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What is Indulgence?

Thursday, January 03, 2013

Ever notice how those of us with weight issues always think of "indulgence" in terms of food? My intuitively normal sister doesn't. For her, indulgence is sleeping in, or having an hour to read a book. For some it's enough hot water to take a long hot shower. Or a massage. For me, it's food.

But it doesn't have to be foods I shouldn't eat. I will always think of food as reward and comfort, as pleasure and indulgence, but I have altered the concept of "indulgence" to mean a special version of foods I can have, formerly known in WW as "legal". Sometimes I'll use a fat exchange as a small piece of bacon with my egg. Or take the time to simmer that wonderful tomato sauce. Or, indulgence of indulgences, 3 oz of filet mignon instead of ground beef.

Jean Nidetch used to talk about how much thought and creativity went into being fat, how she had to select the lounge chair closest to the pool to shorten the distance between dropping the wrap and being in the water. How carefully she had to select her hat and necklace to draw eyes to her face and away from her body. That same creativity can go into selecting food.

They say that a simple change in attitude changes everything. Simple? HAH! But we change our attitudes about a lot of things, like in-laws and technology, even home decoration. And we can do it about food. I will always think of food first, but indulgence doesn't have to mean whipped cream. It can mean lobster tail or lamb chops. I can feel totally indulged and still be "legal".

  
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FIRECOM 1/15/2013 9:57AM

    An OCCASIONAL indulgence is a good thing. I always remember that the first three letters of diet are DIE. SP is a lifestyle change, not a miserable diet.

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WATERMELLEN 1/6/2013 8:01AM

    Fresh raspberries all year round: yup, huge indulgence (especially at $4 a pint).

Cheaper than kettle chips. In more ways than one.

Great great blog: and thanks for your comment on my craves and faves blog!.

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KATHIC2 1/5/2013 10:08AM

  Many wonderful indulgences await us in life. How about skiing on a sunny day? And a hot tub after? Thanks for the reframing.

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PINKNFITCARLA 1/4/2013 8:53PM

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EVER-HOPEFUL 1/4/2013 4:55PM

    or dream topping the indulgence of whip cream with less fat and calories,lol.to me though indulgence is being able to iron in peace without interuptions or a bubble bath in peace without interuptions.lets face it anything without interuption would be an indulgence,lol. emoticon blog by the way love. emoticon

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ZEEDRA 1/4/2013 10:50AM

    Thanks!
Being selective. Hmmmm. It's making me realize that I'm a "catch-as-catch-can" person in many areas. Even in my reading. I know that I can check books reviews or friends' opinions including friends on Spark, but...Oh, No!...I must be "intuitive" and "live in the moment" and be independent, often ending up with books from the library that I don't read.
It's fun being helter skelter! Oh, yeah. So, where has this attitude taken me? To a disorganized life, in many areas...call people at the last minute instead of making a plan-ahead coffee meeting. And how does that work? It doesn't! Now they are doing the same to me. They're calling ME at the last minute and I'm beginning to resent it.
This ties in with eating habits because I DON'T PLAN and end up grabbing whatever is around or grab something just before I get to the cashier and that's often JUNK.
You've shown me and others, Nell, that we are all worth more than that PLUS we can have a good life by using our brains, knowing our weaknesses and playing to our strengths.
Sorry to go on and on. Your blogs always inspire though I've yet to embrace your messages. If I was rich, I'd hire your for three months!!! Happy New Year!!! Sandra

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CELIAMINER 1/4/2013 8:23AM

    Nell, since you have kept your weight off for decades, it's eye-opening to read that you still struggle with food. My rail-thin trainer was surprised yesterday when I mentioned stories I've read of people who kept weight off for two years or more and then gained it back. "You'd think they'd have developed better habits in all that time," she commented. Maybe, but I had just blurted out that I was starting to feel deprived because I wanted to eat a big ol' buffet lunch of Chinese food, and I realized that I had just thought of such a lunch as "normal" eating. Where did that come from? So, while I don't wish torment for you, it's reassuring to know I'm not alone in this struggle that will probably last the rest of my Foodie life.

