Wednesday, April 23, 2008
I once read a simple philosophy of life that moved me very much. Although I don’t recall the exact author or text, the following is a paraphrase with additions:
Speak like you would like to be spoken to.
Write like you would like to be written to.
Exercise the way you want to feel.
Eat the way you want to look.
Work the way you would want someone to work for you.
Be a boss the way you want a boss to treat you.
Serve the way you would like to be served.
Return items the way you would want them returned to you.
Spend the way you want to build your savings.
Make noise to the amount you want to hear other people’s noise.
Judge like you would want to be judged.
Treat the planet the way you want to live on the planet.
Smile the way you would want to be smiled to.
Act the way you want others to act around you.
Be a friend the way you would like to have a friend.
Love like you would like to be loved.
The list is endless and it applies to every aspect of life. It goes back to and beyond The Golden Rule: “Treat others as you would like to be treated.”
The basis of human rights, this principle appears in religion and philosophy throughout time.
The Jewish rabbi Hillel said, “What is hateful to yourself do not do to someone else.”
Buddhism: “Putting one in the place of another, one should not kill or cause another to kill.”
Hinduism, “That one I love who is incapable of ill will, and returns love for hatred.”
The book of Tobit in the Apocrypha teaches, “What thou thyself hatest, to no man do.”
Confucius taught, “What you do not want done to yourself, do not do to others.”
Baha’I faith professes, “Blessed is he who peferreth his brother before himself.”
The Greek philosopher Epictetus said, “What you avoid suffering yourself, do not afflict on others.”
Islam teaches, “That which you want for yourself, seek for mankind.”
The Stoics promote the principle, “What you do not want to be done to you, do not do to anyone else.”
Jesus says in Matthew 22:39 NIV, a quote of Leviticus 19:19, “Love your neighbor as yourself.”
And Matthew says in 7:12, "So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets."
This is a short list as this thinking exists and can be cited endlessly throughout many philosophers and religions not mentioned here. These are examples of how this principle has been taught as a fabric of core philosophy of humankind through the ages.
Do we live this way?
The reason I said that we are trying to even move beyond the philosophy about treating others the way you want to be treated, is because I want you to treat yourself also the way you want to feel. This means your personal behavior as applied to your eating, exercise, spending etc. Then let’s not only worry about ourselves and others, let’s also treat the planet the way we want it to be.
Translate all your behavior into cause and effect and think through to treat everything as you would want the world and yourself to be.
It is to, “Treat the world, yourself and others the way you want others and yourself to experience the world and life.”
What do you think?
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Change is the natural order of the world. When something tries to stand against the force of change, it's eventually destroyed. Cliffs are eroded, trees are uprooted, granite cracks. People can crack too. For us to grow and live--to flourish--it takes adaptation and learning. Stubborn attachment to a single set of "knowledge" or way of doing things leads to stagnation of the mind and spirit. Remember to keep an open mind to new people and new ideas. Challenge yourself to always be learning something new. Focus on the possibilities of a fresh start, instead of hanging on to old frustrations. Sails are made with cloth for a reason. When they're stiff, winds beat against them until they tear. But if the sails are relaxed and workable, the wind can take you to places you've never been before.
Monday, April 21, 2008
After slowing down to an unexplained stop for the 150th time in the space of 2 hours , I have decided that I hated my world and come to the conclusion that I obviously don’t know enough about patience or endurance!!
It is in serious danger of ruining my whole day.
Is there anything more frustrating than being bogged down by your own body? Most all of us have been there before. That discouraged, fed up feeling that just makes us want to throw up our hands in surrender.
Thankfully, I have stopped sputtering helplessly; what good does it do me except get me even more worked up and irritable, and started rethinking instead. And I realized that I often witnessed the frustration that builds on the road to weight loss: Let's name it; Diet Frustration or better yet Diet Rage.
Think about your dieting history. Does it give you the same feeling as an exasperating traffic jam? Being surrounded with an ocean of maddening brake lights, rain pelting the windshield and thousands of tons of metal and glass flung around by mindless selfish morons who obviously don't know the first thing about driving!!
You never quite get where you want to go as fast as you want to get there. You get aggravated, yell (usually at yourself), and see people in other lanes going faster than you (how do they DO that?!), and it usually ends up ruining your day.
