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My father

Sunday, June 15, 2014

I have spent a good part of today and some of the days leading up to today thinking about my father. I have mixed feelings about him. I feel sorry for him since he was abused terribly growing up. I do have to say that he tried not to pass the abuse on, though he did fail in some regards.

I keep having to struggle with anger towards him since his behavior most definitely shortened my mother's life. Not that he was trying to do that, he was trying to get her to marry him a third time. Although she knew the Bible fairly well, she did not know the part that warns against remarrying someone you have been married to before. She felt obligated to marry him, yet she couldn't face the stress of it. I was in my teens at the time and finally told her that I could see it was tearing her apart, and that she should not marry him. He was shocked and so was she, yet she decided not to marry him. The stress had weakened her health so much that she never recovered. (She had always had difficult health since she had severe rheumatoid arthritis.) She died at the age of 47.

I also feel anger about a time period that I won't describe since it was horrible and he was doing something he condemned in his own father. Later he did apologize to me.

He did not know the meaning of faithfulness for a man. He expected the woman to be faithful, but that did not apply to him.

I hope he really did turn to Jesus at the end of his life. I advised him to do that. In fact I almost took on a parental role with him near the end of his life. I do try to remember that his intentions were good, though a lot of his behavior was not.

  
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WARMSPRINGDAY 6/28/2014 9:42AM

    This must have been very difficult for you to share. I hope it has been healing as well.

Although my situation is different, I have someone I find myself getting angry at and struggling to forgive as well. Sometimes I think I have conquered, and then it rears up again. I am learning that, for me, forgiveness seems to come in layers. There is always a deeper level of forgiveness to move to. And there is nothing wrong with being angry over hurts we have experienced as long as we don't let it take root. It is a signal to forgive again - and again - and again.

I am proud of you for sharing this and pray that healing and forgiveness continues to progress in ever deepening levels in your lie.

Thank you for the blessing you are to me.

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 6/19/2014 6:30PM

    When I struggle with anger towards someone, I remember what Corrie Ten Boom said: Forgiveness is an act of the will that the heart doesn't have to agree with.

She also said, "Your love, Lord, is bigger than my hate."

So when I struggle with anger towards someone, I see that as my inner child or inner sense of justice, the inner wounded me inside, wanting to be healed and wanting justice to be
served to it.

I see it as an unmet need that is seeking attention because the unmet need, needs to be addressed.

In other words, a message from the internal me that there is unfinished business, unfinished wounding, unfinished injustice, that needs to be taken care of. And it's not going away until I DO take care of. I'm responsible for meeting it's need.

So I acknowledge neutrally that they hurt me and my anger is justifiable, but, I forgive them as an act of my will, anyway. And then I tell my wounded part of me that is seeking justice that I will do it good and take good care of it the rest of the days of my life; I will protect and serve, and do my best so nothing like that never happens again. We were children then but now we're not; now I'm the adult and I won't let that happen. I'm the parent now, and I will protect you.

But the other side of that coin is, (I tell my inner hurting self), is that while I am doing my part, it is the Lord's part to revenge evil. And it is the Lord's part to redeem and restore, both us and the one who hurt us; that He loves them just as much as He loves us. I tell myself that we need, together, to turn to the Lord and seek restoration and healing and peace. That's our assignment, and I need my inner self's help to do it together with me.

So I say this whole litany to my inner self, assuring the wounded, angry part that it is better to forgive and be redeemed; I guarantee the inner me justice b/c we're giving it to the Lord who is NEVER injust; and then 'we' seek the Lord, together.

Each time the anger or wound or injustice returns, I repeat the process. It does help. It's like I'm validating the hurt part of myself, and choosing to forgive again, each time.

I think you did well with your father; what does the Lord require of you but to do justly (you did), to love mercy (you forgave / you keep forgiving), and to walk humbly with your God?

I think you are doing all those things. That the anger keeps returning, just means there is unfinished business, some part of you that wants to be validated for the wrongs done to you, some part of you that has unfinished business and unmet needs, unhealed wounds. We all need to keep forgiving every time the anger returns; and we all need to keep seeking the Lord for restoration and healing and peace. As long as you are doing those things, actively, I think you are doing justly, loving mercy, and walking humbly with your God.

