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I Am Obese.

Sunday, September 28, 2014

I am obese.

According to the BMI chart (which is just a stupid one-number exact replica of the old-fashioned height-weight charts, dressed up as some sort of pseudo-scientific breakthrough), I am not merely overweight, but O.B.E.S.E.

I work out regularly, and eat reasonably healthy…but I am obese.

I can still do the splits, a backbend, cartwheels, and round-offs… but I am obese.

I regularly turn heads in a bikini or a sundress or form-fitting jeans…but I am obese.

My very active career involves climbing up and down ladders, hanging from trees, crawling across rocks and retaining walls, constantly moving equipment, furniture, sets, and backdrops. It’s amazing I can do any of it, what with my obesity and all…

I can swing a 45-lb kettlebell like a champ, I dead lift 200 lbs, and have a 400-lb leg press…

My waist-to-height ratio (.43, while the recommended ratio is anything .5 or below) and waist-to-hip ratio (.63, while the recommended ratio is anything .8 or below) are both well under "healthy guidelines" and are aesthetically enviable by most accounts…

My blood pressure, blood sugar, blood lipids, and resting heart rate are all perfect. PERFECT…

I am a NASM Certified Personal Trainer and I have made it through P90X, Insanity, and TurboFire...

I have tried to run several people who are "normal" on the BMI chart through my exact usual workouts. They couldn't make it through, even with modifications...

I do MRT, Tabata, boot-camp-style bodyweight training, yoga, pilates...and I can hang upside-down by just one foot from a stripper pole (with the other foot bent behind me until it touches the back of my head)...

I take (and need) absolutely NO prescription meds…

I sometimes get stopped by bodybuilders when out in public. They want to know “how I got my calves like that.” Or they say things like, "I can tell you squat."

I am fully aware that my body is not everyone’s cup of tea… I know some people (including most of the media and medical establishment) stand by the BMI chart's assessment of my fitness, health, and beauty... Yet many (not all) women tell me they envy my shape…

And many (not all) men tell me that my body is their idea of “ideal”…

My figure is shapely…and mostly firm and tight, even after having two kids… but with just a little jiggle in the places that benefit the exercise of my womanly wiles.

Though I am 44 years old, I frequently am asked out by men in their 20s and 30s, and I am sometimes still carded when I buy alcohol…

I still buy almost all of my clothes in the “juniors” section, and I fit just fine in Victoria’s Secret swimsuits and lingerie…


Ladies and Gentlemen, I give you, my celebrated cell-phone selfie series, “Portrait of an Obese Woman.”*

This is me, last week, in all my obese glory, in one of my favorite pairs of jeans (which I like because it doesn’t squish my assets or gap at the waist like most jeans do).

This is what an obese woman looks like in sweats, right after her workout.

This is what an obese woman looks like in a swimsuit.

This is what an obese woman looks like when getting ready for a date.

This is what an obese woman looks like when she’s out with a bunch of her (non-obese) friends. (obese person circled in red, others’ faces blurred for privacy).

BEHOLD, an obese woman's ass. Nope, it's not small. But it's round and it's firm and it's sitting right where it belongs (no small feat for a 44 year old mother of two). BTW, if you happen to like a round booty, I have 7 magic words for you: Super Slow Motion Suspended Bulgarian Split Squats.

And just as an added bonus, this what an obese woman looks like in lingerie…

*I apologize for the low quality of many of these photos. I do have beautiful, well-lit, professionally captured and retouched images I could show you, but I wanted to be sure to only use basic, low-tech, unedited images here to illustrate my point as clearly as possible. These photos are all recent, unedited, and show me at a weight which puts me somewhere between 1-2 points into the "obese" category on the BMI chart.

Anyway, I sincerely hope I’ve made my point… But just in case I haven’t, here it is:

Don’t allow yourself to be defined by the arbitrary standards someone else came up with. I won’t go into the reasons these charts were invented in the first place, or even the reasons why they are so invalid for so many people. But I will say that the people who decided on these numbers did so based on statistics that don’t distinguish between correlation and causality. These statistics are about as accurate for assessing an INDIVIDUAL as a grading bell curve is for assessing the intellect and understanding of individual students. The people collecting and analyzing the data used to make these charts do not in any way understand the totality of the differences in your frame size and shape, your weight distribution patterns, your bone density, your muscle mass, your hydration level, your overall health and genetic profile, your fitness level (cardiovascular, strength, endurance, coordination, and flexibility), your personal preferences, your mate’s personal preferences, your body’s energy needs, etc.

