And so it went.

Tuesday, August 05, 2008

Yesterday I let the day take care of itself for achange and whatever was on the film was on the film.
We, DH and I took the entire day We had specific things we wanted to do and then it was a just to do day.
We met up with our friend and spent a couple of hours with her before she had to go to work We took her out to lunch. We went to a buffet where they served both Canadian and Chinese.
They had everything you could [possibly think of FRUIT galore Raw Vegetable plates, Salads. These were my entrees in porportionate size and then I let myself have two oysters raw, and two table spoons of grab with a cream sauce that I am sure was LOADED with fat and calories! But it was MY day out! To this I added a small serving of Ginger beef and beef and broccoli. I ate every bit of my entree and by the time I'd eaten half of my main course I couldn't finish the rest! I had no desserts And believe me!!!!!! My girl friend had a rasberry cherry strawberry truffle and I didn't even nip a bite! I never even glanced at the dessert table let alone check it out!
Then we spent the entire rest of the day WALKING EVERYWHERE! We parked the car at one end of the Plaza and walked from store to store and we spent about an hour in each as well! No not Mall walking We had to come out of each store and walk a city block to the next one. We went into Home Depot, Rona, Totem, Canadian tire, and Peavy Mart.
I should have worn my Pedometer but My guess is I walked well over 20,000 steps yesterday and my little legs KNEW it!

For supper DH wanted Dairy Queen So away we went. We ordered Swiss Cheese burgers He had rings with his I had Fries. Could only eat half of my meal and allowed myself a SMALL chocolate dipped cone DH on the other hand demolished a banana split AND a peanut butter parfait!!!!!! And I never had a nip of either!
Then we drove the 2 hours home! Or I should say I did!

So here we are this morning fessing up to my day of exursion! How to track it hmmmm, I don't think I want to LOL And now I work today so anything I ate yesterday will be BURNED off! And I will defiently reduce my calorie fat and carb intake to accommodate for yesterday! But you know I feel good about it all! I RARELY do this kind of thing DH even made the comment And just where are you going to put all of that? YOu never eat like this even at home! I said I know and i probably won't eat everything either but I want my old favourites and what I eat of them I eat of them today. And so it went.

  

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STEELY123 8/6/2008 5:53AM

About time you did that, good for you, I know you have been stressed lately and are still concerned about it. So to have a day out like that with the main man is precious time. Don't leave it to long to do it again, it's worth a million!!!! You need that relaxation my friend. Katherine Report Inappropriate Comment

DRACO82 8/6/2008 1:16AM

Sounds like you had a wonderful day. You have more willpower than me, I still eat a little bit of what my fiance has (& it really annoys him) & I don't know if I would of stopped at two oysters. So you did really well. Report Inappropriate Comment

CINNIEMAY 8/5/2008 11:26PM

Sounds like you had a great time! Good for you! Report Inappropriate Comment

HUGGERS1 8/5/2008 10:36AM

I am so happy you had a fun day out with no worries. i too do that on occasion and I love it. No guilt, no remorse, just a day to treat and enjoy being with friends. You chose well and didn't over do it as well. I love that you walked so much. That is awesome, you probably burned off most of the calories you ate. hugs Amber Report Inappropriate Comment

QUILA927 8/5/2008 10:33AM

Good for you! I am glad you had such a wonderful day out. And it doesn't seem like you totally over did it. Definately nothing you can't compensate for this week. Everyone needs a day like that sometimes Report Inappropriate Comment

LISTEN CAREFULLY PLEASE!

Monday, August 04, 2008

To: YOU
Date: TODAY From: GOD
Subject: YOURSELF
Reference: LIFE

This is God. Today I will be handling All of your
problems for you. I do Not need your help. So, have a nice day.
I love you.


P.S. And, remember...
If life happens to deliver a situation to you that you
cannot handle , do Not attempt to resolve it yourself! Kindly put it in
the SFGTD (something for God to do) box. I will get to it in MY TIME.
All situations wi ll be resolved, but in My time, not yours.

Once the matter is placed into the box, do not hold onto
it by worrying about it. Instead, focus on all the wonderful things
that are present in your life now.

Should you decide to send this to a friend; Thank you.
You may have touched their life in ways you will never know!

Now, you have a nice day.
God

God has seen you struggling,
God says it's over.

