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The Disease of "More"

Sunday, June 24, 2012

Something has happened to the world over the 6+ decades I have been alive. People all want More rather than Enough.

If one pair of shoes is good, are 20 pairs better? If 10 rooms is good, are 15 rooms better? If 1 cup of pasta is good, are two cups better? If one drink is good, is the whole bottle better?

I watch shows on TV where people are constantly having to buy bigger homes to house their increasing amounts of stuff. Are they better off? Do the kids really need a thousand toys? Do you need all the clothes that require a closet the size of the bedroom I shared with my sister growing up?

Do super sized portions really make us feel better than the old portion sizes did?

When did we go from wanting "Different and New" to "More of the Same?" Just because we CAN have it, does it mean we should?

Maybe it's a new disease. Alas, the cure is an inside job.

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 7/23/2012 8:28PM

    You have another powerful blog entry here. I totally agree with you. When I was growing up whole families lived in houses which many people would sneer at today.

I have been working hard to avoid any excess expenditure over the past few years. I want it to be easy for people to clean up after me when I die. That's not a joke; just a sincere reflection on how little I need.

I have moved more to library books, to listening to the radio instead of having to own music, to renting instead of buying some things. It helps to keep things less cluttered.

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SKYEFYR 7/5/2012 2:05PM

  Hubby's like this. Only instead of multiples, he needs the latest and greatest as soon as it comes out. Then he's always frustrated with the bugs. My attitude most of the time is if it still works, why replace it?

Although all the rules are off when it comes to chrome for the bikes. I actually realized I went a little too far and now it's figuring out what to take off to bring it back to showy and away from tacky. :-) It's a very fine line!

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1_AMAZING_WOMAN 7/1/2012 3:34PM

    I have that 'disease' in one area; costume jewelry. I kept buying new peices, and I would wear it a LOT for awhile and then not be wearing it; then buy more, and same thing happened. I kept doing this, and now I have a whole bunch of stuff that I supposedly treasure, but don't wear.

I finally realized that what I am doing is buying to fill an emotional need that can’t be filled by any amount of buying. I just have to deal with whatever issues are creating that ‘emotional hole’, and keep the money in my pocket for purchasing because of the right circumstances. I still ‘slip’ and ‘fill’ my emotional needs with more jewelry - just like I do with handling my feelings with food - but I am working towards handling the emotions appropriately. One day at a time.


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PENNYLOU7 6/27/2012 1:22PM

    It seems the "more" we have, including choices, the less happy we are. It definitely seems out of balance. I like the "cure" being an "inside job," Nell. So true.

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KALISWALKER 6/26/2012 12:16PM

    People are never called greedy when they take more than they need. When did that change?

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    Been thinking the same kind of thing lately.

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LIVNFITNHAPPY 6/25/2012 12:58AM

    I don't think that it is necessarily a "new" disease. I, too, have seen what appears to be a shifting focus over the last 6+ decades. I believe, in part, that we are saddened by the visibility (reality tv, internet, facebook, twitter, etc.) of the disease of "more". It is exploited as never before. But how much is it on the rise? It has always been there. It is debatable whether or not it is spreading. Those who strive for simple lives are not big news or dramatic enough to be splashed about the tv and internet. I am cheering for all who are looking to find what is truly most important in life and not just "more". You are right, It is and Inside job! :)

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SLENDERELLA61 6/24/2012 8:49PM

    Very astute observation. So true. Thank you for sharing this thought-provoking blog.

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MSWEEZER 6/24/2012 4:52PM

    Your blog was shared with me by MEADSBAY and all I can say is WHAT TIMING!! It is so true. We are truly spoiled and no 'thing' can make us truly happy. It is all from within. Thanks for the reminder!!!

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MTPOETNH 6/24/2012 1:11PM

    I enjoyed reading your Blog.. what you said is so true.. I am coming to believe the more stuff we "own" , the more the stuff actually "owns us".. like you say needing bigger house ( and mortgage) to keep it all in. emoticon Peggy

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FISHINGLADY66 6/24/2012 12:38PM

    This is so true. Great Blog Nell. My kids are living proof of this.

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NEW-CAZ 6/24/2012 11:07AM

    So true, great blog!

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MEADSBAY 6/24/2012 10:45AM

    OMG- I 'liked' this blog and LOVED it!
You are SO right.
We had so much fun growing up- with hardly a toy in the house!