You can only honor the good in your parents, honor them for giving you life, and honor them by living a better, MORE HONOURABLE life than they did (in your father's case). When the anger comes up, listen to it; it's a red light that came on, on the dashboard of your car, saying something under the hood needs attention. Ask the Professional One, about it.

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NEWTEXDEBBIE 6/16/2014 11:27AM

    You are a strong soul Nellie.
I admire your strength and the love you have for others.....

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SADIEDOLORES 6/16/2014 10:40AM

    NELLIE, MY CHILDREN"S FATHER HAD AN ABUSIVE CHILDHOOD AND DID NOT TRY TO CHANGE ANYTHING, I HAD A HORRIBLE 50 YEARS AND IT WAS NOT THE MAN I WOULD HAVE CHOSEN TO MARRY, BUT WHEN YOUR NOT EDUCATED ABOUT MEN AND A LIE TRAPS YOU, IT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE HE ROBBED ME OF THE ONLY LIFE I HAVE, SORRY TO HEAR ABOUT YOUR DAD BUT WE SURVIVED PRAISE THE LORD AND I AM FREE NOW THANK YOU JESUS, HAPPY FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE.
SADIE

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SINGINGLADY47 6/16/2014 6:27AM

    I know this was so difficult to write for you. I was so blessed with my father that it hurts to know that everyone is not as lucky as I. My heart goes out to you and I pray that you father turned to the Lord. I am so thankful for the person that you are. My sister in Christ, you are without a doubt one of the most encouraging people I know. This was so hard for you to write but it just tells me how much OUR FATHER means to you. God bless you. I hope you have a blessed Monday.

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JUDITH316 6/16/2014 2:17AM

    Thanks for sharing, that's so tough, I feel your pain and for sure my prayers are with you, I too am glad you were there with your Dad near the end of his life, I'm sure your sweet and gentle spirit touched his heart, and I too hope he came to Jesus.

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DETERMINEDJANET 6/16/2014 12:01AM

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Thanks for sharing and I too hope he really did find Jesus by the end.

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FLEMIDG 6/15/2014 11:45PM

    Thanks for sharing your father's story, Nellie. I know it must have been very hard for you. I'm glad you were able to be there fore them near the end of his life.

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My mother

Saturday, May 10, 2014



This is a picture of my mother holding me as an infant.

My mother had a difficult life. She was born to a Methodist minister and his wife who had planned to go to India as missionaries. Shortly before they were to leave, he contracted tuberculosis, so was eliminated at that time from becoming a missionary. They took a pastorate in the small town of Columbus, NM, where Pancho Villa had raided and killed most of the men. My grandfather was hoping the dry air would help him to get over the tuberculosis, but it didn't. My grandmother did most of the pastoral duties, while his main duty was to pray. My mother was born there. At the age of 2, she got juvenile rheumatoid arthritis, though at the time they did not know what it was. My grandfather was very afraid he had given her something called tubercular bones.

After a while they moved to El Paso, TX, when the small church got another pastor. My grandmother got a teaching job in El Paso, and eventually got a Master of Arts degree in Education. She taught in the public schools there for over 40 years as well as nursing her husband and helping her little daughter. My mother's arthritis was very active during her growing years since her skeletal structure was very altered from what is normal. One leg was 4 inches shorter than the other and her arms were shorter than usual compared to her height. She did well in school, but was bullied since she was not very adept socially and was handicapped.

