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But I LOOOOOVVVVE it so!!!

Saturday, September 15, 2012

We have all read stories of women who continue to live with abusive husbands. They come back from another visit from the emergency room, he says he'll change, they believe it.....until the next inevitable time. And those of us watching all wonder "Why doesn't she just leave?" And she will tell us that she LOOOOVVVVES him and just knows he loves her and won't hurt her again. It's never intentional. And it always happens again. And she stays for more. And we observers are astounded that she doesn't see what we see.

Yet some people treat their food the same way. The food beats us up, leaves us sick and unhealthy, yet we stay because we just LOOVVE it so much! We swear it will be different the next time, and it never is. We can't swear out a warrant on pizza. There are no government services to protect us from Big Macs. We have to find the courage (and it takes courage in any of these situations) to just leave, find a safe place, surround ourselves with safe foods, and safe people (like Spark) that can protect us from something that is hurting us every day.

I am able to stay at goal because I still see certain foods as evil, as dangerous, and I avoid them because they are a threat to my health, my goal, and everything I want to be. I know there are people who say that if you forbid yourself something you will crave it more. That isn't any safer with certain foods than it is with an abusive spouse. Love isn't enough to make it safe. I had to make a clean break with Reeses, then find the life that came next. And a wonderful life it is!

Cheetos won't break my jaw, but is obesity any better? Or safer? It isn't as immediate, but the danger is surely there. And I avoid it for my own safety.

  
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RICHARJ 12/27/2012 3:58PM

    P O W E R F U L!!!

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SYCAMOREROSE1 10/18/2012 5:22PM

    What a powerful blog! Thank you so much for your truthfully "spoken" words!

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SLENDERMAMA1 9/28/2012 7:17PM

    very inspiring blog

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EBURGITE 9/28/2012 11:31AM

    great perspective. thanks for sharing.

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ALIX_P 9/27/2012 8:49PM

    Never thought of it this way, but it's really true. Also, I agree that some foods are just evil, at least for me, because when I have one bite, I just want more. I think this one may be different for everyone.

I read a suggestion a long time ago to keep a bag of hershey's kisses around and just limit yourself to 5 kisses a day. Yeah Right! That bag would be gone in an hour--I'd keep reaching into the cupboard thinking, "oh just one more won't hurt" until they were all gone.

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MUSTANG_SALLY2 9/27/2012 1:40PM

    That's exactly how I feel. Beat up by my food and it's my fault cuz I keep going back. Sigh.

Great blog!

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SUZYMOBILE 9/27/2012 12:49PM

    Well said! I do believe, though, that there are no evil foods, as long as you acknowledge how much of them you're eating and count them. Many foods aren't inherently evil; they just aren't worth the calorie investment.

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COLOMAGIRL 9/22/2012 6:50PM

    Beautifully written.

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MKELLY72 9/20/2012 10:34AM

    I love this analogy. I can relate on both levels, and I actually tap into the same strength that it took me to leave my unhealthy relationship 10 years ago to tackle my unhealthy relationship with food. This blog just forced me to expand on that perspective that I hope helps me to avoid additional incidents like one I had last night with a double serving of ice cream that left me feeling sick. Most of the time, I am able to treat myself without going overboard, but occasionally I return to my abuser, and I was asking myself last night, "what is wrong with me?"...I know better, and I have worked so hard to treat myself better, and I wonder what triggered that binge.
Thank you!

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AUTUMNBRZ 9/19/2012 11:21AM

    Great analogy!

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JANEMARIE77 9/17/2012 1:48PM

    Was just checking out your page I really like this thought it works for me Thanks

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DDOORN 9/17/2012 10:05AM

    I am SO WITH YOU on your analogy...! Others who can manage to be moderate with all foods, especially trigger foods, they have my admiration. But I just don't think I'm wired that way and doubt I can ever develop those psychological "muscles"...!

Don

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PURPLELVR7 9/17/2012 8:06AM

    Thank you for sharing your analogy. Not sure I agree on all points, but you do make some very good points.


