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Asking Bob Harper Directly for What I Want...and Believing....

Thursday, May 06, 2010

I have a new hero: Bob Harper of the Biggest Loser.

I am not obsessed about him for the traditional reasons I used to stalk men: they were cute. They were smart and some had resources! And many were fascinating!

The new me is interested in this small, attractive white boy /man, tattoo wearing , TV personality and fitness guru because he is a teacher of a philosophy that I need to save my life at the internal level: Bob preaches fitness from the inside!

He says we must change our thinking like we change our bodies. Something about that shakes me to the core. Bob says, we must face our "dark side" so that we can "GET UP AND FINISH WHAT WE STARTED." And something about that also shakes me the core.

By the way, I am 57 year old, African American almost grandmother who lives in Iowa....what a combination, yikes! I have also lost and gained and lost and gained weight all my adult life. I also lost self respect at time over those years because I did not have a concept of fitness and health that worked together.

My recent weight loss of 66 pounds is like a fight in ring with a prize fighter.

I am losing some days because they have been training and I have been only working out on " ONE LEG"... the leg of watching my weight through watching my plate. I have been on a diet alone. It gets old and it gets harder without the other leg: FITNESS!

So, I am inspired by Bob. He is my trainer. Bob suggest we do something new each day. So, I did something new. Today! I decided to ask Bob for a favor.

I went on his website and found he is giving away two tickets to the finale of the next Biggest Loser finale, May 25. It will be announced on May 12th.

I asked him to consider sending them to me. I shared my reasons why.

I believe he will hear me. I believe he will think, "well after that testimony, I have to invite her...." and then I see myself getting the call that the tickets for me and my guest (who will be my daughter who introduced me to this SPARK program) are on the way.

I see my daughter and I getting on the plane to Los Angeles. I see myself and my daughter wearing our Biggest Loser Tee shirts and drinking diet coke on the plane.

I see us in the audience of the finale. I see the balloons up in the air and I feel the tears from my own eyes....not jut for the TV winners...for they are all winners...but these tears are for me...they are warm and they are familiar. They are about my own body finally in line with my soul.

Getting those tickets represent for me a miracle: I got what I asked for. Help. Support. Better health and inspiration. NOt just from BOB but for all of you SPARK folks.....your ups and downs and willingness to start again and start anew and start with gusto!

So, I believe Bob will read my story. I believe Bob will send me the tickets! And I will let you all know when they come. How about that?

So stay tuned.....I am soon to be in the audience of the Other Biggest Losers....!!!!!!!

And yes, I will post my picture of me and Bob on my Spark page in the photo section. So look for it.

I keeping asking, dreaming and believing.....

P. S I think next I will dream of us being in first class too! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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CANBDONE 6/1/2011 8:39AM

    You have already won the best prize: empowerment, living your Best Life, a great relationship with your daughter, a positive attitude, and the heart of a Warrior Woman! Winning the tickets would be like the frosting on the cake...hope you get them!

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    Good luck on the tickets!! I pray you get them. And you're doing the right're asking for what you want, and believing! Way to go! I LOVE Biggest Loser..I'll look for you in the audience!

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BRIAN36 5/11/2010 7:09AM

    My very first workout DVD was Bob's Biggest Loser Workout. At first I struggled getting through just one workout, but with his constant motivational speaking throughout the workouts, I kept pushing for more and eventually was able to do all the workouts in one session.

Anytime I am coming back from rehabbing an injury, or just need that kick, I pull out that DVD to get back to the basics and put my head on straight again.

Love, love, love Bob!

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NFDHOUSEMOM 5/10/2010 9:23PM

    I love Bob too! I can't wait to see a picture of the two of you together!

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CONNEALS 5/10/2010 9:03PM

    Good Luck!

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VALERIEMAHA 5/10/2010 7:59PM

    Since I don't watch TV, I'm not acquainted with Bob Harper. But he sounds worth paying attention to! (Of course I know about The Biggest Loser by reputation!)

Hopefully we'll soon be calling this a "self-fulfilling prophecy!" May it be so!

Blessed be!
P.S. That's an awesome yoga asana on your wallpaper. who would that be?

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    Good Luck!

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GINA7249 5/10/2010 7:43PM

    looking forword to everything. love bob and i know ur daughter loves jillian


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FSTORM 5/10/2010 7:42PM

    Visualization is a very powerful tool, keep focused on what you want and it will come to you!

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TEENY_BIKINI 5/10/2010 7:36PM

    LOL. Totally great blog. I love Bob too. Keep doing a great job and being plain fabulous. Woot!!!


