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BLUESMURF_BS
4/15/2010 7:12PM
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i am here for ya and you will get your spark back
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BLUESMURF_BS
3/25/2010 11:38AM
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i am here for ya all the way Lesley 
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ANALYZETHIS1
3/15/2010 2:52PM
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DAWNO64
3/12/2010 9:50AM
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I know how you feel; after reaching my goal weight last spring, I pretty much spent all fall and winter slacking, looking at exercise DVDs and buying some, but not using them. And the weight started coming back. And still I didn't change my ways. Finally, I told myself I couldn't wait for my motivation to appear, I had to hunt it down. The last two weeks, I've been exercising more. MAKE yourself do ten minutes. I started out with that, and now I'm starting to feel my spark again. And hang in there. You're not the only one who feels this way.
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-LORI-B
3/11/2010 2:17PM
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Lesley.. There isnt much else I can say that hasnt been said. If you start simple with 10 minutes of exersise..drink your water, eat good. Later on try another 10 minutes. you can add to this once you get back into routine of things. Start small. My other word of advice is something that has been told to me a few times.. Go back and read your past blogs.. remember what you did and how you felt. Maybe this will ignite some of the spark you lost. We love you. LORI Report Inappropriate Comment |
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RAINBOWMF
3/10/2010 8:21PM
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What's wrong with you? Nothing, you are human. Do what I am doing. Stop thinking about your weight and start to think about your health. Think, what should I eat to be healthy. Once you start eating healthy the weight will fall off. Eat healthy and do your exercise. When you start doing your exercise your body will release those wonderful magic endorphins that make you feel so happy. Do you remember? You have the tools here and all the support we can give you, come post and find your way back to feeling great. Love & Hugs Your Friend Mary Report Inappropriate Comment |
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JUSDUCKY
3/10/2010 8:16PM
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I think we all can relate to your blog. We've all been there or are there. One great word of wisdom is the name of the team: baby steps My husband reminds me when I feel overwhelmed to just pick ONE thing you're going to do, then do it. Success fuels success. Good luck! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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BARBARAROSE54
3/10/2010 8:08PM
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Good to see you blogging. Anne gave you some great advise, I know it's what I had to do, relax and take it one day at a time. The more out of control you get the more you feel like you can't do it and it becomes this cycle that seems unbreakable. Take a deep breath, and relax and start babystepping your way back to being healthy once again, and the weight will start to come off. Comment edited on: 3/10/2010 8:09:25 PM Report Inappropriate Comment |
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LOLAJO54
3/10/2010 4:41PM
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You are right and saying it comes down to you.. we are here for you and will motivate you ..try to read some inspiring stories.. like the gal we know Kitt who has lost like 180 lbs! or others like her this will get you going ..knowing they can do it they have done it so will you.. go back and reread what Anne said as this rings so true.. If there is a close friend try Kim or maybe that lady that is in the Spark book...look her up and set up a time when you 2 can have a 1 on 1 talk.. this might help ignite the spark.. but for me it was the inspiring stories of success here that reignited my spark so I strongly urge you to put this in you search and read a lot of these pages and stories... and remember 1 day at a time... and we are all human slip ups happen doesn't mean we give up... just go forward..1 step at a time.. Jo
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1500LUNGES
3/10/2010 4:30PM
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You have the answer, it all starts and ends with you. Now you just need to identify why you struggle with consistency. Keep thinking positive and try not to kick yourself too hard when you stray from your plan. Take a moment to reflect why...are you depressed, frustrated with your routine, self conscious, lacking knowledge of what to do? These are reasons that use to stop me from getting out the door. Now I tell myself that I am worth it and I have to do this to have a better life. Its taken a while, but I don't struggle so much anymore. You can do this! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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CHRISJAKE
3/10/2010 4:19PM
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I second EVERYTHING Anne just said!!! LOL!!! I hope you realize you are worth the effort and like Anne said, take it one step at a time. 30 minutes everyday. Can be as simple as a walk around the block. We are all here for you and miss you and hope to see you a bit more soon. You can do this, we know you can!!! LOVE YOU!!! HUGS Chantelle Report Inappropriate Comment |
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QUEENANNE1953
3/10/2010 4:14PM