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FISHINGLADY66 9/16/2012 8:53PM

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DAISYBELL6 9/16/2012 8:18PM

    Interesting blog! I'll have to think about this a bit.

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KAYYVAUGHN 9/16/2012 7:01PM

    Thanks for the good advice, and you are right Nell. We really need to do away with certain foods.

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HUNGRYWOMAN2 9/16/2012 5:00PM

    Well put! Excellent analogy! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ROSGETSSERIOUS 9/16/2012 4:38PM

    Fabulous blog - thanks for posting it - I love your analogy - I have abused my own body for so long - I am the perpetrator!!
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PJ2222 9/16/2012 12:19PM

    Great observations!

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ZEEDRA 9/16/2012 11:57AM

    So happy I came across this. As others said above: it's an amazing comparison.
Yes...we keep come back for more of the abuse thinking "this time it will be different...I'll stop it before it escalates." Ha!
I'm going to make this into a poster for my wall over my computer.
Thanks, Nell, for reminding us of the insane rationalizing.
Sandra


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MEXGAL1 9/16/2012 11:02AM

    awesome comparison and very well thought out.
Thanks for taking the time to write.
Have a terrific Sunday.
Sallie

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JEANNE229 9/16/2012 8:42AM

   
what an astute blog! GREAT comparison. Puts our "abuse" in perspective.

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NASFKAB 9/16/2012 8:07AM

  Awesome great thanks for pointing it out

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NUTRON3 9/16/2012 6:44AM

    Wow, never thought of it that way

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ILOVEMALI 9/16/2012 4:20AM

    Interesting analogy!

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MEDDYPEDDY 9/16/2012 1:56AM

    This was great! But... I left alcohol once I understood it was abusive to me, I left nicotin for the same reason but I can´t leave food. I can leave certain foods - and I agree that they are "evil" - but I still have not worked out the whole list and whenever I get tricked the evil ones comes barging in as well...

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SPIRIT42013 9/15/2012 11:36PM

    You've got that right! I was/am that woman... emoticon

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ELSCO55 9/15/2012 10:57PM

    An interesting blog.

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WATERMELLEN 9/15/2012 8:45PM

    Terrific blog! Some people seem to be able to do "moderation" with potato chips etc . . . but I'm not one of them!

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 9/15/2012 3:13PM

    What a great blog; it gives me a superb reference now for those foods with which I have an abusive co-dependent relationship. And I have so many foods that never did hurt the heart that loves them--carrots, apples, and many others. I love your clear analogy.

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GABY1948 9/15/2012 2:46PM

    Thank you for a VERY inspiring blog! You are so right and I love the way you compared it to something we can all understand! Have a GREAT weekend!

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WILLOWBROOK5 9/15/2012 1:25PM

    I love this analogy!!! So true. I plan to think of your words if I find myself wanting to make unhealthy choices with food or not exercising. Thanks!

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Maintaining isn't really like Losing, Yet it is

Sunday, August 19, 2012

There has been a lot of wonderful discussion on the At Goal and Maintaining + Transitioning to Maintenance Board, as we try to figure out what maintaining really is. The keeping weight off part is pretty obvious, but the attitudes are very different and not discussed often enough.

I remember years ago when I decided to have a facelift. I went to interview several surgeons. One of them asked me why I wanted it done. He said that if my answer had been to get others to like me more, or to get my husband to love me more, he wouldn't have done it. Anything you do for the sole purpose of eliciting a certain response from another person will never work out the way you think. I know people who buy expensive cars so that people will look up to them (they won't) or put in a dream kitchen to impress the neighbors (it won't) are doomed to serial disappointment.

Most of us started the weight loss process to just lose the stupid weight. Which is fine. But along the way we got a lot of appreciation for something obvious to others, even if their assumptions of how we did it were wrong. We all love positive attention. But if we lost the weight thinking that we would finally live a life with no problems (and that's what any long term, hard fought goal looks like waaaay in the future), and a life of constant adulation, we are doomed to disappointment.

