BDS Day 31: Decide on Drinking

Sunday, April 10, 2011

Honestly don't drink that much. Perhaps a drink or two a month, if that. But when I go out and have a drink , it's a strong one.
Below are some of my preferences with calorie info from www.webmd.com

* Cosmopolitan (4 oz): 200 calories
* Chocolate martini: (2 oz each vodka, chocolate liqueur, cream, 1/2 oz creme de cacao, chocolate syrup): 438
* Margarita (8 oz): 280
* Vodka and tonic (8 oz): 200
and
Black Russian (3 fl oz) 250 with 16.22g of carbs.

Oh crap... I forgot about the carbs. Sure one or two drinks a month doesn't really make a big difference.... but you you add this choice with that choice all those little things add up. Even the occasional ones.
(Note to self: read Advantages Card again,)
It comes down to what do I value more. It is my choice.

Thank heavens I only cook with beer.

  

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WATERMELLEN 4/10/2011 3:51PM

Good idea, to look up the calorie counts for your faves. I've never had a chocolate martini, sounds delish but . . . probably won't be affording those calories any time soon!! And: I'm sore-y that you're feeling sore: hope you're better soon!! Report Inappropriate Comment

BIGLITTLEWOMAN 4/10/2011 3:36PM

Well, the chocolate martini looks like it would have to be a very special occasion at 480 calories. Wow, that is whopping. I recently checked on wine and while it only has about 100 calories for 4-5 ozs, WW assigns it 3 points because their formula uses carbs, calories, protein and fiber when deciding food value. So I have one or two glasses per week but would rather spend my allottment on other foods. You are right on that all of this is ALWAYS coming back to choices. We just can't have it all darn it. Report Inappropriate Comment

SLIMMERJESSE 4/10/2011 2:25PM

Good for you for enjoying in moderation. Have a wonderful day. Report Inappropriate Comment

BDS Day 30: Stay in Control While Eating Out

Saturday, April 09, 2011

Boy have things changed since I started BDS. Dr. Beck showed me that I have a choice and to look for healthy options.
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A special occasion is not permission to treat my body badly.
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I now have a rule Drink or Dessert(choose one). If I wish to have something not so healthy for my main meal... then water with lemon.
When my food arrives, I assess portion size and focus on that. Buffets I use portion size to determine what goes on my plate. If I wish to try something, I take what I call a "No Thank You" helping, just enough for a taste.
This way I do not feel that I am depriving myself, I still get a treat without over indulging.
I choose. I can find balance. I have a different attitude toward celebrating and eating out.
Eating out is not painful, with practice it actually is more of a pleasure as I am not overstuffed.

  

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WATERMELLEN 4/9/2011 11:13PM

Love the idea of a "no thank you" helping. And: I agree with you that I'm enjoying food MORE when I don't eat to the point of being stuffed -- and when I've permitted myself to get hungry before a meal without panicking and treating hunger as an emergency that has to be assuaged right away so that I don't actually experience real appetite!! The Beck program has taught me so much -- and is still teaching me!! Thanks for your "review" blogs!! Report Inappropriate Comment

FREELADY 4/9/2011 8:15PM

Great strategy. I needed this review. I like your reminder that it's actually more enjoyable to be mindful. True. But I deceive myself sometimes. Thanks for the reality check. Report Inappropriate Comment

BDS Day 29: Resist Food Pushers

Friday, April 08, 2011

Oh No!!! I'm the food pusher. Dr. Beck made me aware of the fact that I pushed food on my family. This has stopped.
Dr. Beck made me aware that I CAN say "No Thank You" and that will not hurt anyone's feelings.
Dr. Beck made me aware that I can be selective. I do not have to try the samples.
This awareness had made me show more respect for myself. Honoring my desires rather than appeasing others.