  

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DRACO82 8/5/2008 12:33AM

Thank you for sharing this. It's some good advice & I'll pass it on to my friends & family. Report Inappropriate Comment

DRAGONFLY180 8/4/2008 11:11PM

i like that. i often have to try to remember to hand my worries over to God. it's definitely something i struggle with. Report Inappropriate Comment

RENA1965 8/4/2008 10:47PM

God helps people in different ways he also helps those whom get off their hands and fight with every grain of energy in their soul to achieve stuff. I have learned this first hand on my own body. If I am down and don't attempt to right a situation at all and just ask for help he never listens to my prayers and actually tells me I can do better. I have had many situations where he bangs the table and I never have to think twice about his message.. He is actually moulding us along the way.. I was never a church goer before I met my husband, and was imspired by my husbands christian work to help in the community through my job. God is around and expects preformance for his help. Comment edited on: 8/4/2008 10:50:46 PM Report Inappropriate Comment

Identifying Favorite Foods, Creating Perfect Diet Menus

Monday, August 04, 2008

Identifying Favorite Foods, Creating Perfect Diet Menus

1. Choose the time(s) of day that's most difficult for you to avoid food when dieting,

a. Morning
b. Afternoon
c. Early Evening
d. Late Evening
e. All Day

Answer: d. Late Evening

2. What foods are your major weaknesses? Choose as many as apply..

a. Sweets - candy, cookies, cakes, pies
b. Breads, Potatoes & Pasta
c. Gravies & Sauces
d. Cheese
e. Butter, Oils & Nuts
f. Proteins - all meats

Answer: d. Cheese


3. Answer the question, "My personality tends to be:"

a. Hyper-active
b. Low Key
c. Even Keel
d. I am very moody and unpredictable
e. Depressed

Answer: c. Even Keel

4. When holidays and special occasions occur, I tend to:
Eat whatever I want to enjoy.
b. Eat whatever I want to enjoy, then watch my diet closely for the next few days.
c. Choose a few things that I really like to enjoy.
d. I tend to stick with my diet plan in this type situation.

Answerc. Choose a few things that I really like to enjoy.

5. I tend to eat:
a. While working at my desk or job.
b. In a relaxed atmosphere with friends.
c. Alone in a relaxed atmosphere.
d. In front of the television.

Answer: a. While working at my desk or job.
d. In front of the television.

6. My meals generally tend to be of this nature
a. Home cooked.
b. Fast Food
c. A mix of fast food and home cooked.
d. Consists only of healthy foods.

Answer: d. Consists only of healthy foods.


7. My diet is closest to the following:
a. Based on the Official Food Pyramid
b. Vegetarian
c. Flexaterian
d. Raw Food Diet
e. Natural Food Diet

Answer: a. Based on the Official Food Pyramid


8. I tend to experiencing the following:
a. Acid tummy after eating Italian or Mexican.
b. Heartburn when eating late at night.
c. Bloating, belching, tummy discomfort after drinking milk or eating ice cream.
d. Rash after eating some foods.
e. Frequent headaches.
f. Frequent constipation.
g. Overly prone to tooth decay.
h. Sleepy after eating, particularly in the afternoon.
i. Insomnia
j. Muscle aches.
k. Crave water.
l. Frequent trips to restroom, particularly at night.
m. Foggy train of thought.
n. Irritability
o. Difficultly breathing from time-to-time.
p. Weak, brittle nails.
q. Skin problems.
r. Hair loss.
s. Bad breath.
t. Excessive body odor.
u. Occasional blurred vision.
v. Sugar cravings.
w. Loss of sex drive.
x. Depressed, unhappy feelings most of the time.
y. Feelings of hopelessness; panic.
z. Frequent backaches.

Answer:

9. I enjoy snacks
a. True
b. False
c. Occasionally

Answer: a. True

10. I tend to grab for food when
a. Under a lot of stress.
b. When I'm happy.
c. When I need a little comfort.
d. When I see a favorite food.
e. When I am alone.
f. When I am in a crowd.
g. When I'm not feeling well.

Answer: none of the above

11. Snacking Between Meals
a. Never
b. Always
c. Occasionally

Answer: b. Always

12. Whenever I am in a crowd and it's time to eat, I feel:
a. Embarrassed about eating because of my weight.
b. I don't worry about what anyone thinks; I just enjoy my food.
c. Like all the thin people are monitoring what I eat.

