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I clean my plate!

Monday, November 05, 2012

I hear a lot of advice about leaving food on my plate. I cannot imagine doing that intentionally.

I weigh and measure all the ingredients into each recipe I make, and I plate from the kitchen like a restaurant, rather than passing serving bowls. I put exactly my portion of everything on my plate, or plates as the meal may be. Then I get to eat it ALL!

I remember an old WW leader saying that a rubber spatula was an essential part of the WW program, because if you measure out your portion you can scrape up every drop. She said that if no one was looking you could lick your plate and still be legal.

I guess I'm basically greedy about my food. I want it all!! If I measure it out, I can have it all. It's my way of making sure I never feel deprived.

  
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TINAJANE76 11/10/2012 9:03PM

    I agree! Cleaning my plate is my reward for weighing and measuring!

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NASFKAB 11/6/2012 2:07PM

  I like a clean plate so like you just plate enough for me & do not allow anyone to put food on my plate

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KMIRANDA2000 11/6/2012 11:20AM

    Isn't it good to know you're not alone. :)

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MEDDYPEDDY 11/6/2012 1:42AM

    It might be a good advice for some, but not for me, I clean my plate! The rick is not to put too much on it...bought smaller plates it has done some good.

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123ELAINE456 11/6/2012 1:42AM

  I don't like to waste food either. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. Take Care.

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ZEEDRA 11/5/2012 9:47PM

    Thanks again, Nell.
Isn't it interesting what a "clean plate" stirs up?
The only time I've had trouble with cleaning a plate was when somebody else filled my plate but that doesn't happen anymore...I catch them before it happens.


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FISHINGLADY66 11/5/2012 9:21PM

    I agree with you. I hate to waste food too.

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WATERMELLEN 11/5/2012 8:00PM

    I don't like to "waist" food!!

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1_AMAZING_WOMAN 11/5/2012 7:41PM

    Each person has their own way of being. Me: I'm the clean plate club. But, I have gotton so that if I have had 'enough' I will wrap the food and refridgerate it for another time. I (don't) throw away perfectly good food.

Amber

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--KREN 11/5/2012 6:54PM

    Me too! (I just bought an early 1990's WW cookbook with the entire Exchange Program in it, lol. A refresher.)

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ILOVEMALI 11/5/2012 6:27PM

    When I go out to dinner, I sometimes will ask for a to-go box as soon as my dinner arrives and put half of it into the box. Next day's lunch.

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TIEDYED69PEACE 11/5/2012 4:02PM

    I can't stand when people give you the advice to say, buy a cupcake, eat half and throw the other half away. Allow for the calorie intake of all you have (within reason), or don't eat it at all. I don't find it is responsible to intentionally throw food away, especially at home. Not with the environmental implications and not with so many starving people in this world.
Excellent blog entry! I didn't think anyone agreed. Thanks!

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KAYYVAUGHN 11/5/2012 3:45PM

    Good idea. I tried to measure out the right portion for me.

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KALISWALKER 11/5/2012 2:02PM

    I agree!

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MJZHERE 11/5/2012 12:26PM

  I clean my plate! However, what has changed, if I taste something I don't really want, I throw it out! Yep, can't believe it as I type it, but I do. I finally have realized I'm worth eating what tastes good and what is good - this coming from someone who use to eat the burnt portions, food I didn't like, etc.

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MEXGAL1 11/5/2012 12:00PM

    Me too! I measure and eat it all!
Have a terrific week.
Sallie

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WILLOWBROOK5 11/5/2012 11:57AM

    I'm with you, too! If I like the food (and I almost always do because I don't make or choose meals I don't like), I eat and enjoy as much as I have decided is my portion. I figure a keen appetite is a sign of health. It's like with my dogs. If they go off their feed, I know something significant is off with them.
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MKELLY72 11/5/2012 11:41AM

    I'm with you on this one too. I don't overload my plate (except maybe on fruits and veggies) emoticon , so I don't want to leave it behind either...besides I think of it as wasteful too.

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GABY1948 11/5/2012 10:58AM

    I agree totally! Thank you!

