Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Just as there are people that support us, and we know most of who they are, we also support so many people that we are unaware of; extending the cycle and giving back.
If we are lucky enough, behind each of us stands at least one supporter. This nine times out of ten was once thought to be none other than our life's parnter, spouse, better known as the stay at home wife while leaving the other spouse free to work. While this is still ONE valid scenario, it's not so much any more. It's simply not always the case. Most of us now will find that we have other kinds of supporters in our lives. In some cases, our supporters are the people whose help allows us to do the things we’re best at, see to our obligations, or pursue our dreams. In other cases, our web of support may come from the people who are there to help us through life’s challenges by offering us their strength and bolstering our spirit.
Our support may come from our families and friends or from the people we hire, people we work with, —nannies, assistants, gardeners, healers, therapists, and advisors. Our supporters may be the mentors who help us express ourselves by listening to us as we share our thoughts and feelings. Our supporter can be the person sitting next to us at a networking meeting or the teacher from our childhood whose words still resonate in our minds. We have always had supporters around us whether we noticed them or not. No matter where the support comes from, few of us can make it through life without it.
As we take the time to acknowledge everyone that has ever supported us, we can’t help but express heartfelt gratitude. Understanding our place in our human support system helps us see that just as there are people that support us, we are a supporter to many people. By gratefully accepting the expertise and assistance of our supporters, we are enabled to consciously and more easily build a life that we love. Thanks to our staff, groups, team members, friends, and loved ones for all their support. To keep that spark ignited and the fire under our butts to succeed we all need each other’s support to thrive in this world. It's ALL FOR ONE AND ONE FOR ALL!
SO LET'S CONTINUE SPREADING THAT SPARK! COME OUT AND GIVE YOUR SUPPORT AND CREATE THE MOST POWERFUL RIPPLE EFFECT!
PUT THAT POWER BEHIND OTHERS AS THEY PUT THEIR POWER OF SUPPORT BEHIND YOU!
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
Numbing yourself prevents you from confronting your issues and keeps you from ever finding resolution or peace.
Did you know that we are born equipped to experience a complex array of diverse emotions; we females mores so than the male gender. Even that being the case many of us, are still uncomfortable confronting our most powerful emotions. We tend to shy away from delight and despair and deny life's colors by retreating into a world of monotone grey. We may numb ourselves to what we are truly feeling. It's just easier to suppress our emotions than to deal with them. Sadly we may momentarily turn to crutches some of them being alcohol, food, sugar, shopping and too much television. We may even numb our hearts. While it's normal to temporarily seek distractions as a means of coping with intense emotions, numbing yourself prevents you from confronting your issues and keeps you from ever finding resolution or peace. When you are numb, there is no pain or powerlessness, but it also deprives us of joy or healing.
These activities that we chose to numb ourselves may seem harmless and even pleasurable, at the time but over time using them inevitibly eventually diminishes the quality of your life and faster than you think. Numbing yourself so that you don't have to feel intense emotions can often satisfy a surface need while blocking your awareness of a deeper need. You may find solace in food or shopping when what you really need is spiritual nourishment. The less you feel, the less alive you feel. Your feelings add vividness to your experiences and serve to connect you to the world around you. It is possible to disavow yourself of numbing behaviors a little at a time and once again taste life's rich flavors. When you sense that you are engaging in a particular behavior simply to deaden your emotions, stop and ask the question, why. Examining the feelings that drive you to numb yourself can help you understand what is triggering your desire to emotionally fade out.
With each numbing activity that you cut out of your life, you’ll find yourself being more aware and experiencing a greater emotionally acuity. Senses once shrouded by the fog of numbness become sharp and acute. Traumas and pain long hidden will emerge to the forefront of your consciousness and reveal themselves so that you can heal them. You’ll discover a deeper you—a self that is comfortable experiencing and working through intense emotions with courage and grace
Could this be a possible reason that hinders your weight loss journey, your spiritual, and mental/emotional growth as well? Something to think about.