Stop living and dying and breathing and eating and smiling and crying by the magical number on the scale. Look in the mirror. Do you like what you see? Touch your body. Does it feel mostly firm? Check yourself - How are you feeling? How are you breathing and moving? How’s your energy? How do your clothes fit and feel on your body? Are you living a happy, balanced life? If you don’t like your answers to these questions, then perhaps you should take greater steps to improve your fitness level and nutrition. But don’t base that decision on a number or a chart or a medical-INDUSTRY-imposed definition.

I’m NOT saying to stop trying to maintain and improve your health and fitness. I’m all for it. I work on mine constantly. But I also relax and enjoy life. My body reflects both of those facts, and I’m super-okay with that.

But, then again, I’m obese, so what do I know? You should probably take everything I say with a grain of salt… Or a scoop of ice cream… Mmmmmmm, ice cream…

PS I wrote a heartfelt letter. It goes like this:

Dear BMI Chart,

F*@k you. You can kiss my well-rounded assets.



Edited to add: If you want some more objective answers as to why the BMI chart stinks to high heaven, here you go:

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MHGAL704 11/15/2014 8:30PM

    Oh man, I wanna be obese JUST LIKE YOU! emoticon

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    Love this - thanks for posting and you are beautiful

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A Wish

Sunday, February 05, 2012

It's never gonna happen, but I wish...

There was specialized "zoning" for fast food joints. It kills me that in the shopping center that houses my gym, there are also 3 fast food places. If I'm having a tough (weak will-power) day, I will honestly avoid the gym just to make sure that I also avoid temptation.

Junk food was available only in JUNK FOOD STORES. Just like (at least in this area), alcohol is available only in liquor stores. I guarantee, junk food causes just as many addictions and deaths each year as alcohol. Yet, I can't go down a single aisle in a grocery store or drug store, without facing at least one "end-cap" display featuring poisonous temptations. I dread the grocery store every time I have to go, because I know I will spend the entire time fighting that inner battle: "but you don't NEED a Peanut Butter Snickers", "but I really really WANT one", "but it does not support your goals", "but I really REALLY want one"..... And don't even get me started on the childhood obesity epidemic and the pressure moms are under if we ever dare try to navigate the supermarket WITH our children in tow.

I doubt these things will ever happen. But then again, ONE of my past wishes was granted, thanks to DVR - the ability to fast-forward through junk-food commercials. So hey, I'll keep dreaming, and you never know!

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GRACIE4ONE 2/18/2012 12:11AM

    What did Junk Food ever do to you, Nat??????

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WORTHEYMOM 2/5/2012 1:08PM

    i totally 2nd your wish!

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DO4FIT 2/5/2012 11:56AM

    there was an article in the local paper the other day talking about removing all junk food/soda pops from grocery stores and setting an age limit to them like alcohol. it was interesting to read about it. it was more to do with sugar then fast food but interesting non the less and kind of related to what you are saying. and I am not sure if it was the article or a friend who mentioned that there should be zoning rules for fast food joints. so it one could not be within an x mile radious of another! I think THAT would be awesome!

I agree we need to do something about this "epidemic" and I am so glad I am learning about healthy eating now so I can fix the past I lived and teach my children health not quick and easy! You have been doing awesome! keep up the great work!

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GOODDADDY1 2/5/2012 11:23AM

  I work at a major department store, and I see temptation EVERY DAY...if you are having a major craving, it will generally pass within a few minutes if you just will take a deep breath and meditate for a few moments. I know it is hard, and there really is temptation around every corner, even in your own home, or at least mine. The cravings decrease and become easier to resist over time. Unfortunately, we will never live in a world where fast food doesn't temp us, unless we turn hang in there, you can do this....but the world isn't going to change. The change is inside YOU, and you are strong enough to do this. emoticon

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New Healthy Habit & An Interesting "Alarm"

Friday, January 27, 2012

Some days, I am shooting (with a camera, not a gun). On those days, I am quite active and feel great. Other days, I sit at my desk, editing photos, answering calls and emails, and working on everything else I have to do as a small business owner. Those days, even though I almost always get in a workout of some sort, I don't feel as good.

I've read articles here on SP and other places that advocate getting up and doing SOMETHING to move your body at least once every 60-90 minutes or so. Since we all tend to get lost in work and lose track of time, these same articles recommend setting an alarm that will remind us to do it. But I realized today that my body gives me a very reliable and natural "alarm", I just have to listen to it. After all, if you really think about it, you'll almost certainly realize that there are several times during the workday when you get that "numb-butt" feeling...or is that just me? Okay, so if you don't get numb-butt, maybe you get tight shoulders?? Work with me here.

