, I heard you say, 'I wish you enough'. May I ask what that means?'.
She began to smile. 'That's a wish that has been handed down from other generations. My parents used to say it to everyone'. She paused a moment and looked up as if trying to remember it in detail and she smiled even more. 'When we said , 'I wish you enough', we were wanting the other person to have a life filled with just enough good things to sustain them'. Then turning toward me, she shared the following as if she were reciting it from memory.
I wish you enough sun to keep your attitude
bright no matter how gray the day may appear.
I wish you enough rain to appreciate the sun even more.
I wish you enough happiness to keep your spirit alive and everlasting.
I wish you enough pain so that even the smallest of joys in life may appear bigger.
I wish you enough gain to satisfy your wanting.
I wish you enough los s to appreciate all that you possess.
I wish you enough hellos to get you through the final good-bye.
She then began to cry and walked away.
They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them but then an entire life to forget them.
* Only if you wish send this to the people you will never forget and remember to send it back to the person who sent it to you. If you don't send it to anyone it may mean that you are in such a hurry that you have forgotten your friends.
TAKE TIME TO LIVE.....
To all my friends and loved ones,
I WISH YOU ENOUGH
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