Answer: b. I don't worry about what anyone thinks; I just enjoy my food.


13. When I weigh I sometimes think
a. Wow - I've gained weight and I better go on a diet asap.
b. Wow - I've gained weight, but it's still not my TOP weight. I've weighed 10 more pounds that this in my life. I won't worry about that now. I'll wait until I have reached my top weight, then I'll worry about dieting.
c. I've gained weight, but it's impossible to lose this much weight.
d. I've lost weight so now I can eat until I reach my top weight.
e. I've lost weight and I want to continue to lose down to my perfect weight.
f. I've lost weight and I want to continue losing until I reach the weight that I feel best.

Answer: f. I've lost weight and I want to continue losing until I reach the weight that I feel best.


14. When I prepare OR purchase prepared meals, what I buy or make is based on the following:
(a. My health.
b. My family's health.
c. How good the food will taste regardless of calories and fat.
d. Certain medical conditions involving myself or those I cook for.
e. I do not have a voice is what is prepared for me to eat.
f. What is cheapest and what will fit into my personal budget.

Answer: a. My health.

15. This question is a bit like Question 2. Pick as many as you like. I tend to enjoy the following foods:
a. Tried and true favorites.
b. Discovering exotic foods.
c. Bland foods.
d. Spicy foods.
e. Cheesy foods.
f. Authentic foreign foods such as Mexican, Italian and German.
g. Americanized foreign foods such as Mexican, Italian and German.
h. Fried foods.
i. Dried foods.

Answer: a. Tried and true favorites.

16. Food Groups - choose the food groups that you like least
a. Grains - bread, cereal, rice, pasta.
b. Fruits
c. Dairy - milk, yogurt, cheese.
d. Vegetables
e. Proteins - red meats, white meats, beans, eggs, nuts.
f. Fats - butter, margarine

Answers: f. Fats - butter, margarine


17. Pick your favorite part of the meal:
a. Bread Basket
b. Chip Basket
c. Appetizers
d. Meat - Main Course
e. Soup
f. Salad
g. Vegetable
h. Fruit
i. Gravy
j. Dessert

Answer: d. Meat - Main Course


18. How often do you reach for second helpings at meal time?
a. Never
b. Always
c. Occasionally

Answer: a. Never

19. How often do you eat meats?
a. Never
b. At every meal.
c. Two times per day.
d. Once per day.
e. Occasionally

Answer: d. Once per day.

20. Choose your least favorite diet product(s):
a. Diet Sodas
b. Diet Butter, including diet 'butter' sprays.
c. Diet Cheese
d. Diet Cream Cheese
e. Diet Sour Cream
f. Rice Cakes
g. Reduced Calorie Yogurt.
h. Diet Chips.
i. Diet 'Sugars'.
j. Diet Mayo.
k. Diet Ice Creams

Answer: a. Diet Sodas

  

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NOMORESTALLING 8/6/2008 9:44PM

