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The Gift of Self-Forgiveness

Tuesday, April 20, 2010

In my last blog I started out by saying that it's hard to help someone you don't like. Wouldn't you agree it's just as hard to help, or be good to, someone who continually holds a grudge against you?

For me, self-forgiveness was just as important as talking positively about myself. I needed to forgive myself for the mistreatment I'd committed against my body in the first place.

I've heard it said that you can't change what you won't acknowledge. I've found this to be true, so for me the first step came in admitting that I'd done this to myself, not anyone else:

-I couldn't blame my kids because I had to cook for them all of the time.

-I couldn't blame my husband because he frequently took me out to eat, brought ice cream home, or his favorite activities to do with me were sedentary.

-I couldn't blame my mother because she forced me to clean my plate when I was a kid or my grandma because she fed me goodies to the point where I wanted to vomit when I was young.

The fact is that I was fat and out of shape because I had not used self-control or good judgment in a myriad of circumstances over a long period of time.

Once I arrived at the firm conclusion that my overweight body was MY fault, I started to experience a lot of anger towards myself. I was plain old mad that I'd let myself get into the condition I was in. This went on for quite some time, but I finally came to the conclusion that it was time to forgive myself for getting into rotten shape. I literally had in inner dialogue with myself that went something like this:

"I am sorry, Body, for what I have put you through after all you have done for me. You have carried, delivered into this world, and nursed four other human beings. You have taken me through boot camp and seen me through abusive relationships. You have put up with me under-exercising and not only over-feeding you, but feeding you garbage. You've sustained me throughout life, and I am sorry for abusing you."

Yep, another silly conversation with myself, but one that I felt was necessary.

I'm not going to say that the changes came quickly or instantly, but because of being able to forgive myself I was able to grasp the concept of positive self-talk (blog prior to this) and begin to move on and genuinely embrace the other aspects of getting fit.

If you are anything like me, you won't be able to forgive yourself all at once. Like positive self-talk, self-forgiveness takes time. But forgiveness is a choice, whether towards yourself or another human being. Once you have started the process of forgiveness you will start to move ahead in the journey of getting fit: Good things will follow.

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_RAMONA 1/11/2012 11:22AM

    I've been sparking for four years now, between what seemed like one crisis after another, not losing the weight, but definitly losing a lot of emotional clutter. It's sort of funny that though I haven't eliminated any fat, I feel lighter and leaner than I have in years... yet it's not surprising, is it?

I began this past December with the realization that despite all of the chaos, I could have been doing more to get to where I say I want to go (I completely agree with the assertion on your page that *everything* is simply an excuse in disguise)... and I feel pretty angry with myself for that. This blog entry is going to help me move on.

Also germaine: "I was fat and out of shape because I had not used self-control or good judgment in a myriad of circumstances over a long period of time."

I have not used self control or good judgement *in a myriad of circumstances OVER A LONG PERIOD OF TIME*. I find myself feeling so impatient right now... I want to be under 200 lbs yesterday! Never mnind that my jeans are now falling off my own "can you say hips" or that I am moving effortlessly out of chairs and off the floor, and that last month I actually RAN up 12 flights of streps without breaking a sweat. If I allow it to, time will tell a new story about me.

This is my beginning of self-control and good judgement ina myriad of circumstances for the rest of my life.

THANK YOU, once again, Nancy!
{{{{{{{{{ HUGS }}}}}}}}}}

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MISSYGEEN 4/24/2010 1:47PM

    Great blog! Last year I started going to the gym and would sometimes use a personal trainer but would leave in tears because of what I have done to myself and how I let this get so out of control. But since I've joined spark, I've read so much about food and calories, This gave me permission to stop beating myself up, acknowledge my mistakes and move on. This emotional shift has let me go back to the gym without so much guilt. I still find those feelings starting to creep up sometimes but being able to come to this site and learn about the journey that other people take, I do not let these feeling take over. Each day is another step of my journey.

