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Imitation is the greatest compliment, but ...

Thursday, July 24, 2008

You must be careful how you walk and where you go, for there are those following you who will set their feet where yours are set.

- Robert E. Lee, Civil War General

Am I worthy of imitation

They say imitation is the greatest compliment, but are your actions worthy of imitation? We are all in some setting of leadership. Whether it be as a parent, boss, or friend we should constantly examine the example we are setting for those around us. Am I setting a good example? Am I being a positive role model? Am I treating others in a dignified way? I know I am a cheerful and diligent to those around me because I do know that
People are like sponges taking in every action and word--and some believe or not naturally want to be just like you. So be mindful of your word and deed, you never know who might be watching and silently learning what you are demonstrating.


So what is it?

Thursday, July 24, 2008

I have learned that if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your
work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can,
happiness will find you and this I've done.
I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch
someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm
hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. And this I've done
So why is it that I feel so all alone? Not in the sense that I'm standing all alone in a geat empty room but LONELY. I'm around people all day long I come home to a very loving and supportive husband and I have so many new found friends here but there is still an ache of emptiness inside. NO it's nothing spiritual that is in tact.
Could it be just could it be that I'm FINALLY feeling the emptiness of not knowing the beauiy of having a child? To hold my own flesh and blood to have it cuddle in close and feel it's life nad love and helplessness it's dependancy? I'm 47 for heaven's sake and right from young I knew that my future held no promise of this. Why now? I've never had the desire to have children It was almost as if because I never would God never gave me that desire so that I wouldn't have the heartache of not being able to have something I never could and yet want it so badly. I don't know all I know is that I feel this and have noe ryhm or reason fo it.
As far as I know I have and am fullfilling my purpose of being here and I have felt fullfilled and complete. So what is it?

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LOYOLACAT 7/25/2008 1:37AM

    Hi Again,
I reread your poem, and I kinda' get it... I think I got the second part; about awareness and change... I don't know you, so I was reading into your poem. It sounded so sad in the telling...But you want to change the person you were, and let go of the past....and start anew. Now I understand...Change is inevitable when you're aware of what needs to change... Keep The Faith.
Have a good night,

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LOYOLACAT 7/24/2008 1:23PM

    Hi NMS,
Perhaps I can offer some insight. It stands to reason that loneliness stems from being alone. You are not alone... you are with yourself. You gotta love the one you're with. I gathered from your poem that you have rejected your-self . If that's the case, yeah, that will leave you feeling empty inside; thus lonely. AWARENESS means a new beginning...You CAN change how you feel...Perhaps the child your missing is yourself.
Take Care and hang in there,
Mary emoticon

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LIFES*2*SHORT 7/24/2008 9:55AM

  Wow NMS... I didn't know that desire could hit that late in life. (no, I am not teasing you about your age) You do have to remember, that it's not just holding that little baby in your arms... there is, which I am sure you know, way more to it than that. Those babies grow up and drive you crazy too. Somedays... I think of those who don't have kids and would love that freedom for just a little bit. Definitely pros and cons to it both. My sister is the same age as you, and has also never had that desire. I'll have to ask her if it has hit her now too. :O) Have a great day!