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ALIMESSA 5/7/2010 1:23AM

    I really hope you get those AWESOME that would be! Looking forward to the update!

As Always,
Stay Strong!!

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GEEMAWEST 5/6/2010 10:55PM

    WOW! Awesome visualization! I believe that Bob will hear you and send you those tickets. Promise me that you will let me know when it happens. I want to celebrate with you AND watch you on TV!
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BRIARROSE30 5/6/2010 6:06PM

    Great Attitude! I'm seeing myself catching a glimpse of you on TV in the audience, standing up and exclaiming..."I know her!" and impressing all my friends. emoticon

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ALISHA5741 5/6/2010 1:52AM

  I'm catching up on some newer episodes of The Biggest Loser right now, as I read your blog. That would be so exciting for you! I must say that I'm more of a Jillian fan, but I love Bob too! Good luck to you!

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LYN-EDWY 5/6/2010 1:46AM

    Looking forward to seeing those pictures. All the best.....Positive thoughts to you....

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May Day Another New Beginning

Saturday, May 01, 2010

Just recently and from three sources I admire, I heard the same message: IT IS OK TO REGROUP FROM TIME TO TIME.


My old reactions to life being too much for the moment or me overbooking myself beyond my capacity or me wanting to help so many people and situations when I realistically can not...just sends me into a funk, hide out mode or punishment of myself.


So having been told that by those three sources, was a gift. I took that gift and decided that May Day will be a celebration today and as I turn of the May pole I will be take the actions to regroup and take it easy as I do it.

Again, imagine that...taking it easy when I have done less than I projected....a new concept too!

I learned this: Regrouping for me means 1) spending some time alone to think and figure out what will tweak my needs. 2) asking for help in safe places and with safe people and 3) doing the next right thing right now instead of focusing on the past I can not change.

So I am back to remembering the daily basics: eat right, exercise as much as I can and with passion and think positive.

It does not take "rocket science" or a paid by the hour types of situation to remember this basic mantra about SPARK folks keep telling me over and over and over again...THE THINGS I CAN DO EACH DAY TO IMPROVE MY HEALTH, IMPROVE MY HEAD AND HEART AND IMPROVE MY INTEGRITY CARD I CARRY.....AND I THANK YOU FOR YOUR EXAMPLE.

And for those folks who gave me this "tried and true" insight about regrouping....your truth is setting me free today and I sure do need that!

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KRISTIN614 5/4/2010 8:28AM

    Thanks for your words. I am have recently regrouped myself but I have not taken it inward and upon reading this I think that may be what is keeping me from being consistent with how I take care of myself. It is so easy to say "I need to do this, this , & this" and then I can reach my goals. It has worked for me to a certain extent but I seem to only get so far. Thanks for giving me a new perspective.

By the way- you look fabulous! I know you are doing something right.


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JCORYCMA 5/2/2010 9:44PM

    What a great May Day pep talk for us all! Please keep sharing your insight with us.

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FOUNDER3 5/2/2010 8:59PM

    Hope you May Day was great.

The best things I have learned in Spark People, and I repeat them as often as I can find anyone who will listen, are change one thing at a time, take it one day at a time, and love yourself all of the time!

Keep on keepin' on!


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ALIMESSA 5/1/2010 10:25PM

    FREEDOM!! There is nothing better...I wish you the best! Stay Strong!!

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GEEMAWEST 5/1/2010 8:47PM

    Woo Hoo! Happy May Day to You! I love regrouping. It is so refreshing. Way to go, girl!


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Contentment is the Result of Fitness Action

Sunday, April 25, 2010

I am approaching my first 1,000 Spark points...and I feel the joy of knowing that each day using the SPARK tool has been an investment in ME!

I feel content with this.

I am also completing my fitness minutes each week, from 180 60 190 now and moved up from level 5 to 12 on my elliptical machine.

I feel content with this.

I am asking for help from my family in walking at the mall and at a local park with me.

I feel content with this.

I hear the "you did not do it right" stuff in my head and I am reacting less to it...and the bad body day stuff too! is lasting less and less as a sour tape in my head!

I feel content with this.

I am not being pulled by the extremes I lived in "from a structured food plan" of the last four years to my new "elastic food plan" currently. I am cooking in diversity and eating with food guidelines with open choices.

I feel content with this.

I am hearing the same suggestions from a woman I asked to sponsor me in the journey towards fitness and health and my therapist. Are they talking to each other or what?

I feel content with this.

Finally, I am slowing down to listen to that inner voice: my God, my own heart, my "inner child's needs" and my need for nature and beauty.

I feel content with this.

