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Days 8-10

Monday, May 17, 2010

With the medical staff caring for Dad aware that the blood thinners can not be started unless we are notified beforehand and his health has been stabilized, I took Saturday and Sunday to do some much needed cleaning around his house.

Mom and Dad have lived in this particular home for over 30 years. They were married over 50 when she passed, so the amount of STUFF is overwhelming. We open cabinets and drawers and are amazed at cards that were received over 50 years ago that have been saved. Pictures are in drawers that recount their years in college, their immigration to the US, and the many years thereafter. We don't even know where to begin cleaning, straightening or packing. It takes us 3 hours just to clean out 4 drawers throwing away cards and organizing pictures.

My daughter comes across a photo of my Mom and Dad I've never seen before. They are standing on a pier, their faces so young, dressed in trenchcoats arm in arm. When we finally come to a stopping point and make our daily visit to Dad, he is so surprised by our discovery of the picture. It was their wedding photo! He said he didn't even know how they paid for the picture because their entire wedding ceremony cost $ was all they had. He admires the picture and so appreciative that we are taking the time to declutter as much as we can.

Sunday night the hospitalist comes in to discuss the cardio version procedure that will take place at 9 am the next day. They will put him to sleep just as they do with a colonoscopy, and it will take about 30 minutes tops. He checks Dad's swelling in his lower extremities which are looking better but have a long way to reduce before looking like a normal leg. He does notice Dad's dinner tray which is uneaten and begins to lecture him on his not eating and keeping his strength up. Dad just tells him he hasn't had much of an appetite for weeks now which was one reason he was puzzled by his 35 pound weight gain and the bloating in his belly which is attributed to the CHF by the doctor.

Monday morning rolls around, and my daughter and I arrive at the hospital at 7:30 am. We want to be by his side as much as we can. They wheel him down to the cardiac unit at 7:50, hook him up with all kinds of wires and they begin monitoring his heart rate. 121...171...155...his resting heart rate is all over the place. I am puzzled that he didn't feel his heart racing like it was, especially since 148 is my max for working out and he was elevating beyond that. No wonder he was feeling so bad, but he just didn't know what was going on. His poor little heart is working SO HARD emoticon

As they spray his throat to deaden it for the camera that will go down and check his heart for clots and functionability, he cracks a joke which makes his attending staff laugh hysterically. That's Dad for you..always a joke for ANY occassion. They ask if we want to stay and witness the procedure. A part of me does want to see it, but a part of me doesn't. I'm just not sure if I can take seeing the shock to his body, so I give him a last kiss, and tell him how much I love him. Everyone assures me he will be fine..there was no need for the tears. But you just never know, and I'm not ready to say my last me selfish!

20 minutes goes by, and out comes the nurse all smiles. It's done she says. Really, and it's okay? Yep his heart is working normally. Where there were no p waves in his heart beat, I look at the screen and I see the little P waves and then the heart beat..WOOHOO..and his resting heart rate is now 68.

How amazing modern medicine can be when it leaves a person like new or functioning like the body is intended. emoticon

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NUTRIGIRL08 5/18/2010 12:26PM

    emoticonThat is great! Hope he continues to improve!

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KFAYJAY 5/17/2010 10:28PM

    Wow do you have a lot on your plate Becky! Just make time to breathe and take a break thru it all!!! Good news abt ur dad!

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BEFIT014 5/17/2010 8:21PM

    So happy everything went well! I know that has to be a relief!

My MIL passed away about 5 yrs ago and my husband & I went in to clean and organize. I'd always heard she was a pack rat. Pack rat didn't come close to describing it! UNREAL! My husband is also a pack rat and couldn't throw ANYTHING away. It's packed away, in big blue totes, in the back of the shed.

I'll keep your dad in my prayers!