She met my father when he was stationed at Ft. Bliss, TX, which is adjacent to El Paso. They married and shortly thereafter he was sent overseas since it was during WWII. I was born while he was in Germany. When he came back after the war, he got out of the army after a while, but felt restless, so signed up for the Air Force and soon was sent to Germany again and then to Korea. At the time he was in Germany he told my mother he wanted a divorce. She was heartbroken. Then she went back to college, first getting her BA and then her MA in education. She got a teaching job about the time I went to elementary school. A few years later, my father reappeared and wanted to marry her again. She agreed and then we went to Delaware where he was to be stationed. About a year later he was sent to Okinawa. The doctor told my mother that the climate there would probably kill her since her arthritis was so active. So he drove my mother and me back to El Paso, and she got another teaching job. At some point he was sent to California and told us to come there. My mother had just signed a teaching commitment and asked him to wait just a little while until the school was able to get someone else. He demanded a divorce. So she continued teaching and for a while was able to walk a fair distance since her arthritis went into remission for a while.
Then my father reappeared after several years, and wanted to get married again. She was very hesitant to do that. My father pressured me to encourage her to marry him, but she didn't want me involved in the mess. Finally I told her that I could tell that the worry was bad for her since her arthritis was back, big time. She decided to tell him it wouldn't work. He got angry and disappeared again. However, the stress was so great on her that she also got ulcers and from there many other physical problems, and died at the age of 47, weighing only 77 lb, even though she was 5' 6".

She taught me to be loving and caring and to look to God for everything! She is my idea of a true saint.

  
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RURAL3 5/14/2014 10:11PM

    This is a story that you needed to tell. God bless you Nellie. Thanks for sharing. Your mom was very strong and determined.

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FLMOMX2 5/12/2014 6:12PM

    What a great example emoticon

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 5/12/2014 5:38PM

    An amazing woman and an amazing mother!

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CONCHA77 5/11/2014 9:17AM

    What a great story of your mother. She was amazing. Happy Mother's Day to you.

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 5/10/2014 9:00PM

    Thank you for sharing this wonderful story of your mother!!! Not only was she very beautiful but she was AWESOME...so strong in her faith and beliefs. She accomplished so much and raised a wonderful, strong, and faithful woman during a period of many difficulties in her life! What a testament and tribute to her! It is understandable why you are such a strong lady in every way including your faith.
Happy Mother's Day!
Continued blessings and hugs,
Helen

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NELSONCHERYL59 5/10/2014 7:31PM

    what an amazing woman both you and your mother,
thank u for sharing. i always enjoy hearing about the lives of strong, Godly women. They are always so inspiring. your mother persevered through many difficulties, yet remained strong and faithful... an awesome woman.
happy mothers day my dear spark friend
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KAB7801 5/10/2014 5:02PM

    Wow, how amazing your mom was!

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JANETELIZABETH1 5/10/2014 4:32PM

    Thanks for sharing about your family, women were certainly made of strong stuff in those days and I'm amazed at the qualifications they gained.

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SADIEDOLORES 5/10/2014 10:47AM

    SHE WAS A STRONG WOMEN AND TAUGHT YOU TO BE LIKE HER, VERY GOOD EXAMPLE.
SADIE

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WARMSPRINGDAY 5/10/2014 9:56AM

    Thank you for sharing.

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LOGOULD 5/10/2014 8:42AM

    Thank you for sharing the story of an amazing woman with us. It is clear to see where you get your strength, live and determination from!

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DETERMINEDJANET 5/10/2014 1:03AM

    Thank you for sharing the story of your mother. What a difficult life and to be taken at such a young age. My mom has been gone 18 years now...taken by a brain tumor at the age of 67.

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SUNSHINE99999 5/10/2014 12:40AM

  I am sorry for your loss. My Mom will be 89 in September so I'm going to enjoy her emoticon while she still knows who I am. Blessings to you!

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Missing my mother and grandmother

Monday, July 15, 2013

Lately in the evenings, I find myself missing my mother and my grandmother. My mother died at the age of 47 after a prolonged illness in January of 1968. My grandmother died at the age of 90 in the year of 1985 shortly after grandparents day of pneumonia. I think it is because in the evening, when things are getting quiet, it is similar to when I would be at home as a growing child and teenager and would enjoy their company. We were not a family that spent hours in front of the TV. We enjoyed quiet. Sometimes my mother would read to me, even after I could read. The most interesting was when she had subscribed to a comic book in Spanish. She would read what it said to me and then translate. It helped me to learn Spanish when I did take it in high school.

We also talked about all sorts of things. A lot of what we talked about was human situations and how to behave in a Christian way. I learned that the Christian way was to be loving even when sometimes the other person wasn't very nice.