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JOANNS4 11/5/2012 10:32AM

    I agree. Thank you. emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 11/5/2012 10:26AM

    I absolutely agree! Have a good day.

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You can't become anorexic by dieting

Saturday, November 03, 2012

I hear people express fear that their diets are so successful that they'll just keep losing weight until they are anorexic. Anorexia is a terrible, fatal mental illness. You cannot "catch" it. You cannot diet yourself into it. You don't eat less until you are anorexic, you are anorexic first and make food choices BECAUSE of the disease. Anorexics never give a second thought to their health or making "healthy choices" because they are ill and cannot. They literally starve themselves to death. Family members get to watch helplessly while someone they love is committing suicide by starvation.

Maybe I'm being too sensitive, but it pains me to see people tossing the name of a fatal disease around as a synonym for "very thin". It is in reality a dreadful disease.

  
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IAMSODONE 1/14/2014 12:44AM

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FISHINGLADY66 11/4/2012 6:39PM

    So True Nell. emoticon

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MEDDYPEDDY 11/4/2012 2:24AM

    Sorry, but I have to agree with Amber because this is what doctors and eating disorder clinic has told me – anorexia often starts with diets, which does not mean that dieting always lead to anorexia. But girls who diets sucessfully suddenly feels that they have an area in life where they have control so they loose perspective - and they also (in the beginning) get a lot of praise for etting thinner and having such a great will-power. There is also some biological explanation to this , just as I - as a binger - get rewards in my brain from serotonine and other signal subtstances as I eat, a successful dieter gets this "reward" from not eating and then want more and more and totally looses perspective and balance... it is the same brain substances that makes it so hard for anorectics to eat, it creates anxiety that is very real to them.

Dieting and anorexia is not the same but research has proven that anorexia is developed from dieting. I think we all agree that binge eating often comes from trying a diet that is too strict, the same goes for anorexia. I am not an anorectic, my goddaughter is and I am diagnosed with BED - Binge Eating Disorder.

I might also add - your headline "You canīt become anorexic by dieting" is depending on how you decipher "dieting" IdF it had been "You canīt become anorexic by HEALTHY dieting" I would totally agree!



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ILOVEMALI 11/4/2012 12:38AM

    agreed. and I can't stand it when people tell me to stop losing weight because I'm "skinny" or "too thin." I am absolutely NEITHER. I'm just not fat anymore.

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123ELAINE456 11/3/2012 6:54PM

  Great Blog!!! Thank You for the information and concerns many people have about this. My sister had problems with it in high school.It is very hard on everyone involve. She came out of it but had mental problems etc. til she died from complications of brain cancer surgery at the age of 42. Enough said. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. Enjoy You Day. Take Care.

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ZEEDRA 11/3/2012 3:49PM

    I also understand what Amber is saying. The book is not closed on many issues and I like to stay very "open ended" to allow for new ideas and opinions.
We do seem to want to separate the brain from the rest of the body and it tends to lead to fear and prejudice of anything "mental".
It's wonderful what is being now as far as studying the brain. It makes for exciting possibilities.

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KENTUCKYWOMAN 11/3/2012 3:06PM

    I may have other mental problems, but I doubt I ever have to worry about being Anorexic.

Great post Nell, as always.

Hugs,
Joan

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KAYYVAUGHN 11/3/2012 2:43PM

    It can be terrible for people and it is also has mental problems.
Anorexics need help in many different ways.

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--KREN 11/3/2012 2:31PM

    I agree, Nell. I've never worried about being anorexic but wow, other people seem to worry about it a lot. The first time you say "diet" people start warning you not to lose too much. As IF those of us truly struggling to lose a pound will have that problem! Ha!

Karen

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1_AMAZING_WOMAN 11/3/2012 2:17PM

    Actually, a lot of anorexics started that way with a 'diet' that they then took too far, and the extreme diet then affects their thinking, and things get worse and worse. Their are some lines of thought that anorexia is in great part created by a vitamin deficiency, and if given supplements (while) they are getting treatment, it can help turn around their thinking and their obsession.

It is also now being proven that there are two areas of the brain that do not function normally in obsessions; one area is too turned off, and one area is overstimulated. There are now treatments being used in some centers that help re-balance these areas of the brain.

