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Hotel Oatmeal Cooking 101

Saturday, December 31, 2011

I've learned it's best to pack all food possible if I want to eat well when going out of town, but particularly for breakfast and snack foods. They seem to be the hardest things for me to eat balanced and clean when away from home. But one thing has always stumped me: How to cook slow cook-oatmeal in the hotel room.

If I cook it in the microwave (either in my room or in the breakfast area) the hotel mug or paper bowl I use is never big enough to accommodate all of the bubbling that occurs in the cooking process and it boils over, making a mess.

And if I just add hot water to the oats in the bowl it never gets cooked enough for me. Instant oats would cook with this method, but slow-cook are the healthiest kind so that's what I start my day with.

Now, you might be saying that I should bring my own bowl. And that would be ideal..... Except I always forget. Always. If I'd remember to add it to my packing list I wouldn't forget, but I never do and have finally come to accept the fact that I never will. It's a mute point. I seem to have a bowl block. (And spoon block, but at least you can get plastic spoons from the hotel lobby.)

So we are back to my oatmeal cooking dilemma. And finally this time, I had my AHA! moment. It's so simple I wondered why I haven't thought of this before: Cook it IN the room coffee pot. Here's how:

Pour water into the reservoir of the coffee make. Use a bit more than you think you will need to cook your oats. (This is to compensate for steam escape and "Oh crap! That wasn't enough water!" issues.) Put the carafe onto the burner. Turn the coffee maker on. Let the water run into the carafe. At this point it should be scalding hot. Remove the carafe and put it on a heat-proof surface. Carefully take the lid off (most coffee makers won't let the water drip into the carafe without the lid on). Pour the water out until it's about what you will need to absorb the oats (for me, this is about 1 1/2 times the amount of oat I have- I like thick oats). Dump your slow-cooked oats in there and stir them with the hotel spoon, which you ran to the lobby to get while the hot water was running into the pot. Put the carafe back on the burner (which should still be turned on) and let it sit and cook for about 10 minutes, or until it's the consistency you like. Take off the heat and stir in anything you want to add (for me this is a packet of Stevia- I always keep a bunch in a baggie in my purse). I eat ir right out of the carafe because: #1- It has a handle, making it easy, and B.) I forgot my bowl, remember?

Oats, protein powder, apple, and pepitas for some healthy fats:

Word of warning: Do NOT put the dry oats in the container before the hot water drips in. You'll burn the oats to the bottom of the carafe before enough water gets in there to lube them up. No, I didn't do this. I may be too dense to remember my bowl but I DID at least manage to have enough forethought to keep from destroying the carafe and making the hotel smell like burned oats.

To wash I rinsed all the stuck gook out in the room sink. Then, in absence of dish soap, I filled the reservoir to it's top margin and ran the water through again, let it sit heating for a few minutes, then turned the coffee maker off, poured the water out, and put the carafe back into the maker to let the hot water steaming off to both dry it and do a bit of a sterilization job on the carafe.

And if you have a traveling partner who wants coffee..... well........ he's either going to have to wait or you can send him to the lobby for the stuff at the free breakfast bar. ;-)

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    Great idea!!!

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CICI510 1/3/2012 2:01PM

    Now that is awesome!!

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*ERICA* 1/3/2012 1:15PM


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NIKKI_28 1/2/2012 8:41PM

    simply brilliant!

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KOOZIE1 1/1/2012 11:23PM

    you are just too darn AWESOME to send this. Oatmeal is one of the only 3 foods that I can't stand, but I enjoyed reading the entire thing. You are crafty and kind to share.
Rock on!

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ALLYTHEATHLETE 12/31/2011 10:37PM



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ROCKMAN6797 12/31/2011 4:19PM

    What an excellent idea! I usually will bring some protein bars but having a hot breakfast, especially in a cold area, would be great! Thank you for sharing!

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A-STRONGER-ME 12/31/2011 12:42PM

    Summer Oatmeal - 1/3 c rolled oats; 1/2 unsweetened vanilla almond milk; 2 T. raisins; dash of cinnamon; let soak over night; stir and enjoy!!

no cooking involved!!!!

And Nancy,so why did you take your computer on this little R&R??