When I first started in WW I was told that I would learn patience; I would learn discipline and know it wouldn't kill me; I would learn that there is life without Reeses. And even though I was busy weighing and measuring and writing things down, and drinking that milk and eating that fish, and going to meetings even though there might be something better to do, I was learning all those things below my radar.

And I learned to have faith in myself. I learned that if I listen to people who know more than I do and listened to them (remember that ago old lament "If only I knew then what I know now?") I would be able to handle life as it came at me, rather than thinking that a certain weight would make me immune to life's challenges.

There are people who keep getting advanced degrees in order to avoid going out into the big, unfamiliar world. We don't have that choice: we CAN"T keep losing weight. We MUST make the transition to doing all the work without all the outside applause. But we have a group right here on Spark to hash it all out with.

Pour yourself a cup of coffee and check us out.
www.sparkpeople.com/myspark/groups_i
ndividual.asp?gid=1111

  
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SHEENADEE 10/8/2012 10:01AM

    Hi - I know I'm a little late commenting on this blog; but, I just recently joined the team you mention and somehow that helped lead me to you. I really appreciate your thoughts in this blog. Maintenance can be so difficult if we don't put ourselves in the right mindset and work at it.

Thanks!

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JAZZEJR 9/15/2012 9:21PM

    Glad I found you through the featured blog. You're a true inspiration. And thanks for the link.

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CAMAEL100 9/15/2012 3:53PM

    This blog has inspired me in more ways than one!! Really we have to live life for ourselves not for others!

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GOPINTOS 9/15/2012 8:33AM

    Loved this! thank you!

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BRAINNOISE 9/14/2012 8:33PM

    Great post!


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MANDELOVICH 9/14/2012 8:28PM

    You are an inspiration!

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WILLOWBROOK5 9/8/2012 9:11PM

    Great post!

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LEALOWE 9/8/2012 2:54PM

    Hear hear!

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PENOWOK 9/8/2012 8:58AM

    Well said

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MEXGAL1 9/6/2012 7:50PM

    Fabulous blog...great thoughts that I can really identify with. thank you so much for posting.
Have a terrific evening.
Sallie

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GOTTAPLAN4U 9/4/2012 9:45AM

  However you got there, you are a very wise woman. Thanks for making the effort to share your wisdom.
Kate

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ELOQUENTZ 8/30/2012 1:40PM

    Good post.

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KASPER10779 8/28/2012 12:00PM

    I am not at the maintaining point just yet, but I really appreciated the insight you give here :). It will definitely be a help for me in the future!!

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MISSB8604 8/27/2012 6:52PM

    I've been really worrying about this myself and am glad you brought it up. I guess I never realized how much of a battle maintaining is. It's actually quite scary to me.

Thank you.

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FRUITCASE 8/26/2012 5:03PM

    I agree, this maintaining malarkey is a difficult journey and I for one need help along the way.So I welcome the support available on this site to keep me going. emoticon

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NEWCHINELO 8/26/2012 4:15PM

    thanks for sharing!

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MARTHAWILL 8/25/2012 8:43PM

    Thanks for the insights. Very well put and so true. I had so much faith in myself and am looking for it back. It's a roller coaster ride- would like it to be straight and narrow again. Not going to happen because LIFE happens and you can never let up your guard - knowing the facts/truths/pitfalls alone doesn't do it. It's what you allow to take over between the ears.

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REENIE131 8/24/2012 10:53PM

    Very helpful. Thank you!


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EMILYDOODLE 8/24/2012 10:07PM

  Great blog! thanks for sharing, it really is a journey to maintain your weight. it really is hard!
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MNABOY 8/24/2012 8:45PM

    Still have a way to goal but still enjoyed and learned from your words. Thanks for sharing.

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AEHEGE 8/24/2012 5:50PM

    Wise words!

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IFEOMA4 8/24/2012 5:30PM

  i agree

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MANILUS 8/24/2012 11:38AM

    There are so many issues in this life that we must deal with, if weight is not an issue, we can deal with those better! Thanks for sharing that maintenance holds issues.