Today I decided that every time I have that numb-butt feeling, I will get up and do something active - just one set of something, anything.... Then I remembered that I have made it one of my 2012 goals to be able to do pull-ups. And I did just buy this crazy resistance cable contraption to assist me with said goal until I get strong enough to do them unassisted. And my pull-up bar (with attached assistance contraption) hangs in the doorway that is directly in my line of sight when sitting in my office chair (which is a stability ball on wheels, btw, but I digress). So, there it is, pull-ups every time my butt goes numb!! And hey, maybe I'll really go Pavlovian and immediately drink a big glass of ice water upon completing the set of pull-ups! Yes! That's it! Numb butt - > Pull-ups -> Water!!!

Yay for new healthy habits!

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TRACYZABELLE 2/3/2012 4:20AM

    emoticon I need to do that getting up each hour!! If not for movement but to just get to the bathroom on time!

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MARIAGRACE111 1/31/2012 2:57PM

    OMG - I'm totally putting a pull-up bar in my home office doorway because of you. Thank you for the inspiration! I've never been able to do one properly. I think 2012 is the year to change that!
I have an egg timer I keep on my desk and set it for 60 minutes. It keeps me focused as long as it's ticking and when it goes off I get up and do whatever my mind has been distracted by and has wanted to do in those past 60 minutes. I think attempting some pull-ups is great to do before I do anything else (load of laundry, empty the dishwasher, etc.)
Hooray for awesome ideas! Thanks!

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GRACIE4ONE 1/30/2012 8:53AM

    Leave it to Nat to state the obvious and call it what it is....."numb-butts". You are still cracking me up!

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KIM_POSSIBLE77 1/27/2012 4:43PM

    I'm getting up right butt is numb as I type. LOL!!! Dang desk jobs! hehehehehehe

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KELLIGIRL523 1/27/2012 3:16PM

    Brilliant! I love new, healthy habits!


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WORTHEYMOM 1/27/2012 2:11PM

    ugggg - pull ups! I have never ever been able to do any of those but it is one of my goals for 2012 too. Used a machine at the Y the other day for pull ups and dips - OMG! But that's ok - we got another 11 months! LOL

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    NPW... Numb, Pull, Water! I like!

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Tracy Anderson Method?? Please Answer My Questions.

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

I saw the "Tracy Anderson Method" infomercial last night. Honestly, it looks ridiculous. But then again, I have an aversion to anything endorsed by Gwyneth Paltrow, so maybe I'm biased by that... Plus, I'm always interested in trying something new, fitness-wise, so I try to stay open-minded even though on the face of it, this program appears to go against most of what I believe to be true about fitness. (Looks like lots of cardio, very light weights, and frankly, just too easy...but I know looks can sometimes be deceiving.)

So has anyone else here tried this program? What are your results?

What does she advocate in the "diet" portion of the program? How long are the workouts, and how many times per week?

Would this kind of program be kind of a joke (as in, too easy) for someone who is a serious fitness geek (i.e., a P90X-grad such as myself)?

Any other thoughts, praise, or criticism to share?

(If you're doing this program and like it, please don't be insulted by my blog and/or questions. I'm just going by what I saw on the infomercial, and I know you can't really understand something without trying it. That's why I'm asking questions, I am always open to having my first impression challenged.)

Thanks so much!

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SPEEDYBRENDA 1/25/2013 8:32AM

  Hello, Can someone tell me the website for the infomercial? Thanks.

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SPEEDYBRENDA 1/25/2013 8:17AM

  What is the website for the infomercial? I have not tried it yet, but do plan on purchasing it. Thanks.

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CMACEDO75 5/27/2012 10:37PM

    I'm also a P90X graduate and I have purchase other beachbody products. Now I'm a coach due to me falling in love of their products. All their fitness programs work. I have a collection now. It is about consistency and eating healthy. I'm sure if I were to follow the diet I would look better. I think that you can always modify and add weights to any program to make it challenging. For example P90X "Ab ripper" I use leg weights because the workouts are to easy for me now. It is good to mix and try others to keep you going and not get bored or fall on the plateau mode. I need to check out Tracy Anderson, now I'm curious but I believe that not all programs are not suited for everyone. I recommend fitness programs depending on ppl goals.

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WENDYSPARKS 1/30/2012 9:11AM

    I have not tried it yet.

