Sunday, November 15, 2009
Does any of this sound familiar to you?
- You wake up on Friday morning and the first thing you think of is: "FINALLY, the weekend! I can finally have CHOCOLATE (or other guilty goodies that you normally do not have)!"
- By lunch, the thought has crossed your mind at least once. (The infamous thought in question being: "I'm going to have an off day today, I'll treat myself and relax, I DESERVE IT.") You manage to ignore the little voice inside your head that is desperately trying to remind you that IT'S NOT A DIET YOU'RE ON, it's not something you can just switch off when you feel like it. It's trying to remind you why you're doing this and that this is all about a permanent change in your lifestyle. It's trying to talk you out of it, but you don't listen. You want your chocolate, NOW.
- By dinner, you've already consumed a couple of days' worth of calories (and fat). Now, you COULD HAVE decided to be mature about this and taken a different angle at the whole weekend business. You could have had a few pieces of chocolate, a small glass of wine, a moderate slice of pizza. You had the opportunity to make healthy choices, but you chose not to do that. Instead, you ended up eating the entire pizza, or countless candy bars, or drinking too many glasses of white wine.
- Before you fall asleep on Friday night, you promise yourself to do better tomorrow.
- When you wake up on Saturday morning, you think about food. And, of course, chocolate. And you reason that it's SATURDAY, it's the weekend, you've been doing so well this week, you are a grown-up and you can eat a moderate amount of your favorite treats without going overboard.
- By lunch, you've already decided (subconsciously) that you have the permission to binge today. (Later on, you will wonder, again, HOW THIS COULD HAVE HAPPENED?)
- By dinner, you've already consumed a couple of days worth of calories (and fat). When you think back on it, you realize that once you figured you were going to consume way more calories than SparkPeople suggests, you threw the entire lifestyle change out the window. What's the point? You've already gone over anyway! You might as well keep eating.
- Before falling asleep, you realize how miserable you feel. You feel bloated, confused, tired, stuffed, discouraged and, let's face it, fat. You're angry at yourself. This was not what you wanted to happen. But it did. How?
The thing is, we make all those choices. The good and the bad ones. It might be very subtle, even subconscious. That's why we need to pay extra attention on why it DID happen (or, in my case, WHY IT KEEPS HAPPENING, every single weekend). This is supposed to be a lifestyle change, not a diet. You can't have a day off! It's your life! Every single day counts. I think this is a very important thing to keep in mind, especially now that the holidays are getting closer and closer.
The key to success is consistency. If we work hard, stay true to ourselves, don't throw our healthy habits out the window when we feel like it, and enjoy our favorite treats IN MODERATION every now and then, it'll be much easier to succeed.
And one more thing: anger doesn't help. We can beat ourselves up for our mistakes as much as we want to, but it doesn't help or solve our problems. We are learning constantly. Every mistake we make is an opportunity to become wiser and more aware of ourselves.
Sometimes the most important thing is to let go, and to move on.
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
I've read a couple of articles here on SparkPeople about how to set realistic goals and to find your own perfect goal weight. As I once wrote in an earlier blog post, I too have often focused on reaching a goal weight that might not be perfect for me anymore. I've gotten older, my body has changed, my vision of the 'perfect me' has changed as well.
Let me give an example: For a long time I felt extremely frustrated because I was trying to reach a goal that was not realistic for me and my body type. My body type is called a 'mesomorph': mesomorphs are often short and have strong muscles. They also develop muscles very easily due to strength training and have strong legs and wide hips. I'm curvy and I do have big muscles. I also gain weight on my thighs and my hips. My dad is exactly the same. I have come to terms with this and learned to embrace my body type. I wouldn't change it for anything these days. But a few years back, I kept dreaming of long, lean legs; a long, thin waist, lean arms and delicate, tiny bones. My bones are big. I didn't realize that I was wasting my energy AND my time by focusing on reaching an unrealistic goal.
So, this time I'm going to save myself a lot of trouble and frustration, and focus on being more realistic. I'm not going to stare at the number on the scale TOO MUCH, I mean sure, I'll weigh in to track the progress I'm making, but I'll use other measurements BESIDE the scale as well.
I therefore conclude that...
- When my clothes fit better, I'll know I'm making progress
- When I feel confident and comfortable in my own skin, I'll know I have reached a goal
- When I stop comparing myself to others, I'll know I have come to terms with myself and my body type
- When I stop caring about what the media and the society expect women to look like, I'll know that I feel comfortable being who I AM and won't waste any more energy on turning myself into someone I'm not
BE YOURSELF. LOVE YOURSELF. NO MATTER what you look like today - you might not be at your ideal weight yet, you might have a long way to go; but you should learn to appreciate your body - its uniqueness, its curves, even its flaws. Because when you DO lose the weight and DO reach your goals, you'll still be short if you're short now; you'll still have wide hips if your hipbones are naturally wide, you'll be pear-shaped if you're pear-shaped today. AND it's OKAY, it's what makes world such a beautiful place. Everyone is unique. Everyone is perfect in their own way.
Don't you agree?
Sunday, November 08, 2009
I had a lovely, lazy Father's Day with my family. Went a little over my calories for today but I've been doing really well all week so I won't beat myself up about it. Tomorrow's a new day, right? :)
Now I'm here in Lahti with Tommi and my heart is breaking when I think about having to leave again tomorrow. I miss living here with him. I miss our lovely home that we shared together. I miss everything about this town. And yet, I have to leave to Turku tomorrow (or possibly on Tuesday morning). I don't know if I can / want to deal with this distance for AT LEAST three more years. Ahh well, we'll figure something out.
Hope you all had a lovely weekend and got to relax properly!
Until tomorrow then!
(My inspiration (body-wise)):
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