Thursday, March 04, 2010
I love being a grown up but let`s face it, what civilization would have us believe about our passage of life as middle age women: being an over-the-hill, dried up, bitchy, menopausal, sexless, useless, discarded, once attractive, no-longer-desirable, stringy-haired, wrinkled old lady...well except for the being bitchy...isn`t entirely BUNK!
It's no wonder we women are in constant search for that magic elixir; anything promising the fountain of youth whether it be the newest creams; Reversalist from Avon is an EXCELLENT one, oils; organic cocunut oil does turn your grey hair back to it`s natural colour. I`ve been doing this for about four treatments now and yes it is working! Then there`s the potions, plastic surgery, lazex surgery, or any dream product that will give us just a few more years before the sentencing of old age becomes our destiny!
So ladies; adolescence, teens and younger adults, make no mistake growing up isn't for sissies!
Doing it well takes work. I've been working on it for quite awhile now and I'm now experiencing those middle age years first hand! Don't misunderstand me here. It has been and will continue to be a worthy endeavor; the time I've put into preparing for change.
Problem is change is happening so rapidly around us that as an individual I have had to and must remain proactive about my health in order to stay abreast of what's happening with my health. We're not supose to feel worn down and worn out; we're not to be predisposed to get the diseases associated with aging. We're suppose to be healthy and happy and if we continue to work at it with the resolve our creator has given us there is no reason why we shouldn't be!
And you know, I wasn`t looking for another lesson in life, but you never know when one will arrive. So here I am cheerfully, or at the least trying to remian indifferent about it all, handling the aging process and being grateful for the wisdom I have gained in exchange for the crows feet begining to appear around my eyes. I had decided it was going to be the best years of my life. I would grow old gracefully. Then... the seven gremlins of menopause arrived! Itchy, Bitchy, Sweaty, Lethargy, Bloated, Forgetful, and All-Dried-Up. One by one they have crept into my private domain and are trying to take over my life.
The first gremlin to arrive unannouced was Itchy. `She` decided to drive me insane with itch anywhere and everywhere! I wanted to scratch the skin right off my body!
The second gremlin whom I have named Alterego was Bitchy! No longer was PMS contained to one or two days a month-it is now constant PMS! She is with me twenty-four-seven. And she too has an alter ego called Weepy; Ms over emotional sensitivty! OH MY GOD what is wrong with me!
Now it`s the middle of the night and Sweaty likes to crawl into bed with me. Not every night but far to often for my liking! Oh yes, and with her she so nicely introduced me to night sweats. And she in turn so graciously introduced me to Lethargy slash Sleepy as well because i am tired 99.9% of the time. Why, because I wake up several times throughout the night and can`t get back to sleep.
And then came Bloated. Do you think she crept in.. By no means! She thought she had to be equally as important as the others! BAM! She was there! Zapping my already portly figure with an extra ten pounds around my mid section even though I was working so hard and diligently following my weight loss; lifestyle change and having success with it! I had dropped 40 pounds so far
And forget trying to remember when Forgetful arrived! All I know is one day my brain started taking mini vacations! You know, I considered myself a pretty focused woman before she came along! Now I have days where i can`t keep a coherent thought in my head! I`ve become a scatter brain! I have given Forgetful the affectionate name of `Sometimers`
And as for Ms All-Dried-Up I haven`t met her yet and don`t intent to!
Yes Menopause has hit and hit like a ton of bricks. And even though I thought I was prepared; talked and disgust with and read umpteen acrticles and literature; others expereinces, ...NOT! I don`t think anyone can prepare for this life altering event! . And not one woman experiences the same as another. It`s the most personal and individual experince a woman can or will ever have.
And we think we have it bad! What about our mates! They are as equally unprepared! Oh at first they are sympathetic and try to be understanding but they quickly tire of the complaining, irritible, argumentative, techy, lethargic rag of a woman formerly known as the love of their life!
So hmmm alleviation..what to do. What`s the first thing we do....run straight to our family doctor for SOMETHING!!!!!!!!!!!! And what`s the first thing they start perscribing.....hormone replacement therapy. Yep it does alleviate the symptoms but then there are the risks. I don`t know about any of you but I certainly DO NOT want the risk of any disease or life threatening illness. What I DO want and NEED is RELIEF from the hot flashes and mood swings! However, the most conventional wisdom in our fix-the-symptom meidcal society leads us women straight to synthetic hormones combined with Prozac or Paxil. that`s all they know! SORRY! NOT FOR ME! I REFUSE to put that garbage into my body! So what is the solution that will send these gremlins packing never to return... because I refuse to let this beat me! I will not go silently into the night and let go of the woman I`ve always been and want to be for the remainder of my twilight years!
Friday, February 26, 2010
And to be brutally honest until it hurts today..? I have been struggling so hard emotionally lately. I know at least 85% of it is hormone levels due to erratic menopause issues but none the less it still effects a body!
As most of you know I went for my bone density test on Wednesday and of course they were wanting me to step on the devil (scales) and I knew I was going got be up because about half way there my body decided to to go into a hormonal fit. I was so bloated and in so much discomfort if someone would have poked me with a needle they would have heard a definite resounding POP! Sure enough I was up TEN pounds!! You can imagine the horror! I could have cried, make that screamed!
Yesterday was a decidedly better day to say the least. And I know today is going to be even better Things have calmed down and I am ON TRACK. I've already completed one set of my exercises and am just now eating my breakfast and onto my third glass of lemon water. I've been up since 6.
