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We Are All Mirrors for Each Other

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

People you feel drawn to reflect your inner self back at you, and you act as a mirror for them as well.

When we look at other people, we see many of their qualities in innumerable and seemingly random combinations. However, the qualities that we see in the people around us are directly related to the traits that exist in us. “Like attracts like” is one of the spiritual laws of the universe. We attract individuals into our lives that mirror who we are. Those you feel drawn to reflect your inner self back at you, and you act as a mirror for them. Simply put, when you look at others, you will likely see what exists in you. When you see beauty, divinity, sweetness, or light in the soul of another, you are seeing the goodness that resides in your soul. When you see traits in others that evoke feelings of anger, annoyance, or hatred, you may be seeing reflected back at you those parts of yourself that you have disowned or do not like.

Because we are all mirrors for each other, looking at the people in your life can tell you a lot about yourself. Who you are can be laid bare to you through what you see in others. It is easy to see the traits you do not like in others. It is much more difficult to realize that you possess those same traits. Often, the habits, attitudes, and behaviors of others are closely linked to our unconscious and unresolved issues.

When you come into contact with someone you admire, search your soul for similarly admirable traits. Likewise, when you meet someone exhibiting traits that you dislike, accept that you are looking at your reflection. Looking at yourself through your perception of others can be a humbling and eye-opening experience. You can also cultivate in you the traits and behaviors that you do like. Be loving and respectful to all people, and you will attract individuals that will love and respect you back. Nurture compassion and empathy and let the goodness you see in others be your mirror.

Footnote; Sadly there are also those who have no reflection to be attracted to. Advice; Walk away before they bring out the "worst" in you; that evil twin you keep deeply buried.


Yet Another Altercation; Riding the storm

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Well folks it's a beautiful day here I wish I was feeling it.
I have to go to work this morning for four measly hours and don't want to be there. Had another altercation with Sally yesterday and I ended up raising my voice to her. I just got plum fed up with her yesterday.
She called to whine at me about my hours again Accused me of adding extra for Saturday because the schedule said 10-2 and I was there until 4:30. So I TRIED explaining to her why and she kept rudely cutting me off and talking over me. So I finally told her WILL YOU BE QUIET AND LET ME TALK! You asked me but if you'd rather hear yourself talk and your own voice I'll just hang up.
Then she proceeded to tell me I had no right to talk to her that way.
EXCUSE ME? I'm under no obligation to even be there or stay! I don't need her she needs me so it.s a nice position to be in too. That same door I walked in almost six months ago I can turn right around and walk right back out and there isn't damn thing she can do about it. I'm not on the books as employed He's paying under the table. I'm not under contract either so if I decide to would leave her high and dry to do it all by her little ole' self. Now wouldn't that be just dandy.
She's got two strikes against her now one more and I'll be doing just that. I have my "letter of resignation" all ready just for her. (A final piece of my mind letter)
I've had my fill of her B.S
And then later that same day she called me again and asked about the cash in the till Why wasn't there 150.00 Ivy said should be there. I said that's simple The Apache worker only stayed the one night rather than the two he had paid for so I reimbursed him his 75 cash. No biggy. If you check his folio I adjusted the numbers to reflect it. Then she called me a liar by telling me I hadn't.
So yeah. Once more and i'm done! I am SOOOO done with that place.
And believe me she's going to know it when the time comes. So will Ivy for that matter. I've had her back because she is in the same position as I am with that job, but after yesterday she back stabbed me so I'm done with her too.
And one other thing.....when Sally is on her four day off stretch (every week) she stipulates she doesn't want to be called. Guess what I'm off this Thursday and she's going to show me the same courtesy starting NOW! I see that number on that phone anytime during my days off I WILL NOT be answering it. She can deal with whatever it is She's a big girl she doesn't need me as a scape goat when things go a rye.
And I don't care how many rooms need to be done tomorrow I am not going in on my day off either. I did that yesterday and look what it got me. So sucks to be her.