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KOMTRIA 8/24/2012 8:45AM

  Helpful posting. Lots to think about.

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JESSJESSB 8/24/2012 7:40AM

    This is one of the smartest, most insightful statements I've heard so far: "We MUST make the transition to doing all the work without all the outside applause."

I've found myself slipping into unhealthy habits to maintain- I lost all 119 lbs the smart, healthy way, but now I'm picking up unhealthy behaviors to try to be able to eat crap and still keep it off. I never dreamed that would be something I struggled with on THIS side of the goal line. I'm trying to be more active in the forum.

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THETROUT 8/24/2012 7:08AM

    Wow! I'm looking forward to getting to your side of this journey. Thanks for sharing.

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SLENDERELLA61 8/24/2012 6:52AM

    Great blog, Nell! And thanks for your continuing commitment to help us maintainers. -Marsha

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SHERRYBETH84 8/24/2012 3:43AM

    I finally realized why the others keep calling this their journey, rather than their accomplishment. It is all a journey through life, with new goals and speed bumps and wrong turns at every moment, with or without the added weight on our body. I read blogs like yours to help keep me mindful of the pitfalls and get directions as I traverse through new areas in my journey. Thanks for the alert. Thanks for the heartfelt blog.

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ILOVEMALI 8/24/2012 2:55AM

    Great thoughts--inspiring!

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NUOVAELLE 8/24/2012 2:28AM

    "My late knowledge, I wish I had you earlier!" That's a proverb in my country, one I've used a lot in my life and, I believe, a common human behavior. We've all wished at some point in our lives that we knew back then what we know now. But when there are people like you, who decide to devote time and effort to helping others reach this knowledge earlier than they would by themselves, life gets easier.
I just read about your journey in the team's e-mails and all I can say is that you are a REAL motivation!
Thank you!
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JAZZEJR 8/23/2012 10:37PM

    I'm struggling with maintenance. Maybe I need to focus on something different than the lbs. But that's the only thing I'm having a problem with....

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MYSTERY-LADY1 8/23/2012 9:17PM

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EASH5M 8/23/2012 8:43PM

    I agree!

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 8/23/2012 7:05PM

    And that's the Truth!!!
Thanks for summing it up in print! emoticon

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STARWARSFAN2 8/23/2012 6:23PM

    Congratulations on reaching this stage of your fitness journey! Thank you for articulating the maintenance step so well.

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ADRIENALINE 8/23/2012 6:10PM

    Wow the truest words on SP

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CRAZYWOMAN10 8/23/2012 3:16PM

    Very well put...Something I need to focus on for sure :)

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GLASSART43 8/23/2012 3:15PM

    emoticon for your blog!

I couldn't lose weight and keep it off until I decided to put my health first and make it a priority in my life. No waiting around for other family members to get onboard, just do what I could to get healthy.

Maintenance is a struggle - SparkPeople is a lifesaver.



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GRANDMAPATTYV 8/23/2012 2:22PM

    Thanks for the encouragement and insight! I'm working on the maintaining part of life, and it is hard.... I do find myself wondering if people even realize how hard this journey is? But it's not for them, it's for me that I do this, and continue to record my food, and journal my achievements and stay with my teams!! You are totally an inspiration! Thanks Nell!!! - Patty emoticon

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DIANEDOESSMILES 8/23/2012 2:16PM

    SO TRUE !! SO TRUE !! I myself am FAR from this point, but I am a leader for a team, where many are soooooooo fortunate to hit ths ! WOOHOOOOOOOO Includin WONDAHFUL TINAJANE76 !!! GOOO TINA !! We are SO PROUD OF YOU !!!!!! She was NOT even near this when she joined the 5% challenge, but with so much help from the team,,,her OWN Determination of which Tina has SO MUCH OF !! GOOO TINA GOOO ! We are VERY BLESSED and HONORED to have Tina with us !

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CHANSEN_20001 8/23/2012 1:20PM

    I need to keep this blog for when the day comes and I'm maintaining. It's something to look forward to.