The answers to Segment III are: 1.Choose the time(s) of day that's most difficult for you to avoid food when dieting a. Morning - This is actually the best time to eat during the day! You've got ample time to work off the calories, and dieters who tend to enjoy eating more in the morning generally do very well losing weight. b. Afternoon - Grab a piece of fruit for quick energy and leave the fatty snacks behind. Afternoon eating sometimes contributes to an afternoon lull, so keep sparky and remember that dinner arrives soon. c. Early Evening - Careful, careful because the foods that are eaten late in the day are very difficult to burn off. Our bodies tend to wind down for the day, so train your diet to wind down with your body. d. Late Evening - Other than 'all day' this is the least desirable answer - but also the most popular answer among dieters and non-dieters alike. It's very hard not to eat after dinner, even when dinner is satisfying. We tend to migrate to activities that we enjoy doing at the end of the day such as watching tv. And it's so hard not to grab a container of hot buttered popcorn for the big game. The bad news is that unless you are able to gain control of late evening snacking, you risk blowing your diet plan to smithereens. The diet advice given to the All Day dieter may be of help. e. All Day - Begin to search for foods that have long satiety powers - those foods that stick with you a long time. 2. What foods are your major weaknesses? Choose as many as apply a. Sweets - candy, cookies, cakes, pies b. Breads, Potatoes & Pasta c. Gravies & Sauces d. Cheese e. Butter, Oils & Nuts f. Proteins - all meats The best way to avoid the foods that tend to be major weaknesses when trying to lose weight is to avoid them. Don't purchase them; don't even acknowledge them. Eventually, you'll need to face these weaknesses because you'll want to conquer this weakness. When you feel comfortable around these foods, plan BEFORE you eat. Know how much of the food that you are going to allow yourself to eat. Soon, with willpower and dedication to your diet you'll conquer your Diet Villains. Here are a few suggestions that might be of help in conquering these foods. Substitute the suggestions for lower calories and quick weight loss. a. Fresh Fruit for Sweets b. A serving of pretzels for Breads, Potatoes & Pasta c. Broth-based Gravies & Sauces prepared with fresh fruit d. String Cheese when the Cheese Mood Strikes (50 calories per stick) Never give string cheese to small children because it may cause choking. e. No Calorie Butter for regular Butter & Oils | When craving nuts, enjoy a serving of Post Grape Nuts instead. f. When preparing meats, trim away all visible fats. Purchase the leanest cuts available. Try ground turkey instead of ground hamburger. Purchase light franks rather than the full-blown versions (no pun intended). 3.Answer the question, "My personality tends to be:" a. Hyper-active - Work to funnel activity towards things that are unrelated to food. This trait can work well towards weight loss. b. Low Key - Your biggest challenge presented during your diet may be keeping motivated for weight loss. Work to keep motivated about weight loss! c. Even Keel - You tend to be 'in the middle of the Diet Road' and may experience situations where you feel totally motivated about losing weight, or you may slip into the Low Key personality and feel unexcited about dieting. Adjust and move forward, for your Diet Personality is one of the strongest in this group. d. I am very moody and unpredictable - Certain foods may actually be triggering your moods. It's a good idea to get with your doctor just to make sure. You may have difficultly while losing weight in keeping motivated. Moody dieters tend to change diets often - which isn't necessarily a bad thing as long as they don't totally ditch their weight loss efforts. e. Depressed - As in the moody individual, certain foods may actually be triggering your moods. It's a good idea to get with your doctor just to make sure. 4. When holidays and special occasions occur, I tend to: a. Eat whatever I want to enjoy. Strive to gain control during moments of celebrations and keep in mind that they are just that - moments. Place the focus on the spirit of the holiday rather than the feasting of the holiday. b. Eat whatever I want to enjoy, then watch my diet closely for the next few days. Keep it up! c. Choose a few things that I really like to enjoy. Keep it up! d. I tend to stick with my diet plan in this type situation. You deserve a golden apple! 5. I tend to eat a. While working at my desk or job. It's important to take time out to enjoy your meal because it will increase your odds of diet success. b. In a relaxed atmosphere with friends. Dining with friends is a wonderful way to enjoy meal time, but take care not to get lost in the Bread or Chip Basket. Also take care to enjoy your food because it's easy to get caught up in conversation and 'eat without appreciating'. c. Alone in a relaxed atmosphere. Learning the art of relaxation is an important key to weight loss success. d. In front of the television. Try moving your meal to the table. Why? Because it's easy to get caught up in the conversation and not realize what you've eaten. 6. My meals generally tend to be of this nature a. Home cooked. Foods that are closest to their natural state are generally lowest in fat and calories. Make a goal of trimming down calories in fat in those favorite family recipes by substituting diet-friendly ingredients. b. Fast Food - Request a nutrition guide from the manager so you'll know exactly what you're eating. c. A mix of fast food and home cooked. Use the advice given to A and B dieters. d. Consists only of healthy foods. You deserve a Golden Apple! 