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BROWNCOFIDDLER 6/24/2012 10:32AM

    Love it. Society's 'want' list is out of control. The truth is that most of us have all that we need already. You're right, the problem lies almost does present itself as a societal disease, without bounds. Great blog!

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BELTONWALKER67 6/24/2012 10:01AM

    Great Blog! So True! I often wonder why people can't be content with what they have and take care of what they have rather than keep buying new and more of the same stuff. Only leads to cluttering all aspects of life.

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JEANNE229 6/24/2012 9:36AM

    How true this is! I am always amazed at how much people EXPECT and never appreciate.

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EVIE4NOW 6/24/2012 9:26AM

  Think you hit it right on the head! Kinda goes with the saying... He who accumulates the most toys wins. (wins what?)

Comment edited on: 6/24/2012 9:27:09 AM

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What they have in their carts!!

Friday, June 08, 2012

I guess this is a followup from my last blog, but I have to share my amazement at what I saw at Costco yesterday. There was a woman pushing a cart full of Costco sized snack foods......and Sensa. This poor woman evidently believes the ads, that you can eat anything your heart desires and lose weight as long as you sprinkle Sensa on it.

I guess desperate people will believe anything that makes a daunting job seem easy. It's like the woman I met decades ago who drank a can of Metrecal with every meal and was upset that she wasn't losing weight. (For you younger folks, Metrecal was a meal substitute like SlimFast.)

There is no substitute for eating less, for some, a LOT less. If there were a magic, easy solution, someone would have found it by now. And be a gazillionaire.

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TRAINER_T 7/27/2012 11:35AM

    What a super blog!

I don't care about others carts, just MINE.

I can't change people that are not my clients and I don't care if someone checks out my cart.

My DH loves all kinds of junk, so people may think I eat it but I don't. (and he goes to the donut shop once a week)

Like others comments here, you never know who they are buying for.....but does it really matter? People love food, so as long as they buy it will still be made $$$,

Great topic, thanks for posting it!!!!

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SKYEFYR 7/5/2012 2:10PM

  I love being told that someone is buying the junk food for the kids. Why??? To teach them bad habits early? Why on earth wouldn't you teach them early on what nutrition is and how to feed your body? I just don't get it. Not to mention that all the chemicals in those products isn't good for you! Urgh!

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IGSBETH 7/2/2012 1:07PM

    The poor lady.

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MOMMA-MOOSE 7/1/2012 7:33PM

    I always worry - but not as much as I use to - about what people might think of my shopping cart. I shop for me and my husband, our 13 yr old daughter and our 21 yr old son. We also have a couple of house guests around our sons age staying with us right now too.

I buy plenty of fruits and veggies as well as staples like eggs, bread, milk, and juice. I also have whatever I need for dinners the following week, but it's not tofu. I cook pretty average meals and always include a salad or veggies, but there's also things like mashed potatoes, or mac n cheese - things some of the other people in my home might prefer. I've learned to work around dinnertime meals but adding in the salad/veggies, avoiding the high calorie sides, and practicing portion control for myself. You might also see ice cream, cookies, and/or chips in my cart. These things don't really tempt me and the others in my home like them. My husband drinks diet soda and I drink water, but you will see several sodas in my cart each week as well.

I used to worry that people would judge me by what's in my cart and assume that was why I was fat. I'm not so fat anymore, but I would still hate to think that someone was making assumptions about my eating habits based on what they see in the checkout line.

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EMMANYC 7/1/2012 5:46PM

    How do you know that she was buying either the snack foods, or the Sensa, for herself?

Why do people feel the need to judge people based on appearances (of the person or what the person seems to be doing)?

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    I am a fat person and I push a cart of vegetables all the time. Maybe people shouldn't be so judgmental.

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1_AMAZING_WOMAN 7/1/2012 3:44PM

    For the one who said, "I don't think I ever saw a fat person pushing a cart full of veggies" I am that person. I am fat, and yet usually you will see my cart loaded with only produce; no junk food and no processed foods. It is my binge episodes of sweets that make me fat, and keep me fat.

I too look in people's carts, and often what I see is shocking, and also makes me feel for them. And, what's really sad is that once in a blue moon I have a cart that has jelly stuffed donuts, pie, ice cream, ritz crackers etc. in it. That's when I'm not dealing with my feelings: the anxiety, stress, grief, anger etc. in my life, and when I am eating simply to cope cause I am 'hanging on by a thread'. But, still, 90% of the time I am pushing a cart loaded with produce. Most of the time people will look at my cart, and wonder how the hades I got fat eating like that!?

