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Being worthy of happiness."

Tuesday, October 05, 2010

To esteem something means to respect it or value it. Self esteem is simply believing in our own worth.

Nathaniel Branden in 1969, wrote that self esteem is "the experience of being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and being worthy of happiness."

The key focus, hmmm, the word simply. How simple is it, really? Because the underlying beliefs that we are not of value or worthy of happiness can be so deeply rooted; because of cause, that many of us, quite possibly and simply, aren't even aware of them.

I believe that this is where supporting each other, building each other up, sharing, talking venting, along with self-help solutions are very beneficial. We can often be guided to see that our view of ourselves is just that; a view, and can be changed.

The good news is that low self esteem can be turned around. We can change if we want to. we do have the power to change how we have been made to think about ourselves.

Low self-esteem is something that many people across the world deal with on a daily basis. Poor self image and lack of confidence leads to a fearful mindset and effects every avenue of our lives.

Is this you?

1. Inability to make decisions.
A person suffering from low self-esteem often has extreme difficulty making decisions for themselves or others. You’ll rarely find them in managerial or supervisory positions simply because they lack the ability to make good decisions in a timely manner.

2. Enormous amount of shame.
Poor self-esteem always causes a sense of shame inside a person. They are ashamed because they don’t look a certain way or act in a way they think others expect them to. Shame is often a driving factor for someone suffering from low self-esteem.

3. The need to be perfect.
One of the major signs of poor self-esteem is the incessant need for that person to be perfect. A huge majority of perfectionists embrace that frame of mind because they think by being “perfect” they will please others or make others like them more.

4. Inability to handle criticism.
The lack of confidence a person with low self-esteem has causes them to be unable to accept or handle rejection or criticism. When presented with such a circumstance, a person with low self-esteem often retreats or becomes depressed because of a comment made by someone else.

5. Overly pessimistic and/or critical.
In order to protect their own feelings, a person with low self-esteem often takes out their inner feelings on others. They become extremely critical, especially of those closest to them. They are often pessimistic, and can rarely see the positive in any situation, let alone hope for the best.

6. Constantly worries about the future.
A person with low self-esteem tends to “predict” the future by worrying constantly about things that “might” happen. They find it difficult to simply live in the moment and have an intense fear of bad things to come.

Can we end the cycle? YES!
Can we do something about it? YES!

Let's talk, Let's support each other Let's build each other up!

  


Home and Recovering!

Saturday, October 02, 2010

Came through the surgery like a walk in the park ladies! I am off all pain meds. The only slight discomfort I have is the slight bruising from the insicion itself and needles There are no sutures or staples only a few disintigrating steri-strips that will disappear within 7-10 days. I'm already walking four times a day ten minutes at a time. Everything went swimmingly! I have to check back with him in six weeks! That's it that's all she wrote!
I'm discharged from hospital and staying at my friends until next Sunday. Walt is coming up for the day tomorrow. My friend at home; Ashley says he's been cleaning like a banshee making sure there is nothing for me to do when I come home! Bless his heart!

  
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NOMORESTALLING 10/5/2010 6:53PM

    I'm BEHAVING I'm BEHAVING! SHEEEESH! LOL

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OMSYMBOL 10/5/2010 5:38PM

    Wonderful news!!! Now just make sure you do what the docs say and don't overdo it!

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GRAYGRANNY 10/4/2010 4:16PM

    That is great news......now just don't over do when you get home..........a man cleaning??? Gives me goosebumps.....LOL

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MERILYNN1 10/3/2010 10:33AM

    Very. very good news! Be good now - do what the Dr. tells you - let others help you - they want to - and - don't overdo!
Prayers continue - Meri

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LESSOFMOORE 10/2/2010 11:11PM

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Live Your Truth

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Taking the easy way out is, well, just that, easy. Why is it that we as human beings naturally stick with our normal routines because they offer feelings of security? When are we going to realize that by staying in the same routine, we miss out on new opportunities. Why cant more us be like the, third-year student at Harvard University who decided to drop out and pursue something else. The student's name was Bill Gates. He saw an opportunity and took the risk. While this doesn't mean that every dream will transform us into a billionaires, it does shows that some of this world's geniuses took chances to follow their dreams. Guess what. If were going to just sit around waiting around for our goals to just drop out of the sky and drop into your lap, it could take awhile. Our goals are achievable--if we're willing to break from the norm and cast our ship down uncharted waters.

Ask, Believe, Receive - just three simple steps to create what you want. However, very often the second step, believe, can be the most difficult one. And yet it is the greatest step you will ever take. Believing contains no doubt. Believing does not waiver. Believing is absolute faith. Believing remains steadfast despite what is happening in the outside world.
When you master believing, you have mastered your life.

Are your thoughts and actions authentic?

Are you being true to yourself?

Living your truth is what brings meaning and fulfilment to your life.