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MISSYGEEN 12/31/2011 11:10AM

    Thank you, thank you. I travel a lot for work and don't get to enjoy oatmeal that does not have loads of sugar. so I opt for my eggs in a mug. This at least gives me some variety. I also love the recipe with it. By the way, I usually wash things out with the complimentary shampoo since I don't use it to wash my hair.

Here's a mug you can keep up with emoticon. emoticon

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HDHAWK 12/31/2011 9:39AM

    What a great idea. I take oatmeal packets on motorcycle trips and motels have them lots of times, but they are usually only tolerable.

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My Suprising Weight-Loss Side Effect

Saturday, December 10, 2011

Er... I'm about to talk about menopause, here, so any of you men who are uncomfy with the subject may want to skip this blog....

Is it just us ladies (and very brave men) now? Okay.... then I can proceed:

One very interesting and unexpected side effect I have experienced with losing weight and getting fit is the disappearance of the side effects of menopause I had been experiencing. I didn't make the complete connection until I read in one of Tosca Reno's books that she also has had no menopausal side effects since improving her lifestyle.

I'm assuming this has something to do with the hormones that fat produces. Reduced fat means reduced hormones, which could mean reduced symptoms. I also wonder if regular exercise plays in somehow. But I'm not at all an expert on this subject, so really, what do I know? I'm just grateful the night sweats, severe mood swings, and horrible headaches, among other things, are gone.

At 45 I don't think I've passed through "The Change" entirely. But I started showing signs of pre-menopause 11 years ago, and at this stage of the game I have cycles perhaps twice a year (more than you wanted to know about me, isn't it?), so I think I'm getting close. This also means, though, that I am at the point where I should be at the worst stage of symptoms, and instead I'm getting pretty much nuthin'. No complaints from me!

My quest for fitness surprised me in a lot of ways, but I think this was the biggest one. I'd be interested to hear if it happened for you, too. And if you are still in the process of, or considering, improving your health, maybe this will give you one more motivating reason to keep on course!

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CRANESTAR 1/7/2012 8:46AM

    Thanks for sharing this. It def inspired me to go on working out at my best.

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OFFDREA 1/3/2012 6:42PM

    Well this is great to know for when the time comes!

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ISHIIGIRL 1/3/2012 6:21PM

    I am 47 and I absolutely believe that exercise helps to reduce menopausal symptoms. If I don't get in some cardio or heavy sweating I get the night sweats and hot flashes. As long as I am consistently working out I usually don't suffer. The main problem I am having right now is conquering belly fat. I really feel it is tied in with sugar,so doing a no sugar challenge has helped in. Just started one this week. Thanks for sharing.

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LISALGB 12/18/2011 10:13PM

    I've been perimenopausal for a couple of years now (I'm 45). I would love to lose the side effects especially the hot flashes and the night sweats. As I continue on my weight loss/fitness journey, I'll take note to see if I might be as blessed.
Thanks for sharing!

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BLACKJACK67 12/13/2011 8:19AM

    Good for you, although I can't add anything to it!! Have a great week!

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HDHAWK 12/12/2011 10:35PM

    Thanks for sharing Nancy. I am just starting to get back on track to lose this weight yet again. I was tested in Oct. and haven't started the big M yet, even though I'll be 53 in Feb. I know it will help if I'm exercising regularly and eating better. Just one more reason to get and stay healthy!

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*ERICA* 12/12/2011 12:46PM

    Nancy, I have not experienced anything like that yet (but then again, I'm not even 30 yet emoticon) But this is amazing information to know...and learn from!!! You really are an inspiration and a wealth of knowledge. Thank you for passing this on!!!

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JENNIFER_67 12/11/2011 9:55PM

    I'm 44, but I haven't started experiencing any symptoms yet. But you've given me hope that improving my health now might help me avoid the worst of it.

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BOBINVA 12/11/2011 5:56PM

    Glad you are not having severe symptoms.

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ERICA071678 12/11/2011 3:20PM

    I'm 33 but I appreciate you sharing your experience. This is helpful to me.

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MISSYGEEN 12/11/2011 8:38AM

    Not there yet but thanks for sharing. That is encouraging for staying the course. I too have had an unexpected side affect. As I was enjoying a massage I noticed that the lower part of my back no longer bothers me and hasn't for a long time. The massage therapist explained what some of the muscles do and it makes since that my weight loss is the reason for my back pain disappearing, I get a lot of questions from people about my weight loss and how I do it. Now I can add that a healthy lifestyle can help relieve symptoms of menopause. Good news.