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Wednesday, July 23, 2008

I've learned that I like my teacher because she cries when we
sings "Silent Night".
Age 5
I've learned that our dog doesn't want to eat my broccoli
Age 7
I've learned that when I wave to people in the country, they
stop what they are doing and wave back.
Age 9 I've learned that just when I get my room the way I like it,
Mom makes me clean it up again.
Age 12
I've learned that if you want to cheer yourself up, you should
try cheering someone else up.
Age 14
I've learned that although it's hard to admit it, I'm secretly
glad my parents are strict with me.
Age 15
I've learned that silent company is often more healing than
words of advice.
Age 24
I've learned that brushing my child's hair is one of life's
great pleasures.
Age 26
I've learned that wherever I go, the world's worst drivers
have followed me there.
Age 29
I've learned that if someone says something unkind about me,
I must live so that no one will believe it.
Age 30
I've learned that there are people who love you dearly but
just don't know how to show it.
Age 42
I've learned that you can make some one's day by simply
sending them a little note.
Age 44
I've learned that the greater a person's sense of guilt, the
greater his or her need to cast blame on others.
Age 46
I've learned that children and grandparents are natural allies.
Age 47
I've learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems
today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow.
Age 48
I've learned that singing "Amazing Grace" can lift my spirits
for hours.
Age 49
I've learned that motel mattresses are better on the side away
from the phone.
Age 50
I've learned that you can tell a lot about a man by the way he
handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and
tangled Christmas tree lights.
Age 51
I've learned that keeping a vegetable garden is worth a
medicine cabinet full of pills.
Age 52
I've learned that regardless of your relationship with your
parents, you miss them terribly after they die.
Age 53
I've learned that making a living is not the same thing as
making a life.
Age 58
I've learned that if you want to do something positive for
your children, work to improve your marriage.
Age 61
I've learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance.
Age 62
I've learned that you shouldn't go through life with a catchers
mitt on both hands. You need to be able to throw something back.
Age 64
I've learned that if you pursue happiness, it will elude you.
But if you focus on your family, the needs of others, your
work, meeting new people, and doing the very best you can,
happiness will find you.
Age 65
I've learned that whenever I decide something with kindness,
I usually make the right decision.
Age 66
I've learned that everyone can use a prayer.
Age 72
I've learned that even when I have pains, I don't have to be
Age 82
I've learned that every day you should reach out and touch
someone. People love that human touch-holding hands, a warm
hug, or just a friendly pat on the back.
Age 90
I've learned that I still have a lot to learn.
Age 92


Through Another's Eyes

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

You never understand a person until you consider things from his point of view.

- Harper Lee, writer

We all know that when baby-proofing a room, the best way to do it? You get down on the ground and see the world through the eyes of your baby. Never before have such dangers and opportunities for mischief been so apparent! The same is true with relationships. Many times you may try to empathize with a person by saying "I know how you feel." But do you really? When a person cuts you off in traffic, do you curse them under your breath or throw an angry gesture? What if that person is really just having a hard day, dealing with an unruly toddler in the backseat? Attempting to view the world through another person's eyes builds empathy and thus a deeper understanding of that person. Think about others you conflict with before jumping to conclusions.

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HUGGERS1 7/22/2008 10:28AM

    Hope everything goes well. Keep us posted and have a great time ;) you can get through these days and we will be overjoyed on friday so that you can join us for longer :)


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YOU DO make a difference

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

For a community to be whole and healthy, it must be based
on people's love and concern for each other.
-Millard Fuller

Once, , I woke up to a not unusual sight: snow. Everything was white, and there was a sense of muffled silence. There was eighteen inches of snow overnight. It was truly a beautiful sight. There was a sense of peace and excitement that came with a giant snowfall. This feeling turned into challenge as I trudged through the snow to get to the garage. Looking at the driveway, I knew I had my work cut out for me as I grabbed the shovel and began to dig my way out. An hour later and cold, I had done it; I could drive my car to the road. Once there, it was pretty much all clear. It always amazed me how the plow drivers got out no matter how early and had the roads clear for everyone to get to where they needed to be.

I remember imagining what would happen if they didn’t clear the roads. Just that one deed and the impact it would have. Doctors wouldn’t be able to get to the hospital to take care of the sick. Ambulances wouldn’t be able to get to those who need help. We wouldn’t be able to get to work, buy food or anything else. That one deed dramatically affected the entire community/team.

I remembered how in , the garbage men went on strike. The impact it had on our quality of life! Funny, before they went on strike, I really never thought about garbage men. I threw garbage out, and it was taken away. Not my problem. Never gave it a second thought. That’s pretty much how we live our lives; we are used to the events that take place, and expect them. We expect gas at a gas station, food in a market, the presence of police when needed, firemen to come put out fires, and we pretty much don’t think about it or truly appreciate it.

Now imagine that we as a team/ individually stopped doing what we're doing. What’s more is we’re so dependent that any one component can have a major impact on our lives. It’s time for us to value and realize how important our community is. We truly have an impact on one another and on the world itself. If we pollute our water, and we destroy our environment; it has an impact on us all. What we do makes a difference. The better our community/team is, the better our lives are as well.

As we build our foundation and develop our plan to build the life we want, realize our lives do not stand alone; they’re connected to the lives and the environment all around us. We can’t concentrate on our lives only; we need to also help build a better community and world. Today we are going to make a choice to help build a stronger community/team. The actions you take do matter. You do make a difference, you can make a difference, so get ready to build, and we will all be betterfor it!

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BONMACK 7/22/2008 10:43AM

    Good one, NMS! I always look forward to your posts, they're so full of insights and wisdom! You're a constant inspiration! emoticon

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