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MARCYNA 4/22/2010 11:06AM

    Yes, I do agree emoticon emoticon emoticon

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STRONG-FIT-GIRL 4/21/2010 10:02AM

    Another excellent blog. It as if you know just where I am at and what I need most to hear. Thank you!

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MRSAWILEY 4/21/2010 7:27AM

    You always have such inspirational blogs! You are truly a gem in this world. Keep up the great work!

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SUNSHINE667 4/20/2010 9:05PM

    FANTASTIC BLOG!!! I love love love it!!

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RAEVENSWING 4/20/2010 8:37PM

    Great blog! I am still working on the self forgiveness part, but as you say
it will not happen in 1 day. Every day is a fresh start and another chance...
Another choice...

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WALEB1002 4/20/2010 7:23PM

    awesome blog! a great lesson we should all know: self forgiveness. In the past I have had a huge problem with this, but I am learning to not be so hard on myself and that the past is the past and I can make tomorrow whatever I want it to be. Thanks for the great reminder! Have a great week!

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Love Yourself in Your Current Condition

Thursday, April 15, 2010

It's really hard to help someone you don't like. Wouldn't you agree?

So why then do we say cruel things to ourselves?

When I stopped criticizing myself for being fat, I started losing weight.

My reasoning for saying negative things to myself was, in part, that I didn't want to like myself where I was and get comfortable at an unhealthy weight. But it backfired: My subconscious believed I was as worthless as I was telling myself I was, and I lost the gumption to do the hard work needed to make myself healthy again.

It was a struggle to stop the negative self-talk, both in my head and out loud. The things in my head, of course, I said to myself. The things out loud I said to others ABOUT myself. Well...... Most of the time. Sometimes I would actually look into the mirror and berate myself out loud for how overweight I'd become. Hard to admit, but it's true. Regardless, my subconscious heard all of it and took it to heart. (Or brain, as the case may be.)

I had to learn to interrupt myself and replace the negative thoughts with positive ones. Here are a few examples:

- When I would look in the mirror and think "Look at what you have let yourself become! You are disgusting!", I made myself stop the thought and would say (out loud if possible) "No, I am not disgusting. I have weight to lose, but I am worth the long journey it will take to get there, and I will come out a better person for it."

- When I thought "I am NEVER going to be able to lose all this weight!", I would stop myself and say "It is entirely possible to lose this weight and I am totally worth the time and effort it will take."

- When I would say to myself "There is not one redeemable part of my body left" I would interrupt myself and say "I have beautiful eyes and wonderful hair. My hands are lovely and thin. My waist is small in comparison to the rest of me and I have a feminine shape. I may not be as thin as I want, but I am going to get there and look beautiful as I do."

I didn't usually believe myself, but I said it anyway.

It felt kinda silly, but it worked. Soon after I started doing this, I found the determination within me to start the journey towards being thin and healthy again. And throughout the journey I have had to remind myself that although the road was long, I was NOT going to quit and it was worth the deprivation, time, hunger, and hard work put in at the gym.

I thought I had mastered this, but then my trainer called me on the carpet for negative comments I had made about myself that I wasn't aware were negative. I just thought they were realistic. He told me that I was going to sabotage my own efforts if I didn't stop it. It was hard to hear, and at first I bristled, but then I let it soak in and took the advice to heart.

That day I learned a valuable lesson: There is a difference between being full of yourself and loving yourself. The former is a sin. The latter is a blessing.

Now that I am ounces away from my off-season goal weight I can tell you one thing for sure: Every last minute of the struggle, both mentally and physically, was worth it.

YOU are worth it. YOU deserve to be loved by YOU.

Stopping negative self-talk is paramount to losing weight. Beating yourself up accomplishes nothing positive. Sometimes we are the only positive voice we have. So listen to yourself loving yourself. Your sense of self-worth and desire to change for the better will follow. I promise.