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MEDDYPEDDY 1/4/2013 2:36AM

    Hmm, smoked salmon is one of the indulgences I will put on my list...good blog, need to think about it for a while!

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LIBBYL1 1/4/2013 1:20AM

  I think of food and non food indulgences - going to a morning movie in the middle of the week for example is to me a delicious indulgence!
And I have a taste indulgence every day (and track it and keep within my range in anticipation of it) - one block of really good dark chocolate (at the moment have ferrero rocher noir box and so look forward to my one every night that it motivates me to make sure I still have enough in my calorie allowance to indulge)

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123ELAINE456 1/4/2013 12:32AM

  Awesome Blog!!! I will Agree with You Too. God Bless You and Have a Terrific Day. Take Care.

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NASFKAB 1/3/2013 11:45PM

  very true great way to put it though I prefer ground beef to steak but that's me

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TINAJANE76 1/3/2013 12:26PM

    I totally agree! I don't think having an indulgence means that we have to go off plan. I love experimenting with healthy recipes that are satisfying and taste great without breaking my calorie bank. It definitely keeps me even more motivated like I can really keep up my healthy lifestyle changes permanently.

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SUZYMOBILE 1/3/2013 12:22PM

    Mmmmm, filet mignon! emoticon

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MANDELOVICH 1/3/2013 12:19PM

    Great point. And more and more I'm starting to think of non-food indulgences as ways to help me stay on track. For example, reading a great book, watching a movie, seeing a friend - all indulgences when I'm generally so busy and harried.

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KAYYVAUGHN 1/3/2013 11:50AM

    Your blog makes sense to me. I often swap foods for something that I haven't had it a long time.

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JILLITA55 1/3/2013 11:44AM

    great blog. love it emoticon

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SWEETYOUNGTHING 1/3/2013 11:42AM

    Hmmmm........you've given me something to think about; thank you!

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Financial Planning vs Weight Loss

Friday, December 28, 2012

Controlling your spending and the discipline to lose weight have a lot in common. They both require denying yourself something today in order to have something tomorrow. They are both about controlling and redefining gratification. But there ARE differences.

With money, the sooner you start saving, the more you'll have more easily down the years. Start saving when you are 20 and you'll be in good shape by the time you are 65. At 30, you have to save more to get to the same place. If you wait until you are 40 or 50, the reduced years of compounding will require much greater sacrifice in order to reach retirement goals.

But with weight loss, YOU CAN START AT ANY TIME and still achieve the same results! There is no mathematical penalty. It is never too late! If you start saving for retirement today, you won't be ready in one year. If you start a weight loss plan today, you WILL be exactly where you want to be one short year from now.

You don't need to take admittance exams. You don't need to qualify. You don't need to be rich or famous. Goal weight is available to anyone who Just Does It One Day At A Time.

  
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FAT2GAINHEALTH 1/15/2013 7:13PM

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RICHARJ 1/2/2013 9:04AM

    This is the kind of thought process that one can relate to and how to start off a New Year in a constuctive way!

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CHRISTINASP 12/30/2012 3:44PM

    Interesting thought. I don't think however that its true that with weight loss it is never too late. One can do A LOT of damage up until age x (say, fifty). Get diabetes, hurt and wear out joints, etcetera. Being overweight does take a toll that sometimes can't be reversed.


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CELIAMINER 12/30/2012 1:17PM

    We have long had good savings plans in place, but as we try to save more while disposable income shrinks due to pay freezes/cuts, more contributions to medical/retirement, etc., we are having to look hard at where to cut spending. Getting our financial house in order is a major 2013 goal.

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KATHIC2 12/30/2012 8:35AM

  I see a correlation for myself here: when I am eating well and exercising and am not spending more than I would like. Love your wisdom!

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EVER-HOPEFUL 12/29/2012 2:49PM

    love it. emoticon

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BELTONWALKER67 12/29/2012 11:20AM

    Love it! I, too, started too late on the financial aspect...but will survive..hopefully! Weight loss and healthy living I am doing one day at a time. Thank you for the comparisons. emoticon

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JEANNE229 12/29/2012 10:12AM

    I love this blog. And I love your ability to make connections that are so easy to grasp. You rock!