7. My diet is closest to the following a. Based on the Official Food Pyramid b. Vegetarian c. Flexaterian d. Raw Food Diet e. Natural Food Diet All of the above diets can be healthy diets when they incorporate foods from the official food pyramid. Some notes regarding special diets: Nuts and beans may be substituted for meat. Natural and raw foods tend to be purchased in organic form. Keep in mind that the healthiest diet for you is the diet that makes you feel the best. As a note, dieters who follow a special diet such as the Raw Food Diet may benefit by meeting with their nutritionist or doctor to discuss the foods incorporated in their daily diet. 8. I tend to experiencing the following a. Acid tummy after eating Italian or Mexican. May indicate acid reflux. b. Heartburn when eating late at night. May indicate acid reflux. c. Bloating, belching, tummy discomfort after drinking milk or eating ice cream. May indicate lactose intolerance. d. Rash after eating some foods. May indicate allergic reaction to food. e. Frequent headaches. May be related to food allergy. f. Frequent constipation. Diet may lack fiber; may indicate IBS (Irritable Bowel Syndrome). g. Overly prone to tooth decay. May indicate too many sweets in the diet OR sports drinks which have been found to promote tooth decay several times greater than sugary soft drinks. h. Sleepy after eating, particularly in the afternoon. Common. i. Insomnia May indicate stress overload. j. Muscle aches. May indicate sore muscles from exercise. k. Crave water. May indicate onset of diabetes. l. Frequent trips to restroom, particularly at night. May indicate onset of diabetes. m. Foggy train of thought. Symptom sometimes associated with obesity. n. Irritability See your doctor asap. o. Difficultly breathing from time-to-time. Symptom sometimes associated with heart disease and obesity. p. Weak, brittle nails. May indicate poor diet, too little fat in daily diet. q. Skin problems. May indicate poor diet, too little fat in daily diet. r. Hair loss. May indicate poor diet, too little fat in daily diet. s. Bad breath. Common symptom of dieting; see your dentist. t. Excessive body odor. See your doctor asap. u. Occasional blurred vision. May indicate onset of diabetes. v. Sugar cravings. See your doctor asap. w. Loss of sex drive. See your doctor asap. x. Depressed, unhappy feelings most of the time. See your doctor asap. y. Feelings of hopelessness; panic. See your doctor asap. z. Frequent backaches. Common symptom of obesity. 9. I enjoy snacks a. True b. False c. Occasionally Incorporating snacks into your diet plan can assist you with weight loss. The key is to enjoy healthy snacks. We recommend fresh fruit as a low calorie, low fat option that generally packed with fiber and nutrients your body needs more than ever while dieting. 10. I tend to grab for food when: a. Under a lot of stress. b. When I'm happy. c. When I need a little comfort. d. When I see a favorite food. e. When I am alone. f. When I am in a crowd. g. When I'm not feeling well. Being able to identify the times that trigger appetite is an important key to weight loss success. Whatever your choice above, work to rechannel eating with activities that are rewarding in ways that won't sabotage your weight loss plan. Shop, buy a book, shoot some hoops - anything to redirect that appetite. 11. Snacking Between Meals a. Never b. Always c. Occasionally Snacking can be a good thing and can help satisfy hunger before meal time so that we don't binge while dieting. But some individuals find that once they start eating, they can't stop. If this sounds familiar, you may do best on your weight loss plan by continuing to go snackless. 12. Whenever I am in a crowd and it's time to eat, I feel a. Embarrassed about eating because of my weight. b. I don't worry about what anyone thinks; I just enjoy my food. c. Like all the thin people are monitoring what I eat. Concentrate on enjoying the meal before you. Just because you need to drop a few pounds doesn't mean that you're suppose to starve yourself! Don't worry about what people think. And just wait until you lose weight - they'll really have something to talk about! 13. When I weigh I sometimes think: a. Wow - I've gained weight and I better go on a diet asap. b. Wow - I've gained weight, but it's still not my TOP weight. I've weighed 10 more pounds that this in my life. I won't worry about that now. I'll wait until I have reached my top weight, then I'll worry about dieting. c. I've gained weight, but it's impossible to lose this much weight. d. I've lost weight so now I can eat until I reach my top weight. e. I've lost weight and I want to continue to lose down to my perfect weight. f. I've lost weight and I want to continue losing until I reach the weight that I feel best. Many individuals often feel like they don't have some room to gain weight - even when they are overweight. It's a common symptom of food addiction. I know because I suffered from food addiction myself. The key is changing the way one thinks about food. We must eat to live rather than live to eat. And we must think of overeating as an avenue leading to health risks. And finally, we must want to be thin more than we want what we're fixing to eat. 14. When I prepare OR purchase prepared meals, what I buy or make is based on the following a. My health. A great answer! b. My family's health. A great answer! c. How good the food will taste regardless of calories and fat. That was before Diet Time. Switch to a and b for weight loss success! d. Certain medical conditions involving myself or those I cook for. A great answer! Employing a healthy diet may actually cure or improve certain health conditions. e. I do not have a voice is what is prepared for me to eat. This situation is tough. Try to choose the foods from the table that are closest to their natural state which generally contain the fewest calories and fat. Ask the person responsible for preparing the meals if you can occasionally prepare meals. You may just set a new, healthier standard! f. What is cheapest and what will fit into my personal budget. This is also a tough situation. Try to catch the sales on fresh fruit and vegetables; use coupons for healthy foods when possible to save money. 