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SUPERKHAN 7/12/2012 8:41AM

    Thank you for sharing this blog. It comes so natural for some women to scrutinize and nitpick at everything, especially themselves. I am a repeat offender. Reevaluating and reflecting on oneself is crucial in making progress, but being kind in the process is hard. I will be nicer to me, and realize my accomplishments.

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_RAMONA 1/11/2012 11:05AM

    "There is a difference between being full of yourself and loving yourself. The former is a sin. The latter is a blessing."

THANK YOU! I grew up in a very toxic environment, and I learned very early how to berrate and diminish myself. I am also obliged to expose myself to it occasionally still... and I take a lot of flack for the positive, encouraging comments I say out loud to both myslef and my daughter. Next time I crumble in the face of the negativity, I will hear these words of yours.

I am not at all 'full of myself'... and that insidiously evil little voice in my head better look out (I'm putting these words of yours on my bathroom mirror)!

God bless!

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TANYAP71 8/9/2011 1:24PM

    Your 3rd and 4th paragraphs? OMG... could have been me! As my weight climbed last summer when I was sidelined by an injury that had me under doctor's orders to not do *anything* that made my arm/hand numb or swell or hurt I, somehow, came to accept my heavier body. I started dressing it well, playing up what I liked about it, but with the knowledge that when my arm got better I HAD to do something about the weight. And - for the first time in my adult life - when I started doing something it WORKED. Now I'm sure there are more than a few people who think I love myself a little too much. Oh well. Maybe they should love themselves more.

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CYNTHIAMINUS40 2/15/2011 1:24PM

    So hard to do but, you're right, so necessary to be kind to ourselves regardless of where we are in our weightloss journey. great blog!

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THEHONESTME 2/15/2011 12:42PM

    Terrific Blog! I think it's especially hard for women (maybe of the older generation) to say they like themselves. We weren't brought up that way -- at least I wasn't. We were expected to be modest and any sign of self-confidence was considered conceit. I HOPE -- I PRAY -- that the younger generation was raised differently. I want them to embrace their bodies, large or small, short or tall, and to love themselves as they are RIGHT NOW! Thanks for bringing this subject to the forefront again! emoticon Kathy

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FLEXCHEF 2/14/2011 2:56PM

    Once again word to; enjoy, believe in, and live by.

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DEBO1202 2/14/2011 2:41PM

    Fantastic blog! Thanks for that!

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BECKY_ROWE1984 9/5/2010 6:40PM

    I love this blog and I think I will keep coming back to this to remind myself of these important facts...

Thank you!

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NATKITA 7/21/2010 12:31PM

    SO true! What a great post! Even if you don't believe yourself when you first begin with positive self-talk, sometimes you just have to "fake it til you make it!"

Love your body, and it will love you back! Tell it, sister! emoticon emoticon

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RUSTBUCKET1 6/26/2010 7:13PM

    This is inspirational and powerful. Great advice. emoticon

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MAZZMLANI 5/21/2010 5:17PM

    believing the positive self talk: now that's the challenge! recently I have just begun to interrupt my negative self talk as well. and what's pleasant is that nowadays, I actually believe it. what a relief!!!! to hate myself a little bit less (some days I have a lot further to go, but I'm working on it).

anyway, thanks so much for the post! I believe you and am happy to be on the same path now!

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C-MERRIE11 5/10/2010 3:04PM

  Great post! I tell myself negative things all the time and I was wondering what would happen if I should be so bold as to be kind to myself at where I am. I was worried that kind words would make me quit being healthy- so it is REALLY nice to hear that being kind to yourself actually has the reverse effect, as in it HELPS you reach your goals. Thanks so much for the inspiration!

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LUCY419 4/28/2010 1:44PM

    So true.. when i fill my head with negative thoughts very little effort in fitness gets done, and then more negative happens it's a spiral of never ending day after day, when you stop the love comes back.. but it really was there the whole time just waiting for me, you have to be your best friend and love yourself no matter what... after all who spends the most time with me? I DO! Hugs... lucy

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FOXYBROWN1 4/23/2010 4:07PM

    Hard to do, but very true! Thanks for this!