Here’s the lesson: Getting frustrated with your diet doesn't do any more good than getting frustrated in traffic. It just makes you unhappy, unsuccessful and tense.
By the time I get to my destinatation, I noticed a lot of things that we, as weight loss veterans, can learn from traffic jams. Next time you start to feel frustrated with your weight loss progress, keep these "lessons of the road" in mind:
Pay less attention to how much further you have to travel. Stop looking at the big picture, Stop asking yourself "are we there yet?" You’ll get there when you get there. Instead, look at the scenery, think about life, carry on a conversation, sing along with the CD, or simply be thankful for how far you’ve already come.
The journey is always more fun with a passenger. Remember we are all along in this for the ride together! To support and rag on each other if necessary too! LOL
We know the route we need to take to reach our weight loss goals. It’s already mapped out. As long as we stay pointed in the right direction, we’ll get there. Even in the worst traffic jams, you still get to your destination at some point. It’s the same way with dieting – just a matter of time. It may take longer than you first expected; with set backs because of misconcepted choices along the way, but you will get there none the less.
There will always be periods of stopping and starting. Even though we are the ones in control and know what the consequences will be from the decisions we will be making along the way be it good choices or bad, It’s something that we should anticipate. No use getting upset or stressed about not making progress. It’s a normal part of the journey.
Sometimes, we’ve just gotta go with the flow of what’s going on around you. Life can present some situations that you really can’t do anything about. When that happens, staying straight and steady – doing the best that you can – will keep you on track and sane. In traffic, impatient people stop, change lanes, weave in and out of other cars, driving themselves and everyone else crazy – and in the end, usually don’t get any farther along than you do by staying put and going with the flow.
Shortcuts never work.
Driving too fast is dangerous. That’s why they call it "crash" dieting. Slow down, take what life gives you, and make sure you arrive at your destination in good health.
I finally did get to my destination after all. I may have had to use my inhaler a time or two, unclenched my teeth, and pop a few Advil, but I made it there!. Of course, people in the cars around me probably had a good laugh at my arm-waving and soundless yelling. Funny how we can lose our senses when faced with something that frustrates us, whether it’s traffic or our diets.
Thanks to rethinking. hopefully, remembering these rules will help us reach our destination sooner – and more content – than expected.
Sunday, April 20, 2008
Commited commited commited. No if's and or butts no walking the fence here! I don't care what obstacles I come up against or how long it takes I WILL be SUCCESSFUL this time forme beginning to end for the rest of my days!
The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm.
- Swedish proverb
It's Taking Responsibility for My Success
We all need support from other people. Love, encouragement, words of advice and friendship will help me get through the important stages in my life. When people are in my corner, I feel like taking on any challenge; the world! As important as help from others may be, though, it all has to start with me. If I'm waiting for someone to solve my problems, or wondering when someone is "going to do something about that", I'd be waiting a long time--I have to look to myself first. Take responsibility for my own situation and think of what concrete steps I must take TODAY to help myself. Yes I'm going to need help, and it's only fair that the person with the most at stake (me) is willing to make the most effort. When someone is pulling me out of a hole and has grasped my hand, I still must take the first step to climb out, or I'll just be left hanging there!
I do my best and forget my worst, and already I have a head start on tomorrow. As long as I lay it out there every day, I can relax when yesterday is behind me. Of course, the only way this will happen is if I give myself permission to forget. I can use this approach in anything: Pick up a problem, do what I can with it, and then put it down. Work my tail off at work, then leave it there (the work, not my tail). I deal with a personal crisis by finishing off one day at a time. There's a great deal of satisfaction in leaving things be for a moment. There's a great deal of freedom in knowing that I can do no more. And there's a great deal of success awaiting me when I give it my all, no matter what.
Friday, April 18, 2008
Surrounding Yourself with the Right People
It's easy to recognize a perfect candidate for your support team. Just look for someone who has a way of making everyone else around them better: someone who succeeds by developing other people and letting them in on the fun; someone who is genuinely happy when other people succeed. That's the person you want on your side. The pages of history are heavy with tales of the misguided who were proven wrong while insisting something couldn't be done. Why put up with that? Believe in your goals enough to know that you shouldn't stomach people who don't. It's okay if you're the only one who believes in your dream. But someone who truly believes in YOU should help you believe that if anyone can do it, you can.
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