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GABY1948 12/29/2012 8:33AM

    GREAT blog and so well put. I am thankful every day that I had parents that taught me well about money. But, neither had a weight issue so I have been learning that on my own. Thank you for a wonderful TRUTH-blog

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123ELAINE456 12/29/2012 2:04AM

  An Awesome Blog. And very Well Put.God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. Enjoy Today. Take Care.

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MEDDYPEDDY 12/29/2012 1:22AM

    I did really start saving too late but I can go for the wieghtloss... emoticon

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NASFKAB 12/28/2012 11:51PM

  well thought out loved it

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FISHINGLADY66 12/28/2012 8:56PM

    Great blog Nell and very well put. You are so right. emoticon

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PINKNFITCARLA 12/28/2012 8:36PM

  Great blog!

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TEDYBEAR2838 12/28/2012 7:53PM

    That is an AWESOME POST!

Thanks

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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CATHY629 12/28/2012 5:12PM

    Good advice,i like this blog,i really needed something like this to motovate me.
Cathy
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KAYYVAUGHN 12/28/2012 2:40PM

    emoticon Nell, that is so true.

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KAYYVAUGHN 12/28/2012 2:40PM

    emoticon Nell, that is so true.

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I reached goal weight 42 years ago!

Monday, December 24, 2012

I am not quite sure of the exact date, it was really a long time ago, but it was about Christmastime 1970. My goal has dropped since then; as I've gotten older I can't carry the same amount of weight. I weigh about 10 pounds less now than my original 21 year old goal. I sure can't eat as much as I did back then. If I ate today what I ate to lose when I was 21, I'd GAIN weight. I remember gaining 10 pounds over menopause, but that was about accepting a radical change in how my body worked, and once I accepted the new limitations (arrgghh!) that weight came off.

Is it easy? Well, it's easy-ER, but not always easy. A goal doesn't need to be easy in order to be achieved. I remember the events of the last 42 years vividly, but not so much the food that accompanied them. There's a lesson in that. I eat to my Plan and enjoy the events. That's how I have a life worth remembering.

Some people tell me that I must be very strong to be able to stay at goal weight, but it isn't true. People with physical limitations learn to live with them because they have no choice and it's obvious. I have food limitations and I DO have a choice, but I accept them and live within them. It's not always easy, but limitations are limitations even when they are invisible to others.

And today I will be prepping the big dinner here tomorrow. I am now Grandma. The big dinners we had every year at my mother's are now here. Most of the older generation is gone, just Mom now, but lots of new family members in the newest generation. I get to feed them, which gives me the opportunity to cook mounds of food. They are all of normal weight, so they'll eat and drink moderately (how did I manage to have moderate kids???) and they take all the rest home. I'll be left with a safe, warm house with lots of happy memories in the very air. Memories are calorie free and I feast on them.

Have a glorious Christmas everyone!!

  
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AMANDEES76 1/2/2013 4:17PM

    Inspirational!

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LLAY10 1/2/2013 11:21AM

    Amazing!

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CAM2438 12/31/2012 7:23AM

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CHRISTINASP 12/30/2012 3:47PM

    Thank you for sharing. Reading your blog I wondered how much it was you lost. Found out on your sparkpage that it's 33 pounds?

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DESERTFLOWERG 12/28/2012 9:35PM

    Wow! Great message.

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PEACEHOPE1 12/28/2012 8:51PM

    Beautiful blog, thank you!

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MARELLAJ 12/28/2012 11:52AM

    Thank you sooooo much for this post! It was very inspiring to me, especially the part about accepting limitations. Just what I needed to hear! God bless you!

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DOTTIEJANE1 12/28/2012 10:32AM

    Awesome, thanks for sharing . Now i just gottta get this all working together, So glad that you shared with us .

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KRISKECK 12/28/2012 9:47AM

    Nell, I have a question: what was the radical change in the way your body works after menopause? Do you mean metabolism slowing down or is it something else, or something more than that? I am curious, because the same thing happened to me.