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DIVEGODDESS 12/11/2011 7:34AM

    My first thought was Menopause? You're too young to be going through menopause! I really thought you were 10 years younger, lol but you really seemed to have started perimenopause earlier than most people. I had no symptoms of perimenopause until my periods got irregular about 2 years ago. Nothing else, no hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings or weight gain. I also never had PMS, ever. It's great to know that this is connected with a healthy lifestyle. I think fat cells increase estrogen and lowers progesterone, and I think it's the imbalance of estrogen and progesterone that causes the symptoms. Great to know about Tosca. She's over 50 and she's beautiful. She's one of my role models.

Thanks for writing this, more women our age need to know this.

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LIMASTAR 12/10/2011 10:24PM

  Menopause is a journey that every woman will make sooner or later. For me, it started when I was 50 and by the time I was 60 reached the "end of the line". I was fortunate in that I did not have the night sweats, headaches, or most of other related effects. I did experience the occasional "flush", but that was it. Weight gain was also a problem, but an ignored one until the doctor suggested it was time to consider taking meds to lower my cholesterol.

Cholesterol was never a problem for me until I reached menopause. It had always been at the very low end - High HDL & very low LDL. Asked the doctor for 30 days to try to do something, during which time I basically eliminated beef from my diet & started eating oatmeal at breakfast. I dropped 20 Pts. and improved my values.

That was the beginning of my healthy living style search. It took me a very long time to lose just 10 lbs. By searching the internet, I found several exercise sites and eventually Spark People, to help me lose the rest of the weight and to live and eat healthy. It's not impossible, but it does require commitment to reach your goals.

My Christmas goal is not to gain. So far, I've been doing all right. I had a great Thanksgiving and am looking forward to Christmas with friends. I enjoyed my Thanksgiving dinner with family & friends, but was mindful of what I ate, enjoying every bite. I will do the same for Christmas dinner - enjoying the food, but not over indulging.

Exercising, especially Strength Training has really helped me to lose the weight and more importantly, keeping it under control.

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Weight Lifting for the Very Overweight

Tuesday, November 29, 2011

Weight lifting is beneficial for just about everyone, but if you have a lot of weight to lose there are some special precautions you need to take.

First of all, bear in mind that your body is lifting weights every day just by moving around. Think about it: If you are 100 pounds overweight, that's literally lifting 100 pounds of weight every time you walk. For this reason you need to start out with very light weights, if any at all, because your bones can only take so much. As your strength goes up, of course, you will be able to lift more. But you will probably also notice that as your body fat goes down you will be able to lift heavier weights, also. This is because your body is used to lifting that much already, so adding more to your weights is simply asking it to do what it is used to because it has been doing it all along. You will surprise and astound your weight lifting friends with your quickly increasing strength while you shrink before their very eyes!

Also, proceed with caution before raising the amount of weight you are lifting until your body weight starts moving down, and increase the amounts gradually when you do. Because bigger bodies have more tissue to get oxygen and nutrients to, the heart already has quite the job. Adding weights to this increases the load to the heart and internal organs. You want to get the heart used to the added demand before you ask even more of it: We don't want you passing out with heavy stuff in your hands!

This should not discourage you from lifting weights if you have quite a lot of weight to lose, though. There are added benefits that make it still very beneficial to you. Two of the biggest benefits are: 1.) Muscle burns more calories at rest then fat, so you will lose weight quicker if you make some of that scale weight muscle instead of fat. And 2.) You will have a much more attractive body under there when you DO lose weight if there is some muscle to it, regardless of whether you are a man or a women. Ever see someone who loses a lot of weight but looks like a bag of bones? Nor exactly the look most people are going for. Don't let that person be you!

So start with no weights (particularly for arms). You will still be getting an excellent workout! Then increase the resistance slowly. Before you know it, you will be a bonafide weight lifter well on your way to that shapely, fit body you've always dreamed about. It really CAN happen, and the cool thing is that the power is all in YOUR hands!