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LINDY2202 4/22/2010 4:21AM

    Thanks for posting this blog. I am horrible about talking bad about myself, my boyfriend will tell me how beautiful or great I look or compliment my body and I look at him like he is full of you know what. He gets frusturated and I can see why. I am making it a goal to stop the bad mouthing myself and accepting his compliments as being true. Thank you for this blog, I needed it. emoticon

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SUZEQ09 4/21/2010 8:49PM

    Eye opening read for alot of people I'm sure. Thanks for posting.

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KAKIPOPUP 4/21/2010 6:52AM

    So true - and so inspiring! thanks!

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RONNIEKAY 4/20/2010 8:57PM

    I really needed to hear this. But, I have to admit, I don't quite no how to stop. I've spent the last 23 years of my life - at least - criticizing my body, sometimes for the reasons you mentioned, sometimes to say it before someone else had a chance to - and heaven knows other people have. If there is a secret to stop this cycle, to be able to see my self in any kind of positive light, I sure wish someone would tell me what it is.

BTW - you look AWESOME!

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TONJOTA 4/20/2010 6:07PM

    Yeah I agree with you. I do not know why anyone would insult themselves. I love myself and make sure that I am saying positive things to myself and others.

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BIZZYBRITT 4/20/2010 5:17PM

    Thank you for this blog: It was inspiring and touching!

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RAINDROP2000 4/20/2010 3:48PM

    Great blog....I tend to do the negative talk often and it definetely does not help. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

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PETLOVERJ 4/20/2010 3:34PM

    Thank you so much, I had been feeling a bit overwhelmed by my goal but this was very helpful.

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NANCYCER 4/20/2010 2:29PM

  Wow, this is great. I'm new here and I just don't want to read or participate in anything negative. I only want to put myself in bright light, new ideas and positive thinking. I too need to conquer negative self talk. So, I surround myself with the likes of you.

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CLSSWAN 4/20/2010 11:54AM

    Thank you for your encouragement, I'm working too to stop the negative talk, I appreciate your honesty and information to stop the tape from running in my head.

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SCHNAUZERGIRL 4/20/2010 8:51AM

    Thank you! I really need to start doing what you do because I put myself down constantly and that's not productive.


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JUSTFOXXY 4/20/2010 5:23AM

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Nicely done. We are worth it. We just need to get over ourselves and start realizing it.

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CAMROLA 4/19/2010 10:38PM

    So well put--thank you for sharing!!! Now, we all just need to play this on repeat relay in our collective heads until it sticks, for good.


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MCOGIRL 4/19/2010 8:38PM

    Very well put!!

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MCOGIRL 4/19/2010 8:38PM

    Very well put!!

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WILSLM70 4/19/2010 8:21PM

    I was an expert at beating myself up but I am slowly learning to talk to myself in a positive way. It really does make a huge difference.
Thank you for sharing your blog

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STRONG-FIT-GIRL 4/19/2010 5:48PM

    I've just lost 100+ pounds and am really beating myself up right now about how far I still have to go. I really needed to read your blog today. I will try to be kinder to myself over the next few days.

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JANIEWWJD 4/19/2010 5:22PM

    This is true. Be kind to yourself. Remember: nobody is perfect. emoticon

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LINDA29513 4/19/2010 4:00PM

  THANK YOU!!! I have to remind myself constantly to stop being so negative! There are enough "stressors" around me that are negative and I shouldn't add to it. So, today, I will look in the mirror, again, and remind myself that I AM SPECIAL! emoticon

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GARDENMARIE1 4/19/2010 4:00PM

    Awesome blog, Good for you and Thanks for sharing good solid common sense advice. Too bad for so many of us this does not seem natural . But we pray we learn and know better we do better. I liked the way you broke it down and shared your success formula we can all benefit from using this thought process in all areas of our life. Happy Monday to you and may many many blessing be coming your way. Marie

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GRAMMAELLEN 4/19/2010 3:58PM

    Absolutely awesome! Thanks!

