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Protein Pancakes I Actually Don't Mind Eating!

Thursday, September 08, 2011

After trying many recipes for protein pancakes and finding nothing I considered short of gag-inducing, I came up with my own recipe in sheer desperation of wanting a different way to combine my traditional oatmeal-and-eggs breakfast.

The two key differences in my protein pancakes is that I cook the oatmeal first, and I add baking powder. I think this helps the texture a great deal.

I will be the first to tell you that I am not a purist when it comes to clean eating. It's probably because I am lazy. At any rate, if this recipe does not measure up to someone's clean-eating standards, I apologize in advance, but making a super "clean" recipe wasn't my goal: Making a quick high-protein low-fat thing I cooked in a pan like a pancake and could put sugar-free syrup on was.

One more note, before I share the recipe: This is NOT going to taste like anything like the fluffy white pancakes you get at IHOP. This is simply something I consider edible that won't ruin your dietary goals.

Now that I've completely slammed my own recipe emoticon, here it is. I hope someone else can use it!

Nancy Anne's Oatmeal Protein Pancakes:

Cook 1/2 C oats in just enough water to make them really thick.

Next, spray a pan with non-stick spray and heat on Medium-high. (My burner goes from 1-10 and I put it on an 8.)

While the pan is heating, mix into the cooked oats:
- 1 scoop whey protein powder (I use Syntrax Nectar in Chocolate, which has no carbs, but I'm sure whatever you have on hand will work)
- 1/4 C liquid egg whites (or a whole egg, if you aren't concerned about the yolk)
- Small splash of vanilla extract
- Pinch of salt
- Pinch of baking powder
- I guess if you wanted you could stir in some sweetener, but I don't.
- You could also add cinnamon and/or some kind of fruit, if you want. I personally don't think cinnamon or fruit belong in pancakes, but whatever floats your boat- It's your taste buds! emoticon

Mix well.

By now your pan should be good and hot. Pour about 1/3 of the above mixture into the pan. It should spread out by itself, but if it doesn't push it around until it's a round shape. Cook until the edges look dry, then flip and brown a little on the other side. (At this point it is mostly done, so no need to leave it sitting as long on the second side. You are just trying to make it un-gooey.)

Plate the pancake, take your pan off the heat, spray with non-stick spray again, and repeat two more times. (If you spray it on the heat your spray will scorch and make the pancake taste not as good, never mind make the pan more difficult to clean.)

When you are done, you will have three Oatmeal Protein Pancakes- it's a good sized plate of food! You can top with whatever you want. I use sugar-free syrup and sometimes Smart-Balance light margarine.

Here's a pic of my finished product:



Let me know what you think!

  
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TERRIMMIX 5/17/2012 10:40PM

    I do something similar, but instead of cooking the oatmeal and then making a pancake out of it, I whir the dry oatmeal up in a blender until it's like flour and then I use it just like flour in recipes like a pancake or muffin recipe - it's not bad depending on the recipe.

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_RAMONA 1/11/2012 8:33PM

    I'm not a purist when it comes to clean eating , either.

I don't know how your recipe stacks up nutritionally, but this one is really good (though heavier than your usual pancake), and two are plenty filling... one if you have it with fruit.

One pancake has 150 calories, 14 grams of protein, 13 grams carbs, and 4 grams good fat.

Oatmeal Pancakes (makes about 12 pancakes, and they freeze well)

2 cups oats (Quaker Old Fashioned or Quick, not steel-cut or instant)
3 cups low-fat buttermilk
3 eggs, well beaten (or 3/4 cup liquid egg whites)
1/2 cup protein powder (I use plain)
1 1/2 teaspoon baking powder
1 Tbsp vanilla
1 Tbsp peanut oil

1. Put oats into a large bowl, add the buttermilk. Let the oats soak in the buttermilk overnight.
2. Mix in the eggs, protein powder, baking powder, vanilla, and peanut oil.
3. Then proceed as with any pancake recipe, but cook on slightly lower heat as they darken really fast.

This is one change from 'regular food' my family enjoys and hasn't questioned... they actually prefer them.... and they are GREAT with peanut butter.

As per DARACOX's suggestion, I might try blending the oats and buttermilk mixture before adding the other ingredients and see what that's like.

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HELENAWF 9/15/2011 12:19PM

    I will have to try this out on my boys. Thanks!

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*ERICA* 9/13/2011 12:39PM

    looks delicious! thanks for sharing!

