Tuesday, September 25, 2012
I have been part of weight loss groups over the years. TOPS and weight watchers to name the two biggest ones. These were groups. A group to me is a meeting of individuals with similar interest. These groups had a general theme of weight loss. The one big thing about these groups is the personal interaction. Most of the time there is one meeting a week. You weigh and then spend about an hour listening to someone tell you how to reach some figment number. They promise you that if you follow their plan buy their products and suffer through you will reach this goal. Time is limited so there is not much time to question the beliefs behind these theories. There are a lot smiling faces and hushed whispers. Funny how these meetings often made me feel the same way as going out to eat. A lot of polite faces with even more I cant believe she is here again. Not that they were not all nice most were but i never felt like it was comfortable enough to let down my fat shield . There were always the plateaus and the gasp like you went back seconds when you shouldnt have. No explanation of how you worked your tail off to follow some program that they designed but never made it any where close to the figment number. The favorite saying " try harder and you will get there" No one ever said I am sorry maybe this plan isnt for you. No one ever said here lets break this down and see why this isnt working for you. Oh and no one ever said here let me refund your money either. Sometimes the loneliest place in the world is in a group of people.
A team is a group of individuals who work together to accomplish a said goal. On Spark People this is the difference I believe. Here one searches out the teams that share common strengths and some times weaknesses. You find these teams and join. There is no promise of reaching a goal. However, through the teams you find support, knowledge and acceptance. A team is only as strong as its weakest link. For the teams I am own right now I am the weakest link. I cant compete in exercise challenges as I recover. However, not one team has asked me to leave because of my injury. I made the decision not to hurt one of my challenge teams and I moved to a slower paced team. But that decision was made for two reasons: 1. on a team that competes with other teams it is important that everyone be able to give a lot for the betterment of the team, to which my best will fall short right now. 2. I know me and if I feel like I am letting someone down then that becomes my excuse and I fall off into a bottomless pit of self loathing. So I removed that as a possibility. On the teams I have found here people actually talk about issues. There is actual support here. People who struggle the same as you do and are willing to discuss things to help you get past the roadblocks that stand in your way.
It is alright to belong to groups or teams to help in the process. Just for me I dont want you to chastise me because your plan doesnt work . I have come to find out through Spark People that every thing might be might my final decisions however not everything is meant to work with me to start with. We are all different striving to meet similar goals but the paths we take are often very different. When you try to fit my roundness into a square box you will find a squishy mess lol ... I am just glad that I have found the right box that i fit in. I dont function well as a group but I strive as part of a team. I am an individual who likes to be included but I am also individual to start with.