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YEA THOUGH I WALK THROUGH THE VALLEY OF.....

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Hard times are inevitable--death, financial struggle, family problems, the loss of a job, depression--all of these tough times are just seasons. Abraham Lincoln once said, "This too shall pass," and you can apply it to both the good times and the bad. The thrill of a new relationship won't endure forever, just as the grief of losing a loved one won't either. So endure the hardships of life, knowing that time will eventually heal your wounds and you will make it through. Think about what struggles have occurred in your life and what they taught you. No matter how dim the light at the end of the tunnel seems, it is still a light. Each day is an opportunity for that light of hope to get closer and closer, until eventually the clouds above your head part and you feel the forgotten sunshine on you again. Overcoming pain makes you stronger and better equipped to handle the next valley.

  
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NOMORESTALLING 8/19/2011 1:26PM

    YES THAT INNER STRENGTH COMES FROM SOMEWHERE AND HE'LL NEVER GIVE US MORE THAN HE KNOWS WE CAN ENDURE.

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SNOWMAIDEN 8/19/2011 1:24PM

    I'm dealing with something and have been for months, which I never thought I would be doing. There were times I've been on my knees but the one thing about these challenges, is that when you look back on them, you're usually amazed at what you have been able to do!

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SIGMA1208 8/19/2011 11:23AM

    love it thanks for the encouragements

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ZURDTA- 8/19/2011 4:37AM

    This too will pass...

Wise words indeed.

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MKPRINCESS007 8/18/2011 11:59PM

    So true! Thanks for the inspiration! I agree..........the more hardship you trudge through, the more amazing the world looks when you come through on the other side!

Great blog!

Karen

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Going For The Gold

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Do you have a dream? That one desire you want to fulfill?I think most of us do. We all have that one thing we want to achieve in our lifetime That one thing we strive for all of our life. Some of us will achieve it. Some of us will even leave our mark. And some of us no matter what we do will strive for it all our lives, come within a fingers reach of it but never quite get there. That does not mean that you are any less a person. You're still transmitting a signal on the right frequency to bring all that you desire into your experience with determination and the drive to achieve it..
As the world evolves, we as humanity are learning to work from the heart. We may have been taught that the only way to get what we want is to follow certain rules, play certain games, or even engage in acts that use less than our highest integrity when in fact the only rules we need to apply are those of intention and connection. In terms of energy, we all know that it takes far more energy to keep up a false front or act in a way that is counter productive to our true nature, but much less energy is expended when we can just be and enjoy connections that energize us in return. Then our energy can be directed toward living the life we want at present.

Today's society has certain expectations of behavior and the roles each of us should play, but as spiritual beings we are not bound by these superficial principles unless we choose to accept them. Instead, we can listen to our hearts and follow what we know to be true and meaningful for us. In doing so, we will find others who have chosen the same path. It can be easy to get caught up in following goals that appear to be what we want, but when we pursue the underlying value, we are certain to stay on our right path and continue to feed our soul.

  
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ZURDTA- 8/19/2011 3:56AM

    Interesting again... thanks...I think this really applies to me. I've been think about this alot recently and wondering is this ME? What exactly do I want to achieve here? Falling into expectations... now that isn't me at all.

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DADDYTREVOR 8/17/2011 8:53PM

    Good blog.

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Overcoming F.E.A.R.: False Evidence Appearing Real

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Is there something, anything you are afraid of? What are you afraid of? How does it make you feel? Instead of letting your fear get the best of you, you can find out how to fully experience it, name it, get to know it and take it by the hand so it can become your friend and ally.

"Bless you for your fear for it is a sign of wisdom. Do not hold yourself in fear. Transform the energy to flexibility and you will be free from what you fear."



Everyone has known fear. It's unpredictable. It can overpower you in an instant and throw you into total chaos, yet it can also save your life. Fear is after all a natural response to physical danger, BUT it can also be self-created, such as the fear of failure, being out of control, being different or being lonely. There is a fear of the future and of death. You may fear love because you fear being rejected; fear being generous because you fear you will not have enough; fear sharing your thoughts or feelings in case you appear wrong; and fear trusting because you are dominated by self-doubt and insecurity.