Contentment is a new emotion for me. I used to live only in the tensions between "survival and struggle" and I was dying doing it. The joys of life were only measured in making it through one crisis after another: in my heard mostly!

So when I say I feel content with what is going on in this journey towards fitness and health, I am saying that showing up for myself is about me taking life as a gift...on planet Earth and being scared less that I am alive. It also means that contentment is a result now of my actions THAT COME FROM FITNESS ACTIONS!


Contentment is my new fitness action and re-action to doing what it takes each day to step forward for me. I am so worth it and now I know it!
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GINA7249 5/10/2010 7:45PM

    wow wounderfull blog

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GEEMAWEST 4/27/2010 9:21PM

    It truly warms my heart to read that you are so content with your life and your choices. Way to go! You are doing great! Keep it up!

Thanks for stopping by my page and touching bases. Love hearing from you.


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ALIMESSA 4/26/2010 1:02AM

    Great blog! Stay strong and keep up your great attitude! You inspire so many of us!

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BRIARROSE30 4/26/2010 12:08AM

    Wow! Wonderful blog! You are fortunate to feel this contentment, it seems like when we are content, life has a way of taking care of itself, don't you think? You are an inspiration!

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P.S to the Previous Blog

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

I have to make one more point about using Spark as a tool for change. I just finished getting 55 Spark point for the day. I like that. Then this message came up that said: You have the number of SPark Points allowed for the day.

I did not like that message. UM! Then it occured to me that I also don't like it when others or I say to myself, well you can't have that or that or that either....and you know I am talking about foods, right!

But getting those points will not put pound on my rounds! Having to be told, enough for today is actually good. So thank you Spark engineers for designing the system to speak direclty to that rebell in me to "push the boundaries" or be so compulsive that like the uncontrolled overeating and mindless eathing....I had not "stop gaps. "
Spark is my new "BIG Brother."


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GINA7249 5/10/2010 7:51PM

    there is allways those things here. i hate how there is a limit for counting cardio for spark america. under points page there is no limit. under sp america it counts strength who in the real world would do that. thank u for ur blog

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JCORYCMA 4/21/2010 10:33PM

    Join the club! I kindly refer to the feedback on my nutrition tracker as the "Spark Police". When I plateaued I couldn't figure out why and so I faithfully tracked every bite and the Spark Police kept telling me I needed more carbs. I finally took their advice and guess what? I broke through the plateau and lost the remaining 15 lbs. down to goal. Sometimes no matter how much I hate it - I just need to be told. Thanks for the reminder!! Keep up the awesome effort!

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Changing to Change

Wednesday, April 21, 2010

As I am using the SPARK tool of changing my life it has shown me this: I have to change to change. Imagine that...what was I thinking I was doing...only making a change here and there?

My new goal is not weight loss but fitness. Now, honestly what do I know about it? Well, as I take the time each day to maximize my spark forces me to DO THE, do polls, blog, reply to others ideas, read about fitness, motivation, spin the will, read a science article about medicine and health, and see how exercised are really done for more effective BURN.....well it is re-education for a "old dog" like me.

I thought I knew a lot but SPARK keeping showing me...I need information to change. I need changing and I have to change to change. I have to let go of something and pick up something else! I have to learn the philosophical assumptions below the desire to make a lifestyle of fitness and I have to become a better conscious cook to eat healthy food and more...I have to drink the water, go to sleep regularly....yikes...exercise with an intention and more than anything: CHANGE MY OLD THINKING ABOUT CHANGE.

Wow, what a thing this change is....what is the definition of take an action that will result in something being different...oh you mean me? I wanted things to be different but I did not want to change and when I was dieting...I just wanted to change for a while instead of creating that SPARK life style change...they recommend. In fact, everyone recommends...from Oprah to Dr. Phil to Suzanne Sommers. They all say the same thing!


Because it is true: I have to accept change as the key ingredient to changing who I am to what I want to become physically, emotionally and spiritually.
So the bomb! It has exploded all over my life as a friend, comrade for the biggest revolution in my life: fitness and healthy in moderation and with permanence but with grace and perfect imperfection.

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  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

GINA7249 5/10/2010 7:44PM

    llove everything u said

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TLTHOMPSON69 4/21/2010 9:20PM

    I can totally relate! I absolutley believe that change has to be the way of life for us. A's not so bad!


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ALIMESSA 4/21/2010 6:52PM

    I totally understand what you are saying about truly changing...I, too, just wanted to change for a while instead of creating that SPARK life style change, and what did it get me? 20 pounds back on!!! So now I am slowly learning how to make permanent changes in my is a slow many old habits to get rid at a time they keep telling you and I can do it...let's stay strong and persevere!

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