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TRAINER_T 5/17/2010 5:31PM

    emoticonnews my friend, I am so happy for you. I can imagine how hard it is for you and that house cleaning. My grand parents were that way I never saw it my dads mom. He went there and said you would NOT believe they kept everything.

But what is funny is my dad was the SAME way, you could not move in the garage. Mom would not let him mess up the house but called him a pack rat lol.

Im glad all is well, keep us posted.

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1HOTMAMA2BE 5/17/2010 1:32PM

    Oh! Good news, Becky! I was wondering all weekend how things were going to go today and I am glad they went WELL!!! Going through old pictures and cards always takes forever because you stop and think about each one. I have to say you have your work cut out for you! I know how it is (believe me) and pray you have the strength and support you need to get through this time. Remember, your SparkFriends are always here for you!

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SHEILA1505 5/17/2010 1:23PM

    I am so relieved for you and for your Dad - now you can have some peaceful time together and catch up on so many questions you must have for him. There must have been so many things going thru your head when you were clearing out for him! I feel sure you will treasure this time.


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Friday, May 14, 2010

As much as I would like to say I am embellishing the events of the past two weeks with my Dad, I have to sadly admit that they happened as I recount. I am mortified by the fact that some people who are in the healthcare field really don't need to be caring for the sick. And at times, "practicing medicine" is exactly what some doctors are doing..practicing.

Day 5:

My flight arrives and my middle brother is at the airport waiting to take myself and my oldest daugther to Dad's house. As we drive across town, I ask him how Dad has been and looks and he says he's okay. He had not seen him for 3-4 weeks prior to the hospialization and since Dad was hospitalized on Thursday, he had not gone to visit him since Saturday. I am a little disturbed since he didn't go and check on him after the catheter incident on Monday night. I hold my tongue and am very anxious to get a vehicle so I can see Dad for myself.

When we arrive, I see that Dad's house has not been taken care of. The trees are overgrown, the weeds are growing up through the rocks in the yard, and it becomes evident the housekeeper has not been doing her job. emoticon I have said all along that the house is just too much for him to care for since Mom's passing and that he needs to downsize. He believes my Mom is still there. I have told him she is in his heart but not in the house. How romantic but sad at the same time......

My brother drops us off, and we get into one of Dad's vehicles..the truck...which won't start! Why in the world would he have 3 vehicles and not maintain them?! Guess the same reason he has a huge house that is looking the way it does! emoticon We go into the garage and get the convertible started and off we go to see him.

When we arrive at the hospital, Dad is talking with his female friend Gloria. She is a really nice woman who he met at the Widowed Person's Association meeting. They go to dinner together, go to the movies together, and just enjoy each other's company. He stresses to me all the time it's just a friendship and nothing else. "He was born once, married once, and will die once." It's okay with me, besides he really doesn't have to explain ANYTHING. The last thing I want for him is to be sad and lonely.

As we talk, I notice his catheter bag is still a little pinkish which right away tells me he is still bleeding a bit from the injury. Other than that he looks like himself, just a bit grayer than what he was the last time he visited our home. He is alert, joking, and seems happy that we are there. I pull back his sheets to see his legs that look like tree stumps! His little feet look like did the Physcians Assistant from his old doctor's office not see these things 3 weeks prior?!!! How did this go on so long without someone doing something?! How could he neglect his OWN HEALTH?! With my profession, I can't wrap my mind around how negligent he could be to his own health!

The cardiologist comes in and discusses Dad's health issues. He informs us that he in fact DOES have CHF...why the hospitalist would have told me different on the phone 5 days before floors me . The upper portion of his heart is not working correctly...actually it is just fluttering (Atrial fibrulation) which causes the lower portion of his heart to just remain open and not pump the blood out forcefully. Therefore no blood is getting to the extremities which is why his legs look like they do..the edemia and the purple color. They need to schedule a procedure called CARDIO VERSION which involves them putting Dad to sleep and then shocking the heart so it will begin to beat like it should.