Dealing with my feelings more appropriately, and, having my carts loaded with produce, are how I will get healthier and thinner.


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FISHINGLADY66 6/11/2012 10:01PM

    You are so right.

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DARLENEK04 6/9/2012 5:39PM

  You can sprinkle anything you want to on your food, and
if you continue to shovel in JUNK you will get nowhere.

You cannot eat like a horse and expect to be a pixie....

And Diet Coke is full of chemicals by the own
personal opinion is no soda is good for anyone....if you
ever read the full list of ingredients, then look them up,
it should scare you out of drinking soda...and it just
breaks my heart to se any mother pouring soda pop into their
infant/toddlers' baby bottles..........shuddering........


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MEDDYPEDDY 6/9/2012 2:01AM

    When I buy burger meals I always have diet coke – and wonder if they ridicule me for doing that since it surely does not make up for the calorie-packed serving I am eating. But the thing is I got used to diet coke years ago and the only soda I ever have is that diet coke with drivethrough meals.

I am slightly offended by your assumption about this womans beliefs and behaviour, we don´t know why she had that combinaation in her chart do we? Diet coke is the only substitute I have used since I am suspicious of chemical stuff but as insane I am with food and eating I have not that much to say about what others do...But thanks for inspiring me to a blog!

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    I don't think I ever saw a fat person pushing a cart full of veggies.

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TEXASLYNN 6/8/2012 11:08AM

    Love it but have you ever wondered what people think when they see a fat gal pushing a cart full of veggies?

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AVANELL 6/8/2012 10:32AM

    I knew a lady who said her doctor's dietician told her that South Beach Diet bars were nutritious and would help her lose weight so she took that literally and ate nothing but them for 24 hours--3 boxes of them! I don't think she lost any weight!

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JEANNE229 6/8/2012 10:26AM

    Or...eating a 3 pound burger and fries with a diet coke. I WISH there were a magic pill. No such thing.

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KALISWALKER 6/8/2012 10:18AM

    emoticonShe is in for a surprise.

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DAP1313 6/8/2012 10:07AM

    Yep, I agree with you about it not being easy. But I think the inner child wants to have her cake and eat it too. LOL

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TAMPATINK67 6/8/2012 10:02AM

    True, true, true!

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They eat more than I do!

Wednesday, June 06, 2012

Yesterday I read in the paper about another study that found yet another gene that may cause an overweight person's difficulty in losing weight. I see overweight people walking through the grocery store piling their carts with snacks and frozen entrees, even healthy ones.

Yet I know that they eat more than I do. They may exercise more or order "lower calorie" items off a menu, but they are heavier than I am because they eat more.

I learned long ago that I have to eat less of everything and none of some things. It's tough sometimes, but that's what I have to do if I wanted to lose that weight and keep it off. I used to think that when I saw a thin person, that she had found the "secret", the foods that she could eat in large quantities or the perfect "fat-busting" exercise that would enable her to eat everything her heart desired whenever she wanted to. Alas, they simply eat less. Once I absorbed and accepted that, I was able to do the same. It isn't easy; as a matter of fact it's sometimes the hardest thing I do. But I eat less than they do every day, no days off.

In the end, the "secret" wasn't so secret after all.

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--KREN 9/17/2012 9:04AM

    I KNOW this. Thank you for reminding me I know it. lol Karen

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ADAGIO_CON_BRIO 6/6/2012 3:34PM

    I agree with you absolutely. When I was at my heaviest I may not have eaten more at meals, but I more than made up for it in binge behavior.

Anyhow I wanted to congratulate you for all the Spark Points you have earned in June. You are tops of the charts for the Mystery Readers Group.

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FISHINGLADY66 6/6/2012 10:24AM

    I agree with you. I have found I have to eat less to keep my weight down also. emoticon

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KMIRANDA2000 6/6/2012 10:21AM

    I understand exactly what you're saying and at 47 I'm just accepting this fact. My daughter is 19 and she's having to learn that she just cannot eat the way some other people do. Sad, but once you accept this fact, you can work with it.

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MEADSBAY 6/6/2012 9:11AM

You HAVE discovered the secret!
It doesn't matter (within a healthy range) how we do it-
we just have to do it!

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So That or Because?

