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Friday, July 15, 2011

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back. I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I- I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

It is when you are willing to listen to yourself and be fearless that figuring out your next step becomes easy.

Our lives are made up of a complex network of pathways that we can use to move from one phase of life to the next. For some of us, our paths are wide, smooth, and clearly marked. Many people, however, find that they have a difficult time figuring out where they need to go next. Determining which next step will land you on the most direct route to fulfillment and the realization of your life purpose may not seem easy.

There are many ways to discover what the next step on your life path should be. If you are someone who seeks to satisfy your soul, it is vital that you make this inquiry. Often, your inner voice will counsel you that it's time for a change, and it is very important to trust yourself because only you know what is best for you. Personal growth always results when you let yourself expand beyond the farthest borders of what your life has been so far. When figuring out what your next step will be, you may want to review your life experiences. The choices you've made and the dreams you've held onto can give you an idea of what you don't want to do anymore and what you might like to do next. It is also a good idea to think about creative ways you can use your skills and satisfy your passions. Visualizing your perfect future and making a list of ways to manifest that future can help you choose a logical next step that's in harmony with your desires. Meditation, journal writing, ta! king a class, and other creative activities may inspire you and provide insight regarding the next step in life that will bring you the most satisfaction.

It is when you are willing to listen to yourself and be fearless that figuring out your next step becomes easy. Beneath the fear and hesitation and uncertainty lies your inner knowing that always knows which step you need to take next. If you can allow the taking of your next step to be as easy as putting one foot in front of the next, you'll notice that your next step is always the one that is right in front of you. All you have to do is put one foot forward and on the ground.


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SETAGOAL1 7/15/2011 9:43PM

    Don't give up on yourself. You are the

only one that can make it happen for

you. You have the power to succeed or


You have choosen to succeed.

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Unnecessary Possessions

Thursday, July 14, 2011

We hold onto material objects because we think they make us feel secure, when in reality they are cluttering our lives.

In life, we tend to have an easier time acquiring possessions than we do getting rid of them. Just as we harbor emotional baggage that is difficult to let go of, our lives can tend to be filled with material objects that we may feel compelled to hold on to. Most people are not conscious of how much they own and how many of their possessions are no longer adding value to their life. They fiercely hold on to material objects because this makes them feel secure or comfortable. While it’s true that the ownership of “stuff” can make you feel good for awhile, it seldom satisfies the deep inner longings that nearly everyone has for fulfillment and satisfaction. It is only when we are ready to let go of our baggage and be vulnerable that it becomes possible to recognize the emotional hold that our possessions can have on us.

It’s not uncommon to hold on to material objects because we are attached to them or fear the empty spaces that will remain if we get rid of them. Giving away the souvenirs from a beloved voyage may feel like we are erasing the memory of that time in our life. We may also worry that our loved ones will feel hurt if we don’t keep the gifts they’ve given us. It’s easy to convince ourselves that unused possessions might come in handy someday or that parting with them will cause you emotional pain. However, when your personal space is filled with objects, there is no room for anything new to enter and stay in your life. Your collection of belongings may “protect” you from the uncertainties of an unknown future while keeping you stuck in the past. Holding on to unnecessary possessions often goes hand in hand with holding on to pain, anger, and resentment, and letting go of your material possessions may help you release emotional baggage.

When you make a conscious decision to fill your personal space with only the objects that you need or bring you joy, your energy level will soar. Clearing your personal space can lead to mental clarity and an improved memory. As you learn to have a more practical and temporary relationship to objects, positive changes will happen, and you’ll have space to create the life that you desire.


Breaking the Habit

Thursday, July 14, 2011

When we honestly ask which persons in our lives mean the most to us, we often find that it is those who, instead of giving much advice, solutions or cures, have chosen rather to share our pain and touch our wounds with a gentle and tender hand.”
— Henri J.M. Nouwen

The Helping Tic

Are you a compulsive helper?
How does one stop trying to save others, stop being a martyr and start taking care of one's self?

I don't know about you but it seems that I have inherited CHT (chronic helping tic) from my mother. My youngest sister might have a touch of it, too. Honestly, so do at least half the women I know.

But over the course of my 50 years, I've learned the hard way that my gratuitous guidance—no matter how well intentioned—could just possibly be misconstrued as, well, a tad annoying. I've also learned that when my assistance wasn't met with the response I anticipated—at least a small thank-you note—it hurt.