I am looking forward to being in Heaven with Jesus, and my loved ones. I am not in a hurry to go there, but since I have had 3 near-death experiences, I have had a taste of the LOVE of Jesus!

  
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DIDMIS 4/17/2014 12:27AM

    It has been a long time since you write a blog.

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MARSHMELLO1729 2/1/2014 1:02PM

  I miss my Grandmother also my mother is still living but in a nursing home my grandmother taught me to serve others as she did with such a compassion for family even when she was up in years she always put everyone else before herself'

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PLUMPKITTYKAT 1/24/2014 2:03PM

    I can relate as well. I lost my grandma in 1977, she was only 65, I was 15, but she & I were soal mates. After she passed I had a unique experience of feeling as though I was in Heaven with her just chatting. I was filled with peace beyond this world.

I lost my mom in 2010 she 75, I was 48. We were super close, my mom lived with me & my daughter, but we did clash a lot too.
I really miss them both all the time!

Thank The Lord that we will see them again!

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JUDITH316 12/8/2013 7:13AM

    Yes, I can identify with you, my beloved Mom went home to be with Jesus on November 5, 2001, she was my best friend, my sister and my MOM...I miss her much, especially during the holidays, we did everything together, my Mom was a special woman, the hope I too have is one day when I go home to be with Jesus I will be reunited with my beloved Mom...and all my other family and friend's who have gone on before me, that's the blessed hope we all have who know Jesus as our personal Savior...Sending you BIG HUGS and Prayer.... emoticon

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JENNY712 11/2/2013 11:16PM

    Beloved of the Lord, As i get older, and my body get tired, I too look forward to heaven; Like a great reunion and getting anew body that is well, pain free, and healthy is beyond understanding. You are still needed Nellic. God's timing is perfect. I to am not in a hurry but it is a good to know home is Heaven. God's love is stronger and better than anything this world has to offer. We both can look forward to seeing Jesus in His Time and His will. Jenny emoticon emoticon

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MOLLYBROWN55 11/1/2013 4:52PM

    3 Experiences? WOW! I've had 1 & It was amazing to see heaven!

Blessings to you! emoticon
Molly

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SIMPLY4DHEART 9/16/2013 1:40PM

    emoticon emoticon Yes, I too miss my Mom and Grandparents too! That's a beautiful testament to Jesus's Love emoticon emoticon

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BLEGNER11 8/14/2013 5:23PM

    I also have been remembering times with my mom, grandma, dad, sister and son. My mind strays their way at the most unusual times. Especially when I am sitting in the back yard and enjoying the peace and quiet.

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SUNRISE141 8/10/2013 5:53AM

    My husband lost his dad when he was only 18 months old . My husband is 78 in January and he speaks of missing his dad alot . We are nearing home my friend but i am like you i 'm not in no hurry . My brother dided in January he was 57 and died of copd i thought he would ALWAYS be there . I raised him we were left alone alot and i watched over him then my mom died when he was 16 and i was 21 he come to live with us till he turned 18 . Take care have a good weekend and remember GOD ANSWERS PRAYER ! I was sunrise 14 but had to change to sunrise 141 ! emoticon emoticon

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LOISJOHN14VS6 8/8/2013 8:35PM

    I know how you feel; I miss mine so very very much. Looking forward to that wonderful reunion in Heaven.

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WARMSPRINGDAY 8/4/2013 5:51PM

    Thank you for sharing your memories with us.

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GINAC0 7/23/2013 10:56PM

    What great memories you have! I pray my kids will look back and have similar memories too.

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KAB7801 7/23/2013 9:35AM

    My parents are still alive both are 76 years old and in good health, praise God!
They live in St Louis and I in virginia, I miss them very much and I don't know what I would do if I couldn't pick up the phone and speak to them!
Thanks for the reminder of how lucky I am!
I'm going to call them right now!
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CAROLFAITHWALKR 7/21/2013 8:22PM

    I am missing my loved ones, too.

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As Billy Graham is renowned for saying, "I just can't wait to see Jesus".