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RUSSLANE 8/23/2012 12:33PM

    Nell, would you hate me if I said I really want to put you in a helicopter, shove a bullhorn in your hand and let you have at it?

You're totally my hero.

I think you hit on the biggest difference between weight loss and maintaining -- having faith in yourself, and building that muscle just as much as you would a bicep.

Weight loss, in its strictest sense, is about following a structured eating and/or exercise plan. Ultimately, you're being told what to do. And that's needed -- if you didn't, you wouldn't need to lose weight, right?

Maintaining is learning to call the shots, I found, and think for yourself, tweak, problem solve and build a life that's makes your weight loss the least of your accomplishments. It's a different context, but also a highly individual one.

Would you agree teaching the transition, and devising a method that bridges the gap between being-told-what-to-do and rugged individualism be a key component of increasing the 5 percent?


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JEANSHEP2 8/23/2012 12:29PM

    Whoa, Nell. When I first came on Spark, 4 1/2 years ago, I lost 50 lbs the first year and was so proud to be at goal. But I did not have anyone to encourage me to maintain so I have gained back nearly 30 lbs. I am now anxious to lose that re-gained weight and get to your team. Your blog is what I needed when I reached goal before! Now I have another reason to lose...going for it.

Jean

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MNJONES2 8/23/2012 11:29AM

    So happy for you Nell. You are the best!!


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LVMAMAW 8/23/2012 11:27AM

    Great Blog! Thank you for sharing! You are so right! emoticon

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MANDELOVICH 8/23/2012 11:14AM

    Great tips! I'm not quite at goal, but I'm so happy to know that when I get there, I will be able to learn from and support this group!

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Anticipation is as good as Gratification

Sunday, August 05, 2012

I am a planner. I tend to eat the same breakfast and lunch every day for a few months, then change, but dinner is different every night. I write out my dinner plans with day and cookbook page number, note in my calendar anything that needs to be done in advance (thaw meat, soak beans, put soup on hours in advance) and always have everything I will need in advance. That way I can look forward to it.

At night if I want to "chew", I just picture what my breakfast will look like. Mid morning if I start to get itchy or hungry, I picture my lunch. Then I picture my dinner, and look forward to it. Tonight I will be making a shrimp Pad Thai. I love it, and I can wait for it, and the waiting is more exciting knowing that I'll actually be eating something I love at 6:00. I don't eat between meals, but rather feast on the exciting knowledge of what I know I will be eating. Food is still one of the central thrills in my life, and looking forward to it is part of the thrill. And I get to eat THREE TIMES A DAY!!! Every day.

There are so many things in life that just don't turn out the way we hoped it would. We are disappointed in a date or a holiday that just didn't measure up to our expectations. But when I am doing the planning and the cooking, it will. I don't know about hunger being the best sauce, but anticipation surely is.

  
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1BABYSTEP1 9/26/2012 10:38PM

  You're an inspiration. I'm starting SP for the second time. If I had stayed with the program I would be at goal by now but alas....I want to be successful like you!

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JANEMARIE77 9/17/2012 1:50PM

    second blog of your I read wonderful I'm going to add you as a friend so I don't miss any of your wonderful insights Thank You

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-SHOREIDO- 9/15/2012 1:49PM

    Wow, did you hit home on this one!!
Time and time again I've heard this same story or watched it playing out in my own life.
And used those same exact words!! How long does it take to sink in?
Each and every week it happens @ one time or another I'm left with me,myself and I and THOSE WORDS!!
THOSE words are the reason we love this team "At Goal & Maintaing" and why it works for so many.
People like you out there in front waving those red flags.
Merci beaucoup Spark friend!!! emoticon

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JAZZEJR 8/23/2012 10:38PM

    Great idea. I can use this! emoticon

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WINDSURFNERD 8/23/2012 9:00AM

    Your comment about "food is one of the central thrills" resonates with me, thanks for sharing your technique of using anticipation as a healthy way to enjoy food. Your blog reminds me that you don't have to overindulge to enjoy! emoticon

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WATERMELLEN 8/19/2012 8:35PM

    What a great idea! Hunger is not an emergency . . . I can wait for my next meal and I can enjoy being hungry because it means I'm going to really appreciate the meal when the right time arrives!