It's not quite so cut and dried that it is a 'mental illness'. It has a lot to do with 'physical' issues too that cause the mental issues. And, it also has to do with 'trauma' issues that create 'control' issues, and then they use food as the object of control. So, it is a very complex disease.

Amber

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ZEEDRA 11/3/2012 12:39PM

    Thanks for the excellent blog. Eating disorders of any kind are difficult for most people to understand.



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JEANNE229 11/3/2012 10:54AM

    As someone who has a loved one with this, I totally agree.

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MEXGAL1 11/3/2012 10:40AM

    I so understand what you are saying. It's an awful illness that breaks my heart when I see women suffering.
You are not being too sensitive only honest which is good.
Have a terrific week end
Sallie

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GABY1948 11/3/2012 10:36AM

    Nell, you are SO RIGHT...it has nothing to do with dieting! I have known a few (and yes, some of them have died) this is the BEST blog I have seen that can really help people. Anorexia results in horrible debilitating depression and many other physical problems...thanks so much for needed information!

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NASFKAB 11/3/2012 10:36AM

  you are so correct one is a choice made by you & the other is a disease which has to be looked after

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FEB_SHOWERS16 11/3/2012 10:15AM

    Thank you for this! I'm going to make my husband read it!!!

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VINGRAM 11/3/2012 10:09AM

    Yes...it is serious. emoticon

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SLIMMERJESSE 11/3/2012 9:56AM

    Good points. Thanks!

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GIVENTHANKS 11/3/2012 9:52AM

    emoticon for posting this. It is a terrible mental illness and people have a distorted self-image and unrealistic expectations with Anorexia. Anorexia is a totally NON-healthy weight distortion and is opposite of eating in a way that results in a healthy weight!

Have a great weekend!

Pat

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I eat by the clock.

Sunday, October 28, 2012

There. I admit it. I eat when the clock says it's time to eat. I know that most weight control programs want us to train ourselves to recognize hunger and eat only when hungry. But how do you do that? If a meal takes an hour to make, how do you know that you will be hungry an hour later if you are waiting for the "hunger signal"? How do you organize a day when you have no idea at what time you'll be preparing or eating food because you have no idea when hunger will strike? To me that sounds like being a slave to your desires rather than master of them.

I eat breakfast at about 8am, lunch at about noon, and dinner at about 6, give or take a half hour. If I'm not hungry I eat anyway, because it's time. Over the years I have trained myself to know how much I need to eat at each meal to get me through to the next one. I find it comforting to know that at a certain time I can eat. Like right now. It's 11am and I would love to eat something. I know that in one hour I can, and I know exactly what it will be. Very comfortable indeed.

  
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MARTI1LL 11/6/2012 11:57AM

    I eat by the clock because I don't want to let myself get to hungry and end up eating the first thing I see. Plus if I skip breakfast I could go most of the day without eating. Not good for weight loss.

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TIEDYED69PEACE 11/5/2012 4:04PM

    I don't know about maintenance mode, but I have always found that when trying to lose weight, if timing my foods by the clock, I have been the most successful. I'm not good at truly knowing when I am hungry. Like you, when I'm hungry, I don't want to wait for food either. Waiting for me means the temptations of overeating or snacking before meals. The clock is certainly my friend!

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MKELLY72 11/1/2012 11:13AM

    Amen!
I have always felt guilty for not following the "eat only when hungry" rules and instead using the clock....I get too hungry if I don't pay attention to the clock- especially if I'm really involved in my work, and I get myself into trouble. I don't feel I have (and my never) perfected the recognition of true hunger.

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KALISWALKER 10/31/2012 3:47PM

    Good advice!!

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ILOVEMALI 10/29/2012 2:16PM

    I need to stop eating after dinner, no matter what the clock says. In the meantime, I eat little bits all during the day -- generally -- the clock tells me that it's every could pf hours or so!

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NASFKAB 10/29/2012 7:07AM

  great idea I have some snacks in between

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KAYYVAUGHN 10/29/2012 6:11AM

    That is close to how I eat although the hours are different. I eat earlier.
Sometimes I have a healthy snack if I am hungry.