Dad has another temper tantrum in the room and says he isn't doing anything until he has a chance to research things. NOW he wants to research things but didn't take the time to do it to PREVENT this from happening. I just want to smack him! emoticon The doctor doesn't want to upset him, so he says we can look at doing it in the next couple weeks. But we have to get him back on the blood thinners soon to avoid risk of a stroke. I begin to question him on the Coumadin and he says they will have a pharmacist come in to discuss the risks with us which may put us at ease. (NOT!)

No pharmacist visit by the time I leave at 10 pm Wednesday night. Dad isn't eating well and looks tired so we decide to let him get some sleep and head to his house. At 11 pm Dad calls to say they came in and started the Coumadin again. I tell him that he hasn't even stopped bleeding from the injury and why did they do it?! He doesn't know, so I call the nurses station to find out who ordered it and why. She says the Hospitalist wanted to start him back on it for fear of clots but I explain that he was still bleeding from the cath and could bleed out, to no avail.

Thursday morning I get to the hospital very early. When I walk in the room, Dad's bag is RED! He looks pale as a sheet and is very hostile. He even seems a bit loopy. As the day transpires, he is bleeding more and the bag..on his bed....on the floor when he is trying to get up to walk a bit. He is getting weaker and weaker. Finally by 5 pm, I tell them to STOP THE COUMADIN. Can they not use their common sense and see what it's doing to him. I tell the nurses they are not to start it again unless they talk to me first! Each day thereafter when I leave, I have to look them dead in the eye and tell them the same thing...NO COUMADIN UNLESS I AM NOTIFIED.

Friday I wake up early and say a prayer for a better day. It seems that we go from bad to worse with just the one day we had been in town. When we get to the hospital, Dad is SO MUCH BETTER. His friends even comment how bad he was the day before... yeah blood loss will do that to you! One of Dad's friends tell him that an acquaintance is needing a pacemaker and is having the procedure done the next day. How could he neglect his heart and wait on the Cardio Version that he desperately needs? Who was smarter....Dad or his pacemaker friend? That was the slap of reality Dad needed even though both myself and his granddaugther had been begging him all day to schedule the procedure. By that evening, there was no more arguing about the Cardio Version. Dad wants to get it scheduled now that he understands the procedure, understands how they put him to sleep and had a little peer pressure to boot.....PRAISE THE LORD! emoticon

The cardiologist comes in that evening to say that they have stopped the Coumadin because Dad has the propensity to bleed ( YA THINK?! emoticon), so they will just have him on an aspirin a day until they can get the catheter situation handled. Cardio Version will be set for 9 am Monday morning. I feel of sense of relief, but little did I know that God will be testing my strength in the days to follow.

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NUTRIGIRL08 5/17/2010 9:36AM

    Wow, I so sorry you are having to go through this! Prayers with you and your dad and the rest of your family!!! emoticon

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1HOTMAMA2BE 5/14/2010 5:23PM

    Oh My Gosh!!! Becky! I can't believe it. It does make you wonder sometimes though, doesn't it? I am glad you were there to take charge. Your dad needs you there. I hope the cardio version goes well Monday morning. I am sending prayers and hugs your way for you, your family and especially your dad.

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FLUENTFROG 5/14/2010 4:48PM

    Oh, Becky, I'm so sorry you are going through such stress. I empathize with a dad who 'cares' for himself (NOT) similarly. He is SO BLESSED to have a daughter like you willing to stand up and insist on the right things being looked at. We ARE our own advocates in our health. Your dad has you to help with some gaps. Keeping you, him, and your family in my bestest of thoughts.

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LILYGAL 5/14/2010 3:53PM

    OMG!! Thank goodness you are there. When my mom (at the time, 97 yo)was admitted my sister or myself stayed 24/7 and made sure that certain "things" were done. Mom would tell us one thing because she became confused. Thank God she hasn't had to go again. I have put you on my prayer list. Just hang in there.