15. This question is a bit like Question 2. Pick as many as you like. I tend to enjoy the following foods: a. Tried and true favorites. Opt for foods closest to their natural state for quick weight loss such as fresh fruits. b. Discovering exotic foods. A great answer that will help keep your diet interesting. c. Bland foods. If you enjoy bland foods, you may have an easier time than most in losing weight. d. Spicy foods. Grab for the spice rack to keep your diet spiced just right. e. Cheesy foods. Opt for string cheese (50 calories per stick) when the cheese mood strikes. (Never give string cheese to small children because it may cause choking.) f. Authentic foreign foods such as Mexican, Italian and German. A great answer that will help keep your diet interesting. Be sure to skinny-up those recipes! g. Americanized foreign foods such as Mexican, Italian and German. A great answer that will help keep your diet interesting. Be sure to skinny-up those recipes! h. Fried foods. Toss out the shortening and oils and reach for the non-stick cooking spray. Also, drag out your grill. i. Dried foods. These make delicious, healthy, wholesome snacks that will keep your diet zippy! 16. Food Groups - choose the food groups that you like least then click on the links to learn some savvy tips: a. Grains - bread, cereal, rice, pasta. Limiting simple carbs can be of great benefit in the area of weight loss. Reach for the complex carbs - whole wheat bread, brown pasta and brown rice for a difference in flavor, as well as texture. b. Fruits - Check out frozen fruits if you don't like fresh. Or try the dried fruits. Fruits are an important part of a healthy diet plan. c. Dairy - milk, yogurt, cheese. Your body will need that burst of calcium that's so prominent in dairy products. Studies indicate that milk can actually speed up weight loss. How much? An ounce an hour - and make sure you're drinking skimmed milk. If dairy products tend to upset your digestive system, get with your doctor and be sure to ask him about lactose intolerance. If you just can't stomach milk PERIOD, then try mixing up a thin shake: fresh berries, skimmed milk and Splenda all whirled together. d. Vegetables - Try tossing vegetables into a juicer; the fruit generally overpowers the vegetable taste. Vegetables are an important part of a healthy diet plan and you just may have to learn to love them. Be sure to take that daily multi-vitamin. e. Proteins - red meats, white meats, beans, eggs, nuts. Limiting red meat as well as high cholesterol foods in the diet may be of great benefit to your health. f. Fats - butter, margarine - Good answer! 17. Pick your favorite part of the meal a. Bread Basket - Reach for whole grains. b. Chip Basket - Reach for baked chips. c. Appetizers - Opt for finger veggies such as baby carrots dipped in low calorie dips. d. Meat - Main Course - I smell fish! e. Soup - Choose soups with broth bases rather than creamed soups. f. Salad - Ix-nay on croutons, high calorie salad dressings, and cheese overload. g. Vegetable - Reach for raw, or those that haven't been sent through a Butter Bath or a casserole carnage. h. Fruit - Reach for fresh! Keep in mind that fruit pies make a better choice over cream pies only when the crust isn't doubled. i. Gravy - Choose broth-based gravies when possible and only a little will do. j. Dessert - Reach for a piece of fresh fruit! 18. How often do you reach for second helpings at meal time? a. Never b. Always c. Occasionally During diet time, take care not to reach for seconds. However, there may be times when you didn't get enough food on your plate with your first helping or when a food is very low in calories and deserves that second helping. An example: Healthy green beans sprayed with no calorie butter 19. How often do you eat meats? a. Never b. At every meal. c. Two times per day. d. Once per day. e. Occasionally While dieting, try to keep red meat at a minimum. Opt for chicken or fish which tends to be lower in calories and fat. Your diet - as well as your heart - will thank you! 20. Choose your least favorite diet product(s): a. Diet Sodas - Try Mr. Pibb X-Tra, Diet Sprite and Sunkist Orange. b. Diet Butter, including diet 'butter' sprays. Try using the butter spray to toast your bread with. You may discover that you enjoy it this way. c. Diet Cheese - Opt for string cheese instead for 50 calories per stick. Never give string cheese to small children because it may cause choking. d. Diet Cream Cheese - Opt for light cream cheese rather than fat- e. Diet Sour Cream - Opt for light sour cream rather than fat-free. f. Rice Cakes - You may like popcorn cakes. g. Reduced Calorie Yogurt. Stick to regular yogurt but note that some varieties contain more calories than some ice creams. h. Diet Chips. Switch to pretzels which tend to be lower in calories. i. Diet 'Sugars'. Use part sugar, part Splenda to see if you can live with this option. j. Diet Mayo. Opt for light Miracle Whip. k. Diet Ice Creams - Sherbet makes a more diet-wise choice over most regular varieties of ice cream. Report Inappropriate Comment

