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Measuring Mental Pain

Friday, August 22, 2014

When I have had surgery, I have been asked routinely to give a measure of my pain on a scale of 1 to 10. On my personal scale, childbirth after the epidural failed and blocked gallbladder are my number 10's. They were such big things that all else has seemed much less.

But there is no scale to measure mental pain. I have been struggling since last Saturday to get over the hurt of being totally ignored at a family outing where I did all the organizing work. During the even I kept my stress eating to zero. But it has been hard this week to try and look forward instead of back because the hurt is so big and so raw.

I'm making myself go out tonight and be with other people, not family. Maybe I can move on and try to stop thinking about how this hurt feels on a scale of other hurt in my life.

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MOTTAMAMALOU 8/22/2014 5:13PM

    emoticon You have learned a powerful lesson.
Just enjoy your friends tonight and move on!

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Why Does Hot Weather Slow Me Down?

Tuesday, July 08, 2014

It's already 90 degrees and it is not even noon yet. Those of you who live on the desert are thinking, "What is she complaining about?" But add in high humidity and it contributes to what the weather people call the "misery index".

But I am inside in air conditioning. Why do I feel like doing nothing? This year featured a very long snowy, icy winter that kept my new knee and I virtual prisoners in my house. But winter is over. The really short spring gave way to the full brunt of summer. I still can't get moving. Is it just mental or is there a physical component to it? I am going to try to think about this over the next few days. And try to get moving.

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JUNEAU2010 7/15/2014 3:31PM

    Alaska - cool and humid, rainy most of the time (wish I had that now)
New Mexico - hot and dry with thin air and almost zero moisture
Arkansas, Georgia in summer, Vermont in summer = hot+humidity = misery
California - in between it all and far too dry this year

Heat has always taken the starch out of me! I can so relate.

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GARDENQE2 7/9/2014 12:39PM

    Misery index is a new term to me, but I'll accept it.
Last August, driving home from Chicago, I spent a day walking around Hannibal, Missouri. It wasn't as hot as my usual desert summer days, but with 90 degrees and 90 % humidity, I was more miserable than ever before.
I wondered how people could live like that?
Me, who works in the garden at 104 degrees!
Try to stay cool, and hope for a long pleasant autumn!

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WHYNOTJ1 7/8/2014 3:31PM

    I don't do well in heat and humidity either. The long winter kept me from my walks, too, but I finally was able to get out there. I walk in the early morning, before it gets too hot. Part of it is just habit, I think. Don't think about it too much, just find a way to do what you need. Walk somewhere with a/c or get out in the early morning or later in the evening. Start slow, but do it. You can increase gradually.

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When Life Makes You Check Your Thoughts

Sunday, July 06, 2014

I have been trying all week to get back to my prior habit of blogging each morning. Of course, life has gotten in the way. Today on the way to church as I tried to avoid the bicyclists who seemed to be were trying to commit suicide in front of my car, I was trying to get in the proper frame of mind for the service. I committed to making sure that I did a blog today. I remember thinking about challenges.

Near the end of the service, a loud child's crying came from the pew behind me. It was a child of about 8 who has some kind of mental difficulty. I know the parents only by sight, so I don't know if it is autism or something else. It took both parents to get him into his stroller and get him calmed down. As the mother hefted what i can only term a large diaper bag to her shoulder, I thought that no matter what my trials are, I have nothing compared to these people who I see every Sunday in church. I prayed for them and for me to have the compassion to look outside of my challenges to the bigger picture.

Yes, I have challenges. Yes, I had challenges with my children when they were younger, but it all pales when you see what others go through daily. It is always good to have your perspective turn outward instead of inward. Have a good Sunday and a good week.

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JUNEAU2010 7/6/2014 8:51PM

    The more I see, the more I realize I don't know the whole story. When I remember that, I am not irritated and my day is a whole lot more peaceful.

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ARISYEAR2014 7/6/2014 4:02PM

    I needed this! Thank you!

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I'm Back

Tuesday, July 01, 2014

I always loved that line by Jack Nicholson in "The Shining" even though it is a very scary movie, at least to me. I have always been on SparkPeople, but I stopped blogging, I stopped many other Spark activities. Partially it is because I have had a number of surgeries in the past several years. Each one has made it harder and harder to exercise. I have had a lot of pain. But one thing I did that helped my prior success is that each morning right after breakfast, I logged in and updated my status and most days I blogged. It gave focus to my attempts to eat properly and get exercise. So I am committing to trying that again.

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JUNEAU2010 7/2/2014 8:17PM

    emoticon emoticon I missed you!

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KALIGIRL 7/2/2014 10:01AM

    emoticon Glad you will be blogging and letting us know how you are!

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Bad-for-You Food

Monday, November 11, 2013

Why does food that is bad for your become so much more appealing when you are sick? I have been fighting "something" for several days. For the last 24 hours, it has been winning. Do I want to eat broth or eat fruit? No, I want sugar. Hot chocolate, cookies. My brain is fighting a war while my body is fighting the villains. I am trying to drink lots of water to stave off the urges, but it is tough. Hopefully my immune system will kick in and help today.

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JUNEAU2010 11/11/2013 7:21PM

    My unscientific theory is that when you really, really, really crave something, there's something in that food that your body needs. (sounds good anyway!)

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JACKSGRAN 11/11/2013 11:02AM

    Hope you soon feel better. Hot water with lemon might take away the sweet urges - but once they start lifting their ugly heads they do have a habit of staying in the forefront.

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ROBBIEY 11/11/2013 10:32AM

  Because it makes you feel good! emoticon

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