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BREEVES3 4/19/2010 12:05PM

    Very well said! I'm always amazed how much is changed by our internal dialogue and attitude.

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CAROLYN1213 4/19/2010 9:36AM

    So awesomely true! The more I learn to love me, the more value I place on my health, the better choices I may, the better results I get and the cycle repeats! I love it! It is amazingly simple once you set new patterns and learn to love who you are in the process. . . . not waiting until you 'arrive', but loving yourself today!

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MSLADY327 4/19/2010 9:26AM

    Thanks. I myself and trying to realize the same thing. I actually wrote a letter to my body to say thanks for hanging in there with me and to thank it for still being strong. Together with our positive spirits and our actions we will be healthier.

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TONISTRELEC 4/19/2010 8:45AM

    I enjoyed this emoticon

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SARAHFANCY 4/19/2010 4:46AM

    Thanks for this. How often I forget, and how many little comments I make to myself and otherwise about my weight and unworthiness! It is soo hard to accept myself the way I am in order to lose weight. How many of us have had a coach who motivated with negativity. I hated it! I am not motivating myself that way either. You really made me think.

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TRABOLD8567 4/19/2010 1:04AM

  Very insightful, thank you!

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JUICYBABY 4/18/2010 10:58PM

    You have no idea how bad I needed to hear every word of this blog. I am currently doing what you used to do. If asked what I love about myself, I can give you maybe 2 things and I can still find something wrong with those 2 things. I too believed that saying negative things would help me do better, but it has only made me lazy and want to just sleep instead of deal with what is really going on with me. Thank you, thank you, thank you for posting this blog. It has really touched me. I will be using a lot of what you said in this blog to better myself and I will also be sharing with friends.

This was so wonderful to read. You are a blessing. Thanks again.

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ELIZABETH525 4/18/2010 10:49PM

    Thank you so much for your words. Sometimes it is hard to love yourself when you have abused yourself so long with food! I have only been on my hourney for a week and am already opening my eyes to so many things. I have come to realize that weight loss is not only about eating right and exersizing but also a mental break of habits! And down grading yourself is one of those habits!!!

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MAYBER 4/18/2010 10:40PM

    so much agree you have to accept yourself as you are and be content that you have come to the realization that I would look and feel better if lost some weight and firmed up my body. Thanks for sharing your thoughts
One day at a time.

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LEANVIXEN 4/18/2010 9:40PM

    Thank you for this blog. It is so important to hear. Negative self-talk really is the demise of any good program. I'm going to make a list of positive affirmations to say to myself. Keep at it babe!

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GONABFIT 4/18/2010 9:24PM

    Love this blog!

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NANFACEMIRE1 4/18/2010 9:20PM

    Made me stop and think, thank you.

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FUNKYMONKEY302 4/18/2010 9:20PM

  Thank you so much for writing about this. This is definitely my biggest challenge - learning to love myself and communicate positively with myself. I spend so much of my time berating myself that there is no space for self-love. This blog was a great reminder of what needs to be my #1 goal - learning to love myself and accept myself for who I am at every weight.

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In Spite Of, not Because Of

Thursday, April 08, 2010

If you are waiting for life's circumstances to be "just right" before you start eating right and exercising, you are in for a long wait. They never will be.

Why is it that we view taking care of ourselves as an added burden?

Why do we look at ordering a Big Mac and large fries with a McFlurry as easier than ordering a Grilled chicken sandwich, hold the mayo, with a side salad and unsweetened tea?

Why do we look at exercise as something that takes "too much time", but we have time to sit down and spend 2 hours watching The Biggest Loser?