My Daily Tarot

Saturday, August 02, 2008

The Death card suggests that my alter ego today is the Mover and Shaker, whose superpower for transformation relies on my bargaining ability to make a change. Even though tomorrow is another day, the time for change is now. Know that you can handle it and that you will not be alone in making it happen. Things may not seem to be going your way, but know it may be for the best. 'When love goes wrong, nothing goes right.' It may be time to find a new direction for the better of all, especially you. You've seen the writing on the wall and something' s got to give, but it's not too late. You're well-equipped to overcome your fears and step out of your comfort-zone. Make your best efforts to direct the outcome as you wish by acting proactively now, rather than having to react later when it's out of your hands.

How right on is this! Because I have seen the writing on the wall and believe me something is going to give and it isn't me this time! I am done so done compromising with my father! For eight years I compromised thinking he was meeting me half way Last week I found it that has not been the case. So if he won't meet me half way then until he does................There are two sides to a coin here compromise means or should mean that two people come to an agreement; find common ground give a little on both sides does it not Well turns out I've been the only one giving ground. So change there will be.
I haven't shut the door or shut him out of my life but I've told him he knows where to find me if he actually wants to keep in touch and talk, but my natural life is my life and so that is what I am excited about and share with him. But apparently that's not what he wants So what's left the weather my health birthdays christmas? No so .....................And he KNOWS damn well that when this daughter makes a decision its chiseled in stone! So guess what he made this choice so this is the consequence he brings on himself.

  

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STEELY123 8/8/2008 6:10AM

Way to go girl. This is not your problem it's his. Stick with it, you have your own life and your own man in it. That's the most important thing in all of this. Love between you counts and if your father wants to be included then he must act not you. Sorry this is blunt but you know where I 'm coming from. Life belongs to you and W, so live it and be happy. Thinking of you Katherine Comment edited on: 8/8/2008 6:09:48 AM Report Inappropriate Comment

HUGGERS1 8/2/2008 11:37PM

Marge, I am so sorry your father is being so stubborn and not trying to compromise with you. I know that you are a wonderful person and I cannot fathom someone not wanting to help you or make you feel loved. I know that you have a heavenly FATHER that welcomes you with open arms full of love and compassion grace and mercy. I don't have enough life experience to tell you things will get better with your father but I do know enough to know that prayer and meditation are what I can do for you in this situation. I pray that you find peace and courage and strength and I pray that you don't hold in your emotions or feelings until you "see red" . If you need me I am here for you and If you need God, you know what to do. He is already aware of your needs and is waiting for you to let him take over. hugs Amber Report Inappropriate Comment

BONMACK 8/2/2008 2:35PM

Sorry to hear of your struggles, NMS....my dad is gone, but have to tell you, always had kind of an ambivalent relationship with him. Still harbor some hard feelings toward him and the man's been dead since '99, so add the guilt on top of the hard feelings 'cause I know it's not right to keep 'em in my heart. Sometimes you just gotta stand up for the sake of your own self-preservation. Hope you can get past this and just find nothing but peace with it, no matter how it turns out on his end. Report Inappropriate Comment

Go on, get it off your chest

Friday, August 01, 2008

I just woke up, and in less than 10 minutes I’ve stubbed my toe, realized I'm’re out of toothpaste, can’t seem to get enough water pressure to rinse all of the dye out of my hair!! So it's going to be ONE OF THOSE DAYS!
Am I seeing red yet? Yes!
It’s no secret, we all have days that just don’t start out the way we want them to, bosses that have equally bad days and take out their frustration on us, partners who forget to put the toilet seat down, or replace the empty roll of toilet paper…
For some of us, like me the anger can get so bad that I literally see red, At the same time I get really quiet and give those around me In public the cold-shoulder, while muttering under my breathe when no one is listening!
No matter how hard I try, no matter how intensely I want to just let the issue roll off my shoulders, it's gotten under my skin so bad that I just can’t control it? It's been years since I've felt this way. But something has happened in the past couple of weeks that has me just seething! I never expected this reaction! It's delayed but there now non the less It's almost like going through the steps of death and the stages of grief