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GYMRAT_AT44 9/11/2011 5:12PM

    Well, it was a taste bud experiment for sure... not bad, might have to tweak it some for my tastes, but a definite winner.

I used banana cream protein powder.
Instead of any butter or syrup - I spread some Peanut Butter between my two cakes!

My absolute favorite is fluffy white pancakes with butter, bananas, nuts and REAL syrup... this was close (LOL!)
Sheri

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JUSTCHELLE75 9/8/2011 5:27PM

    I think I will try this recipe this weekend. Thank you for sharing

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CHANGINGSAM 9/8/2011 4:07PM

    Looks yummy! emoticon

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GODDESSELLIE07 9/8/2011 3:56PM

    Sounds and looks good... what's the nutritional facts?

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GYMRAT_AT44 9/8/2011 3:43PM

    Sounds delicious and clean enough. Wonder how they taste just plain or with Peanut Butter? No syrup or butter.

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CUPCAKE2CARROTS 9/8/2011 3:30PM

    Great timing on your post. I just tried to make a version just this morning for the first time. Was not impressed. I am REALLY excited to give yours a try. Thanks for sharing

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AMC120 9/8/2011 3:21PM

    I'm ready to try some of them out! Looks good! Thanks for sharing NancyAnne!! emoticon

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DARACOX 9/8/2011 2:55PM

    Sounds good to me! I actually put oats, egg whites, applesauce, cinnamon and sometimes protein powder together in a blender and blend it up and then cook it up like pancakes. It's a much better consistency, actually like real pancakes! You can add a little baking powder if you want them fluffier. I will have to try this sugar free syrup thing, I keep reading about it... emoticon

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Eating Healthy on a Budget

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Recently both of my adult daughters, one who is in college and the other who is married to an enlisted Marine (in other words, not much money right now) told me that they try to eat healthier, but it's expensive. And you know what? They're right. Since being more selective about my food choices my grocery budget has gone way, way up. I've been thinking about blogging about this for a while, but I've hesitated because it's a difficult blog to write. First of all, while I am very good at saving money (I was the broke single Mom of four- I can pinch a penny til it squeals!), I am not by any means a guru of all the healthy foods out there, so I certainly don't know every tip available to mankind.

My daughter Alex, however (the one married to the Marine), encouraged me to blog about it so I'm going to give this a shot. But I'm doing it with the warning that this is NOT a blog on how to eat cheap and super-healthy. It's a blog on how to eat healtiER on a budget. Because if your income is severely limited the sad fact is that you probably won't be able to eat 100% clean or have an optimal food supply. There is no way I could afford to eat grass-fed organic meat (expensive!) with every meal.

Having said that, here are some tips you can implement to help reduce your grocery budget while making healthier choices. Pick and choose as they apply to you:

- Eggs! They're usually less than $2 a dozen, and are packed with all sorts of good things for you. Also, a whole egg will usually keep you feeling full for a long time. If you eat two whole eggs with toast and a salad or a piece of fruit, that's a filling and quick meal that costs very little. Also, egg-based dishes like quiche can be made crust-less and poured into a greased pie pan for relatively little money. I have a recipe that uses canned skim evaporated milk (store brand very cheap), cheese (I use 2%- this is a couple of buck), and ham (I buy the cheapest cubed store brand they have). Lots of protein, and the whole thing goes together for about five bucks and lasts at least a couple of nights. More if you are not feeding other people.

- I've done the math and liquid egg whites, while they appear to be expensive per container, are usually less expensive per white than separating the white from a whole egg. Plus, it's a lot more convenient. Having said this, if you want the most nutritional value for your buck, eat two whole eggs and forget about separating whites. You'll get a little more fat and calories, but you'll be full longer for less money.

- Turkey bacon is less expensive than pork bacon and lots lower in fat.

- Frozen veggies, particularly store brand, are economical, usually more nutritious than fresh (fresh usually loses nutrients in shipping and shelf-ripening), and keep better so there is less waste. Make sure they don't have pasta or sauces added. When you see a sale on them and have a few extra bucks, stock up! Then on those days when you are flat broke you can have a veggie omelet and fill your tummy with nutritious food.