Wendy emoticon

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GRACIE4ONE 1/30/2012 8:56AM

    You always have just too many questions, Nat!!!!!! LOL

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ALMA_S 1/25/2012 7:36AM

  Hi.. i just wanted to share my story about Tracy Anderson method..
I started doing her method 2 years ago as a preparation to my wedding..
i have been an athlete whole my life, training karate since I was 6 and I used to have this bulky muscles and didn't have a body to show off :)
anyway I started doing Tracy's method... that is cardio portion (which is really fun dancing) and mat portion.. exercises for abs, arms and legs.. I have seen changes in my body in 2 weeks, and after that I became addicted.. :))

my body has changed so much, my butt is lifted, my arms are not bulky any more.. and i finally have abs..
KEY is consistency :))

one thing is for sure - it's not easy.. I havent tried p90.. but I can tell you this is hard work... it may seem easy.. but it's not.. if you dont believe, go on youtube - and you'll find some free videos.. try some of the exercises.. she does about 40-60 repetition for each butt lift, and she uses 3 pounds weights.. but believe me. it hurts :))

she recommends doing her method 6 days a week for one hour (1/2 hour for cardio and 1/2 hour for mat work).. Of course, if you want you can do 45 mins of mat work and 45-60 min of cardio.

I usually do from 4 to 6 days a week for an hour and really important, I dont follow her meal plan. But i try to eat healthy, a lot of fruit and vegetables.. fish, chicken.. drinking a lots of water..

Tracy Anderson Method works :) you can go on facebook, check her page and there are a lot of pictures of fans who really changed their bodies.. I'm definitely one of them.. I don't follow the diet, and I don't buy her shakes.. but I do her exercises and she has really changed my life..

I hope you'll find your answers :)

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PATTYCAKE17 1/24/2012 11:15AM

    What I've learned about most infomercials is that they're all about money, and Gwyneth is probably getting paid a LOT for her endorsement. Plus, she has always appeared to be a naturally thin woman, so lifting a feather would probably keep her toned and thin.LOL
I tried going on to an infomercial website yesterday for something else, and they wouldn't even give the price of the product unless you first PUT IT IN YOUR CART. I JUST DELETED AND ESCAPED the whole site.
Hope it works out well for you whatever you decide. Just remember, if it looks fluffy, and feels fluffy, it's probably a cotton ball! emoticon emoticon

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WORTHEYMOM 1/24/2012 11:07AM

    I seen the same infomerical. Found it interesting but I think that we can get the same effects by doing pilates and yoga. I too don't like the idea of taking any vitamins, shakes, etc. Who knows what is in them.

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TIMOTHYNOHE 1/24/2012 10:14AM

    Anything that would have me buy their shake (food, meals, etc) as an essential part of their program is out for me. If I can not buy it at the farmer's market or the produce section of the super market, I steer clear.

Its a diet.

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DO4FIT 1/24/2012 10:08AM

    have you gone to the website?

Might give you some more answers. I just read your blog and wanted to look into it a little more as well... I did not find the site very useful to me but it might have some of the answers you are looking for!

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A Body Epiphany

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

I learned (or was it more like, "decided") to love my shape a while back (see this blog for that story:
)....and I really have made so many strides in that area. However (there's always a however, isn't there?) I still kept thinking, I love my if only I could get my SIZE where I want it. Then it hit me today as I was driving along, anticipating tonight's birthday celebration for my FIL, and stressing over the thought of eating birthday cake. STRESSING OVER BIRTHDAY CAKE?!?! How insane is that? Yet I know for a fact that MANY of you can relate to this exercise in absurdity.

What exactly was it that "hit me", you ask? Hold tight, cuz here it is:

I am not a fitness model.

I will never have the body of a fitness model - not because it's not possible for me, not because of genetics, not because I'm too old, not because I don't have the ability to work that hard. None of that. I will never have the body of a fitness model because I do not have the willingness to eat and/or train like a fitness model. (Note to my fitness-model friends: I love and admire you and am happy for you, as long as you are happy. I simply have no desire to live the way I would need to live to be you.)

My body is what it is because I eat healthy a lot of the time, yet I enjoy a glass of wine/cocktail or three from time to time. My body is what it is because I work out HARD 3-7 times a week, but I refuse to spend more than an hour at a time, and most days it's 30 minutes or less. My body is what it is because I eat tons of fruits and veggies, but I also love my sweets. My body is what it is because I practice portion control most days, but give in to overeating on holidays (because it's gonna be a while before all those goodies are on the same table again). My body is what it is because I care deeply about my health, but I also care about pleasure and fun and living like a normal human being.

My body is not perfect, but it is beautiful. My body is firm and lean some places, softer and rounder other places. My body is in the "overweight" range on the BMI chart, yet I turn heads in a bikini.