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
If there was ever a time to dare, to make a difference, to embark on something worth doing, IT IS NOW. Something that's your inspiration, something that's your dream. You owe it to yourself to make your days here count. HAVE FUN. DIG DEEP. STRETCH. DREAM BIG. Know, though, that things worth doing seldom come easy. There will be good days. And there will be bad days. PERSIST. Because with an idea, determination, and the right tools, you can do great things. Let your instincts, your intellect, and your heart, guide you. TRUST. Believe in the incredible power of the human mind. Of doing something that makes a difference. Of all the things that will cross your path this year. The start of something new brings the hope of something great. You will never become who you want to be by remaining who you are!
You will never become who you want to be by remaining who you are! It cuts right to the chase and puts the responsibility for change right where it belongs doesn't itÖin your hands! If you want a different life, a healthier body or a better job, it wonít happen until YOU make it happen. If you continue to think and act as you presently do, what will your life be like in 5, 10 or 20 years? I think you get the message!
Saturday, January 09, 2010
All of us, at certain moments of our lives, need to take advice
and receive help from other people.
I have to ask, ďDo you want to change anything in your life?Ē I ask this because No matter where you are, regardless of how difficult things might appear to be, you are always being moved toward magnificence. Always.
And in those difficult times, most times we fight the urge to just give up throw in the towel. It's always there just under the surface, like a little red devil sitting on our shoulders.
So to help get us through that here are ten traps to avoid:
Trap 1: The instant gratification trap Itís truly one of the biggest problems in todayís society. We all want everything now, and our ability to put in the effort required has greatly diminished. You want change and you want it now! If you canít get it right now, it doesnít hold your attention. Thatís why we get in trouble in life to begin with: We fail to pay attention.
This belief in magic solutions also makes us susceptible to all the false promises that advertisers sell us. Buy this amazing machine or pill or product, and youíll have the best abs in six weeks! Donít fall for this trap. Put in the effort and time, and the results will come.
Trap 2: The "This is silly," trap If you can simply disqualify something as nonsense, then you donít have to follow through.Congratulations, you win! Now things can remain the same in your life. How do you know about anything, unless you try?
Trap 3: The agreeing trap You already do some of the things I mention, and you agree with them. Now you intellectualize the material while reading and think that by simply acknowledging it, youíre performing the tasks. That doesnít work; you have to actually follow through.
Trap 4: The Iím so smart trap Youíre so smart that you can read everything all at once and learn all the material. Can you go to school and learn a subject in one day? Itís in the continuous studying and discussions that you apply thought to the subject. Itís during this process that the material gets absorbed and translated into your internal language of understanding. Learning is a process. Respect the process, and youíll be the beneficiary.
Trap 5: The eager trap You like what youíre reading and youíre thirsty for more, so you read more until you're in overlaod and overwhelmed! . Can you go into a gym and get in shape in one day? If you try, you work out too much and get sore in the attempt. Then you canít work out anymore, and your eagerness has the opposite effect of what you desired. The timing of learning the secret has been thought out carefully for you. You donít have to figure out how much to do or what to do. All you have to do is follow the process as written.
Trap 6: The robotic trap Your intention is not really to make this process work. Youíre doing it but with no emotional attachment to the process. Like a robot, you do the Exercises but you are disengaged. As Emerson said, ďNothing great has ever been created without enthusiasm.Ē You have to get involved in the process and absorbed. You have to get excited, and you have to have the intention of success. Your intentions remain a subject we will discuss, but you may want to think about it. What are your intentions? Is your intention to make weight loss and change of lifestyle a successful part of your life?
Trap 7: Iíll prove you wrong trap I donít know why, I really donít! Some people get angry when given good advice and they want to disprove it. Theyíll participate in a process but only with the desire of showing that it doesnít work. If this your intention then congratulations once again; you win. If thatís what you want to prove, you can prove that. However, you can only prove it in regards to you. I can prove that it does work, in regards to all those who want it to. Let me ask you, what exactly did you win? As I said, I just donít get it.
Trap 8: Pick and choose trap You like some of the TOOLS, and youíre willing to do those parts. Other things you donít like, so you donít do those. In other words, you pick and choose. It doesnít work that way. Life works as a building process. If you pick and choose, youíre writing your own program and youíre not building what you need to be successful. Please, do it all.
Trap 9: "It doesnít apply to me," trap Great, you donít smoke, so you skip the Reading on smoking. Or you already work out, so that doesnít apply to you. Youíre not overweight. Congratulations, though sixty percent of Americans are. I can go on and on, and I can tell you that in fact, everything applies to you. there are mental connec≠tions that will take place. Itís all a reinforcement and layering process. Also, the real message is not always obvious til you read it. There is a Chinese proverb, ďMiss one step and you will always be a step behind.Ē Letís do this together, step-by-step!
Trap10: Iíll do it tomorrow trap There is another saying: ďIf you do what you have always done, you get what you have always gotten."
Listen, these traps, including this one, are your old behaviors and thoughts trying to take over the process. The point of change is to develop new behaviors and winning thoughts. In order to do that, you have to do it every day, In order to be able to re-create your life and make it whatever you want it to be, all you have to do is:
Follow the yellow brick road. Weíre off to see the Wizard...
-Leo Feist The Wizard of Oz
When we pull back the curtain, youíll see that there is no magic. Itís all about your own personal power and potential, the greatest resource known to humankindóhuman potential
Develyn Steele tools to Life
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