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OCDFULLTHROTTLE 12/13/2011 10:19AM

    I am extremely obese. I recently joined a gym for women and go 3 x a week. I like their classes. They do use weights. I bought my own 1 lb. weight, cuz the 2lbs weights there really gave me flare ups. Today, I am using the 2 lb. weights in the entire workouts, the one pounder is no longer challenging. I still cant do many moves but I modify them to what I can do. I like your blog. I saw another persons blog and he mentioned you. You really are a success story. I am making my own success too. Thank you for posting this blog

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MISSYGEEN 12/13/2011 10:07AM

    What a thoughtful blog. When I was in the obese category I could not do the triceps dips it felt like I was going to pull something. I did other triceps moves like throwing the ball over head(not the correct term). Now I can do them without feeling like I'm going to pull something, However dips are still a #*^@%. I shared a personal trainer, it was cheaper for the pair than one on one, and I felt like such a whimp because I could not handle the same amount of weight as she but this may explain that. I have a friend who is just starting out and I will pass this information along. Thanks for sharing things that you have learned with others.

emoticon I'm giving you the Paying It Forward award.

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PINKBEANBOO 11/30/2011 11:10AM

    Great blog!

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LOIDAEG 11/30/2011 10:53AM


Ive been lifting weights for a little while now. Just toning. Nothing too heavy but my trainer will be taking me through some weight lifting this month, december. I'm looking forward to it! I want to have that body I want. So as soon as I lose the rest of my fat I'll have something nice under neath :) I'm already seeing muscle in my arms! Loving it!

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EDWARDSC393 11/30/2011 9:39AM

    Hi, I lost 20 pounds doing cd,s, a toning band, and weight machines first. Still clinically obese, but now I,m lifting intermediately, forunate for me, I had muscle memory, Like seeing the muscles as my fat shrinks! A lot of overweight people can do modified work-outs too! Right on Nancy! Cherie

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MSFITBODY 11/30/2011 6:25AM

  Your posts and advice are always right on time! emoticon

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BARCLE 11/29/2011 9:55PM

    emoticon blog with fantastic, easy to follow, sensible advice emoticon

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GREGINPROGRESS 11/29/2011 9:31PM

    Hmm... Pre-Spark when I was over 225 and first started losing, the gym staff was surprised at how fast I progressed to heavier weights on the leg machines. I'd always wondered what caused that. Maybe this blog explains it. Thanks!

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Why Blood Sugar Should Matter To You, Even If You Are Not Diabetic (In Layman's Terms).

Sunday, October 23, 2011

The past few years there has been quite a lot of hype about insulin and how it affects fat storage. It's super-confusing, but I think I've managed to whittle it down to something both understandable and practical for the every day person.

Here goes...... (Er, this isn't going to be real technical, so if you are into splitting hairs or are going to suggest I should have included more information, you may just want to skip this blog.)


Carbohydrates make your blood sugar go up. Your body doesn't like this (high blood sugar is dangerous), so it sends out a storage hormone we call insulin to bring it back down. (BTW- the pancreas is what produces insulin, so that's why you hear so much about the pancreas when people talk about blood sugar.)

Insulin turns the carbs into glycogen and stores the glycogen in different parts of the body, namely the muscles and liver. BUT it also turns any excess glycogen that doesn't fit into the muscles and liver into fat and stores them in your fat cells. If there aren't enough fat cells to hold the fat that has been made, the body has to do something with it, so it makes more fat cells to store it in. And who wants more fat cells?

Okay, now lets add in one more thing Insulin does: It keeps another chemical, called hormone-sensitive lipase, from doing it's job properly. And that job is releasing fat from your fat tissues to be used as energy.

Sooooo..... when you eat a ton of fast-burning carbs (generally the kind that don't have much fiber in them), not only are you promoting fat storage because the muscles and liver can only hold so much, but you are also KEEPING the fat you do have from being burned off as energy. This is the main reason why low-carb diets work so well for weight loss.

Having said all of this, you don't need to run from carbs like they are the enemy. Slow-digesting carbs- like oatmeal, whole-grain breads (the real whole-grain stuff, not the kind that has white flour in it, too) and starchy vegetables- are just that: Slow digesting. They release the carbs slowly into your body so that you don't have an excess all at one time to be stored as fat.

Also, when you exercise heavily the body uses up the glycogen in your muscles very quickly. So you need to eat carbs to replace them so that you have power to not only get through your workout, but also through your day.

