Friday, February 19, 2010
I was replying to MOMMABILL 's blog this morning, and got a little long and reflective with my answer, so thought I'd share it as my blog. I don't know if this will help anyone else, but take what you like and leave the rest.
When I began trying to conquer my weight issue, I realized that until I loved myself, and felt that I was valuable to God, my spouse, my family, etc., I was not able to do the things I needed to do to take care of myself. In other words, I didn't think I was worth taking care of.
Once I began to like and then love myself, it became easier to take care of myself and do the things that were necessary to get to a healthy weight. How did I do that? A lot of hard work - but what made the most difference to me was when I asked a lady from church to mentor me spiritually. She helped me to see how much God loves me. My spiritual mentor directed me to scripture passages and other books about God's love.
“We have come to know and have believed the love which God has for us. God is love, and the one who abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him.” – 1 John 4:16
"We love, because He first loved us." – 1 John 4:19
"You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you to go and bear fruit – fruit that will last." – John 15:16
My spiritual mentor gave me focus questions to journal about daily – much like the journaling we do on SparkPeople (“Healthy Reflections” daily emails are great journaling starters).
Once I knew and believed that I was loved by God, I was able to love myself. I wanted my body to be the temple of God – and how would I take care of His temple? A whole lot better than I had been taking care of it! And when I finally started loving myself, I was able to love others more deeply as well. The more I loved others, the more I felt loved – and the more I wanted to take care of myself so that I could be present to others.
This didn't happen overnight. Learning to love myself is an ongoing process, but one that I feel is very worthwhile – because I'm worth it! And I deserve it!