Friday, August 12, 2011
Life becomes much more interesting once we let go of our quest for perfection and aspire for imperfection instead.
It is good to remember that one of our goals in life does not have to be perfection. Even though we think we must be perfect and strive for it in many ways it is not a requirement. Not of nature or of any God anyway. But, how often do we lose sight of this truth? So often in fact that when we make mistakes, we think that we are failing or not measuring up. But life is about experimenting, experiencing, and learning, so to be imperfect actually becomes a prerequisite. And life is so much more interesting once we let go of our quest for perfection and aspire for imperfection instead.
This by any reasoning doesn’t mean that we stop striving to be our best. We simply accept that there is no such thing as perfection—especially in life 101. After all living things are in a ceaseless state of change; your hair nails are growing, your cells are dying and being reborn, and your blood is coarsing through your veins. Life changes more than it stays the same. Don't misunderstand, we all have our moments of perfection, but sadly it does not last long because it is an transient state of matter. So trying to hold on to perfection even for a fleeting moment or forcing it to happen is only going to cause frustration and pensiveness.
In spite of this, many of us are in the habit of trying to be perfect, myself included. One way to push ourselves out of this tendency is to look at our lives and realize that no one is out to judge us to see whether or not we are perfect. Most times, perfectionism is in all probability a holdover from childhood—an ideal we inherited from what Barbara Colorusso describes as brick wall parenting. Guess what we are now adults, and even though we have been instilled with overstriving for perfection we now have the ultamite freedom to choose to let go of the need to perform for someone else’s approval. Similarly, we can choose to experience our world as much more of a loving place where we are free to be imperfect. Once we realize this, we can begin to take ourselves less seriously and have more fun. Imperfection is inherent to being human. By embracing your imperfections, we embrace ourselves.
Thursday, August 11, 2011
How many of us have a friend or family member that constantly tries to hinder or sabotage our weight loss efforts and life style change?
Even if it's one person or it could even be oursleves which is the biggest hinderance of all, it's enough to do damage and cause set backs.
There’s always going to be that one— in the work place, in your church group, and the most inevitable place you'll find one; your closest friends and family. Sometimes they mean well; good intentions, or ever notice that more often they seem a tad spiteful,and more often than not they actually have no idea that they are sabotaging you. Regardless it can be hurtful, demeaning, emotionally because every time you take a positive step forward to gain commitment, consistency and control over diet and exercsie, they’re at your elbow-- offering you foods they know perfectly well you are trying to obstain from. And ever notice it's not just any food but your favourites?
What’s going on? Why is it that the minute you tell someone you're on a weight loss program to lose wieght that the people closest to you seem to go out of their way to sabotage you? You'd think they'd encourage and support you in your decision and efforts wouldn't you?
Well I've come to the conclusion that it can be summed up in one simple word—Change. Because making the decision in getting fit through diet and exercise; completely changing your lifestyle, creates some pretty huge changes in your life—changes you welcome and embrace. But it doesn't just effect you. If your friends and family members aren't on board with this mode of change, they can be oblivious, AND jealous. but mostly they are uncomfortable and confused with your changes. To them you may have could even be considered radical, and it simply uncomprehensible and so their reaction is usually because they themselves are:
1.Feel guilty. And for some it's a REAL guilt trip because you're accomplishing what you've said you were going to; losing weight, becoming pysically fit, building more self confidence and self esteem and they're not. So in tempting you to become unfocused, less dedicated means you’re "normal" again, and they can once more return to their comfort zones.
2.They don’t understand. They’ve never had a weight problem and simply don’t realize how hard you’ve worked to accomplish your goals thus far or what it's going to take for you to reach that ultimate goal and maintain it. They think it’s just plain rediculous and unnecessary for you to be worrying about what you eat.