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COMPUCATHY 8/11/2012 10:32PM

    Very cool insight. Thank you!!!!! This really helps me. We are in the right place. Hope you are having a great weekend! Keep up the good work! Thanks for the encouragement! Spark on! emoticon

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TSEWARD 8/11/2012 12:24PM

    thank you for your comment on my blog! setting mini, attainable goals and not looking past them to get overwhelmed with the next sounds like an effective strategy...I will try it! I love your meal planning tips. I don't even begin to be that organized. It sounds like the planning in advance to create healthy FLAVORFUL meals is key your keep you at your goal weight.. so often I get caught in the cheese stick, cottage cheese, salad, grilled chicken rut and just plain miss variety. Then I think I want icecream, but what I really want is something DIFFERENT!
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DARLENEK04 8/6/2012 5:41PM

  I am the same way...if I vary my meals thru the day I
get derailed. I am with Nell on her approach to how
she handles her meals and no snacking.

Darlene

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ZUCCHINIQUEEN 8/6/2012 6:41AM

    I'm beginning to understand how you have been so successful for so long!

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MEDDYPEDDY 8/6/2012 12:13AM

    Congratulations on finding habits that works so well for you!

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FISHINGLADY66 8/5/2012 9:29PM

    I seen to follow the same strategy you discribed. I love Pad Thai. Would you care to share your recipe? Yum Yum

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ILOVEMALI 8/5/2012 2:24PM

    What a smart way to make it to the next meal!! I'll try to remember this. My problem lately is that I get do busy at work that I forget to snack or I don't eat a big enough snack. When I get home, my blood sugar is bottomed out and I've been snacking too much.

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LUVSBULLDOGS 8/5/2012 2:03PM

    OK, so what do you eat for breakfast and lunch? I've tried to come up with something that would work for me daily.

I love anticipation.

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NAVYMOM133 8/5/2012 11:36AM

    This is simply brilliant! I have the same breakfast each day, one I love to eat, and love knowing it is healthy. Lunch is a variation of the same theme, and I enjoy lunch. But, dinners?
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I *do* keep them healthy but had not thought about the kind of anticipatory pre-planning that you do!! I love this idea, and also really love the idea of :thinking: about what's to come at that next meal.
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ONEKIDSMOM 8/5/2012 11:28AM

    What a great strategy... you have given me a new tool today, one I had not considered before. Thanks for sharing... and proving to me, I CAN learn something new every day!

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MARGOMCP 8/5/2012 10:32AM

    What wonderful, healthy habits! Takes care of so many eating problems without even trying, turns them into something fun instead.

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Old advice on How To Live

Friday, August 03, 2012

"To hurt no body by words nor dead. To be true and just in all my dealing. To bear no malice nor hatred in my heart. To keep my hands from picking and stealing, and my tongue from evil speaking, lying and slandering. To keep my body in temperance, soberness, and chastity. Not to covet nor desire other men's goods.

But learn and labor truly to get my own living, and to do my duty in that state of life unto which is shall please God to call me."

This is quoted from the Order of Confirmation in the 1549 Book of Common Prayer. How perfect is that advice? All the misery I have ever endured comes down to not following this very old admonition. It must be hard because by 1662 it was no longer in the Order. I read it daily as a reminder that sometimes, the oldest, most boring advice, is the best.

  
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KITTYF54 9/17/2012 9:55AM

    Paraphrase of the Biblical admonitions. thanks

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HOPE541 9/14/2012 8:02PM

    Beautiful words of advice. Thank you.

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DDOORN 8/23/2012 8:25AM

    These words have much overlap with Don Miguel Ruiz' Four Agreements...another great piece of wisdom.

Thx for sharing!

Don

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KARENNK8 8/4/2012 9:34AM

    An excellent pattern for a good life. Thank you.