This self-generated fear is found in its acronym: F.E.A.R. or False Evidence Appearing Real. It appears real, even though it is a fear of the future and it hasn't even happened yet! Therefore, it is of no real substance, arising when the ego-self is threatened, which makes you cling to the known and familiar. Such fear creates untold, and unecessary worry, apprehension, nervous disorders and even paranoia!

The immediate effect of fear does what? It shuts you down, and—in particular—to shut off the heart.
Let's try something.
Just for a moment, let your body take the stance of feeling fearful. What is your posture? Look in the mirror. Have you hunched your shoulders forward, folded your arms across your chests, or assumed a similarly contracted position to shield the heart? You've triggered the need to be on the defensive haven't you? In this self-protective place, the heart is out of reach, and you cannot feel love or even friendliness. Try saying "I love you" with real meaning while your arms are firmly folded across your heart—hard to do isn't it!

As long as you push away, deny or ignore fear, it will hold you captive and keep you emotionally frozen, unable to move forward. In that place, you become untrusting of love and spontaneity; you get angry or hide. But where fear contracts and closes the heart—resisting love—love expands and opens the heart, embracing fear.

There are two worlds out there "There's a world of love and there's a world of fear, and it's standing right in front of you! "And, very often, that fear feels far more a reality and certainly more urgent than the feeling of love. When a child is born, a mother experiences a feeling of real, pure, unconditional love with barriers. All of a sudden, what was happening was so immense that it just stomped all the fear away. But one can also understand why you are so frightened, terrified, becasue when that world of love comes rushing in, that world of fear comes rushing in right along with it. To open yourself up to one thing, you've got to embrace the other as well."

Remember times you have met fear and moved through it, so many times when fear arose but you kept going? Those are moments of fearlessness. Fear may close the heart, but courage comes out of heartfulness, out of releasing resistance. Fear will even stop you from facing your shadow and participating fully in life, but fearlessness will give you the courage to dive into the unknown.

In other words, being fearless does not mean you deny fear, it is not a state of being without fear. Rather, it is fully experiencing the fear, naming it, getting to know it and taking it by the hand so it can become your friend and ally.


However, allowing fear in and making friends with it is no small feat; fear is a powerful emotion that demands understanding and patience. But trying to block it will simply create further anxiety.

Fear comes—you breathe and let go. Fear comes—you see how the mind needs reassurance and tenderness. Fear comes—replace it with love. When you do this, you are inviting the fearful and anxious parts of yourself to get to know each other, even to sit down for a cup of tea together.

Meditation enables you to be with fear. As you do this, you'll begin to see the benefits of fear, the unexpected insights and flashes of understanding that move you into courage and a deeper awareness. In this way, fear becomes your ally.

Sit comfortably with an upright spine, take a deep breath and let it go.
Focus your attention on your breathing, just watching the natural flow of your breath.

Staying aware and open, allow whatever feelings are present to arise.
Have no judgment, rejection or aversion. Accept whatever you are experiencing as simply a part of what is.

You do not need to change anything.
Just be with whatever the feeling may bring up in you.

Be kind and caring to yourself.
Keep breathing and accepting, breathing and being with what is.


  
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WINDANCER99 8/17/2011 3:29PM

    As someone who has had a life long history with fear and anxiety, this is an excellent blog! You make many good points and suggestions.

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CHUBRUB3 8/17/2011 2:12PM

    Marion, you are a wonderfully deep thinker.
Certainly opens my eyes and mind to other things.
Thanks!
Hugs,
Ange
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SAFIYAH9 8/17/2011 11:51AM

    Great post!!

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THE POWER BEHIND US

Wednesday, August 17, 2011

Just as there are people that support us, and we know most of who they are, we also support so many people that we are unaware of; extending the cycle and giving back.


If we are lucky enough, behind each of us stands at least one supporter. This nine times out of ten was once thought to be none other than our life's parnter, spouse, better known as the stay at home wife while leaving the other spouse free to work. While this is still ONE valid scenario, it's not so much any more. It's simply not always the case. Most of us now will find that we have other kinds of supporters in our lives. In some cases, our supporters are the people whose help allows us to do the things we’re best at, see to our obligations, or pursue our dreams. In other cases, our web of support may come from the people who are there to help us through life’s challenges by offering us their strength and bolstering our spirit.