  

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AGUAWOMEN 4/12/2011 10:26AM

I am a food pusher, But more my best friend is, and gets me off course the most. Report Inappropriate Comment

WATERMELLEN 4/8/2011 8:27PM

I'm sure we've all been "food pushers" AND "food pushed" -- and there are still occasions where someone WILL be hurt when we say "No". But Dr. Beck really helps explain how!! Thanks so much for your kind wishes on my birthday and the party goodie!! I really appreciate you!! Report Inappropriate Comment

FREELADY 4/8/2011 3:48PM

Guilty. I have been a food pusher. I need to consciously stop myself from trying to connect with our adult children through trying to feed them whenever they cross my threshhold (okay, if they're hungry, or if it's mealtime, fine.) We have lots of other pathways to relate! Through the Beck program I have gotten pretty good at turning down food pushers. Thank you for bringing these concerns up. Report Inappropriate Comment

BIGLITTLEWOMAN 4/8/2011 3:41PM

I know if someone offered me food or a trest, ask me once and I can resist but if you ask me 2 or 3 times I might give in. Guilty as a past food pusher but getting better.My feelings could be hurt if I cooked a meal and people do not sample and enjoy it. Lesson to me when I cook a large meal is to simplify and not make so many choices. Report Inappropriate Comment

SLIMMERJESSE 4/8/2011 2:47PM

Good for you. Yes, this was a surprising chapter in the book as I was brought up with relatives from a culture that you just did not say "no" do delicious food. It was like an insult to their hospitality. Report Inappropriate Comment

BDS Day 28: Get Ready to Weigh In

Thursday, April 07, 2011

Dr. Beck advises us not to play games in a bid to see a lower number. It is better to face reality.
Granted I am not weighing in tomorrow, but I do understand the game play she is referring to. The scale is a tool, nothing more.

I've been doing the "Don't be an April Fool" Challenge and it is a difficult challenge. who would have thought that just doing one thing could be so difficult. I'm still hanging in there.

  

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BIGLITTLEWOMAN 4/7/2011 11:10PM

Just remember, Mama didn't raise no fool and you just keep workin' your program. Healthy, healthy, healthy is what you are working for. Look back and see how far you have come. Seize the day, this day. Live it well, laugh with the family and know that you are a good friend. Report Inappropriate Comment

ID_VANDAL 4/7/2011 12:04PM

That scale is a funny thing isn't it? When I was with weight watchers I would see people strip to almost nothing in an effort to get a lower number. I always stepped on the scale with everything in the early weeks and then later the pockets would get emptied and so on. All part of the game and Dr. Beck is spot on - Don't play that game!! Keep up your good work - I'm doing great on the April challenge as well. I hadn't realized how far off track I was with my Beck's cards!! Later, Vandal Report Inappropriate Comment

WATERMELLEN 4/7/2011 8:23AM

Persistence, resilience . . . you've got 'em!! Report Inappropriate Comment

FREELADY 4/7/2011 6:21AM

When you mentioned the challenge, it made me remember that when I bite the bullet and stop resisting a recommended behavior---then I see progress. Sigh. I need to stop being childish about this. Thanks for the nudge. Report Inappropriate Comment

BDS Day 27: Master the Seven Question Technique

Wednesday, April 06, 2011

I release the need to determine how things "should" be.
- Dr. Wayne Dyer

Is it true?
Dr. Beck suggests the seven question technique. I guess this is good if you are sitting down and examining the situation. But I am more of a "on the fly " type of gal. I like it short and sweet. Simple and doable.

What I have learned thus far is:
that I need to be honest with myself
that I have the power to choose
Making changes can bring pleasure.

  

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AGUAWOMEN 4/12/2011 10:30AM

Food sometimes have the power to satisfied then make one feel bad about what one just ate. To overcome that power, have to find another source, to replace. Replacing power for power. Any ideas?? Report Inappropriate Comment

WATERMELLEN 4/9/2011 11:14PM

I thought that the 7 questions approach was a little excessively analytical for my style too -- Report Inappropriate Comment

FREELADY 4/6/2011 7:39PM

I give you A plus on that assignment. Those are amazing lessons you listed. I did learn from Beck that making changes can bring pleasure, as you said. You have helped me be more honest, mostly through modeling it. Report Inappropriate Comment

FITJANE 4/6/2011 2:47PM

I like that. I will release the need of expecting that things should be a certain way and just accept what they are. I really SHOULD be a skinny minny by now, and I need to release that expectation and accept where I am now and go from here. I think that I "should" be able to eat whatever I want to, but in reality I have to accept my limitations, that I can't eat dessert once or twice a day and expect to lose weight. Report Inappropriate Comment