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PENOWOK 12/28/2012 8:37AM

    Wonderful!

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PURPLEDRAGONM 12/28/2012 1:42AM

    "Memories are calorie free..." I will remember this gem of wisdom, thank you. Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience, and for a smile before I sleep tonight.

Blessings,
--Beth.

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J2740LOU 12/27/2012 4:48PM

    Great Blog! Thanks for sharing. emoticon Your attitude is so positive it's contagious!

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    emoticon post. Thanks for sharing.

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    emoticon emoticon emoticon Keep up the wonderful, positive attitude. :)

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RICHARJ 12/27/2012 12:12PM

    I get it,but can I do it? emoticon

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WALLINMW 12/27/2012 11:15AM

  Thanks for sharing!

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RASIRE 12/27/2012 10:59AM

  Beautiful post. Thank you!

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FIRECOM 12/27/2012 10:59AM

    Great thoughts. people with some bad habits can go cold turkey. When I was a smoker (5 packs a day) I just quit one day. Now my bad eating habits, that are still lurking out there, cannot be cured by simply stopping eating.

One thing for sure. Getting old aint for sissies.


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LYNAND62 12/27/2012 10:02AM

    Thank you for the reminder! I loved this post!

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PINKIE78 12/27/2012 9:41AM

    I love this! :) Thanks for sharing. Your wisdom in the words "memories are calorie free" is something I need to write on my heart. I was thinking just this morning that what I love most about going out to eat with my friends is simply the fellowship. Yes, I also love the food, but I wouldn't enjoy the food as much without the fellowship. So that's where I need to focus at the next outing. Thanks for your inspiration today!

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TEDYBEAR2838 12/27/2012 8:51AM

    What a beautiful post. THANK YOU!

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KATHIC2 12/27/2012 7:58AM

  You are so inspiring! I admire your wisdom and down to earth praticality.

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NANFACEMIRE1 12/27/2012 6:47AM

    emoticon I know you will keep up the good work......

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THEIS58 12/27/2012 6:11AM

    Inspiring!

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SLFGOLF 12/27/2012 1:03AM

    Great job! Maintaining for so long. That is something many people are unable to do. It is an aspiration I am trying for.

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PIRATELASS 12/27/2012 12:27AM

    I really enjoyed this blog posting. Thank you so much for sharing. You are an inspiration to me! I am not losing or maintaining what I already lost. I need inspiration from posts and folks like you to help me get my mindset back in the groove. I too loved your comment about memories being calorie free and that you feast on them. Such a beautiful thought!

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CM_GARDNER78 12/26/2012 11:56PM

    Fantastic! Great job...and have a Happy New Year!!

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NPARAKH 12/26/2012 10:30PM

  Very cool!!!!!

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LELERS 12/26/2012 10:28PM

    Nice job! Congrats! emoticon

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SPAQUEEN2012 12/26/2012 9:27PM

    Thank you for reminding me that being "normal" for some of us is a life-long mission -- and worth the work.

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PAM_COOPER 12/26/2012 8:09PM

    Your post reminded me that some of the 'normal' weight people may just have been where I have been and are now 'maintaining' -- even when it has been almost a lifetime of maintenance. I am so proud of you for maintaining all those years--you are stronger than I.

At 14 I was healthy and had finally acquired a normal weight (after being a very overweight child) but I didn't keep it off more than for a few years. I gained it all back after my second child was born. Then I tried again in my 30's and this weight (all 112 lbs) came back faster than it left. After that I gave up for 20 years, reasoning that yo yo-ing was also bad for my health.

Last year I had an epiphany when my overweight adult daughter decided to have weight loss surgery. Suddenly, I realized my failure--not just about my own weight issue but my failure as a parent setting my children up for lifelong weight problems. I felt SO bad and decided if I get on board again, maybe just maybe, I can influence my children who thought being 'fat' was their inherited destiny. I honestly didn't realize how I was affecting my children and their mindset.

Well, even though I had lost 1/2 my weight goal by March of this year, my daughter went through with her surgery decision (and has done well), I was able to influence my other daughter who is now working to do it the old fashion way.