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CAT-IN-CJ 7/16/2013 7:04PM

    I certainly understand. I've said 'so long' to too many people that I love.

Like you, I'm looking forward to that great reunion day.
But, until it's here, I'm tankful we have so many good memories - and a Comforter - to get us through.

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CONCHA77 7/16/2013 9:17AM

    My mom's birthday will be tomorrow, July 17, I miss her too. Gone seven years now...

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DETERMINEDJANET 7/15/2013 4:12PM

    emoticon I miss my mom and have noticed it more lately for some reason.

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MISSCUS 7/15/2013 3:19PM

    I miss my dad too. He died when I was 12. What Carol said of the evening being the low point, I agree. I tend to think of my dad in the later hours when I'm tired and I really miss him then, seems to be when I seem to think of things more. We didn't have a tv either so we talked, read books, listened to radio. I enjoyed all of it.
WOW, 3 near death experiences. Do blog about it if you are comfortable doing that. I think people are blessed with the experience. Most all say they now have no fear of death. Your family life sounds lovely.
Huggs...

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FLMOMX2 7/15/2013 2:25PM

    Great memories are awesome. Like you I can't wait to get in heaven seeing Jesus and those who went before me.

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SADIEDOLORES 7/15/2013 10:24AM

    NELLIE, HOW BLESSED YOU ARE TO HAVE SUCH LOVING MEMORIES OF YOUR MOM AND GRANDMA, MY MOTHER LOVED US BUT DIDN'T DEMONSTRATE IT, MY PARENTS WERE FROM MEXICO SO I LEARNED SPANISH GROWING UP, MY MOM HAD 11 CHILDREN WHO LIVED AND SOME MISCARRIAGES, I HAVE 9 LIVING SIBLINGS I ALSO FEEL BLESSED, SORRY YOU MISS YOUR MOM AND GRANDMA BUT YOU WILL SEE THEM AGAIN.
SADIE

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BRAVELUTE 7/15/2013 9:29AM

    I think those memories of how the important things in life were passed on to us serve as mini lessons to us as we come across opportunities to deal with others around us now. I don't have kids or grand kids to "pass it on" to, but I seem to have the opportunity to teach by showing over and over again.

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SAMMIESMOM13 7/15/2013 8:56AM

    I think evenings are our low point of the day and we are more susceptible to our feelings. I miss my mom too, even tho technically she's still "here". But I can't just call her up and chat or ask her a question, etc. Little things will surprise me and just "get" me when I least expect it, like her spoon rest, or a can of food she bought to cook with, and it's still waiting for her. emoticon

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LINTPICKER 7/15/2013 8:14AM

    Missing my mom too. emoticon

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 7/15/2013 1:35AM

    I understand what you are saying. I miss my parents in the evenings also. That was always the time when we would read the Bible and dad would explain what it meant when we didn't understand. They would listen while we said our prayers too.
Continued blessings and hugs,
Helen
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FLEMIDG 7/15/2013 12:47AM

    I understand what you're going through. emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 7/15/2013 12:44AM

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Completing an assignment for SparkCoach

Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Our assignment for this session was to list at least three things that we have accomplished in our lives, so we can remember them when we feel down about ourselves.

1. I raised 6 children and overcame some of the problems of having been in an abusive situation.

2. I worked for and received my Bachelor's degree and my Master's degree in psychology.

3. I taught my children at home for many years, and they all achieved considerably above average on national tests.

  
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DIDMIS 4/17/2014 12:29AM

    This is fantastic. I don't know how everyone missed this.
Irene.

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WARMSPRINGDAY 8/4/2013 5:50PM

    As you can see, I am very far behind in keeping up on reading the blogs of my spark friends. What an inspiration your accomplishments are!

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JOYATLAST 7/26/2013 5:13PM

    That is HUGE!!!! I am impressed. You can be proud of yourself.

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MISSCUS 4/29/2013 4:17PM

    Nellie, you're such a hard worker all your life, so dedicated. I did a BSN, I can only imagine ALL the papers you had to write in the Master's Psy program. I am in awe of you!! And six, SIX kids. I only had one, you had a gaggle of kids. Such a nice accomplishment!! It's nice and I bet you cherish each one. I bet they are all different in a good way too!!
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CAROLFAITHWALKR 4/28/2013 11:45PM

    Awesome accomplishments Nellie! Each individual one of those things, took years and years of hard work.