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NEBRASKANURSE 5/14/2010 12:23PM

    My heart goes out to you. i pray God will give you some peace and comfort in the days to come.

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2WHEELER 5/14/2010 11:30AM

    Thank goodness you are there! I read a health care article not too long ago that strongly recommended that when an older patient gets admitted to a hospital, a family (or hired) caregiver should be there 24/7 to make sure orders are followed, procedures are adequately explained, etc. There aren't may families that have that kind of time or money, but reading your blogs sure confirms how important it is to have someone be a voice for the patient. Remember to take care of yourself, too.

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GETUP-N-GOGIRL 5/14/2010 11:25AM

    There's no advocate like a loving family advocate. Your dad may not realize it, but thank heaven for you being there with him!!!

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TRAINER_T 5/14/2010 10:59AM


Thank goodness you are there! And the fact that you are a wealth of information with your background is saving your dad!

Im keeping him in my prayers and you too my friend.
Hugs T.

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SPARKROZ 5/14/2010 10:29AM

    Keeping you guys in my thoughts and prayers. CONTINUE to monitor things and be the other voice for you dad.


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KELLIGIRL523 5/14/2010 10:13AM

    This is all sounding very familiar. Praciting. Yikes.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

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WONDERJUL 5/14/2010 10:03AM

    I am sorry that your dad is in the hospital and for all the goings on there. I am glad he decided to have the procedure and hope is health improves and he can go home soon! Your dad is fortunate to have you as an advocate. emoticon

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Day 1-4......THE NIGHTMARE

Thursday, May 13, 2010

I want to thank everyone for your well wishes for both me and my Dad. He isn't out of the woods yet, so prayers are SO appreciated. My last two weeks have been totally unbelieveable, so I thought I would blog about these 14 horrific days in hopes of helping others to learn from my experience and maybe get some help from others who have dealt with the same issues our family is dealing with. THANKS AGAIN!!! MY SPARKFRIENDS ARE SOME OF THE BEST!

Three weeks ago Friday, I received a dreaded phone call, "Dad is in the hospital." My heart sunk and tears began knowing that with his age, my time with him will soon be drawing to a close here on Earth.

After making several phone calls and not being able to find information out since he didn't list me on his contact form ( the line was too short he says later), I finally get a nurse in Cardiac ICU that verifies he's there and will take the phone into him so we can speak.

My Dad will never admit when he is sick or needs help. When I ask what's wrong, he says nothing and he feels fine. I tell him to tell the nurse it's okay to talk to me and hand her the phone so she can explain what is going on. Barbara, advises me that Dad has CHF, congestive heart failure.

My mind flashes back to a week prior when in our phone conversation he tells me he hasn't been eating much but yet had gained about 10 pounds. I ask about his blood sugar and he says it's testing out fine. I tell him to call his doctor and he relays that he has an appointment with him the following week and would just wait until then. I tell him that's not a good idea, but he says he doesn't want to bother him and they wouldn't get him in any sooner anyway.
Thankfully when his new doctor sees him and the weight gain from fluid ( 35 pounds to be exact), he has him ambulanced to the hospital. Dad was here for 2 weeks.

With the diagnosis of CHF, comes a slew of drugs. The first thing they want to start him on is the blood thinner Coumadin. I have two friends who lost parents when the doctors started them on Coumadin, so I am VERY leery of the drug. I talk to his doctor/hospitalist who is caring for my Dad. The story that I was told from day 1 has now changed. He doesn't have CHF, he was diagnosed with Pulmonary pressure in the lungs, and seems put out that I am questioning care and drug therapy they are giving my loved one.

I get off the phone making it CLEAR I want to speak with the Cardiologist when he arrives. Now I am TOTALLY confused since the diagnosis has changed and feel I really need to fly back home to attend to matters. Dad is adamant I do not come. Nothing is wrong and i would just cause trouble. I would NEVER cause trouble...ever
emoticon...only when it's necessary anyway emoticon No call from the doctors and the diagnosis is changing from day to day and the Coumadin is started for fear Dad will throw a blood clot.