Stages of grief: denial

Stages of grief: anger

Stages of grief: bargaining

Stages of grief: depression

Stages of grief: acceptance

And right now it's anger! So I'm, getting it off my chest
After what has transpired between my father and myself I truly believe that I am in fact going through the stages of grief. It's been ongoing for the last eight years and we are finally coming to a head with it!

Now that I look back on it I was in denial had to be! Eight years ago I left everything behind to fulfill a dream One in which did not include my father and mother. For religious reasons number one they would never have condoned what i did in the first place. But over time they seemed to conform to the idea that things were not going to change I was not going to change and they began to settle with the idea that the choice I had made was what they were going to have to accept and they acted as though they had and led me to believe; or so I thought until four weeks ago I got a letter and they blew that all to hell! So for eight years I've been living in denial of what the truth was? I didn't want to deal with the reality that they in fact even after all these years hadn't accepted my decision to do what I had done.
To me this is a great loss not an actual death but none the less I am going through diferent emotions and haven't come to acceptance yet. And right now I am so toatlly POed with my father and his actions! Seething emotionally

The question this week, is what things never cease to make you angry? No matter how hard you try, no matter how intensely you want to just let the issue roll off your shoulders, what gets under your skin so bad that you just can’t control yourself?
Go on, get it off your chest

  

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SQUANNY 8/4/2008 10:03PM

*Definitely, RUDE people *People who walk their dogs and let them Poo in your yard and don't bother to pick it up - EWWW! (I have dogs too but I don't do that) *People who walk across the street ever so slow while you are in your car waiting for them. I can remember scurrying across as to not make people wait for me! What happened? *Spilling on your top (shirt, blouse, whatever) at a restaurant - Gadz I hate that and I'm beginning to think it is hereditary! (all my sisters do it) Comment edited on: 8/4/2008 10:01:18 PM Report Inappropriate Comment

SACTOKAREN 8/1/2008 10:24PM

Rude people Inconsiderate drivers Unreliable people But enough of the bad stuff - tomorrow before you get out of bed, try saying some gratitudes - I'm grateful for this beautiful day. I'm grateful for my health. I'm grateful for (name something you want to happen during the day.) I alternate between "I'm grateful for" and "Thank you for." When something bad does happen I don't let it ruin my day. Still, it's good to vent sometimes! Report Inappropriate Comment

ANNIE_1015 8/1/2008 12:19PM

Inconsiderate people: - people who take coffee on the subway - people who leave the newspaper on their seat (also on the subway) - when you bump into someone and apologize and they don't even acknowledge you - people that are never ever happy and make everyone else miserable - parents who don't discipline their kids and blame their kids' bad behavior on everyone and everything else! Ugh! I guess I can go on and on... better stop here. ...and thanks for the vent. Report Inappropriate Comment

GMRKITTY 8/1/2008 11:26AM

Well, today I'm kinda mad at my body for not cooporating today. I woke up hurting and exhausted - so I'm going to try to take it easy so that I'll be back up tomorrow at full speed.... unfortunately thought it means that my goal of a 10 day Walk/Jog streak is kinda bust for now..... oh well, I guess I'll have to start over again tomorrow ^.^ HUGGLES!!! ~Kitty~ Report Inappropriate Comment

HUGGERS1 8/1/2008 10:52AM

When someone makes my mom feel worthless or beneath them. I am very protective of my mom. Also when my sister tells my mom that she is too poor to help my mom out. She makes my mom feel guilty when my sister and her hubby makes 90000 a year. They are not poor!!!!!!!!!! My mom lives on a very strict income and just getting my sis to give a dollar is a struggle. It is crazy she tells my mom that my mom just spends too much money and should watch it. Thanks for getting me riled up. I do hope your day goes better and I hope that the red changes to a nice calming blue as you pray and work this out of your system. hugs, Amber Report Inappropriate Comment