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PRESBESS 4/26/2013 11:50AM

    You should feel so proud. What awesome accomplishments!
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MOMMA_BEAR_69 4/25/2013 9:45PM

    emoticon on your emoticon accomplishments, Nellie, in spite of adversity!!! God has blessed you richly. Thank you for being my friend!!
Continued blessings and hugs,
Helen

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MOMMA_BEAR_69 4/25/2013 9:45PM

    emoticon on your emoticon accomplishments, Nellie, in spite of adversity!!! God has blessed you richly. Thank you for being my friend!!
Continued blessings and hugs,
Helen

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MRSP90X 4/25/2013 12:59AM

    Wow! That's a lot of kids! School is easy compared to kids, at least for me it was! Two kids drive my nuts! But I love them dearly. emoticon

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NELSONCHERYL59 4/24/2013 7:27PM

    I admire u even more. U r a proverbs woman. And a psychology woman too. I knew i related to u lots. emoticon

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PATRICIAAK 4/24/2013 6:56PM

    Are you superwoman?

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DETERMINEDJANET 4/24/2013 1:16PM

    Great accomplishments Nellie!

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HOPEFULHIPPO 4/24/2013 12:55PM

    Those are much more than accomplishments! They are AWESOME accomplishments :o)

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BRAVELUTE 4/24/2013 12:24PM

    Just when you think you're getting to know a person, along comes a SC assignment and you learn so much more!! I will now add Mother Extraordinaire and Educator to my image of you.

NellieC ME.E

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SADIEDOLORES 4/24/2013 10:14AM

    NELLIE, YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED A LOT, I CAN RELATE TO SOME OF WHAT YOU HAVE DONE, IN SPITE OF NEGATIVE THINGS IN YOUR LIFE, YOU HAVE MADE IT POSITIVE.
SADIE

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SWDESERTLOVER 4/24/2013 9:13AM

    All achievements you should be very proud of!

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TEENYSMOM 4/24/2013 8:32AM

    Wow Nellie, you have done a wonderfully emoticon job. emoticon emoticon Nellie. You keep up your wonderful work.

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SARAHTAIT 4/24/2013 8:14AM

    You are so awesome Nellie....I am so happy to have you as a friend. Six children is a miracle accomplishment. You are always such a positive and loving person....

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FLMOMX2 4/24/2013 8:05AM

    Awesome!! Earning college degrees, homeschooling your angels and still going strong even in the face of adversity. emoticon

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LOGOULD 4/24/2013 7:03AM

    Some mighty amazing accomplishments - to which you can add that you've been an amazing and faithful friend and inspiration to many, many members here on Spark! THANKS emoticon

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RAKRHYME 4/24/2013 2:57AM

    WOW!!!!!! those are some pretty amazing feats you have achieved..am so proud of you. emoticon

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An Inappropriate Goal of SparkCoach for Diabetics

Friday, April 12, 2013

Today's suggested goal for tomorrow is no eating after 7 PM. For a diabetic like myself, this is dangerous since I am supposed to have a small snack a while before bed to keep my blood sugar stable during the night.

So, of course, I will plan my snack, and not eat more than that!

  
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MOMMA_BEAR_69 4/22/2013 11:01PM

    As a diabetic, you have to do what is best for you!!! WAY TO GO!!!
Blessings and hugs,
Helen

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MRSP90X 4/18/2013 7:00PM

    I don't use Sparkcoach, but I changed my nutrition plan for one without diabetes. I was not able to change the carb and protein amount as it said that the diabetic plan could not be changed. It had me at way too many carbs for me to lose weight on, and I wasn't able to change the nutrition goals until I switched my nutrition plan so I could lower the carbs and increase the protein. I don't eat breakfast, but protein before bed is aways wise.