If you are anything like me, you are asking "So why do people go low-carb when they are exercising heavily?" The reason for that is another big, long technical explanation, but I'm gonna give the very-condensed-but-not-very-scientific answer: The body will turn fat into glycogen and burn it when your muscles and liver run out of it. And the process of turning the fat into glycogen burns calories in and of itself, so it's kinda like you are getting a little calorie-burning bonus when this happens.

The thing with this is that you want to be very careful: When I have gone too low-carb I have wound up with all sorts of not-so pleasant side effects, the scariest of which is that I started to lose my long-distance vision. It was to a point where I was beginning to question whether I should drive at night because depth perception was thrown off. Other interesting side effects for me were running out of steam very quickly, getting confused easily, feeling mentally "fuzzy", headaches, becoming incredibly irritable (my daughter thought this was the worst side effect- She'd of rather I be blind than a wench), tripping over things, falling down frequently when doing cardio (Once I fell off a bench when doing step-ups, making quite a racket. People were rushing from all of the gym to help me- embarrassing!), and general lack of coordination. Clearly, super-low carb (under about 100g a day) for me is not healthy. I think different people have different thresholds, but if you are experiencing things like this while on a low-carb eating plan, I'd suggest adding a little whole-grain, fruit, or starchy veggie into every meal. Non-starchy veggies ARE a carb source, but they are not a very condensed form of carbs and would take so much of them that you would no longer be practicing portion control, which I believe to be a key factor in losing weight and getting fit.

And as a final and fairly unrelated note, if you are working with a coach who is helping you with your eating and experience any of these symptoms, TELL THEM! Any responsible coach will alter your diet and get you out of the too-low-danger-zone. If they don't, dump them immediately and find someone else to help you. Your health is not worth having a super-svelte appearance.

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SALSACHIC 11/17/2011 7:11PM

    Thanks for breaking it down!

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MISSYGEEN 10/27/2011 8:41PM

    Good info. I have a co-worker who is doing a low carb diet. She has a lot of information about how to keep carbs low. Information which may not be as useful for me because I workout a lot. What's important here is to educate myself and keep in mind my own needs and plan. Thanks for keeping us informed. I appreciate the info,

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SHUTRBUG1 10/27/2011 12:26PM

    This is good info. Thanks

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KJFITNESSDUDE 10/27/2011 10:27AM

    Hey NancyAnne, I'm finding that alot of people seem to dismiss the blog thinking it's strictly about diabetes.....and of course NO ONE WANTS TO TALK ABOUT DIABETES (jeezsh!).
I'm spreading the good word though, thanks again for writting this!

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23KAIYA 10/25/2011 2:19PM

    Thanks for posting!

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SLIMMERANG 10/24/2011 6:30PM

    Thanks for the info!

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TERESA159 10/24/2011 3:42PM

    I've been doing low carb for over a week and haven't noticed any of these side effects yet. I feel fine, actually. The book Good Calorie, Bad Calorie explains it really well too. Basically, if you eat too many carbs, you never give your body a chance to burn its fat.

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HEALTHDUDE 10/24/2011 12:21PM

    Ahhhh....Grasshopper now holds the pebble. Thank you Master! You made this complex subject simple.


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AMYJEANHEALTHY 10/24/2011 10:30AM

    Nicely put!!! And with a touch of personality as well. Thanks!!!

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MRS.CARLY 10/23/2011 10:50PM

    Your side effects from low carbing sound brutal! I have a lot of food sensitivities...mostly to grains...gluten and yeast are also on that list. I have a hard time finding foods to eat, but try to stick to veggies and meats/seafood.

Great blog thanks for the information!

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THEHONESTME 10/23/2011 10:46PM

    Thanks for making that easier to understand. I've seen articles on this subject many times, but generally I lose interest because I don't fully understand. The way you explain it makes sense.

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ON2VICTORY 10/23/2011 8:32PM

    the dizzy spells is a pretty good description of hitting the wall besides running out of energy. that is because the brain runs almost exclusively on glycogen / glucose , so when you bonk or go into a low BSL state, you get the dizzy, headache, fuzzy feeling. I totally agree, if your coach wont make adjustments, find another.

good break down of the carb question.