Our support may come from our families and friends or from the people we hire, people we work with, —nannies, assistants, gardeners, healers, therapists, and advisors. Our supporters may be the mentors who help us express ourselves by listening to us as we share our thoughts and feelings. Our supporter can be the person sitting next to us at a networking meeting or the teacher from our childhood whose words still resonate in our minds. We have always had supporters around us whether we noticed them or not. No matter where the support comes from, few of us can make it through life without it.

As we take the time to acknowledge everyone that has ever supported us, we can’t help but express heartfelt gratitude. Understanding our place in our human support system helps us see that just as there are people that support us, we are a supporter to many people. By gratefully accepting the expertise and assistance of our supporters, we are enabled to consciously and more easily build a life that we love. Thanks to our staff, groups, team members, friends, and loved ones for all their support. To keep that spark ignited and the fire under our butts to succeed we all need each other’s support to thrive in this world. It's ALL FOR ONE AND ONE FOR ALL!

SO LET'S CONTINUE SPREADING THAT SPARK! COME OUT AND GIVE YOUR SUPPORT AND CREATE THE MOST POWERFUL RIPPLE EFFECT!
PUT THAT POWER BEHIND OTHERS AS THEY PUT THEIR POWER OF SUPPORT BEHIND YOU!
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Are We Numbing Ourselves?

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Numbing yourself prevents you from confronting your issues and keeps you from ever finding resolution or peace.


Did you know that we are born equipped to experience a complex array of diverse emotions; we females mores so than the male gender. Even that being the case many of us, are still uncomfortable confronting our most powerful emotions. We tend to shy away from delight and despair and deny life's colors by retreating into a world of monotone grey. We may numb ourselves to what we are truly feeling. It's just easier to suppress our emotions than to deal with them. Sadly we may momentarily turn to crutches some of them being alcohol, food, sugar, shopping and too much television. We may even numb our hearts. While it's normal to temporarily seek distractions as a means of coping with intense emotions, numbing yourself prevents you from confronting your issues and keeps you from ever finding resolution or peace. When you are numb, there is no pain or powerlessness, but it also deprives us of joy or healing.

These activities that we chose to numb ourselves may seem harmless and even pleasurable, at the time but over time using them inevitibly eventually diminishes the quality of your life and faster than you think. Numbing yourself so that you don't have to feel intense emotions can often satisfy a surface need while blocking your awareness of a deeper need. You may find solace in food or shopping when what you really need is spiritual nourishment. The less you feel, the less alive you feel. Your feelings add vividness to your experiences and serve to connect you to the world around you. It is possible to disavow yourself of numbing behaviors a little at a time and once again taste life's rich flavors. When you sense that you are engaging in a particular behavior simply to deaden your emotions, stop and ask the question, why. Examining the feelings that drive you to numb yourself can help you understand what is triggering your desire to emotionally fade out.

With each numbing activity that you cut out of your life, you’ll find yourself being more aware and experiencing a greater emotionally acuity. Senses once shrouded by the fog of numbness become sharp and acute. Traumas and pain long hidden will emerge to the forefront of your consciousness and reveal themselves so that you can heal them. You’ll discover a deeper you—a self that is comfortable experiencing and working through intense emotions with courage and grace

Could this be a possible reason that hinders your weight loss journey, your spiritual, and mental/emotional growth as well? Something to think about.

  
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CGIARNIERI 8/17/2011 5:36PM

    Thank you so much for your inspiration. I have done it before and I'm definitely a work in progress, because I'm guilty of not doin it everyday either! emoticon

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VMASSEY2 8/16/2011 7:12PM

    AMEN AND AMEN You got me. I have done this for years. Just not today. One day at a time emoticon
Vickie

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SNOWMAIDEN 8/16/2011 4:46PM

    You got me - guilty as charged...working on it though

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WENDYSPARKS 8/16/2011 2:36PM

    Thank you!!!


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ZURDTA- 8/16/2011 1:58PM

    Indeed... something to think about...

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