�Our danger is to think that happiness will come from outside of our own personal beings, from the things we possess or the power of our group, and not from within; the inner sanctuary of our being.�

The best thing for being emotional upset to learn something," said T.H. White in The Once and Future King. This has nothing to do with academic drudgery and everything to do with the fact that mastering a technique, sharpening a skill, doing something you didn't know how to do before, proves anything is possible. Here are 25 ways to brighten up those little gray cells.

1. Memorize one good joke.

2. Learn how to land a triple lutz...or maybe just how to skate backward.

3. Teach yourself not to take the bait the next time someone starts "pestering" you.

4. Master Italian (or American Sign Language, German, Spanish, French, Pig Latin...)

5. Have a kid show you one foolproof magic trick.

6. Perfect your margarita-making technique.

7. Enroll in a crafting course.

8. Read everything by a single author whom you've been meaning to get to for years. Faulkner? Melville? Auden? Colette?

9. Knit yourself or someone you love a sweater�or perhaps just a scarf.

10. Start writing a short story.

11. Sign up for music lessons.

12. Find a kind of meditation that feels right.

13. Join a boxing class.

14. Learn how to make your grandmother's piecrust.

15. Figure out how to operate at least one feature of your cell phone, Blackberry, Tivo or iPad that you're not using and isn't all that necessary to your actual life but is rather cool.

16. Create your own blog.

17. Come up with one can't-miss-meal�and serve it to six friends.

18. Try a new kind of exercise class.

19. Conquer your revulsion at putting the worm on the hook.

20. Tennis, anyone?

21. Learn to be alone (turn off your TV and your phone, shut down your computer, and enjoy a little solitude).

22. only takes one to practice.

23. Buy an atlas; spend some time with it. You'll never know when Meredith Viera will call and you'll have to be a lifeline.

24. Polish your inner Joni Mitchell: Pick up the guitar you put down in tenth grade.

25. Learn to juggle. We mean oranges, not responsibilities.

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NATTY0488 6/29/2011 10:34AM

    Oh my god I feel your pain!

Except, I can't just walk out.

But I have a boss who passes everything he can off onto me, coworkers that are always late (even the boss! I'm the only one who is ever in on time!). No one else bothers to do their jobs and it drives me insane!

Or because we have more than one shop, my framer will try to 'steal' money away from the other shop by being sneaky and ringing things up into her shop versus the one it goes into!

And then in our other location, I have a 50+ year old woman who has been there for over 2 1/2 years and still doesn't know how to do her job! I say her age, because it matters. At the age of 50+ I at least expect her to ask for help before a problem gets out of hand instead of being scared and letting things snowball.

I'm 23, the second youngest at my work, the other guy is only a few months younger than me, and I'm running the place.

And as much as people can say it's just a job, I can't quit and I've been battling with these people for 4 years now. I need the health insurance and the paycheck and jobs are scarce. I have a great resume, an excellent work history and still can't get a new one.

I guess my point is, some people are just stupid and selfish and as much as we want to change them, we can't.

I think the trick is to find not necessarily something you love doing, but something that puts you in an environment you love. As long as you are surrounded by good people, you won't stress as much.

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MUMMYUK2 6/29/2011 9:51AM

    Breathe, and remember it's just a job

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Letting Emotions Flow

Tuesday, June 28, 2011

I'm not at all sure where this comes from this morning but somebody out there must be feeling something because I felt the pull from someone somewhere So here it is.


Tears are as natural to us as breathing and there is beauty in allowing yourself to be open to pain with flowing tears.

It is such a wonderful release to give in and let tears flow when we are overwhelmed with emotions, whether we are happy or sad. Tears come from the soul, from our well of feelings rising from deep down. When we give in to the prickling behind our eyes and the lump in our throat to let teardrops fall from our eyes, we allow our feelings to surface so they can be set free.

There are many reasons for the onset of tears
Proud parents shed tears of pride in a child’s accomplishments, a baby’s first step, birthdays, and graduations. Long lost friends fall into each other’s arms, tears rolling down their cheeks when they reunite after years of separation. Tears may flow from us when we are witness to a commitment being made at a wedding or even while we are watching a love story. Tears of relief may spring forth when we hear that a loved one has survived an ordeal, and tears may fall when we bow our head in sorrow over a loss or death. Tears born from heartache can flow like they’ll never cease, whether our tears are for a love that is over, a friendship lost, or an opportunity missed. We shed tears because of disappointment in ourselves, tragedy in the world, pain, and illness. Tears of anger can burn with emotion as they fall down our faces. Tears offer us a physical release of our feelings.