I totally regret not being able to MAINTAIN for 40 plus years, but glad I NOW know HOW to maintain and realize it is NEVER to late to get a grip on it if you can! I have punished myself enough with being fat and it is now time to enjoy my new life with NO MORE REGRETS--yesterday is past and I can't get it back!!!! BUT, the good news is I now have tomorrow and a new thin family. My daughters and I are making new non-food traditions and healthier food dishes that promote health and not heart attacks.

I have now lost 140 lbs. and working on maintaining--which, for me, is harder that losing. It's learning to live life as a NORMAL thin person. I am STILL an addict (as I have discovered on 'free' days . . . such as Christmas) No day is really free, because I am an addict! I must be mindful even when I want or allow myself to indulge a little more than usual.

I hope your message reaches those who are working on and reaching their weight loss goals and helps them to always be mindful so that they don't have to revisit obesity again in their lifetime. And, that the example THEY are setting could be helping not only themselves, but those who are watching -- their children and others.

Thank you for your post and congratulations on maintaining for all these years. I commend you!!!!

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SUSANK16 12/26/2012 7:45PM

  well written&nice to hear

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NLYR20 12/26/2012 3:57PM

  Wonderful to see that your choice to lead your life in healthy way for decades. It reminds me to commit on my own journey. emoticon emoticon

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YA_YAYA 12/26/2012 3:09PM

    Great post. Thank you for sharing and happy holidays. emoticon

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Making Christmas Cookies

Saturday, December 22, 2012

It's that time of year. I only make 3 sweets for Christmas, the favorites of decades in my family. I can pass up the pecan snowballs and have just a small piece of Chip N Cherry cake. But oh the sugar cookies! My kids and grandkids, nieces and nephews require them at Christmas, and it's my happy job to deliver. I use the same cookie cutters that my mother used when I was little, and I just ice them but don't decorate them which really would take hours and hours. My kids call them "crack", addicting, and they are. And I always eat them. Every year. I'll send them home to 5 grateful households after Christmas, leaving this grateful household without them.

And it's just once a year. I suppose that is part of why they taste so good. I won't eat commercial sugar cookies; they just aren't nearly as good as mine, and I never let myself eat other people's cookies just in case I like them too much. My family is very good at looking forward to a special food and only eating it then. It's something I trained them to do, then as I've gotten older, their comfortable joy in anticipation of a rare treat comes back to me. I taught my kids, now I learn those same lessons all over again from them. Which is a good thing since at my age weight comes on faster and comes off slower. My grandmother warned me about this phenomenon and I wish she were still here so I could chuckle with her about it.

Time to make the icing, and fight to keep the cats off the cookies. Unfortunately, they like it, too.

  
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MIRFA71 12/25/2012 1:27PM

    Beautiful memories.. And we all want to taste your delicious and beautiful cookies. and the only way is that if you can please share the recipe. emoticon emoticon

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DARLENEK04 12/24/2012 11:36PM

  C'mon Nell, Share that cookie recipe...........


we want to have the same fun ..........


Merry Christmas,
Darlene

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ZUCCHINIQUEEN 12/24/2012 8:35AM

    I'm trying really hard to form some of your same philosophy. In any case, your blogs are a big help to me, and help me to do some hard thinking.
I'm not THERE yet, but I'm trying.

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CANDLE29 12/24/2012 7:17AM

    I really enjoyed your post. So many similarities to my cookie making. I simply frost mine but unfortunately, once the frosting goes on, they are my biggest weakness. I use my grandmother's recipe because it's the one my mom always used and I have yet to taste a cookie as tasty as hers. You are so right about the store bought versions, won't even touch them! Perhaps we are cookie snobs? That's OK, I'm not a big cookie eater so when I do eat one, it's going to be worth it!

I also agree with you on the weight. It sure does come on a lot easier and faster than it comes off!

I hope you are having a wonderful Christmas!

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KAYYVAUGHN 12/24/2012 6:21AM

    The sugar cookies sound delicious. My SIL had bags of sweets ready for everyone to take home. We took some that will go to my mother's today.
My husband and son ate plenty last night. There is still a good bit left.
We had some carolers and I gave them a box of cookies.