3.They miss the old you. You're not yourself! You've committed the impardonable sin! You've stopped supplying them with all those home made, high calorie, high fat baked treats from home. And then there was the end of the day and week endsocial gatherings around a football game on the spent in the company of high-fat potato skins and a keg of beer. Yeah you men aren't excluded in this! You're not off the hook! Now you’re spending more time in the gym and have less free time for them. Now they’ve become afraid of losing you and they just don't know how to deal with all this change and certainly aren't coping well with it.
Whatever you do DON'T overreact by becoming defensive. DON'T assume. Sometimes the situation is in pure innocence.
I mean unless the saboteur is being blatantly deliberate, give him/her the benefit of the doubt as to their motives. It could be your own mother or girl friend, wife has made you your favourite; the way to a man's heart is through the stomach and only knows or believes that it's their way of showing love? It just doesn't pay in jumping the gun and becoming instantly defensive.
The best policy? Just say no. You wouldn’t expect a friend to forcably influence you to take a drink if you were a recovering alcoholic, and so you shouldn’t have to subject yourself to having fattening food imposed on you either. Tell the food pusher, "No, thanks," and leave it at that. You don't owe them any explanation. And you certainly don't need to feel guilty if you choose to avoid someone who’s either intentionally or unintentionally hindering your cause.
Take it and leave it. Granted, the thought of wasted food is hard for many of us. Especially if you were taught and guilted from childhood to eat everything that's put before you. "May I remind you that htere are other children who are not as fortunate as you to have what you have......etc etc. Remember, there are times when discretion is the better part of valor. So when your stomach signals that you're full and regardless if there is a forkfull of or a serving of _______ left untouched on your plate. Push it away. Even though you took it, you CAN leave it.
Watch for patterns. Be on the lookout for triggers that cause diet downfalls. Keeping a journal may help you recognize people, events and what you eat that do you in, allowing you to develop strategies to combat them. If you know, for example, that there are likely to be high fat and sugary sweets in the staff room, it’ll be much easier to divert the temptations if you have your own healthy filling, satisfying snack.
Above all, remember that in the end all, what you put in your mouth is your responsibility. While others may tempt you, ultimately you’re in charge of your own life. Look at difficult situations as opportunities to flex your newfound control muscles-- and reinforce the idea that you’re not adopting a healthier lifestyle for someone else, but for you.
COMMITMENT, CONSISTENCY AND CONTROL!
Thursday, August 11, 2011
Power is not about exerting our will over others, it is about being in complete truth with yourself.
Many of us do not truely understand what having personal power means. That would be because we have been given the false notion that power is abominable and morally distructive —meaning that it is something we use to exert our will upon others. In fact, the truth of the matter lies in whether or not we have our personal power in intact; we are neither overbearing nor meek. We have a clear sense of our strength and the impact we can have on others. This actually enables us to be more sensitive. Personal power is what permits us to work on behalf of our dreams and desires. It allows us to realize that we are worthy and deserve to be heard. In addition, our personal power lets us extend the respect we know that we deserve to the people around us. There is no reason to be afraid or ashamed of fully owning your power.
According to the chakra system, www.rickrichards.com/Chakras.htm the solar plexus is the seat of personal power. One way to evaluate your sense of power is to breathe into this part of the body. If it feels tight or nervous, it is an indication that you may not be fully expressing your power. You can heal this imbalance by expanding the area of the solar plexus with your breath. You can also visualize a bright yellow sun in this part of your body. Allow its heat to melt any tension, and let its light dissolve any darkness or heaviness. Repeating this exercise on a regular basis can restore and rejuvenate your sense of power.
Another way to nurture your personal power is to honor your dreams and desires by making concrete plans to manifest them in the world. Start by making a list of things you want, and let yourself think big. Choose one goal from the list and commit to bringing it to fruition. In addition, break the goal into tasks that you can work on each day. Know that you deserve to have your dreams come true and that you have the power to bring them into being.
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