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ZUCCHINIQUEEN 10/29/2012 6:04AM

    You have just validated for me that it's ok to eat by the clock! I have tried so hard to follow the advice of noting your own body's need for food. Doesn't work! I "need" food all the time! Eating by the clock is usually what I end up doing when I am actively following the program.(as opposed to "kind of following the program") Know what? It works! Thanks for the blog saying it works for you, too, Nell!

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123ELAINE456 10/29/2012 12:24AM

  Thank You for Your Blog. I really did enjoy it. This is the WAY TO GO. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. Enjoy You Day. Take Care.







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ROSEWAND 10/28/2012 10:59PM

    I, too, eat by the clock, three times
a day without snacks. Our bodies
like routine. Our bodies will prepare
to receive the food when we eat on a
schedule. I do find that I am usually
hungary when it is time to eat.



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--KREN 10/28/2012 10:15PM

    Having a regular schedule is beneficial to your body, no doubt. Most of my family worked nights in law enforcement and was on call a lot. They found it very difficult to stay healthy, sleep well, eat well, etc. Anyone who can have a regular schedule in sleeping, eating, even exercising has a better chance at a healthy body, a healthy lifestyle, for sure!
Karen

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NOMIS1 10/28/2012 10:14PM

    I'm with you.

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BROWNCOFIDDLER 10/28/2012 10:07PM

    Ya know....I do the same thing. I'll look at the clock and think 'OK, now it's time to eat.' Do it all the time and I think that it's one thing that's helped me to lose weight. If you miss a meal time b/c you're not paying attention to the time, then you get TOO hungry and you might blow it. I think it's a good thing to eat on time, not allowing yourself to become famished. emoticon emoticon emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 10/28/2012 7:08PM

    Pretty much my method too: asking myself when I'm hungry and what I want to eat doesn't work for me!!

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AVANELL 10/28/2012 6:31PM

    I prefer to eat that way also! If I waited until I was hungry I would definitely overeat! But if I have a plan I manage to control my eating much better!



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JOANNS4 10/28/2012 6:23PM

    Yes! emoticon


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MANDELOVICH 10/28/2012 2:57PM

    I have a similar pattern. My body gets hungry at the same times every day because I feed it about the same amount at the same time. It's good to be consistent.

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WILLOWBROOK5 10/28/2012 2:04PM

    I'm a bit of a clock watcher too. Thanks for the spot on blog!

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BROOKLYN_BORN 10/28/2012 1:53PM

    I'm pretty much a clock watcher too.
Breakfast between 7 and 8 depending on workout plan
Lunch between 12 and 1
Dinner between 6 and 7.

When I really watch the clock is for my mid afternoon snack between 3 and 4. Without this I would graze all the way through the afternoon - bit by bit by bit.

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PHEBESS 10/28/2012 1:44PM

    My dad is like that, and it works for him. Doesn't work for all of us, but if it works for you, then that's what you do. Makes perfect sense to me.

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SUZYMOBILE 10/28/2012 12:04PM

    Funny, I've tried to train myself to eat by hunger and satiety, but sometimes I have to grab the opportunity to have lunch in between meetings, or I'll have to wait too long and then spoil dinner! And I've been feeling guilty about it, which is really dumb.

I find it even harder to recognize fullness, which makes sense because supposedly it takes your brain 20 minutes to recognize that you're full!

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JEANNE229 10/28/2012 11:41AM

    Exactly!

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FISHINGLADY66 10/28/2012 11:27AM

    I'm guilty of eating by the clock also. It works best for me. Your schedule is the same as mine. emoticon for letting me know I am normal, according to us. LOL

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ZEEDRA 10/28/2012 11:20AM

    It's the "old fashioned" way, isn't it?

Once again, Nell, you are one of the leaders helping us with your sensible, tried and true, no nonsense formula.

I have two of your blogs printed out and stuck to my wall in front of me here. Maybe I'll print this one and then throw out all my best seller health/diet books and magazines. I think they are just making a simple issue waaaaay too complicated. And the fact that I have to see them day in and day out--probably causes guilt and helps to continue the "magical thinking" mentality.

OK. Relocating these cookbooks and diet books that I almost never use will go to the top of my to-do list. I know I'm not up to giving them away yet.

