Good Evening; I got home last night after much delays due to weather. I am just trying to rest today. I will start my routine tomorrow. this afternoon my daughter sends me a text that she was admitted to the hospital this morning with a fever and chills. I tried finding out more but nothing yet. I just left yesterday. I know this weekend she did not feel well, but she would not talk with me about it. I was told that I was not needed b/c her DH was there. Not sure when she took a turn for the worse. I am just praying it is an urinary infection- something not too serious. she has a precious baby.
Good Morning: Spent the last time with baby and DD. We had a good morning and had some good conversations. But later that afternoon, she got more closed off. I was there from 9-4, but at that time, she was not talking to me again. My DH called and wanted to talk with my about MIL. I went to DD and told her that I was going back to hotel. I told her that I wanted to thank you for asking me to come and help you out- I will see you again at Easter. I gave her and baby a kiss. My daughter says to me- "Good bye, Mom". Nothing else. I left upset. My DH does not want to go there at Easter now. I told him that we will go for the weekend and then we filled our obligations. She will treat her dad better than me. So I do not understand my DD at all. She is 24.
My DH has told me for years that we need to live for ourselves and not our children. I would have felt guilty if I had not come. I know I helped her. Baby is adorable. I did not do well food wise the last couple of days. I was upset and I did not make good choices. As soon as I am on home turf, I will be fine again. I am not going to beat myself up over my choices, but I will immediate have a sense of relief when I can get into a routine again. I was unprepared at what I encountered with my DD. I never dreamed that she would not be grateful I was there. Maybe it is hormones- I do not know. I just know in my heart that I am glad I did go and I know I made a difference to my DD even though she could not tell me so. Have a good day. MIL is up again and sitting in a chair. 4 doctors have look at her and do not know why she has these episodes.
Good Morning- 40-60 MPH winds with dusty blowing. there was so much dust in the air that you could not seen the road. People were wearing bandannas on their mouths.
I was with baby during the worse of the storm. This is the last day with baby. I did go to the botanic garden and aquarium on Saturday.
Update on MIL- "We went down to visit Mom this afternoon. She was supposed to get her GI exam (they are thinking that she is losing blood some where) and be released on Monday. She was on oxygen when we got there; said she had had some breathing difficulty at 5:30 AM. We were having a good talk when she complained of dizziness and difficulty breathing. We convinced her to call the nurse. Her blood pressure dropped very low and they stabilized her and moved her back to ICU. They put in a central line again before moving her and switched it for a different catheter to monitor blood pressure at the lungs after she got there. They are using a mask rather than a tube to help her breathing so far. Her blood pressure came back up and she was resting when we left. We talked with a cardiologist and a pulmonary specialist in ICU. They still donít know what is causing the episodes. Every test they run on her heart looks fine." DH is can not understand why they can not figure this out.
DS- starting physical therapy this week.
This visit has been very stressful to me. I did not expect this. I was doing so good with food and exercise but did not continue later in the week. I have to get back to the routine when home. My DD barely talks to me. Not sure what that is all about. I will see how it goes today.
Good Morning; yesterday I went to the Pueblo Cultural Center. it was a wonderful and very informative place to learn about the Pueblo Indians. I was a bit stressed when I got there, but as I entered I felt peace. I thoroughly enjoyed my time there. I am not spending too much time with my daughter now. I went there and it was very obvious that SIL is doing more. My DD is more involved with baby with SIL home. I was told that I will not be needed much today. I am going to spend time seeing some more sights today and going over baby's house for a few hours but not much more at this point. I did look to see if I could get a flight out, but too expensive. $1200 for a one way trip. Baby had a doctor visit and the baby is now at birth weight- my DD was very pleased. I was glad that SIL getting more involved. I will be glad to go back home. My DH is not too pleased with my DD about how I have been treated, but she can never say I did not come when she needed help, but next time I might think twice. I did change tickets for over Easter - only coming for weekend and do not feel guilty at all. SIL did tell me thank you for helping with baby- my dd never has. Have a good day.
Good Morning; I have decided to only stay the weekend at Easter. Yesterday morning my daughter tells me that I am not sure how much we will need you this weekend. I told her that will be fine - a nice break. I kind of expected this b/c I did not think SIL would want me around this weekend. My daughter has relaxed but I am getting exhausted. yesterday was the first time she has not made snippy remarks. To date I have not received a thank you. I did find out things that SIL is not helping out at night at all any more. They went out to dinner. They come home at 8 pm- I have been watching baby from 9am until 8 pm. I did go for a walk mid afternoon. I am exhausted. My daughter says to me - you can come at 10 am tomorrow. I say you told me that you did not need me this weekend much - so I thought I would sleep in since I was here so late. What I was being used this weekend is not helping my daughter which is why I am here, but to baby sit. I just assumed SIL would pitch in more this weekend. He has a long weekend off. You see I am a very independent woman - I did not mind having time off this weekend. I just assumed this weekend would be a great time for DD and SIL to continue to learn to deal with baby. I got a text msg later that night and my DD told me to come from 2:30 pm to 5:30 pm. I hope they both realize this baby is forever and I am not going to be here much longer.
I understand my DD has medical issues. She is not resting enough by her choice. Being a mother or a father is not a part-time job.