Why do we look at over eating, or eating crap, as an acceptable way of burning off some stress? Has over eating ever really HELPED your stress?

Look, folks, it's a change of mindset.

Since last Ocbober, when I made the decision to make the changes to my lifestyle that would enable me to have a body I am proud of, a lot of stressful things have happened. Here are a few: I got braces on my teeth, a family member died, I had seven immediate family birthdays and four major holidays take place (one of which family members came in and stayed with us for- which was a pure pleasure!), my daughter had an emergency with and then surgery on her feet to include recovery from it, another daughter is being sued in a big way, my son wound up in the ER with a dislocated knee, the step-kids and my husband came back over Christmas vacation....... Oh, and not to mention my husband lives and works 1200 miles away and I am acting essentially as a single Mom to my kids, one of whom is a mentally handicapped adult and living with me.

There's more, but you get the idea.

The point is, taking care of yourself has to be a PART of life, not an optional and disposable add-on.

Yeah, I know you're tired. I'm tired. And I know you have a lot going on. I have a lot going on. But when I decided I was going to make changes despite my circumstances and that taking care of myself needed to be a part of my life just like showering or brushing my teeth, THAT's when the changes came. And now I have more energy to do all of life's stressful stuff because I have less body weight to haul around. I am handling life's stresses BETTER with a more fit body.

It's a change of mindset. Not a change of circumstances.

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LUVYA04 8/9/2011 11:38PM

Wow Nancy thanks for writing that. emoticon

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TANYAP71 8/9/2011 1:26PM

    Thank you for sharing your 'stuff'. I have my own set of 'stuff' and sometimes I need the wake-up call of having someone else lay all theirs out so I can see that it *IS* possible to handle all that AND take care of myself. I spent 10 years thinking I couldn't and I need all the encouragement I can to remember I CAN.

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SCHNAUZERGIRL 4/20/2010 8:53AM

    You really have a great way of putting things in perspective!!! Thank you for sharing :)

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KLC1017 4/17/2010 12:40PM

    I love the part where you mention like showering and brushing your teeth -- I would NEVER skip these EVER so why do we put of healthful eating and working out?

For me I get nervous energy sometimes and instead of running on a treadmill or track outside, I literally sprint to the kitchen and eat a lot .. and then the next day I stay within my caloric range until I get the anxiety feeling .. Even after I exercise I'm super hungry but it's not about NOT eating at all, it's about making the RIGHT choice!! Very moving article keep writing, but most of all keep DOING and TAKING STEPS toward your life and body goals!

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    Thank you for the inspiration - I've got WAY less going on in my life right now. Time to let go of all of the excuses!

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NEWNARAYAN 4/9/2010 1:41PM

    thanks for sharing all of this. really! u continue to inspire me!

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IM_GETTIN_THIN 4/9/2010 10:37AM

    this is SO true! I chose to finally get with it and change my eating habits for the better when I was at my most ill(est)[is that a word??] time in my life six months ago; I have made so much progress since then there is no going back for me to all that junky food. thanks for posting that sister! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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RAEVENSWING 4/8/2010 5:19PM

    With that outlook, you can do anything. emoticon

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ADRIENNE29 4/8/2010 2:12PM

    I love the last paragraph. We all have a story to tell. Its how we choose to handle it that makes a difference. You have over come a lot. Good job Nancy!

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It's Never Too Late!

Wednesday, April 07, 2010

The title of this blog has become a bit of a mantra for me.

If you think you are too old to change your physique, think again. It's never too late to make a drastic change for the better.

One of the things I love about the human body is that there are many things we can change about our appearances, and I'm not talking hair color. I'm fascinated with the fact that we can drastically alter our bodies to be more of what we'd like them to be: A too-big body can be made smaller, a too-small body can be made bigger, and muscle can be added to change overall body contours.

The wonderful news is that body you have is not the body you are stuck with. You can change it.