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ERINEC11 10/23/2011 7:25PM

    I just started going crazy reading all about this stuff, and it is pretty confusing, but also incredibly interesting. I have been "trying" to lose weight for so long, just listening to what people/organizations/etc. tell me. I've just started reading/watching everything I can, and drawing my own conclusions, experimenting, and seeing what works best. I think that is so important.

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GAILSQUEST 10/23/2011 2:44PM

    Thank you for passing along this gem of information.
I do believe that this is the answer to why I run out of steam so quick when I work out now.
Still trying to find the right balance.

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JENNYD97 10/23/2011 10:43AM

    thanks for the info! My mom has diabetes so I have tried to figure out what I need to do to help prevent me from having it. I too kept running into the technical jargon which I understood some of it but my brain would go into overload and just say I'm not remembering any of it :)
I really think if I went to a nutrionist it would help me tremendously, just need to come up with the $$$ to do so.

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KJFITNESSDUDE 10/23/2011 10:31AM

    Once again, my Friend, YOU are right on the money AND you sharing this golden nugget of plain-speak info with us is further proof that you may actually BE Wonder Woman!

Can I copy and paste (crediting you, of course) and send it to friends/family and/or link them to this blog? For sure I'll be linking this log on SP everywhere I go.

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Stop The Blame Game!

Monday, September 26, 2011

If you are one of these people who is always blaming someone else for your current less-than-satisfactory physical condition, it's time to give it a rest.

The fact is that I've never seen one person successfully reach their weight loss goals blaming someone else for them being overweight and out of shape. I suspect this has something to do with the fact that when you start pointing the finger at yourself, all your excuses go out the window.

Look, I know I sound harsh. But I have the right to say these things because I know of which I speak: I used to be a blamer.

My favorite person to blame was my husband. I'll still say to this day that the man is hard on a diet. He's not trying to be. Truly. But focusing on eating as a prime source of entertainment and bringing goodies into the house "for the kids" does NOT help keep me in a mindset to maintain my goals. However, it is ME who allowed myself to eat garbage once I was tempted with the yummy foods he exposed me to. I had options: Ask to go to restaurants that have guilt-free foods I can eat; Saying no to junk at the movie (even if he IS holding that delicious-smelling popcorn right next to me); Telling him to please take the kids away from the house to eat the goodies RIGHT NOW; Removing myself from the house until the goodies were gone. I'm sure there were other solutions, but the fact is that it's me who was to blame, not him. After all, I am the one who lives in my body.

I know people who are so busy blaming others as an excuse for their current condition that they are almost obsessed with it...... Mired down in the depressed state of victim,....... looking for sympathy from anyone who will listen as to their woeful tale of why being so fat and out of shape is not their fault.........

I think they feel like if enough people say "It's Okay- You can't help the way you are", they will suddenly feel accepted and the world will be Okay with them being overweight and out of shape, and somehow that will make them happy.

If this is you........, Guess what? Even if everyone were to pat you on the head and tell you what you want so desperately to hear, you would still look in the mirror and see exactly what you saw five minutes before they told you that. And would that image make you happy?

Didn't think so.

A lot of folks like to blame their upbringing. Okay, so I will give it to many of you that you were brought up in homes with very few good food choices and forced to clean your plate. I see a lot of kids whose overweight condition I do indeed blame on the parents. How can kids eat right if they aren't given right food choices? If you are feeding your kids garbage, it's time to accept the blame for where they are and start feeding them healthy foods, even if you don't like healthy foods yourself. Suck it up and set the example.

HOWEVER, if you are an adult who is out of shape and still blaming your parents, it's time to grow up and assume the responsibility for the way you look. Even if they locked you in a closet and fed you nothing but Twinkies your entire upbringing, NOW you are able to make you own choices. NOW you can reverse what they have done. NOW is the time to change your habits. Besides, how long have you been out from under your parents jurisdiction?

Sorry- The Mommy Excuse just doesn't hold water.

The fact is that in order to maintain a body that is too big, you have to eat too much food. I don't care how you got that body but: To maintain it you have to be eating enough food to sustain it. Make every excuse you want, but that's a fact no one can dispute. Well, you could.... but you'd look pretty stupid to the rest of the world if you did.