- I know everyone touts the benefits of Ezekiel bread, but at $5 a loaf it's almost a mute point to even suggest it to someone on a limited budget. If you can, get double fiber bread. Or at least 100% whole grain. And don't feel guilty about eating packaged bread- You know how much better whole-grain bread is for you than the white junk most Americans consume? Which reminds me: No matter HOW broke you are, don't buy white bread. Bad, bad, bad. It's completely and utterly nutritionally void, and I don't care what kind of stuff they've sprayed in there to "fortify" it. This is one place you need to spend an extra buck.

- Keep in mind that lots of things, like bread and even milk and cheese, freeze. So if you find a really good deal on something, toss it in the freezer until your current supply has run out.

- Skim milk is usually lower priced than other milks that have fat in them. And look for the store brand of milk! It's usually less expensive than name brand. Often people don't realize more than one brand of milk is on the shelf.

- Forget soy, almond, and any other non-milk "milks". First of all, they're expensive, and second of all, their calcium count is usually far below that of cow's milk. Furthermore, I've found that almond and soy milk, while lower in calories, are higher than fat than skim milk (Which has no fat)

- If you are military and have access to a base commissary, USE IT! Particularly for perishable items. Produce, meats, dairy, and frozen foods are almost always significantly less expensive in base commissary's. If they are a bit of a drive away, go once a month or every two weeks to stock up on the staples. On canned items, though, you can often do better price-wise if you buy the Walmart brand.

- If you have an Aldi near you, peruse the aisles of it to see if there are any healthy options. Their milk and produce is usually quite a lot less expensive than a regular grocery store Be sure to bring your own bags and be prepared to fill them yourself after checking out!

- For canned items, get the store brand. The truth is that they are often made in the same facility as the more expensive stuff.

- Check the price of ground turkey breast against the price of lean ground beef. I've been surprised to find in some stores that it is less expensive.

- Speaking of ground beef, be aware of which level of fat is REALLY the best deal. Sometimes the leaner cuts are more expensive by the pound, but when you figure that 1/4 of the bulk will cook out of the cheapest kind in the form of fat, sometimes the leaner beef actually winds up being a better bargain. On the other hand, if you are making a recipe that calls for cooked and drained ground beef and the fattier kind is significantly less expensive, go ahead and get it, making sure to buy 1 1/3 pounds of 75% lean ground beef for every pound of beef called for in your recipe, since 1/3 a pound will cook off as fat. Then after it is done browning rinse it REALLY well with hot water for several minutes in a colander (keep the hot water going after the beef is drained, to keep the fat from clogging up your sink), before proceeding with your recipe. You will be left with beef that is just about, if not as, lean as the 95% lean beef.

- Work beans into your diet frequently. They help take up bulk and stretch meat dishes farther, and are really good for you! And are they ever cheap! Canned are inexpensive (rinse then first to reduce their sodium content), but dried are cheaper yet. You have to soak the dried kind, but they are a wonderful dollar-stretcher.

- If you have a local Farmers Market USE IT! You will get very fresh produce that tastes better and is healthier than anything you can get in a store for a lot less money.

- Buy in bulk. If it is something you know your family will eat a lot of and the price is less per ounce (you need to check), go ahead and stock up. But make sure it won't go bad before you can eat it all.

- Don't buy in bulk. Yeah, I know I am contradicting myself, but if you are trying something for the first time and not sure you will like it, or if you can't eat it before it goes bad, or if the container isn't going to fit in the space you have to store it, buying in bulk is risky business. You could wind up paying $8 for that big box of cereal that you are never gonna touch again, or have to throw away because it spoiled, or your roommate throws away because they are tired of it sitting on the counter since it won't fit in your dinky little dorm cabinet. That eight bucks coulda gone in your gas tank. Better to spend half as much for a much smaller size.

- Fake crab meat. It's an inexpensive and low-fat high protein food that tastes pretty good. With it I make crab enchiladas, crab omelets, crab quiche, and crab salad.

- Canned Tuna in water. It keeps for a ga-zillion years on your shelf and when you're hungry and low on money it's a good, lean source of protein.

- Before you go shopping make menus and a list of everything you will need to cook them, and then stick to it. The one exception here is if you find a great deal on meat in the store- Then it's okay to swap out for one of your more expensive meat meals on your menu list. For this reason, bring your menu list to the store, too. (Mine is typed right into my shopping list- After I get back it hangs on the fridge.)

- Eat in! It's really hard to find a meal you can eat out for less than the price you can eat at home.

If you found yourself saying "I don't like that!", or "My family won't eat that" to all of my above suggestions, then I am sorry, but I can't help you. Sometimes to compromise and save money while eating healthier you just have to eat what is not your favorite. My kids and I learned to like beans when I was a broke single mom. You can, too. What's more important? Your taste buds, or your health?

