Thursday, January 03, 2013
Ever notice how those of us with weight issues always think of "indulgence" in terms of food? My intuitively normal sister doesn't. For her, indulgence is sleeping in, or having an hour to read a book. For some it's enough hot water to take a long hot shower. Or a massage. For me, it's food.
But it doesn't have to be foods I shouldn't eat. I will always think of food as reward and comfort, as pleasure and indulgence, but I have altered the concept of "indulgence" to mean a special version of foods I can have, formerly known in WW as "legal". Sometimes I'll use a fat exchange as a small piece of bacon with my egg. Or take the time to simmer that wonderful tomato sauce. Or, indulgence of indulgences, 3 oz of filet mignon instead of ground beef.
Jean Nidetch used to talk about how much thought and creativity went into being fat, how she had to select the lounge chair closest to the pool to shorten the distance between dropping the wrap and being in the water. How carefully she had to select her hat and necklace to draw eyes to her face and away from her body. That same creativity can go into selecting food.
They say that a simple change in attitude changes everything. Simple? HAH! But we change our attitudes about a lot of things, like in-laws and technology, even home decoration. And we can do it about food. I will always think of food first, but indulgence doesn't have to mean whipped cream. It can mean lobster tail or lamb chops. I can feel totally indulged and still be "legal".
Monday, December 24, 2012
I am not quite sure of the exact date, it was really a long time ago, but it was about Christmastime 1970. My goal has dropped since then; as I've gotten older I can't carry the same amount of weight. I weigh about 10 pounds less now than my original 21 year old goal. I sure can't eat as much as I did back then. If I ate today what I ate to lose when I was 21, I'd GAIN weight. I remember gaining 10 pounds over menopause, but that was about accepting a radical change in how my body worked, and once I accepted the new limitations (arrgghh!) that weight came off.
Is it easy? Well, it's easy-ER, but not always easy. A goal doesn't need to be easy in order to be achieved. I remember the events of the last 42 years vividly, but not so much the food that accompanied them. There's a lesson in that. I eat to my Plan and enjoy the events. That's how I have a life worth remembering.
Some people tell me that I must be very strong to be able to stay at goal weight, but it isn't true. People with physical limitations learn to live with them because they have no choice and it's obvious. I have food limitations and I DO have a choice, but I accept them and live within them. It's not always easy, but limitations are limitations even when they are invisible to others.
And today I will be prepping the big dinner here tomorrow. I am now Grandma. The big dinners we had every year at my mother's are now here. Most of the older generation is gone, just Mom now, but lots of new family members in the newest generation. I get to feed them, which gives me the opportunity to cook mounds of food. They are all of normal weight, so they'll eat and drink moderately (how did I manage to have moderate kids???) and they take all the rest home. I'll be left with a safe, warm house with lots of happy memories in the very air. Memories are calorie free and I feast on them.
Have a glorious Christmas everyone!!
Saturday, December 22, 2012
It's that time of year. I only make 3 sweets for Christmas, the favorites of decades in my family. I can pass up the pecan snowballs and have just a small piece of Chip N Cherry cake. But oh the sugar cookies! My kids and grandkids, nieces and nephews require them at Christmas, and it's my happy job to deliver. I use the same cookie cutters that my mother used when I was little, and I just ice them but don't decorate them which really would take hours and hours. My kids call them "crack", addicting, and they are. And I always eat them. Every year. I'll send them home to 5 grateful households after Christmas, leaving this grateful household without them.
And it's just once a year. I suppose that is part of why they taste so good. I won't eat commercial sugar cookies; they just aren't nearly as good as mine, and I never let myself eat other people's cookies just in case I like them too much. My family is very good at looking forward to a special food and only eating it then. It's something I trained them to do, then as I've gotten older, their comfortable joy in anticipation of a rare treat comes back to me. I taught my kids, now I learn those same lessons all over again from them. Which is a good thing since at my age weight comes on faster and comes off slower. My grandmother warned me about this phenomenon and I wish she were still here so I could chuckle with her about it.
Time to make the icing, and fight to keep the cats off the cookies. Unfortunately, they like it, too.
Tuesday, December 18, 2012
When a recovering gambling addict has a slip, he could wake up the next morning $100,000 in debt to the wrong people. When a recovering alcohol or drug addict has a slip, he could wake up the next day fired, divorced or in jail. Or dead and not wake up at all. When a recovering food addict has a slip, he will wake up the next day......what? Miserable, yes. Guilty, yes. With self-loathing, yes. But dead, fired or in jail? No. Would the threat of death help people not overeat? I don't know; there are too many gamblers and drug addicts that still don't get it, even sitting in jail the next day. Again.
What I'd really like to know is why we think that despair and self-loathing is better than jail. Is it? It is a self-imposed prison, visible only to those in it. I saw a dessert called "Death by Chocolate", and it was supposed to be funny. To those in that self-imposed prison it isn't death and it isn't funny. It may be early death in the long run, just not tomorrow. It's still early death, preceded by a lifetime of despair.
And are all those Christmas goodies really worth it?
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