Monday night comes around and Dad calls to tell me he did something dumb. They had inserted a catheter to help drain fluids from his body. He was trying to get out of bed to close the shade and yanked on the cath. He layed there ALL NIGHT in bed not telling anybody because he didn't want to "bother them!" So when they discover him in the morning, there is blood all over the bed and the floor. I just wonder did no one see it before the morning time when the nurses do their rounds? And obvisously the blood thinner can't be helping matters at this point but the drug is still continued!

Tuesday I know I HAVE to go and see what is going on. Dad has a temper tantrum on the phone and says if I show up he will walk out of the hospital. My feelings are hurt at this point because I don't understand why he wouldn't want me there. I joke back and tell him that it's too windy there in our home town and his hospital gown would never stay closed if he did that. He argues and argues threatening a few more silly things, but I finally tell him there's nothing more important than me being there when he needs me. He realizes he has lost this particular battle and there is no further arguing about my flight.

Let the drama begin.......

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GETUP-N-GOGIRL 5/13/2010 10:19PM

    {{{{Hugs}}}} Becky, you and your loved ones are in my prayers. It may just be your dad in the hospital, but usually there's more than just one person that needs the prayers. Keep blogging when you feel the urge plus get the chance; I do believe it's cathartic.

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TRAINER_T 5/13/2010 6:01PM

    Prayers sent to you my friend, hugs!!!

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EAZYE2302 5/13/2010 5:53PM

    I am so sorry hope your dad gets well soon.
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BLAN163 5/13/2010 2:01PM

    I've been thinking about you alot lately. I knew you were busy with your dad but I had no idea how sick he was. I'm so sorry and I will keep you family in my prayers. Miss you!

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Thou shoulds't eat to live, not live to eat."- Socrates

Tuesday, April 06, 2010

If you all know me, I NEVER EVER would intentionally want to hurt anyone's feelings, so let me just start out by saying if I TRULY did not care about a person's well being and health, I would not take the time to gather information and share it with you concerning the new way to lose weight. I KNOW how hard weight loss is, I TOTALLY understand the frustrations that come along with losing 5-200 pounds. I just hate for ANYONE to suffer any damage to their bodies that may not become apparent for 5-40 years down the line in the form of cancer, heart disease, stroke, or whatever else the body may do to turn on us for the abuse we put it through.

Recently there has been discussion among my clients as well as on some of my Spark teams about the new "trend" in weight loss. It consists of eating 500 calories a day emoticon and injecting the man made hormone HCG that is naturally produced within the female body during pregnancy.

No human body is meant to function and survive healthily on 500 calories a day without damage occurring. It takes a minimum of 1000 calories just to have the heart pumping normally, the liver and kidneys filtering correctly, and the brain functioning fully. Heck it takes the body 400 calories to function normally at night when you are sleeping!!! emoticon

When reducing your calories below 800 calories, this is termed a "starvation diet." Some of the side effects of a starvation diet are:

emoticon Lack of energy
emoticonCatabolysis is the process of the body breaking down its own muscle and tissue to keep the nervous system and heart functioning. This will lead to permanent damage to the body.
emoticonLoss of vital nutrients that are absent from the diet are not available for the body to regenerate (WHAT YOU EAT TODAY MAKES UP WHO YOU ARE TOMORROW) This vitamin deficiency leads to diarrhea, skin rashes, hair loss, acne, and heart failure.
emoticonAtrophy (weakness) of the stomach occurs and the sense of hunger is lost. This is NOT a good thing because what is occurring is the manipulation of the hunger hormone ghrelin. Without ghrelin naturally produced in our bodies, our stomach will not work as it should telling us we are hungry and then the ghrelin tells the brain to release leptin, our fullness hormone. The manipulation of these hormones causes havoc and the body will NOT work as God intended it to do so. With the absence of the hunger hormone ghrelin also comes the lack of Human Growth Hormone in our bodies. This hormone is what is prevalent in our teen years. If you want to look younger, take it from this perimenopausal woman, you DON'T want to do anything to cause your body to stop producing HGH. And without ghrelin, we don't get our deep REM sleep which is when the body gets the best shot of HGH.