So, several years back I decided that the time had come to cure my CHT—not by helping less, but by becoming more mindfully helpful. I will train myself to think before offering aid, and to provide it only when people really want it.

I devised a challenge: For 30 days, unless I was asked directly (or witnessed someone in need or CPR), I will keep my helpfulness to myself.

On day one, I woke to a text message from a friend whose life falls apart on a semi-regular basis: "My life is falling apart. Again."
Normally I would have called an emergency life-reassembly meeting at a Tim Horton's of her choosing. But I stopped, right there my fingers posed in mid air over my cell and told myself " Wait a minute. You know this really wasn't an emergency.

Real emergencies aren't conveyed via text message. And because my friend's calamities are usually existentially exaggerated in nature—a general sense of ennui, a crisis of faith, a sudden rash of cynicism about free will—there's rarely anything I can do to solve them anyway.

Still, I couldn't help thinking that if she didn't need my help, she wouldn't have texted. I felt my CHT flaring up.

So I tried something new. Instead of helping, I sought help.
Now, whenever I get the urge to help, I should ask myself, If I never receive credit or thanks for this favor, do I still want to grant it?

I confessed to myself that what I really wanted, deep down, was to hear my friend tell me, "I knew you'd say the perfect thing."

Feeling sheepish, I snapped out of the fantasy and texted my friend: "I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope things get better for you soon. xoxo." Then I spent the morning worrying that I was a pitiless porcupine.

Later that day, another friend e-mailed to share the news that the poetry press she'd launched had just gotten its first media attention. My immediate impulse was not to wish her many happy returns, but to shoot her a list of all the other media outlets she should contact. I was halfway through my list before I realized what I was doing. I deleted and started over.

"Congratulations!" I wrote. "I'm so proud of you!"

The prospect of composing a comprehensive public relations plan on the spot had made me so jittery, my pulse was racing. But the sense of calm that followed my decision to write a more appropriate e-mail got me through another 24 hours CHT-free.

By the third week, my helping behavior had become less automatic.

The few favors I did along the way were carefully chosen:

this was the right kind of helping. "It's important to learn the difference between helping out and butting in," she says. "Butting in is often a product of the giver's sense of righteousness or insecurity, and it is neither wanted nor appreciated by the receiver. Helping out is a gift that comes from the heart."

And that was what I wanted—to be driven by my heart, not my emotions. My month of restraint had allowed me to make that shift.

The experiment also paid off in other, unexpected ways.

One night after yoga class, I got into a conversation with my teacher and learned that she was single. I was dying to play Cupid, but I held my tongue. The next day, she sent me an e-mail, asking me to keep her in mind for setups. Now that she'd reached out to me, setting her up would mean doing a favor that she'd requested, as opposed to embarking on a self-appointed mission. I wouldn't feel the usual pressure to prove myself because I had never claimed that I would find her the perfect man in the first place; I had merely agreed to try. I liked the prospect of low-stress helping.

A few weeks after the end of my 30-day trial, my friend of the existential crises called, crying. Love was masochistic, she said. I listened to her list of romantic troubles. I didn't tell her what to do, or even ask leading questions. I didn't fan the flames by mirroring her outrage. I made just enough noise to let her know I was there. And I realized that in the absence of suggesting, solving, and fixing, my listening skills had greatly improved. After ten minutes, my friend took a deep breath and exhaled. "Thank you," she said. "You made me feel so much better."

And so it goes Now instead of "jumping the gun" solely using my emotions to help those who in actuality need to help themselves, are quite capable of helping themselves I've learned to be more the listener and only "step up to the plate" when asked. Still feel the need to help, but doing it more as a life coach is far better than "meddling" Who'd a thunk it.

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JEWELIRINA 7/14/2011 11:07AM

  I can completely relate to this

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Releasing Negativity

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Having a pity party for yourself is alright as long as you learn from it and dont dwell in it for long periods of time.

We all have days when the bad things seem to outweigh the good ones and we begin to think that life isnt fair. You get stuck in traffic, which makes you late for an important meeting, and then your car gets towed. You might ask yourself, Why me? Events like this one can test anyones ability to be grateful and feel optimistic. If you have a tendency to feel sorry for yourself, and many of us do, things usually progress to the next stage: the pity party. You begin to feel like the innocent victim of a dismal fate because you are seeing your life through inaccurate lenses. Most of the thoughts that run through your mind at times like these are not helpful, and they mainly serve to increase your indignation and feelings of powerlessness. What these feelings and thoughts dont do is change your circumstances or make you feel better.