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TEENYSMOM 4/18/2013 11:42AM

    THANKFULLY, I DO NOT HAVE DIABETES. BUT I HAVE TO EAT A SMALL SNACK BEFORE I GO TO BED. IF I DON'T I AM HUNGRY BEFORE I GO TO SLEEP AND CAN'T GET TO SLEEP TILL I DO EAT A SNACK. OR I WILL WAKE UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT AND CAN'T GET BACK TO SLEEP BECAUSE OF BEING HUNGRY.

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DRAGONCHILDE 4/14/2013 10:30AM

    Make sure you report this issue to Sparkpeople directly; they don't often read user blogs, so post over in Site TEchnical help, or email them directly to let them know that's not good!

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LOGOULD 4/14/2013 7:21AM

    Good for you - and many others!!! Even doctors get it wrong sometimes. One of the beauties of this program is that it can be customized for each individual and if we work th program for very long, we get to learn so much about our own bodies and what will work (and will not work) for ourselves. Thanks for making others aware that there are no hard and fast rules for everyone - except maybe drink your water!

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MILLIE-MILOU 4/14/2013 7:19AM

    Hmm, I don't think 'spark goals' are set in stone.
You obviously need your pre bed snack for health reasons. Maybe the spark coach didn't realise or write the challenge with diabetics in mind.

R x

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CAROLFAITHWALKR 4/13/2013 10:21PM

    I hope everyone "Likes" your blog so it will draw attention to be corrected by SP.

I found several errors in the trivia for points SP feature, and many errors in SP's quizzes. I no longer do trivia at all so I don't know if they've been corrected; but I know for sure that the quizzes' "correct" answers that are incorrect, have not been corrected. So I no longer read them. I just pick the bottommost answer in the quizzes and click through to the end.

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FLMOMX2 4/13/2013 10:02PM

    Nellie--you are spot on!!

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67YKCEB 4/13/2013 8:33PM

    I agree with you! Sometimes you got to do what is best for you.

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MISSCUS 4/13/2013 6:10PM

    I agree, I need that protein bedtime snack. Do what works for you. I did not find Spark Coach program to be very helpful or above what I was already doing. So I did not renew. It was worth a try though, and they did send two DVD exercise programs I can do at home. It kind of made up for what I paid initially.

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JUDSTERF 4/13/2013 2:52PM

    I'll be having my diabetic snack before bed myself. I have enough hypo BS's to begin with.

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SADIEDOLORES 4/13/2013 10:30AM

    YOU KNOW WHAT YOUR BODY NEEDS, COACHES CAN GET IT WRONG.
SADIE

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WARMSPRINGDAY 4/13/2013 9:01AM

    Absolutely, do what is right for you.

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JAMER123 4/13/2013 12:24AM

    The diabetic meal plan has an evening snack built in to the program. I have a very late snack and don't have a weight gain from it as it is just part of my plan. If you don't have the diabetic plan, go to your account page and check that you have diabetes and they will put the food tracker up for you. Otherwise, follow your plan. Good luck to you!!

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FLEMIDG 4/13/2013 12:00AM

    I agree you have to do what is best for your health. Hope things go well for you.

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PATRICIAAK 4/12/2013 11:59PM

    A general rule of thumb for diabetics is a bedtime snack that includes protein.

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BRAVELUTE 4/12/2013 11:44PM

    Are they changing their thoughts on this subject? I understood from everything I read that it made no difference when you ate whatever, and that wasn't right for my mom either (diagnosis last July). She had difficulties with the snack she ate at 9:00 when she took her blood pressure medication. If that snack was only carbs, or largely carbs, her sugar tested high in the morning. She had no problem with the same snacks if she ate them mid morning or mid afternoon, or as part of a meal. Switching to mainly protein snack at 9:00 p.m. made a huge difference for her.

I'm sure the spark coaches would say to follow your doctor's orders, no matter what the diagnosis or prescription about how to handle your plan. But it does seem strange to make a blanket challenge when there are so many different types of people following the coach program.

Did you send your concerns to Spark Coach?

Comment edited on: 4/12/2013 11:49:52 PM

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TIMOTHYNOHE 4/12/2013 11:38PM

    You have to be flexible and adapt as is necessary for your situation.

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