Now if starvation of our body isn't scary enough, the side affects that the drug may cause are:

emoticonOvarian Hyperstimulation Syndrome: It is rare but is life threatening to the individual. Immediate treatment from your doctor is suggested if you experience severe pelvic pain, swelling of the hands and feet, stomach pain, shortness of breath, urinating less, nausea or vomiting.
emoticon With the individual self injecting the hormone risk of a blood clot is a concern. If you experience redness at the injection site, tingling in the extremities, dizziness, or severe headache, seek medical attention immediately.
emoticon Men are at risk of prostate cancer since the injection does cause swelling of the prostate. Increase of the breasts are also a side affect so look out MAN BOOBIES emoticon
emoticonSuffering from depression, feelings of restlessness and irritability, water weight gain, headaches, and skin rashes are all some side affects that users have experienced.

If you currently or have suffered from the following disorders, HCG is not recommended for your weight loss choice:

Thyroid or adrenal disorders
Ovarian cysts
Premature puberty
heart disease
kidney problems
Hormone related cancers...or any cancers that may be hereditary. EVERYONE has free radicals in their bodies. Those free radicals just lay dormant waiting for the one thing that is going to fuel their growth. So when the cancer starts out pin head size and doubles it's no biggee. But when your cancer is baseball size and doubles...... emoticon

Lastly, in 1975 the FDA has required labeling and advertising of HCG to state:

" HCG has not been demonstrated to be effective adjunctive therapy in the treatment of obesity. There is no substantial evidence that it increases weight loss beyond that resulting from caloric restriction, that it causes a more attractive or "normal" distribution of fat, or that it decreases the hunger and discomfort associated with calorie-restricted diets."

I put this information out here for you to educate yourself in making the BEST choice for YOU and YOUR health. I do not offer any judgement if this is your way of going about losing weight.


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GLAMOURGIRL-9 4/22/2010 9:24AM

    I have NEVER heard of this but OMG!!!!!! Thank you for calling this madness out!!!

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EAZYE2302 4/8/2010 9:54AM

    Thanks Becks as you know I struggle with food and calorific intake but i would never resort to this. Thanks for reminding us to just EAT CLEAN & excercise and we will see a difference. emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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LOOKINFIT1 4/8/2010 12:14AM

    Great info! Thanks for posting. Hopefully people wise up quickly!

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SONYARODRI29 4/6/2010 4:34PM

    I had not even heard about this...but it is just plain awful and NOT GOOD! Whoa! Thanks for this informative blog! emoticon

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JWENZEL723 4/6/2010 4:22PM

    ahh! i hadn't heard a lot about this but it makes me absolutely sick to my stomach. thanks for the info!

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TRAINER_T 4/6/2010 2:52PM

    OMG...I am just sickened by how gulible the public can be for quick fixes.

The fact of the strain on the body, and heart let alone the "mood" you would have to be in doing this is nuts. I see a scary future, even to the fact of people injecting themselves with botox ordered off line.

What next?

Thanks for the education on this Becky, I don't know anyone on this, but certainly now I will know what it consist of.

This is the true INSANITY program! emoticon

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FITKAT2010 4/6/2010 2:44PM

    One of my clients DH is on this program. As soon as she mentioned it I cringed!

I agree totally. I am a strong advocate of eating enough to do what your body needs to do and to make it premium fuel.

Thank you for blogging about this dangerous new trend.