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My dear Lesley .. you just have to take it one day at a time ... and don't downplay and say how 'easy' it was the last time .. it wasn't easy .. you put a lot of hard work and effort into getting the weight off .. and you did great. So that's what you have to do again .. only this time .. perhaps you can take it down a notch .. 30 mins a day of exercise .. add strength to some days .. that way you won't get burnt out. Write down everything you eat .. even if its not the best .. and eventually you will make better heart healthy food choices. The weight will again begin to peel off. Your own words speak the truth ... you don't want to be sitting in the doctors' office with all kinds of ailments pondering on how you could have avoided that visit. Board participation is one of the best tools .. you don't have to spend hours a day on the computer 'talking' to us and doing long posts responding to everybody .. but you do need to come and post on at least a daily basis to be accountable .. saying how you ate, what form of exercise you did, how you feel .. that sort of thing. The encouragement and motivation you can get from others trying to do the same thing is the best form of support. You are worth the effort, Lesley, and everything is achievable .. you just have to believe it as your background picture says ..  Hugs always  Comment edited on: 3/10/2010 4:21:23 PM Report Inappropriate Comment |
I know you all want me to come to the boards and ask for support but its hard for me right now. I am an emotional wreck and this about all i can do for now. i cant stop crying all day. Mary i know your so right i need to take care of me but i feel so sad and alone i find it hard to even do that right now. I hate that i am not who i want to be , or who i am really and that all i do is complain but i am truly have a very tough time and just feel like i have lsot all my strength lately to be strong. I thought maybe blogging would help. I know u all tell me if anything at least let you know where i am at and at this time i am not in a good place. Its 2 days before Christmas and i LOVE christmas more then when i was a kid but this year i just want ot pack it up and sleep through it like it doesnt exsist my heart is hurting so much . I feel like i am in a crowded mall and everyone walks through me like i dont exsist or i am drowning and no one can hear my cries for help.
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SHANSHE
1/11/2010 5:10PM
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Lesley, I know I am late in getting here, but I have read all your blogs from the last one I missed and my heart hurts for you. Christmas is over, the New Year has started. Are you feeling any better, have you went to the doctor for help? I know in the emotional state you were in when you wrote this, it would have been really hard to make yourself get up and go to the doctor. However, this is something you REALLY need to do for you, for your hubby, for your little girl, but mainly for you. Please, if you haven't, go to the doctor. Hugs, Shan Report Inappropriate Comment |
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BLUESMURF_BS
1/2/2010 9:15PM
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i am here for ya Lesley. I know you can do it. If ya need a push i will help you out. Hugz Kyle 
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BARBARAROSE54
12/24/2009 9:52PM
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Hope you can get into your doctor and get help, sounds like a very deep depression, but only a doctor can diagnose you. Just know that you are loved ! Report Inappropriate Comment |
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-LORI-B
12/24/2009 12:07PM
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.. Im sorry you are having a rough time these days. There isnt much else I can say that hasnt been said..Remember you are loved and cared for. Loves ya, Lori Report Inappropriate Comment |
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MOTHER-NATURE
12/24/2009 5:26AM
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Lesley
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JOYFULWRITER
12/23/2009 11:52PM
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I have also had a hard time getting ready for Christmas. This will be our fist Christmas without my daughter Roberta who died in September. I just have to keep going because of my two daughters. It is hard some times. I wish I could cry, but I have a hard time crying. I keep posting, even though I am not able to work the program like I want to. We love you Lesley and need to support you all we can. Email me if you want to share your feelings. You can also go to my web page, and read about how I felt I was in sinking sand and other writings I wrote when I was hurting. Report Inappropriate Comment |
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LOLAJO54
12/23/2009 10:16PM
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Lesley -- really not much more for me to say that these ladies already haven't said .... I agree --you need to get to your doctor and get on proper meds that will help you... Fast my dear fast. Yes please e-mail any of us so we can be there for you even if it is just to let you write and we read.. I will e-mail you..   Jo Report Inappropriate Comment |
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QUEENANNE1953
12/23/2009 9:42PM
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Life is not easy .. there are so many ups and downs. Some can handle it .. others can't. We are all here for you Lesley my dear but it is quite obvious you need a ittle more than we can give. Depression, as you know, must be dealt with from within .. listen to Mary .. seek professional help. I hope things will get better for you. You must remember that YOU ARE WORTH IT, YOU ARE LOVED, YOU ARE WOMAN ... YOU CAN BE STRONG ...