Additional suggestions would be appreciated! And if you see comments on this blog below, be sure to read them: You might pick up even more tips!

  
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CICI510 9/1/2011 4:24PM

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COCOAMARIA 9/1/2011 1:45PM

    As always good information! emoticon

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TSANC01 8/31/2011 1:24PM

  Thanks for the tips. My favorite is old-fashioned oatmeal with cinnamon, honey, Craisins w/pomegranate juice and sometimes walnuts. Yummy. I bring it to work for lunch.

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KIMMAS82 8/31/2011 10:08AM

    Great blog!!

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WENDYDANCER 8/31/2011 9:20AM

    Great info! emoticon

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CMHARRISON12 8/31/2011 7:26AM

    Thanks for taking the time to share this with us!

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KJOHNSON011 8/31/2011 3:17AM

    Wow great info! Thanks for the tips

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SARAHNICOLE__17 8/31/2011 12:32AM

    The ground beef tip is really a valid point! I never thought about it.

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BMRBUDDY 8/30/2011 9:51PM

    Being a "young" retiree, I buy some things from Aldi's. One of them is the ground turkey. I have been told from an employee that it is Jenni-o brand in different packaging. I used to buy that brand all the time until I discovered Aldi's. I don't see or taste any difference. I also agree that generic brands are just as good as name brands. I wish I tried them before retirement. We could have saved even more and we would have never felt like we were missing out on anything!

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MRSAWILEY 8/30/2011 6:06PM

    About the beans, I've found that cooking my dried beans in a slow cooker is way more convenient than soaking and boiling them. I can start it at the beginning of the day and have a nice healthy side dish for dinner at the end of the day. I like to cook mine with onion, black pepper and a pinch of sea salt.

Even though buying healthy foods has made my grocery bill higher, I find that I do save money in the long run. If I order a meal at a resturant, it could cost $10 or more just for my meal alone, but if I make it myself at home, one meal between my husband and I is only $2 or $3 worth of the groceries I bought.

My husband is Air Force, so no we don't get a lot of money, but we've also cut our casual spending way down. People should also stop and think about the other things they spend money on. Coach purses are nice, but are not a necessity. iPhones are cool, but you don't absolutely NEED them. You NEED healthy food.
Great blog!

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EDWARDSC393 8/30/2011 3:50PM

    I make what I call mumbo-jumbo when we are really short. I use frozen onion and peppers sauted then add Barilla hi-protein pasta-17grams! omegas and fiber cooked in vegetable broth, then I add browned ground turkey and a half a bag of frozen veggies, and a can of hot diced tomatoes. Add herbs and seasonings, yummy, and there is plenty! Cherie

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All Oil Counts!

Sunday, August 21, 2011

This is gonna be a real quick blog, and one that most of you probably don't need, thank goodness! But I thought it was worth a mention, because occasionally I have seen on the boards that people don't feel they need to count the oil that they cook food in, such as for a stir fry, on top of the stove. They seem to think it either evaporates, somehow doesn't soak into the food, or the calories go away some other way. This is simply not true! Those calories soak right into your food and are what keeps it from sticking to the pan! Then it goes right into your body.

Also, I've run across more than one person who take copious amounts (I'm talking tablespoons) of coconut oil a day, thinking it will somehow magically make them thinner. Some even eat it right off of the spoon. They don't count the calories, then wonder why they are not losing weight. At 120 calories a tablespoon, these calories can add up very quickly and absolutely stall your weight loss. Just because a fat is a "good fat" does not mean it's good for you if you eat too much. You really CAN have too much of a good thing!

Count your oil in your daily foods!

  
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AMC120 8/30/2011 2:06PM

    That's a lot of calories to not be tracking!! Whew!!!



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GRACEFULIFE 8/22/2011 2:07PM

    "a sprinkle of salt"

LOL. Salt is non-caloric and there is evidence that more may be better for you in the absence of adverse medical conditions. Pretty much the last thing anyone should worry about tracking. Not to say you don't need to IF you have diagnosed hypertension OR if you are doing contest prep or something, but for 99% of dieters there is really no concern over salt.

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HEALTHDUDE 8/22/2011 1:43PM

    Nancy - you did it to me again! You found my hot button and you punched it hard!