When you have a terrible day, there should definitely be a time and place to have your feelings so you can process them. Its important not to pretend that you are fine with things when you arent. Its also important, however, to notice when youre having a pity party. Its a good idea to set a time limit in which to fully express your emotions and not feel guilty, ashamed, or judge yourself. Having a friend witness you during this process can be helpful. You may also want to write about your feelings. When your time is up, let go of the negativity you just expressed. You can declare your intention to your friend. If youve written down your feelings, you can burn the piece of paper or throw it in the recycling bin.

Try not to dwell on unpleasant experiences and do everything you can to avoid holding on to negative emotions. When you indulge in self-pity, you only make a bad day worse. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, release the notion that you are a victim, and notice the good that exists in your life.

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SNOWMAIDEN 7/13/2011 3:43PM

    I have private pity parties - no one else is invited. As far as other people are concerned, I'm fine. I wallow with a coffee; I try to work out what happened but eventually get bored by my moaning and then determined to make the day go the way I want it to - scrub anything that doesn't move, exercise - anything to make me feel that I've achieved something.
(Sometimes I think the universe may seem to be giving you a bad day but perhaps if we hadn't have got caught in traffic, at the next junction, we might have met another car which jumped the lights...)

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Changes in Health mean changes all 'round

Wednesday, July 13, 2011

because of the Arthritis in my knees and back am going to have to make a few changes in my exercise routine. more strengthening exercises for the muscles. Am going into Stettler Friday to do my grocery shopping, pick up a new power supply for my Wii, and look at an exercise bar that attaches to a door jam.

My sister in law`s friend from Calgary brought his with him last week and showed me how it works.

Just make sure you take care of yourself; back and knees cause now I know all about it. Mine according to the x-ray report definitely have Arthritis. The right worse than the left. So I`ve now ordered my Organic Extra virgin Coconut oil to take 2 tbsps a day.

Coconut oil is an edible oil that has been consumed in the tropics for thousands of years. Studies on native diets high in coconut consumption show that these populations are generally in good health, and do not suffer from many of the modern diseases of western nations. It offers outstanding health benefits to almost all areas of wellness, from immune function to weight loss, cardiovascular health and hair quality.

Coconut oil was once prevalent in western countries like Canada and the United States as well. With a long shelf life and a melting point of 76 degrees, it was a favorite in the baking industry. There are however two different kinds of coconut oil: regular and extra virgin. Extra virgin coconut oil possesses a coconut taste while regular coconut oil has virtually no taste.

The vast majority of the fats and oils we eat, whether they are saturated or unsaturated or come from an animal or a plant, are composed of long-chain triglycerides. Coconut oil is unique because it is composed predominately of medium chain triglycerides (MCTs) which, for the most part, give it its unique character and healing properties.

Listed below are a few of the many benefits of coconut oil.

Has a long shelf life slow to oxidize and therefore resistant to rancidity
Ideal for medium to high heat cooking
Excellent dairy-free alternative to butter or shortening
Contains no harmful trans fatty acids
Excellent source of lauric acid to support healthy immune function
Lauric acid provides anti-viral, anti-bacterial and anti-fungal support
Lauric acid supports treatment of herpes complex virus
Excellent source of Medium Chain Triglycerides (MCTs), which helps the body to efficiently metabolize fat (increases metabolism)
MCTs are not stored as fat, but is readily converted to energy (boosts energy)
Protects and moisturizes the skin use as a lotion
Improves nutrient absorption
Reduces the risk of cancer and other degenerative conditions
Excellent as a massage oil
Helps in treating various skin problems such as psoriasis, dermatitis, eczema and other skin infections
Reduces the risk of heart disease
Helps prevent premature aging and wrinkling of the skin
Promotes weight loss
Protects the liver
Supports healthy thyroid function
Assists in the treatment of yeast infections (Candida)
Improves Chrohns, IBS, and other digestive disorders
Helps prevent osteoporosis
Helps control diabetes
Increases hair health

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ANGIEN9 7/13/2011 10:16AM

    Wow! I did not know the benefits of Coconut is t he fat content?? Thanks for the informative blog!! Angie

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