Thanks!
Sandra
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GABY1948 10/28/2012 11:16AM

    I was so glad to see this because that is how I do it...I have to...I don't allow myself to get too hungry or it's ALL OVER. I am so glad to read you and so many do it that way...because especially you, are so much better at all this than I am. But it is what works for me too emoticon

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BOBOBOBBI 10/28/2012 11:15AM

    Nothing wrong with that!! :)

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SLIMMERJESSE 10/28/2012 11:05AM

    I think that's the smarter way to do it, as it reminds me that regularity keeps blood sugar stable.
Otherwise, I tend to get distracted
and not eat a meal, then make up
for it the rest of the day. Big
trouble.

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MEXGAL1 10/28/2012 11:04AM

    I too eat by the clock. I really think it's a great maintenance tool.
Works for me!
Have a terrific Sunday.

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It's not as complicated as I would like

Tuesday, October 23, 2012

When I was trying to figure out how to lose weight, I needed to make it complicated enough to be worthy of my attention. I mean, how could I possibly have a problem with something that is simple, so it MUST be really complicated, right? There wasn't much nutrition info back then, but I counted each food to the calorie, as best as I could with measuring cups and spoons. And I wrote it down and graphed it. Today it's possible to count 100 nutrients on a daily basis, and for me it would feel great.....for awhile. It would give me the illusion of control over SOMETHING. In reality, keeping it simple was what won the day, that day and the days in the decades since. The Old Old Old WW Plan gave you a template for breakfast, lunch and dinner, and then they switched to exchanges where we got so many of each exchange every day. It's very simple. It is hard to say No to myself, but not hard to understand the Program. I was desperate to think it was complicated in order to vindicate my inability to stick to something. In reality, the Plan itself was simple. I was, and still am, the hard part.

  
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MINISANDY 11/8/2012 3:57PM

    Your blog makes so much sense. The biggest problem I have with losing weight is ME. I keep telling myself what I will do tomorrow when I just need to make it happen for today!

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SLIMMERJESSE 10/28/2012 10:26AM

    I think this is true about most things in life; we humans tend to forget to keep things simple. We complicate things more than is needed sometimes. Good reminder blog for me. Thanks!

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FISHINGLADY66 10/25/2012 10:55PM

    I can really identify with your blog Nell. I made Lifetime in 1972 and finally realized it was me that was making it hard. I'm really proud of you and all your efforts to stay healthy and thin in this day and time of overweight America. Being healthy is really to key to being happy. emoticon

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SPIRIT42013 10/24/2012 9:02PM

    Amen, sister. I understand completely! emoticon

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ZEEDRA 10/24/2012 8:01PM

    Thanks again, Nell.

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MEXGAL1 10/24/2012 1:11PM

    It is all about you and your self taught but more importantly follow through with the good self taught knowlege. Most of us know what to do...hense the guilt that we have when we splurge and screw up.

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ILOVEMALI 10/24/2012 12:07PM

    Great bolg -- thanks for reminnding me that it really is "all about me!"

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WILLOWBROOK5 10/24/2012 11:04AM

    I love your blog and agree you are such a great inspiration! For me, managing weight is complicated in the short run, but pretty straightforward in the long run. You eat/move a certain amount and you see the results -- eventually if not immediately. Unfortunately, humans tend to think in the short run and not so much about the long range consequences of our actions. Immediate satisfaction/soothing/comfort vs. health issues 20, 30, or more years down the road. Now that I am further down that road, the consequences are harder for me to ignore and the short run/long run are closer together. That is very much in the forefront of my mind.

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MKELLY72 10/24/2012 10:33AM

    Putting this in a simple perspective is what finally worked for me too! It's what continues to work for me now as I progress through maintenance.
Thanks for sharing!

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NASFKAB 10/24/2012 10:19AM

  great inspirational thanks

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123ELAINE456 10/24/2012 1:15AM

  You say it so well. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week. Enjoy Your Day. Take Care.

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JOANNS4 10/23/2012 5:06PM

    You say it so well. You are an inspiration!