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DARLENEK04 12/23/2012 7:47PM

 




oh gee, after the buildup, no recipe?????????????????????
Plea
se and thank you?????????????


I made some Chewy Chocolate for David this afternoon...he
says they are wonderful....

He also has a key lime pie in the fridge which I wont touch.
BUT, he has lost 36 pounds helping me to lose 40.......

I love sugar cookies, and my kids and I used to make them on
Christmas Eve......my worst weakness is the Wedding cookies...

My daughter makes a Cinnamon punch that I love, and she just
called to see if we are coming again,,,,,still no,,,,,due to
Davids surgery.............dang it......

Merry Christmas ya'll,
Darlene

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FISHINGLADY66 12/22/2012 8:32PM

    Your blog brings back good memories for me too. My daughter will be having Christmas at her house, but I will still bring our favorites.

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NASFKAB 12/22/2012 8:20PM

  great

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CELIAMINER 12/22/2012 8:08PM

    Nell, they sound wonderful and bring back rich memories of my mother's iced sugar cookies!

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-AMANDA79- 12/22/2012 5:38PM

    Distance makes the heart grow fond!! Applies to food as well - LOL!

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SUZYMOBILE 12/22/2012 5:21PM

    The only goodie I make all year is spritz cookies--butter cookies made with a cookie press and sprinkled with sugar. But I can picture those iced sugar cookies! I think I want one!

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GABY1948 12/22/2012 3:03PM

    From your description, I can almost taste them. I never bake goodies because I don't think I could control myself...my mom made iced gingerbread cookies for my kids every year...and after she left us I tried but they just were not the same....you family is very blessed indeed to have you around for them! Merry Christmas, Nell emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 12/22/2012 1:25PM

    Great approach: and now, of course, we're all wanting your very special sugar cookie recipe!!

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JEANNE229 12/22/2012 12:57PM

    What wonderful self-control! That is one reason I don't bake/cook goodies much. I just never developed it. Need to take lessons from you, Nell.

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Overeating today may not kill me but.....

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

When a recovering gambling addict has a slip, he could wake up the next morning $100,000 in debt to the wrong people. When a recovering alcohol or drug addict has a slip, he could wake up the next day fired, divorced or in jail. Or dead and not wake up at all. When a recovering food addict has a slip, he will wake up the next day......what? Miserable, yes. Guilty, yes. With self-loathing, yes. But dead, fired or in jail? No. Would the threat of death help people not overeat? I don't know; there are too many gamblers and drug addicts that still don't get it, even sitting in jail the next day. Again.

What I'd really like to know is why we think that despair and self-loathing is better than jail. Is it? It is a self-imposed prison, visible only to those in it. I saw a dessert called "Death by Chocolate", and it was supposed to be funny. To those in that self-imposed prison it isn't death and it isn't funny. It may be early death in the long run, just not tomorrow. It's still early death, preceded by a lifetime of despair.

And are all those Christmas goodies really worth it?

  
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SHARON10002 12/21/2012 11:17PM

    Well said, although I do believe the saying "everything in moderation". That is what my plan is for Christmas.

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FISHINGLADY66 12/21/2012 10:25PM

    Great Blog and very well said. emoticon

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KAYYVAUGHN 12/20/2012 6:59AM

    At the party for Foster kids last night, I was so tired that when I did eat, I ate foods that I usually avoid. My weight was up some this morning, but at least I know what to do.
I do avoid most of the those goodies. Since I'm not used to them, I don't desire them. My SIL makes old fashioned tea cakes that are small and light. I will eat one or two Saturday, but avoid all the other goodies.