Weight lifting has added size to my shoulders and fat loss has deducted size from my hips. Both exercise and fat reduction have given me a small waistline. This combination has converted my bowling-pin shaped body to an hourglass. This is all by choice and design, friends. I have a very slight build through the upper body without muscle, but with it I look much more proportionate and feminine.

I'm not saying it's easy or quick, but YOU have the power to change yourself, too. You just have to claim it.

Yu know the old saying "You can't teach an old dog new tricks"? Not true! Us old dogs CAN learn new tricks. I'm 43, and I'm still learning new things...... and unlearning old, bad things.

I think it's more that old dogs choose to be set in their ways than that they are not able to learn new tricks. If you want to be set in your ways, that's your business and choice. But don't blame the way you look on an inability to change.

Areas of our bodies that are less than perfect are largely the result of our own choices.

The sooner you own the roll of your choices in your appearance, the sooner you'll be ready to start making changes to help yourself out. That's what I'm hoping to accomplish with this blog post: Moving people towards the right place mentally to start becoming healthier.

Not only can you change the shape of your body, but exercise helps to reverse the aging process. Weight bearing exercise makes bone more dense, dramatically reducing the risk of broken bones as we age. It helps to keep one's height from shrinking so much with time. Exercise, to include gentle stretching, keeps our muscles and ligaments supple and therefore less prone to injury. And it actually helps us LOOK younger. People see a fit body and they automatically associate it with youth.

And, as I've found out over the past year, it helps you to recover from surgeries and other traumatic things that happen to your body more quickly. (As any woman who's nursed babies knows, there are some things exercise CAN'T fix- for those you need a good surgeon! ) Ask any doctor- the better shape you are in and the better your diet, the faster you heal.

Look, I don't necessarily want to look younger than 43- I just want to look like a really GOOD 43. And the best way to do that is to take care of myself from the inside out.

I don't care if you are 20 or 70, weigh 700 pounds or 115- YOU have the power to change your own body. Your physique is not destiny: It is a choice.

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JENNIFERP23 4/19/2010 6:36PM

    Very good thoughts!

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PAULAMARIEF 4/8/2010 8:32AM

    I hear ya, I'm going to be 46 this year!

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MICHARM 4/7/2010 9:08PM

    Fabulous blog...I am in the process of transforming my 40 year old body right now and I believe everything you have written about!!! Thanks for writing it! I love it!

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RACHEL_MAC 4/7/2010 8:54PM

    Love it! I'm gradually getting MUCH less pear-shaped and much more proportionate. Now if only I could magically grow some boobies, we'd be talking!

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RAEVENSWING 4/7/2010 6:18PM

    It is NEVER to late. The benefits of weight lifting are endless.
You have the ability to shape your body the way YOU want it.
Genetics do play a part, but are not an insurmountable obsticle.
Another great blog Nancy!

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IXCHEL23 4/7/2010 5:19PM

    Great blog! So there is hope for another 43 yr old like me! I have a pear-shaped body too which I've always couldn't stand, I know I have to build up my upper body to look balanced. My thighs are like turkey legs, super chunky on top and thinner on the bottom.

I've added you as a friend if you don't mind. You look great!!


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Weight Lifting Hunger

Monday, April 05, 2010

Do you have an issue with hunger, now that you've started lifting weights? This has been an issue with me in the past, too. Here are a few things I've done to combat this:

- I drink massive amounts of water. I mean, on average a gallon a day. Often more.

- I eat 6-7 times a day, which breaks down to every 2-3 hours. Yes, I know this is something you hear frequently, and I used to roll my eyes every time I heard it because I was so sick of the same advice all the time. But it really does help me to not be so ravenous after I lift. Plus, it's not as hard to wait when I'm hungry knowing another feeding is just around the corner.

- I often have somethine easy to tote, like an apple or a protein bar, in my purse to eat on the way out of the gym. This snack ALWAYS has carbs in it to help replenish depleted glycogen in my cells from the lifting.