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ZUCCHINIQUEEN 10/23/2012 3:58PM

    You are so good at putting your thoughts on paper, Nell!
If "you" are still the "hard part", then I don't feel so bad that I still sometimes have trouble making myself stay with the program. Gain a little, loose a little, and wish I could just stay in one spot and not have to think about it all the time. I know as soon as I stop putting it at the top of my thoughts, I am in big trouble!

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KAYYVAUGHN 10/23/2012 3:26PM

    I agree with Gaye. You are an inspiration. I try to keep up with you. My will power is not as strong as yours, but I'm working on it.
A plan is so important.

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GABY1948 10/23/2012 2:16PM

    I think that goes for many...I am with you there...when I attempt to do something I have to really THINK about it first and then when I finally attempt it, it's like...DUH what was the problem...totally agree with you but in spite of it all you are doing GREAT...keep on inspiring us!

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VINGRAM 10/23/2012 11:53AM

    emoticon me, too....the hard part!

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MPLSLINDA 10/23/2012 11:03AM

    Your last sentence is the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. Thanks for telling it like it is.

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JEANNE229 10/23/2012 10:48AM

    I SO agree with that, Nell! I know exactly what to do, but like a kid I sometimes just don't mind myself.

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SUZYMOBILE 10/23/2012 10:42AM

    Amen!

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Thinking through food choices

Friday, October 05, 2012

I hear stories of how people lose weight or maintain loss, and they always involve the details: how many calories or nutritional differentials or exercise. That is WHAT they do, not HOW they do it. I can tell you WHAT I do, but how DO I do it?

I live my life like everyone else, but there is an undercurrent of thought, a second, constant, background line that is made up of my Rules. These are rules I made for myself long ago, primarily so that every food encounter wouldn't become a debate with myself. (Can I eat this? Why can't I eat this? Maybe if I give up dessert on Friday or walk a few more miles?) I always lose debates with myself. I'm not the best debater in the world, and when I am on both sides of the debate, I am doomed.

So to avoid the debate I have rules. They aren't universal, but they were handed to me when I started losing weight and I have incorporated them into my bones. I don't eat between meals. I don't eat junk food. I seldom eat dessert. I rarely eat in restaurants. I would never tell others that these rules are the "key" to successful weight loss or maintenance but they work for me.

And I don't think it's the rules themselves, but the fact that I have them, I follow them, and they are so ingrained in my sub-conscious that I don't have to think about them anymore. Over the years and the decades they have served me well.

There are people who enjoy seeing every instance in their lives as an opportunity for choice, but that way of living would exhaust me. I have enough choices to deal with (need a new doctor, how do I fix my plumbing) that I don't have the emotional energy or confidence to make every food opportunity into a choice. Most are pre-chosen as "No". Most of the rest are "If I have to think about it the answer is No."

I pre-plan my food so that I make my appropriate choices before any longing enters the equation. It's hard enough to buy a house or a car or a dress without emotion bungling up my decision making process. Food choices present themselves far more often in today's life, and at the most inopportune times. Like when I am tired or bored or just want something pleasant to happen. Having rules to help me pre-choose is almost sub-conscious by now. It's taken years of practice to have a reliable sub-conscious, and I can articulate that sub-conscious as my Rules.

People who are desperate about weight jump at any plan that promises they can have anything they want "within reason". For me, reason works for a week or a month or a year, but the day will come when emotion wins. I rely on my Rules. And the weight has stayed off for a very long time.

  
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DDOORN 10/11/2012 12:37PM

    Makes a lot of sense. I know I have built a number of "food rules" over time which have helped me to get as far as I have. The next challenge is to re-vamp those rules so I can reach my goal and STAY THERE! :-)

Don

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LUVSBULLDOGS 10/7/2012 10:14PM

    good info

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VINGRAM 10/7/2012 7:14PM

    Very good advice. I'm subscribing to your blogs. I like your approach! I was at goal for almost a year. Have gained back almost 50 lbs. not very happy with myself!! emoticon

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ZEEDRA 10/7/2012 11:04AM

    Thank you once again, Nell. Like Karen, I've requested your blogs (once I knew that was possible!). I have your previous one on my wall (about LOOOOOOOVVVVVVING). I'll put the rule part of this one up too.

