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Another day of seeing his DD

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Good morning; My DS is so into his daughter.
Two times a day he visits with his daughter. His ex has been extremely cooperative. His daughter calls him daddy and tells him that she loves him. DS and fiancée
hit a bump in the road. She turns to her mother and mother is one of these overprotective mothers. Oh well, I am staying out of it. DS has become happy again b/c of his DD. It is hard for someone to deal with a kid from another relationship and PTSD issues. She is young. I think she envisioned a different kind of trip. Whose knows if this one will work out. I went to the gym already. I have much to do today. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon DD passed her PE exam that she took while I watch my GS. DD was so excited! She called me, but had to stop b/c GS was talking so much. What a happy little boy!!! emoticon emoticon emoticon Enjoy the season!

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1CRAZYDOG 12/17/2014 12:51PM

    Glad your DS is having a good visit w/his DD and that the ex is cooperating!

VERY glad to hear about your DD passing the physical. Awesome!


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    We all have so much more for which to be thankful than over which to dispair. Good things happen to people who expect good things to happen to them.

Make Today the Greatest Day of Your Life

emoticon Until Tomorrow!

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HMBROWN1 12/17/2014 8:33AM

    Have a great day!

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Wonderful news - there is hope!

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Good Morning: DS went to visit DD yesterday 2x. Ex was very cooperative. At the second visit, DD actually hugged DS. I was sent a photo. He called last night. He was 10 ft high. He says now I can be a real father. But the most surprising thing is that he asked if ex and DD could go and see his lawyer, just to tell the lawyer things were going good. Ex agreed! So maybe all the prayers everyone was sending including me lighting candles in every church I saw in Italy was the charm. I just hope this cooperation continues. Ex looked like she was ready to deliver any time.
I am just grateful that Ex really cared for her DD and my son to let this happen like
adults. At some point, I might send a letter to thank her. I am never sure what to do when it comes to his ex. She can be so volatile. Just back from the gym. Have a good day.

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ERIN_POSCH 12/16/2014 12:28PM

    thanks for the praise report. =)

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1CRAZYDOG 12/16/2014 9:12AM

    Good job! That is awesome that they could do this for their daughter. SHE'S the one in the middle. So happy!

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ALOHAEV1 12/16/2014 8:55AM

    Huge hugs and high fives. Wow you were out and about at the crack of dawn this morning.

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EVIE4NOW 12/16/2014 8:54AM

  If the ex is volatile, I wouldn't send her a letter to pick apart and find fault. She would probably read something into every sentence you did not intend. Even if she doesn't, she might feel like you are patronizing her.

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talked to DH about yesterday

Monday, December 15, 2014

Good Morning; DH is so tired of the problems with DS and his adjusting to his disability. DS was doing fine, but now this legal case. He knows from the past DS's ex is a real crazy person. So he expects much drama this week and he is so tired of
it. Now all these visits to see his daughter when we both know DS can not afford it.
He signs a legal decree stating he can visit monthly. DS wants to see his daughter badly but now realizing what he signed up for. We could not convince him before.
He is in the city where his daughter resides. His first visit will be today.
I am doing great mentally and did gym already. emoticon emoticon
Have a good day!!

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SMITHKRISTI 12/15/2014 4:14PM


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1CRAZYDOG 12/15/2014 10:56AM

    Glad you and DH talked. Hope things go peacefully as they can for your DS

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DS is off to see his DD

Sunday, December 14, 2014

Good Morning: took DS and GF to airport. I thought we would have a problem with DS - no it was DH. He wanted to argue about anything and be stubborn out of the earshot of DS. I told him what the hell is wrong with you. He used to get like this when the kids are around. It is not helpful at all. At the airport, my DS is in his wheelchair and we are about to cross the street. DH is wheeling my son. All of a sudden my DS flies out of his wheelchair and onto the street. My DH had gotten the front wheels stuck in a crack. I could not believe it. My DS tells my DH it is ok b/c when they build things they do not take wheel chairs into consideration. I just know the mood my DH was in - he was not thinking or being careful. We are home and my DH is all of a sudden being helpful! I just do not know what has gotten into him, but it sure is stressful. I am doing great on my program and about to go to gym. Without my program I think I would lose my mind. emoticon

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NELLIEC 12/14/2014 3:34PM

    Makes me wonder if your DH is jealous of the attention your children get.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/14/2014 11:35AM

    OMG! I am glad that your DS is all right. I would not have been a happy camper!

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A rough night yesterday

Friday, December 12, 2014

Good Morning. DS is going to see his daughter. He has not been on pain medication for quite a while - not b/c he has not pain, but b/c doctors are not prescribing them.
I do not know how DS does it. But yesterday he goes to doctor thinking b/c of his trip he will get some. He hasn't been on a plane for 3 years due to this back. The compression on his back is really bad. The doctor refuses to give him pain meds. DS and I developed a plan to get off the plane and go to ER for pain relief. They might give him 3 days worth and they can help him. emoticon DS's anxiety has been really bad since his Ex knows he is going out. she is trying to goat him. The latest she is going to move to Hawaii with his daughter. DS's fiancées called me and asked me how to deal with DS's anger. I told her some hints, but he needs to get back to counseling. Her mother is pushing the wedding. I also told her that b/w the legal case, PTSD, his disability and then her mother going crazy with wedding plans. I told her to tell her mother to back off. DS can not take all this stress. When DS gets anxious so does his dog, b/c it was never fully trained as a PTSD dog. I filled fiancée in on DS's fears. He is ashamed of how he is with his disability and all his mental problems. He wants an easy fix and not willing to do the long work yet. He needs a counselor again to help him get skills. He was doing so much better without the stress of this legal case and this trip. I am doing fine! It seems when things are crazy, I actually get super strong and focused with my program. I just know I can not survive huge amount of stress without my program for me. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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EVIE4NOW 12/12/2014 10:17AM

  I think he has to sign a consent form for her to take daughter out of state. At least here he would. You're right. Fiancee (and her mom) needs to back off.

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1CRAZYDOG 12/12/2014 10:02AM

    OH boy. Glad you and DS developed a plan for pain control when he visit his daughter. I am glad you had the change to speak w/his fiancée so that she knows what to do too. It's a lot to deal with, as you very well know!


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