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LOVESTOWALK49 12/19/2012 8:48PM

    When I overeat or eat the wrong type food, I pay for it that night and sometimes the following day or two. I have IBS and eating at night or too much can make me ill. Eating foods too high in fat and/or protein often make me feel awful. I should eat small frequent meals to keep my stomach happy, but I don't. I tend to eat most of my food in the middle of the day as a compromise. emoticon

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ZEEDRA 12/19/2012 1:32PM

    Thanks, once again, Nell, for telling it like it is. I caught myself telling somebody just yesterday that I didn't know what all the fuss about eating on Christmas day was...it's just one day!!! My one days have been going on for years. I say: Well, I keep under my "ceiling weight". The truth is: my ceiling weight has changed five times as my goal weight gets further and further away.
All the Best,
Sandra

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KANOE10 12/19/2012 9:29AM

    Great blog. No the treats are not worth it and waking up happy is so nice.

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JEANNE229 12/19/2012 8:06AM

    Great "food" for thought (forgive the pun). You hit it right on the mark.

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NASFKAB 12/19/2012 5:37AM

  great blog very useful

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WILLOWBROOK5 12/18/2012 8:31PM

    Excellent and timely blog. Thanks so much!

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WATERMELLEN 12/18/2012 8:22PM

    What a powerful, hard-hitting blog: talk about "taking no prisoners:!!

Of course overeating has both short terms and longer term consequences: misery, discomfort, guilt now and potentially heart disease, diabetes, cancers of various types later (to name a few).

It amazes me how often people warn me that excessive diligence around food may "take away the joy of the season" etc etc. Hmmmmm. Gotta find joy in other ways than overeating, I'm guessing!!

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--KREN 12/18/2012 7:20PM

    I can't imagine you EVER overeating, Nell! I hope you're doing good after your surgery.

Karen

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TINAJANE76 12/18/2012 5:49PM

    To me, they're not worth it, at least not in more than very small doses. I love cooking and baking at the holidays because those are traditions I was raised with. Rather than giving these things up entirely, which wouldn't make me happy, I designated last Saturday as my holiday baking day. I made several batches of my favorite cookies that day, sampled a few and boxed up 95% of the rest to give away as gifts. I've been slowly rationing out the few that remain to myself (and my husband!), so I can have a small taste of my holiday memories without overdoing it. This seems like a reasonable compromise to me and one that won't compromise my health!

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VINGRAM 12/18/2012 5:26PM

    emoticon

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PINKNFITCARLA 12/18/2012 4:47PM

  Well put, and something to keep in mind especially this time of year with the extra treats everywhere.

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GABY1948 12/18/2012 1:21PM

    GREAT blog. Thank you!

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PRESBESS 12/18/2012 12:25PM

    No, all of the Christmas goodies aren't worth it to me. I am huge lover of sweet treats, so I have to really be focused and diligent over the next week or so.

Thanks for the reminder that... it's not worth it.
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MKELLY72 12/18/2012 11:28AM

    I was just contemplating this kind of thing yesterday....add the holiday baking I did on Saturday...was it like bringing crack right into my house (if I were a crack addict) and laying it out on the table? Why would I choose to put myself through the temptation? And it was not the best planning as far as TOM goes either.
Thanks, Nell

Michelle

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SWEETYOUNGTHING 12/18/2012 10:28AM

    Very insightful and very well put. I have, in the past, woke up in the middle of the night feeling sick - sick to my stomach and sick in my heart/soul because I had a day of very poor food choices that I made for myself. Overeating and indulging has the same effect as other addictions do. The addiction seduces you into thinking "it'll be okay after this" (whatever your 'this' is). However, the subsequent surrender to the unhealthy choice does lead to disappointment and self loathing.

I despise this time of year because of all the pressures put upon us. The bombardment of cookie and cake and alcohol ads really infuriates me not the mention the financial pressures so many face during the holidays. I've really scaled back on the holiday celebrations and preparations. I don't bake for neighbors anymore - or for family gatherings. The less I have to handle the junk food, the better off I am. I get store bought and the box stays at the household it was intended for. If people bring goodies to my home, I bring them into work for others - or I throw them out.

Sorry, didn't mean to ramble - thanks for posting, Pat

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NEPTUNE1939 12/18/2012 10:25AM

    Fat can be and often is the enemy of our bodies. Look at your enemy, does one really think that giving it probation is healthy to living? We can choose to stop enabling our enemy from doing more harm. God bless everyone's positive mindset,Earl emoticon

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