I hate fads! I can't stand fads! And the new fad....coconut water & coconut oil...some group did a study and found the miracle answer to health. Hey, 4 out of 5 dentist prefer coconut oil in their cheeseburger with coconut water to wash it down! Remember the study that found: eggs are good, eggs are bad, eggs are good again, coffee is bad, coffee is good, wine is bad, wine is good. How do you digest all this crap that was funded by special interest groups in bed with the marketing people of the companies who profit from the results? It's tough. Coconut water. Come to find out that the additives they use to preserve the product are the very things that are linked to cancer. A perfectly good organic drink in the hands of greedy company-chemists can produce a poison that the FDA ignores! And the experiment on the human population continues.......

Anyway, who's keep track? Apparently alot of people aren't tracking everything they eat. Oil in the pan, a sprinkle of salt, a dash of sugar, a pad of butter, a teaspoon of non-dairy creamer (what in the hell is that stuff) - It counts. Your body processes it so you should track it. If you are already tracking, then how hard is it to track one or two more everyday items. It all counts.

Oh, and Nancy, I love the new wall paper! Legs!



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MAJORMOM68 8/22/2011 10:15AM

    This is why I use the spray, at least usually. Any time I can get what I need without adding calories I'll do it. Good blog Nancy!

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TIMOTHYNOHE 8/22/2011 9:33AM

    Another amazing thing I used to hear from members (I was a receptionist) was that Good Health Guidelines were zero points. So three dairies and two oils didn't count. After all the eight fluids and five fruits & veggies were zero points.

There is also a myth out there that all power foods are zero points. That is only so if you are doing simply filling.

AND! Oils are not power foods.

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ROCKNBUTTERFLY 8/21/2011 8:35PM

    Every lick, taste and nibble adds up. If you use it track it:)

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GRACEFULIFE 8/21/2011 7:20PM

    For me it depends on what I'm cooking. If I cook scallops I don't generally count it, because I don't believe it soaks in, and figuring out how much I got would be exceedingly difficult. However I use spray canola oil for my morning omelet, and I count that oil (to the tenth of a gram!) because almost none is left in the pan after cooking; therefore I know for sure it incorporated with the omelet during cooking.

I _have_ been told before (on this site) that I'm going overboard to count the oil things are cooked in. But if I'm tracking, I'm going to track, period! That means every molecule that goes in my mouth, if not clearly tracked, must be at least estimated. Sometimes I decide that my estimate is "close enough to zero" but at least I'm aware of it and have consciously decided that's how I'm going to do it rather than blowing it off because it's difficult.

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EMPTRS 8/21/2011 6:22PM

    Yikes! I am shocked that people do that! It is good to do your homework!!!

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The Letter That Helped Me Win The 12-Wk Challenge With my Gym.

Thursday, August 04, 2011

I waited until I knew the final verdict of the Gold's Gym Transformation Challenge on a national level before I posted this letter for anyone besides me to see. I guess I didn't want to jinx it. emoticon I didn't win nationally but I did win locally, which got me a years free gym membership, which was pretty cool!

I believe I am done with these kinds of challenges for quite a while now. I'm kinda challenged out, I guess. Now I need to just settle into figuring out how to maintain at a body fat percentage I am happy at. But I learned a lot through the process. Here is the letter:

When I initially began the Twelve-Week Transformation Challenge I was focused on the word “Transformation”. I truly wanted to get the last of my excess weight off and transform my body into something I could maintain for the rest of my life. But instead it became more about the word “Challenge”, and in the process I transformed so much more than my physical self: I transformed my attitude. I never realized I was a tenacious person until this challenge, and having that self-belief has helped me to truly transform from the head down. Through this process I have become convinced that true and permanent change takes place between the ears before it takes place in the body.

The biggest obstacle I had to overcome during the past 12 weeks was sticking with it when I found out that our son, who is in the Marine Corps serving in Afghanistan, had stepped on a land mine and was injured. I was at Gold’s getting ready to start a workout when I received the news. I sat down on the edge of a treadmill to get my emotions under control. I had my keys in my hand, ready to go back home. But as I sat there it occurred to me that going home would solve nothing for our son, and would leave me with time to worry about him. On the other hand, if I stayed at the gym and did my workout at least I could channel the energy of my concern for him into something positive: Heaven knows there was nothing I could do to help him at the moment. So I put my keys away, stood up, stepped onto that treadmill, and began my workout- First a light warm-up, then hitting the weights. Let me tell you- there is nothing like lifting heavy to help burn off the jitters and get my head into the healthiest place possible. And I believe finishing my workout kept me from going home, mixing up a big bowl of cookie dough, and eating most of it.