Unless you lay claim to your own health, you will never own a healthy body. That's just the way it is. As long as you are deflecting the responsibility for your current state on someone besides you, you are nowhere near obtaining the healthy body you deserve to have. YOU have all of the power in this. YOU made choices that got you where you are today, whether you became unhealthy on your own or entered into adulthood that way. And only YOU can get yourself out of it.

How? Start with accepting. Phrases like "I am the one who is responsible for being here." "My dissatisfaction with my body is because of me, not anyone else." "Sure, other people may not have been supportive, but I make the choices that keep me here."

Believe it. Let it sink in. Feel it.

And then? Cast it away. Forgive yourself. Move forward, making better choices. (I blogged about that here:

And enjoy life. You have gone way too far being miserable. It's time to forgive everyone, including yourself (read the above blog link), and live life out from under the cloud of blame. When you do that, you are ready to take care of yourself the way you deserve.

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LOIDAEG 10/4/2011 10:23PM

    Wow! What a blog! I love it! It's so true!

I was a blamer too! I blamed my upbringing. My parents mostly. They weren't (and still aren't) very active. Lots of good food and little to no exercise. But I moved out in my 20's and still blamed them. Ugh! Last year I finally stopped blaming them and blamed myself. I forgave myself (and them) and THAT's when the weight loss got easier. I forgave myself :) It's so important to not blame. You are right. You won't get anywhere blaming others. Waiting to be accepted the way you are. I always felt like the victim. I'm SO so SO Sooo glad I'm not in that position anymore!


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ILOVEMY2BIRDS 10/2/2011 8:51AM

    Thank you for saying this. Every time I call someone out on the message boards I seem to get blasted by others saying I am "negative" and there is just so much coddling on the message boards it makes me so sick!
I hate that so many people feel like they are victims. Honestly, I know it is easier for some people to lose weight than others. It is also harder for some people to do lots of things. This is what makes us individuals.
Thank you for being a breath of fresh air in this coddling weight loss community.

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GODZDESIGN95 9/30/2011 12:17AM

    thanks for that you are right!! But I am not disguisted with myself. The words we use toward ourselves are very important. They can make us or make us. I've set hd straight. But the ball is in my court. I am doing something about it.

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CICI510 9/28/2011 5:10PM

    Very well said Nancy!! I have caught myself a few times on my journey blaming others but ultimately its my choices that put me where I am today. Thank you for the reminder. :)

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JORDANA84 9/27/2011 3:38PM

    I LOVE this blog and can I just say I agree with everything you are saying 1000% ? People too often want to blame others for their downfalls; so you buy junk for your kids? Doesn't mean you have to eat it! Don't have kids and you're still buying junk food? Umm YOU are to blame! We don't take enough responsibilty for our actions! We all have the body we WORK for !

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DRLCORNETT 9/27/2011 3:26PM

    Taking full ownership for who and what you are is a powerful thing. It means you're responsible and accountable for what you are (don't blame someone else), but it also means you can completely control who you are going to become too. Love it

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REINVENT_ME 9/27/2011 9:33AM

    I really like this! The truth will set you free!

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MINIMINIV 9/26/2011 10:20PM

    Thanks, this is timely advice, to be sure! emoticon

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TANYAP71 9/26/2011 8:50PM

    You said "I think they feel like if enough people say "It's Okay- You can't help the way you are", they will suddenly feel accepted and the world will be Okay with them being overweight and out of shape, and somehow that will make them happy."

This hit a chord with me because the very same people who are blaming other people for the state of their body are ALSO looking to the world to make them happy. Maybe they need to stop being externally motivated (or demotivated) altogether. Maybe if one figures out how to make themselves happy they will figure out how to stop playing the blame game?????

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COCOAMARIA 9/26/2011 8:06PM

    I loved it! So what it ruffle some feathers it is the truth!

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DESYACV2 9/26/2011 7:46PM

    very well said, nice blog......

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    Well said. The only person to blame if you're not happy is the person in the mirror.

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BOBINVA 9/26/2011 4:22PM

    Excuses are just that.

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AMC120 9/26/2011 2:59PM

    Very well said NancyAnne!

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-POLEDANCEGIRL- 9/26/2011 1:47PM

    Very well said!!

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KJFITNESSDUDE 9/26/2011 1:28PM

    "If it is to be then it's up to me"

....and me alone.

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