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RAINBOWMF
12/23/2009 9:08PM
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Lesley, A while back we told you to get to the Dr. to get some meds, you told us you were headed for a dark place , sweetie you are in it now. Christmas is one of the worst times of the year for people who suffer with depression. You need to know that we are here for you, I know you feel us. I know how you feel, you have no strength to do anything but what YOU have to do on a daily bases, I know because I have been there too. I know you are in pain. I know you feel sadness. I am like Linda and after I while, I give my head a shake, there are so many people that have problems so much greater then mine. So, I put one foot in front of the other, take deep breaths and get back to making myself feel better. Lesley, you know you need help, please go to the Dr. and get it. E-mail any of us we are here for you. 
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WINTER20101
12/23/2009 8:17PM
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Lesley I do not know what is really going on...i just know that my heart goes out to you..i see a very smart and warm and caring person in you....it sound like you are in a deep depression for some reason...i hope and pray that you will check it out..just know that when you are ready we are all here for you....i have been there and done that.......you just have to find something to lift you out....for me i just look around and look at other peoples problems and always kinda snaps me out...If you ever want to talk iam a email away and i can always give you my home number and cell.... Yes we worrie about you .....cz you are part of our board family and very special.....wish at times like this we all lived close where we could just hug and have a special touch instead of syber..but that is not the case.....just know that you are special and what ever you are going through you will make it.....believe in that.....just pull your strenght up .. MY prayers are always with you.....i pray that you wil have a change of heart and you will wake up to a wonderful day tomorrow......love ya
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CIAOBELLA57
12/23/2009 8:04PM
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I feel the same way; in fact I was fantasizing how I would like to really spend the next 6 days I am off from work in a sanitarium sleeping all day. Always feel free to post what you feel, because there might be someone lurking out there feeling as isolated and invisible as you do, and knowing that they are not alone or different could make a world of difference. I call it the "alice in wonderland falling down the rabbit hole' periods of my life, and the hardest part during those times is to speak either in conversation or the written word. But both can help stop the spiral downward, and no one will EVER think you are complaining; you're in pain, and most of us understand that pain.
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CHRISJAKE
12/23/2009 7:39PM
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I know somewhat how you feel, but probably not to the extent that you are at right now. I know you think that we will get sick of you complaining or something, but I promise you we won't. We are your friends and we want you to be happy and right now you are not. We want to help you in any way we can. I wish you could come here and complain all you want and we will help, but I know you don't feel comfortable doing that right now. May be Sparkmail some of us just to vent, or to ask for help??? Friends are meant to help us, and right now that's what we want to do for you. We don't want you to feel the way you do and we would do just about anything to help you out. I hope that you can find the strength to come post and let us help you in any way we can. We love you and want to see you happy. Love you girl!!! We all do!!! HUGS Chante lle Report Inappropriate Comment |
great blog Lelsey, very true words, and hope we all listen and heed.
Take care! :) Bren 
looks good. Glad to know you are back on track