We complicate things so much sometimes.


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BELTONWALKER67 10/7/2012 10:35AM

    Great Blog with Super great information. emoticon

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KAYYVAUGHN 10/7/2012 6:49AM

    YOur rules sound like a very good plan to me, and they certainly work for you. I wish I had the discipline that you do every day.

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ZUCCHINIQUEEN 10/7/2012 6:27AM

    It's so great to get inside your head and understand how you have maintained for so long. Lots of food for thought there, valuable stuff!
Thanks for sharing, Nell!

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MANDELOVICH 10/6/2012 11:29PM

    I love this. I too have rules and find that they really help me stay on track.

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--KREN 10/6/2012 9:42AM

    Nell, I don't often take time to comment on your blogs, but I want you to know they are really wonderful! You ARE the success story and I love the way your success has continued for so long. All your insights and advice is really good and I am beginning to rely on it. It is seeping into my hard little head and I hope it takes root there and thrives, lol.

I have subscribed to your blog now, so I won't miss any.

I would like to know how long it took for all these wonderful tactics to really "settle in" your mind.

Thank you so much. Keep writing!

Karen

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MEDDYPEDDY 10/6/2012 2:58AM

    Thank you very much, I relly agree!

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123ELAINE456 10/5/2012 11:07PM

  Awesome Blog. Well Written. Thank You for Sharing your Rules with Us. God Bless You and Hava a Wonderful Weekend.

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FISHINGLADY66 10/5/2012 10:23PM

    Great blog and well put. Thanks for sharing your rules.

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MEXGAL1 10/5/2012 7:46PM

    Love your rules. Sounds like a good plan to you. I practice some of them. I rarely eat out. I plan my meals way ahead of time and usually cook my dinner at lunch time so all i have to do is heat it at dinner time. rarely eat between meals. So many of your rules, "rule" for me.
Have a great week end.
Sallie

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JOANNS4 10/5/2012 7:23PM

    emoticon I mean it. What a sensible way to do it. You hit the nail on the head, that's the only way I can say it.
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SUZYMOBILE 10/5/2012 3:15PM

    What a good reminder! I always do better when I have rules, and I get in trouble when I let them slide a little. We can play all sorts of interpretive mind games with ourselves, The Rules are the nonnegotiables.

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GABY1948 10/5/2012 2:29PM

    I LOVED this, Nell, and I totally thank you. Especially, one sentence JUMPED out at me: "If I have to think about it the answer is No." I actually just had that very argument which did turn out to be no but your way would have saved me at least 45 minutes...

Most of what you say is very true even for me. I have gained back like 30 pounds but that is VERY small compared to the amount I lost to begin with so part of it I am doing and I actually believe with your philosophy you have helped me a great deal and that is worth more than a million dollars to me! Thank you again and have a GREAT weekend!


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NASFKAB 10/5/2012 1:40PM

  you have made it clear what to do THANKS

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MPLSLINDA 10/5/2012 1:30PM

    You write so plainly and matter-of-factly about your weight maintenance. Your blog is the sound of sanity amid the siren calls of miracle weight loss formulas.

Where I get into trouble with food rules is that as soon as I think I can't have something, I want it all the more. And yet, I know that certain foods truly are off-limits for me if I expect to have any control over binge-eating. It's far easier to prevent a binge than to stop one. I also know that eating more than 3 meals a deal doesn't work for me, for the same reason. My life is much calmer when I'm not fighting binges, pre- or mid-.

So what I do is to plan my weekly menus and enter my meals in the tracker ahead of time. That way, every day when I get up, all of my food decisions have already been made and I just have to follow my plan. It's a lot easier for me to say yes to sticking with my plan than it is to say no to food. And since I do my planning at a time when I'm thinking clearly, it's very easy for me to exclude those certain foods. It's not that I can't have them, they're just not in my plan.

There may come a time, after decades of experience, when my Rules will be so deeply engrained in my subconscious that following the Rules won't be hard. In the meantime, I have only one Rule: follow my Plan.

Thank you again, NellJones, for this thoughtful and clear blog. You are leading by example, and I'm grateful for your leadership.

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