- I have protein with virtually every one of my 6-7 feedings a day.

- I avoid sugar, white flour, and most processed foods. I don't know why, but I get a lot hungrier and have more cravings when that junk is coursing through my body.

- I try to do some cardio right after lifting whenever possible. For some reason cardio seems to counteract the hunger that the weight lifting causes to a large degree. Don't know why this is, but the fact is that doing this has helped.

I've also found that after several weeks of lifting the tendency to be so blessed hungry decreases greatly. Now, I really only battle it when my hormones are messing with me.

Admittedly, being hungry because of lifting can seem counter-productive and be a real mental mind-game when you are trying to be fit. But if you can work your way through it, the benefits of lifting heavy make the journey well worth it. And you'll feel better about yourself for having persevered.

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KJS_MOM 3/18/2011 11:53AM

    well reading this confirmed that I am on the right track! Awesome blog!

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BRITTNYF 7/26/2010 4:20PM

    This was so helpful! I've lifted for several years now but have recently really revved up my workouts and have noticed I'm so ravenous. It was really getting to me last week, but this post was really helpful and I'll definitely keep these tips in mind.

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NANCYANNE55 4/17/2010 1:06PM

    Harishabad, thank you so much for the reminder! I had forgotten about my tip to bring something to eat on the way out of the gym and changed the blog to reflect it.

I appreciate you saying that!

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HARISHABAD 4/17/2010 12:46PM

    I too walk out of the gym starving. I don't like to eat before I lift because that gives me heartburn. I found a serving of protein powder either by itself or mixed with something helps me avoid this and it gives me time to get home and fix a healthy meal!

Love the Wonder Woman Background!


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CPESCE1 4/12/2010 6:28AM

    I usually drink a protein shake before my workouts but I don't usually notice the hunger after my evening workouts that I do after my early morning ones. I don't know if it has anything to do with going to sleep soon after the evening workouts and maybe I sleep through it, but after my early morning workouts I am usually FAMISHED and craving carbs. I find that mixing yogurt with old fashioned oatmeal is the key. It satisfies my hunger (eventually, not quickly as if i had grabbed a sugary meal) but it satisfies for a much longer period of time. Love your spark page by the way - your photos are awesome! You should be very proud of your accomplishments.

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ADRIENNE29 4/6/2010 5:01PM

    I agree with the cardio seeming to tame hunger a bit...but then I notice I will get hungry ALL of a SUDDEN......which is usually perfectly timed with lunch....Today I had my normal breakfast, got some cardio in (yesterday was strength) and wasn't hungry until I went in to fix lunch for the family, then it hit me hard! I skipped my morning snack, because I was out running and not hungry when I got back.....

you are very wise!


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    Thanks for the tips! I totally agree that after my weight lifting class i feel ravenous while cardio usually turns me off from food. Interesting... lol. I usually break my meals up too! I can tell its working for look amazing!

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MARIONESS 4/5/2010 6:04PM

  Hello NancyAnn,
I really enjoyed your comments. I had been using weights on and off for years. I just love the benefits of reshaping ones body, fast and the mental health that goes with it. But I too remember that after my workouts I would feel like I could eat everything in the fridge! I have just started back at the gym again yesterday, after about a year of being away. Luckily, my body felt happy to be back to it although I am a bit sore this morning. I will definitely give your tips a go!

Thanks, Marion

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RACHEL_MAC 4/5/2010 6:01PM

    Yes yes and yes! The thing that helped me the most was upping my breakfast intake to the point where I was eating till I (literally) felt ill (though that's not saying much, I was still coming in around 300-350 calories). When I eat a big breakfast, it keeps my hunger in check all day--and I don't wait till an arbitrary time to have my morning snack (around 10:30-11ish most days). For a while, I avoided it because "lunch is coming up soooo soon" -- but if I let myself get starving in the morning, it set the stage for all-day-long hunger. Thanks for the great tips! :) You look fabulous!

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