Other obstacles came up in my way over the course of the challenge, as well: I had knee and foot issues and found out that I have arthritis in one and nerve damage in the other. Then I pulled a muscle in my scapula, which led to not being able to exercise for a week. As result of this I had multiple tests and doctors visits and found out I have slightly bulging disks in my neck and consequently a pinched nerve. To accommodate the additional time demands of my medical needs I had to get creative about not only the way I worked out while I healed, but also the time of day I went to the gym.

The entire 12-week period I stayed fastidious with my eating plan, weighing, measuring, and logging my foods. I ate mostly clean, whole foods, and most of the time was careful about balancing my carbs, fats, and protein.

It’s been a wild ride, but I stuck with my goals and I did not give up. I am really proud of myself for that! I believe that’s a bigger accomplishment than any changes that took place in my body.

While I wouldn’t want to go through any of the above again (or put my son through it, thank you very much), I am grateful that through the challenges of the past 12 weeks this shift in attitude has taken place inside me. I genuinely feel better equipped now to take care of my family through all of the challenges life is bound to hand us because of my internal growing process of the last 12 weeks.

  
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APMAC_D 8/9/2011 11:48AM

    Thank you for sharing this..... I am glad you were able to stick with it

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*ERICA* 8/8/2011 10:54AM

    Thanks for sharing! Congrats on your success! I hope your son makes a quick recovery.

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GYMRAT_AT44 8/5/2011 11:37AM

    Nancy - you know I'm a fan! Thanks for sharing your story, your advice and your son! I value my freedom and know that becuase of him and thousands of others like him and those before him, I have the freedom to workout, to work, to voice my opinion, to log on to the internet, etc. etc. etc.

Hope to catch up to you soon ...
Sheri

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HEALTHDUDE 8/5/2011 10:51AM

    Merriam-Webster should use your picture to define Perseverance!
And your son's picture for Sacrifice/Courage/Duty/Honor!
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Thanks for the blog.

Tony

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CMHARRISON12 8/4/2011 9:00PM

    Thank you for sharing your physical and mental transformation. And thank you and your son for your sacrifices. Prayers for his recovery.

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SLBRANTLEY 8/4/2011 7:30PM

    Congratulations on your success, and best wishes for your son's full recovery. emoticon

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ARMSPORTS 8/4/2011 4:13PM

    Way to hang in there and stay commited to the challenge in spite of all your other challenges. As you know, exercise can do as much for us emotionally as it can physically during those stressful times.

Thanks for being such a great motivation to us all!

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HDHAWK 8/4/2011 2:23PM

    "I have become convinced that true and permanent change takes place between the ears before it takes place in the body." I couldn't agree more and I'm really trying to get this right as I start over with losing weight. I've never learned how to maintain so when I reach my goal that will be my biggest challenge. Congratulations to you! I hope your son is doing ok now.

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LAMBINGTONS 8/4/2011 1:43PM

    That's wonderful. I'm finding that one of the biggest factors in becoming healthy is how we choose to deal with the things we cannot control.

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Dealing With Inevitable Naysayers

Wednesday, August 03, 2011

I haven't blogged in quite a while- I allowed someone to take the wind out of my sails for a bit, and I am sorry about that.......

Recently I had several inconsiderate things said to my about my choice to live a fit lifestyle. It cut me to the quick, so I reached out to other fit people I know and was surprised to find out that every single one of them had been through similar things, usually many times over. I thought a blog about this might be prudent because the fact is that if you are going to choose to lead an improved lifestyle, the odds are that you are going to be met with similar comments and situations, as well.

First of all, take into consideration the physical state of the person making the comments. If they are someone who is not in ideal shape themselves. give that consideration before taking their comments to heart.

In light of this it stands to reason that, as my husband says, your success is probably making what they feel are their own shortcomings glaringly apparent to them. Therefore it's more than likely a feeling of inadequacy with themselves that leads them to say cruel or unreasonable things to you, not a true criticism of you. So in a way they are acknowledging that they recognize your success. For this reason, it can be taken as an off-handed compliment, if you can muster the inner strength to view it that way.