Monday, March 26, 2012

I was at Costco today, and had to maneuver around the crowds at the sample purveyors. One was for a frozen eclair. I actually wanted to get to the shelf behind the crowd, and one woman in the line asked me if I was waiting for a sample. I told her, No, I'm not much on samples because I feel guilty if I don't buy the item being sold. She said that if she were as thin as I am she'd eat the whole box.

Actually when I first joined WW to lose weight all those years ago, I had the same goal: get me to my target weight so that I could then eat whatever I wanted. Once I passed the "maintenance period" that WW used to have, I realized that I am thin not SO THAT I can eat those things, but BECAUSE I DON'T eat them.

Let me never forget that, no matter what temptation is presented to me!

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DESERTJULZ 6/3/2012 4:41PM

    I prefer the giveaways at Trader Joes to those at Costco!

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WVAWACKADOO 4/4/2012 6:04PM

    Thanks for sharing...I am fortunate, that most of the free stuff given out at the Kroger doesn't appeal to me...but hey, if it was all baked goods...I'd be "Grazin" & that is how I put my weight on. I love that SP lets us know that we can eat anything, but it is really helpful to use Mindful Eating...that slows me down & I end up making better choices...Take care...

JANEY emoticon

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67CAMARO_SS 3/28/2012 1:31PM

    You're such an inspiration Nell! Thanks for sharing your thoughts & life-wisdom.... once again :)
I do have to chuckle at so many people in line for free giveaways in a lot of places. Usually - it's simply not worth it.
June :)

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SIMPLY-EVA 3/28/2012 9:17AM

  That was awesome! Im going to share it with my WW buddy. We are both struggling with the rules and tracking but this puts it all into perspective.



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FISHINGLADY66 3/27/2012 10:01PM

    You have changed your lifestyle and I'm sure you are much healthier because of it. emoticon

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BANKER-CHUCK 3/27/2012 1:51PM

    You are a very wise person. You have learned your lessons well about weight and health management.

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KMIRANDA2000 3/26/2012 7:48PM

    Amen sista!

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MEADSBAY 3/26/2012 3:57PM

    Some wise words here, my friend!

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TAMPATINK67 3/26/2012 1:15PM


Wisdom... I really appreciate your comments Nell - you succeeded at the goal of loosing the weight AND have conquered the maintenance... Something very few do. Your practical, straight forward "common sense" approach is fabulous. Rational, non-emotional.

Just the facts Mam. Just the facts!

Thank you for continuing to blog on Spark and share your key learnings!

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Biological Imperative?

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

I hear a lot about some people being genetically programmed to overeat, that it is their destiny. They just sigh and eat everything in sight because that is their biological fate. But if your husband slept with every available woman because men are biologically programmed to mate constantly to propogate the species, your wouldn't tolerate that excuse for a minute. (I hope!)

Fortunately we don't need to cave to any genetic imperative to eat beyond the food necessary to maintain health. There are many who have found ways to defeat the initial call of the Cheetos. Or the Reeses. And they DO call! My biology is not my destiny. I have trained myself and now my training is my destiny, as long as I keep up my training regime every day.

Take that genes!! I win!!

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KALISWALKER 3/27/2012 11:00AM

    Good point!

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SIMPLY-EVA 3/1/2012 3:13PM

  I love this! That is such a great point and no, I sure would not stand for it. emoticon

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67CAMARO_SS 2/29/2012 6:04AM

    Yup---Strength Training for the brain!!!
And chuckling out loud at PJCHILI'S comment about breaking out in fat, too funny, but good perspective.
So many excuses out there...right? But on to a better destiny we go!
June :)

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PJCHILIS 2/26/2012 7:18AM

    I know what you mean. I have fantasies abount rolling around in a big coconut cream pie. I take a few bites a year of it and then know I have to behave myself.

I find it easiest not to bring home things that I shouldn't eat.

I try to think about the inappropiate foods as allergy foods. In a way they are, I'd break out with fat.

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TAMPATINK67 2/23/2012 9:00PM

    Thanks Nell - your wisdom is so valuable to those of us working on reaching that healthy weight....

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KALISWALKER 2/23/2012 6:12PM

    Right on!

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4A-HEALTHY-BMI 2/23/2012 1:50PM

    Free will is a wonderful thing.

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    Good blog! We all can DO it...

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FISHINGLADY66 2/22/2012 6:35PM

    Great Blog Nell. I love it. You are so right. Training is the way to go.

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