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MEDDYPEDDY 8/4/2012 2:10AM

    Thanks - I am going to quote this because it was wonderful!

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FISHINGLADY66 8/3/2012 4:58PM

    I'm sure that's not read to children (or parents) today. Great advice. emoticon

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LUVSBULLDOGS 8/3/2012 4:23PM

    OLd good advice, perfect.

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ILOVEMALI 8/3/2012 3:50PM

    Wonderful post! Thank you!

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TAMPATINK67 8/3/2012 1:55PM

    Thanks Nell - sage advice. As always!

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PRESBESS 8/3/2012 1:49PM

    excellent words of wisdom for us all
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TORTISE110 8/3/2012 12:46PM

    Sums good life up pretty well. Thanks for the post. emoticon

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CUISINEEXAMINER 8/3/2012 11:49AM

    Right on, but sometimes I think we also experience misery because not everyone reads - or has ever read - such advice.

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THEEXERCISER 8/3/2012 10:49AM

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Gain weight in the shower?

Sunday, July 29, 2012

I was telling my son, the Registered Dietician, about how much my weight bounces every day. I'm at maintenance so not trying to lose, yet my weight just pops around. He told me to weigh myself before and after a shower. I gained .6 pounds just from the shower and body lotion! That is how much water my skin absorbed in just a few minutes. And, of course, it came off by morning. I know I swell in humid weather, but who knew from a shower??

  
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ZEEDRA 10/30/2012 4:02PM

    My students who live with me, from Japan (others who have lived with me are from other parts of Asia), always shower at night. This makes me think that it's good to go to bed hydrated.
So, I try to emulate them and have a shower or bath at night as well (and maybe the salts I use hold in even more water?).
Sandra

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123ELAINE456 9/16/2012 5:46AM

  Very interesting!!! Will keep this in mind. Thanks to your Son. God Bless You and Have a Wonderful Week.

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LUVSBULLDOGS 7/30/2012 5:15PM

    That's news to me. Thanks for telling us.

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ILOVEMALI 7/30/2012 3:27PM

    I will never weigh myself after a shower again! LOL! Thanks for the post!

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NWCOUNTRYDANCER 7/30/2012 3:25PM

    Wow! Glad I weigh before my shower.

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NOMIS1 7/30/2012 11:51AM

    Very interesting. I weigh before shower, when i get up, what's my excuse?

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JEANNE229 7/30/2012 9:14AM

    Wow! I didn't realize this. So, if you DRINK lots of water, I wonder if you absorb as much from the shower?

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KARENNK8 7/30/2012 8:38AM

    Very interesting. I my weight bounces around a bit, from hour to hour, day to day. Which is why so many experts tell dieters to weight just once a week! But over a half-pound from a shower... I wouldn't have thunk it.

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LESLIESENIOR 7/29/2012 9:59PM

    It's so dry where I live in So. Cal.......I only HOPE my skin absorbs war. But, I'll weigh BEFORE my shower. Thanks.


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DARLENEK04 7/29/2012 8:34PM

  Very interesting Nell....I will keep that in mind.....

Tell your son thanks..........and thank you for sharing...


Darlene

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BARBARASDIET 7/29/2012 5:28PM

    Funny. I only weigh myself at the one time in the morning, after I get up so that it is fairly constant.

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TAMPATINK67 7/29/2012 1:52PM

    Awesome!

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HHB4181 7/29/2012 12:55PM

    I had no idea. How interesting... thanks for sharing!
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TORTISE110 7/29/2012 11:24AM

    This is a fun observation. I'm thinking maybe I am just too clean at the moment... Fun to think about. Thanks for the post.

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CINDYWAGNER1 7/29/2012 11:12AM

    INTERESTING!! Who knew. Thanks for sharing this!

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LIONESS678 7/29/2012 11:08AM

    Hey! I don't feel so fat now!

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FISHINGLADY66 7/29/2012 10:49AM

    That's amazing. Thanks for the information.

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KATIEGARCIA2 7/29/2012 10:44AM

  Thanks for sharing!!

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