I am sexy because I am fit and healthy even though I will never be called skinny. I am sexy because I am confident in some ways...and yes, vulnerable and insecure in others. That makes me real, and real is sexy. I am sexy because I enjoy life and all of its sensual pleasures (yes, including amazing desserts). :: Side note: A million years ago, I dated a bodybuilder guy who ordered 2 broiled skinless chicken breasts, a salad with no dressing, and plain oatmeal every time we went out to a restaurant. So NOT sexy. I'm just sayin. ::

I believe that the key to life is balance. And my body reflects that. And I think that's pretty effin cool.

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JIVANA108 2/14/2012 8:43PM

    love this blog. Sexy but not skinny is my aim as well beautiful words and so appropriate for me as well:)

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SWTHNY- 2/10/2012 10:22AM

    Very nice blog it shows ...balance in ones life is what its about!!! You RoCk!

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    LOVE this blog!!
Thanks so much for sharing.

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WOLFKITTY 2/8/2012 10:29AM

    You've got a rocking shape/bod. I'm glad you're still working to treasure yourself.


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DONNA088 2/7/2012 9:01PM

  Way to go!

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MISSB8604 2/6/2012 2:43PM

    Work it!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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THEIS58 2/4/2012 2:54AM

    Great insight!

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TINAJANE76 1/28/2012 7:08PM

    I love your balanced perspective--this is what I'm striving for. No, you don't have the body of a fitness model. Yours is better!

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FOXY13445 1/27/2012 8:55PM

    omg its like u READ MY BRAIN!!! I needed to read this, I have been so full of self doubt this whole month but you really put things into perspective here, THANKS! emoticon

I completely relate to this ENTIRE BLOG

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LCHADBOURNE 1/27/2012 12:09PM

    Awesome blog (as always!) I needed this today. I have been feeling so guilty about "living" lately (nothing wild just a little more chocolate and sugar than normal, lol). While I am going to make some changes before I start to slide out of control it is nice to feel a little less of the guilt that is so counter productive! Thank you!!!

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WE_PA_FIT 1/27/2012 10:53AM

    LOVE THIS!!!!! I could have written this. I have this same exact thoughts ALL the TIME. Thank you! thank you!!!!!

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KELLIGIRL523 1/27/2012 10:23AM

    :) And you, my dear are absolutely beautiful!

Thank you for sharing.


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HEALTHYCALM 1/26/2012 1:52AM

    Natalie I just read this and it is wonderful!! I want to print it out and carry it with me! Thank you for putting it all together like this--I so admire how good you are at staying positive and the way you express yourself in your blogs. You are really remarkable!!

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GETMETO50 1/20/2012 6:47PM

    confidence is what is sexy! You look great!

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WILDHONEYPIE1 1/18/2012 8:44PM

    Absolutely Fabulous blog. emoticon

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FITFORMYKIDS 1/18/2012 7:03PM

    You look amazing just the way you are. And you could so be a fitness model!

Comment edited on: 1/18/2012 7:04:48 PM

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CRAZYWOMAN10 1/18/2012 6:37PM

    Way to put things in perspective....Not only are you beautiful, smart, and sexy, but you are blessed to be so confident! You have done an awesome job!

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KSTARANNE 1/18/2012 1:30PM

    Love it! You go girl! emoticon

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SPRINGHAZE 1/18/2012 12:53PM

    love love love this. thoughts similar to these have been bouncing around my head lately. thanks for putting it into words!

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COURTNEYM100 1/18/2012 12:48PM

    Thank you!! Very inspiring! You make me want to appreciate myself and my body so much more!

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BJWESTON70 1/18/2012 12:45PM

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Great blog Nat!

emoticon for the inspiration!

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WORTHEYMOM 1/18/2012 12:35PM

    Thank you! thank you! thank you! I'm almost there - can't rock the bikini yet - but I will before this summer! I love me and that is what matters most!

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JERRYB56 1/18/2012 11:53AM

    This is one of the best blogs I've read lately. You are arriving at the same decisions I'm reaching with respect to my own body - gender references aside :) To be maniacal about your fitness and nutrition is to be UNhealthy, regardless of your "data." Health should not be one more item on the list of stressful obligations. Eat well, eat clean, work out hard, and then remember to ENJOY LIFE! ... because, otherwise, why bother!

Oh, and by the way, you're closer to being a fitness model than the rest of us non-fitness-models!

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TASHANCARRION 1/18/2012 10:30AM

    Great Motivational and inspirational blog!!! Thanks!!!

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