Shedding tears can sometimes make us feel better, although it can feel like the tears will never end once the floodgates open. There is no shame in letting tears flow freely and frequently. Tears are as natural to us as is breathing. There is beauty in allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to shed tears. Open up, release your tears, and let your feelings flow.

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NATTY0488 6/29/2011 10:36AM

    I agree!! When I need to cry, I don't stop until I'm done. Why hold it back??

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SNOWMAIDEN 6/28/2011 4:08PM

    Tears are so powerful. What else can make a stranger approach another and put their arms around them?

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KOPSBABY 6/28/2011 9:51AM

    Beautifully said! emoticon

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Channeling Enthusiasm

Monday, June 27, 2011

You may feel exuberant today as you consider your future. Perhaps you’re coming to realize just how bountiful your life may be, with all its thrilling challenges and exciting possibilities. If thoughts of tomorrow are igniting the spirit of liveliness in you, you might consider channeling this energy into whatever tasks you have before you. Try tending to your work, home, or personal responsibilities with gusto. As you accomplish each one, congratulate yourself on a well-done job. You might also want to keep in mind that whatever you do today may be the foundation upon which the gifts of tomorrow may rest. Enjoy the progress you make toward reaching your current goals. Your enthusiasm will grow with every productive step you take.

When we give our all to our tasks, we prepare ourselves for the gifts our hard work will bring in the future. We do our greatest work when we are energized. Not only do we raise the quality of our results, but our life feels exceptional during these moments. We are fully engaged in the excitement of the present, and our attitude toward our current reality gets reflected back to us by the universe in the form of unexpected gifts. Channel your enthusiasm about the future toward all of your endeavors today, and you will invite a wealth of wonderful new opportunities into your life.

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SNOWMAIDEN 6/28/2011 3:59PM

    Love it! Once enthusiasm starts, a vicious circle begins - sometimes it can spread to other people but mostly, we get delightfully carried away ourselves and achieve so much!

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MS_MITRA 6/27/2011 7:51PM

    This is a great way to start or end the day on that note. Having a precise vision of where I want to be in the future gives me the motivation to not give up or give in. You are truly an inspiration and I am thankful for people like you!!! It gives me a secure feeling knowing that I can change things in my life that I am not happy with. It starts with a new mindset and a plan. For some strange reason, I always felt like results suppose to happen overnight even though I knew that was impossible. But in my mind that was how I looked at every challenge or goal. This was my biggest downfall and I am glad that I was introduced to Sparkpeople and the people of Sparkpeople.

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BLACKROSE_222 6/27/2011 3:19PM

    Wow - great blog! Thanks for sharing!

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Feeling & Taking Responsibility

Sunday, June 26, 2011

The commitments you have today may leave you feeling a greater sense of responsibility. As a result of this awareness of obligation toward other people, you may feel more mature in your interactions. Your desire to care for others today may arise from your inner need to protect and nurture another person. While it is important to be conscientious in your interactions, you might want to evaluate the duties that you need to take seriously and those that are not your responsibility. At times you may have noticed that you may feel the overwhelming need to look after another person, when in fact they are perfectly able to care for themselves. It is important to gauge who really requires your help and whom you help out of a sense of obligation. As you go about your day you can try to evaluate which of your responsibilities are really necessary.

Being responsible means that we understand our own needs first before we take on the duties of others. We may feel that by taking our obligations seriously we become more responsible and mature by default. There are times when this is the case. But, when we feel obligations to others simply to bolster our own desire to feel responsible, we may be inclined to neglect our own needs. It is important to remember that maturity comes from understanding our own needs first. By gaining insight into the true nature of your responsibilities today, you will determine the obligations that are the most essential for you now.

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SNOWMAIDEN 6/27/2011 1:27PM

    Really interesting. I suppose when are we helping and when are we taking over? When do we empower and when are we taking that power away? Like this. Very thought provoking.

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