Yet, many go about their day-to-day wearing a different face for different situations simply to please other people.

That's all well and good but if you're not truly happy, sooner or later, you'll feel pretty miserable.

But, isn't being your self the hardest thing to achieve?

Some may think so. After all, living your truth often requires effort, courage and lots of energy.

In actual fact, it takes up more energy to keep up the pretence when you're living without authenticity.

Socrates once said: "The shortest and surest way to live with honor in the world is to be in reality what we would appear to be."

When you're not living your truth, you feel drained and easily frustrated with life.

It's almost as if you become but a mere shadow of your true self.

If this sounds how you feel, then make today the moment that you start to change your life for the better.

Reflect on what you really want.

Believe in yourself!

Start living your truth and life will be dynamic.

  
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BIGMELITTLEME 9/28/2010 8:29PM

    I read a book called, "If you Want to Walk on Water, You Have To Get Out of the Boat!" It is a great book all about getting out of our comfort zones and taking chances. Reaching out to find out what awesome adventures the Lord has waiting for us to experience if we will just "get out of the boat" and meet him on the water.

The key is to focus on Him and he will bless you beyond your wildest dreams! By Bless you I don't necessarily mean with monitary values. All but one disciple that followed Christ died a martar's death, but every one of them lead a life of real joy and excitement in seeing lives changed around them daily. Not to mention that the Bible tells us not to lay our treasure up here on earth but to lay our treasures up in heaven.

Great Blog love and I will be thinking of you tomorrow.

BigmeLittleme

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Unchartered Waters

Tuesday, September 28, 2010

Taking the easy way out is, well, just that, easy. Why is it that we as human beings naturally stick with our normal routines because they offer feelings of security? When are we going to realize that by staying in the same routine, we miss out on new opportunities. Why cant more us be like the, third-year student at Harvard University who decided to drop out and pursue something else. The student's name was Bill Gates. He saw an opportunity and took the risk. While this doesn't mean that every dream will transform us into a billionaires, it does shows that some of this world's geniuses took chances to follow their dreams. Guess what. If were going to just sit around waiting around for our goals to just drop out of the sky and drop into your lap, it could take awhile. Our goals are achievable--if we're willing to break from the norm and cast our ship down uncharted waters.

my power today lies in possibility. Luck is relative -- still, I choose wisely and am not alone. When I envision, expect and choose great things, I will identify, pursue, and experience great things. I keep my options open and acknowledge emotional clutter or unrealistic expectations. I am empowered by desire for meaning and my gift is opportunity or epiphany."

  
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BAREBONES1 9/28/2010 2:23AM

    I really do like what u have said above and agree xx

I regular break away from what is supposed to be the norm, it just makes the ride so much more interesting.

Great to be back!

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JUST BREATH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Monday, September 27, 2010

Somebody tell me to breathe PLEASE I just got the recall for my surgery; hysterectomy for Wednesday! So I'm in a tizzy;excited and nervous all rolled into one, and trying to make sure everything is in order for DH while I'm away for a better part of 2 weeks! I'll be in hospital for three days and then staying with my BFF for 7-10 days.

  
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NOMORESTALLING 10/2/2010 7:22PM

    Thank you everyone!

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BIGMELITTLEME 9/28/2010 8:17PM

    I had my hysterectomy December 3, 2003 at the age 37. I had a prolapsed uterus and bladder. They went in and took my baby factory, as I call it because I gave birth to four children, and they put my bladder in a sling and tacked it to my abdominal wall. I didn't do too bad really.

The first three days in the Hospital were rough, but they have drugs that will make you quite happy so NO WORRIES. Then I got home and I was only down for about four more days and then I forced myself to move as much as possible because the more you more the quicker you will work the soreness out.

Now, I am NOT talking about running a marathon or doing the fall cleaning or cleaning out the garage or anything like that but force yourself to get up and move around as much as possible. Take a small squishy pillow with you!! This is most important! I called it my belly pillow. It is just a little comfort. Hold it on your tummy when you are up and walking around for the first few days!! My daughter used one when she had her appendectomy too. She had one shaped like a pig. She has it to this day.

You will do great! NO MORE PERIODS! This is the greatest part of the hysterectomy! I love it. I was worried and cried and thought that for some reason I would not be a "whole" woman, BUT let me just say (if you are having any of these feeling) not only do I feel better and am loving the "no period" thing. My husband also loves the hysterectomy thing because we can "you know" every day of the month. We never have to wait because it is that "time of the month". He also said that he can't tell any thing different happened in there. Those were some of my worries.

Good Luck sweetheart and I will be thinking of you tomorrow. Please let me know as soon as you can how things went and how you are doing.

Your sparkly friend,
BigmeLittleme

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QUEENPIFFLE 9/27/2010 7:51PM

    You will be in my prayers for rapid healing. I have been through it and so grateful afterward; my health improved and felt more energy than I had in a long time. Bless you. emoticon

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