Also, bear in mind that it is NEVER your fault that someone else is not doing well in the weight loss and fitness game. Your success cannot possibly be the reason for their non-success, regardless of how someone tries to justify it. It is human nature to want to blame others for our own problems, so please keep that in mind when your share of criticism hits you.

Keeping all of this in mind, it's a delicate thing to know how to handle these situations. We certainly don't want to drive people further away from changing their lives for the healthier, but on the other hand we shouldn't be targets for their frustrations, either. I asked my friends who have also dealt with this how they handle these situations and the best suggestion yet came from my friend Tia. She said that when critical things are said to her, she simply asks them "Why do you say that?" This is, in my humble opinion, a brilliant strategy because it does the multiple purpose of getting the spotlight off of you, finding out where they are coming from on the off chance you might be able to help them, and getting them to reflect on their own motives. And when done kindly, it lets them see you care about their feelings. People can't grow when they feel attacked. Quite frankly, I wish I'd of handled the criticisms that came my way in this manner.

Another perfectly acceptable strategy (this works particularly well when the criticism comes in a written form) is to say nothing at all. You are under no obligation to answer a question just because someone asked it or reply to a statement just because someone said it. And often silence says far more than words ever could.

Also, if I had it to do all over again I wouldn't handle ANYthing by Email, letter, or text. This is a good way to get all parties extremely upset, since your tone of voice can't be factored into the words and they can be taken in a way they were never meant. I'd suggest, if you feel the need to communicate with someone who has written you in some way that you send them your phone number and tell them you'd much rather speak to them about it personally. Chances are they will never call and the issue will die down, but if they do your meaning and caring will come across in your voice. Also, people on both sides of the equation will usually type things they would never say with their voices, so for issues where it could get emotional actual talking really is the best way to go.

I hope this helps. If you are changing your health for the better and have not run into this issue yet trust me, it's coming. Often from the least expected people. Sometimes you will find that those you thought would be your biggest allies in your transformation will wind up being your biggest adversaries, and vice verse. It's painful when it happens and you can't know who will say what when, but it will almost always surprise you. If you are mentally ready for it you will hopefully be able to handle it with more grace and dignity than I did.

  
  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

NELLJONES 12/8/2012 8:47AM

    I agree about the writing. I am not a good enough writer to be able to translate into words any meaning I might put into my voice. Some people can, but I can't.

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LOGOULD 12/7/2012 9:54PM

    Thanks. I've been at this for some time. Maintaining within 5 pounds of my "goal" weight for well over a year now. (Actually went over that range for a short period but have been back on track for months again). I have been at a lower weight, but I don't see that weight as being something that I can sustain for life. Anyway, I am now find people, especially my sister, who is overweight (and who I live with) are tiring of my healthy living lifestyle and seem to resent it and even try to sabotage my efforts and or make me feel guilty like I am imposing on THEM. I need Spark and all of you now more than ever!


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NDHAM5 12/7/2012 9:13PM

    Great blog, I'm telling you I never saw this coming!!! I feel great about my success, and as you know, this is no easy journey!!! You look awesome and thanks for the encouragement!!!!!!!!!

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ELECTRALYTE 12/7/2012 6:20PM

    great blog! You are gorgeous, can't imagine anybody being neg. unless they are just green with envy.

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KOOZIE1 8/6/2011 10:36PM

    Here is another good one: "Does it make you feel good to say that?" Thanks for sharing yours too!

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ARMSPORTS 8/5/2011 12:13PM

    These are some good strategies you mentioned. I used to get bent out of shape over criticism but I've found my skin has thickened with age. My response now usually consists of a smile followed by the addition of another log to my motivational fire!

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SLBRANTLEY 8/4/2011 7:29PM

    emoticon emoticon advice and useful strategies!

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HDHAWK 8/4/2011 2:19PM

    Your hubby is a wise man and I think he's got it exactly right. I've totally blown my program and am starting all over again, but when I lost the weight the last time I got lots of those comments. I often had people telling me I was getting too skinny and wasn't I done losing weight. I'm sure they are thrilled that I've gained it back!

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CCSDESTINY 8/4/2011 8:31AM

    A host of terrific strategies. I couldn't agree with you more on all of them. I love Tia's answer too. :)


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CHARLIES5 8/3/2011 11:53PM

    Whoa!! If anyone that looks as fantastic as you has naysayers then I agree with your hubby....it's because of their own inadequacies. You go girl!! emoticon

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GRACEFULIFE 8/3/2011 6:32PM

    How to handle the naysayers: outlift them.

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