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BLAN163 4/6/2010 2:42PM

    I personally know 5 different people who have done several rounds of HCG and it just breaks my heart!!! I hate to see people do this to themselves!

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CUBANJELLY 4/6/2010 2:25PM

    People, in general, are stupid. One person may have it together, but altogether, people as a group are stupid. We are called sheep in the Bible for a reason - we're natural followers. The goat - the ones going to hell! LOL Are the breakaway leaders! Ha!

Anyway, ranting aside. I've had so many people tell me they "want it", but aren't willing to work for it. WTH? How you gonna "get it"?

Just today 2 librarians told me I had to stop loosing because they were finding. Umm, your bad.

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RAINRUN 4/6/2010 1:55PM

    great blog Becky.
Some people really want to lose weight fast and at any cost. BUT they really don't want "at any cost".
I agree with 1hotmama2be, that is scary.
Eat clean (or as close to it as you can) and exercise.

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KFAYJAY 4/6/2010 1:23PM

    emoticon blog Becky!!!! It is good that you are informing people of this dangerous quick fix!!!!!

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1HOTMAMA2BE 4/6/2010 1:11PM

    Yikes! That's just darn scary! What an extreme measure to take to lose weight. So sad. Eat clean and exercise. What more can I say? emoticon

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Mom's are made to worry...Right?!

Monday, March 29, 2010

I made a HUGE discovery today with the help of my friend Karen(katmomma3)...I'm a worry wart. I worry about EVERYTHING from how I come across to people, to what my kids are going through, to the stability of my husband's job, to my clients NOT doing what I am telling them to do and effecting their results in the gym. You name it...I'll fret about it. And then I start fretting over what the stress is doing to my cortisol levels, which then effects my health, which then effects my midsection, which then affects how my clothes fit which then........... emoticon emoticon emoticon Yep it's an endless cycle of fret for me.

I try to tell myself that it's normal to worry about your loved ones right? But probably not at the expense of your own sanity! I'm a smart woman and I get that it can't be a good thing. I must learn to deal with my emotions in every aspect so i can get a better handle on my ability to achieve ALL of my goals.

How's that for soul searching?

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HEALTH2U2 4/5/2010 3:38PM

    I hear you and I am going through a similar plight....but I am learning to control my emotions and not eat my way through the worry....Worry isn't helping my health or my waistline. Here's what I have learned to do....every time I start to worry...I exercise. My collection of Walk at Home tapes is rapidly growing!!!! I have also learned that all the things I worry about usually don't happen or work themselves out in the long run.....waste of time to worry. So smile....after all....tomorrow is another day.

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    I am not even a mom and I do that! Seriously..are you my twin? I agree though..I worry about everything..then try to plan things to take care of it..and then worry some more!

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REENIEBOP13 3/31/2010 6:11AM

    Amen sister! I used to do this CONSTANTLY!!! I remember when my son was 10 (now 14) and I woke up one night, in the middle of the night, worrying about when he went to college...what if he went through fraternity rush (which I didn't want him to do!) and had orientation...and got alcohol was awful and there was no emoticon emoticon emoticon for me for a looooong time because I kept doing that about many things.
Then my mom, who is the Queen Worry Wart started in on something about my brother and I just thought "no way, no way am I living my life like this" So now I pray about it, give it up to a higher power and move on.
My kids and husband are healthy, we still have our teaching jobs we love, we have a home and we do what we can to help others we know in need -
Life is Good emoticon

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JWENZEL723 3/30/2010 2:57PM

    i know how you feel! i worry and fret over everything...even the small things! it's definitely something i've been working on. stress and anxiety has even caused me to have heart palpitations so it's important that i reel it in!

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TRAINER_T 3/30/2010 12:47PM

    It is natural to worry bc you care but you need to find a good level of worry that does not stress you out. I personally turn it over to God emoticon

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BRIAN36 3/30/2010 11:45AM

    I am not a worrier, but I am married to one (he inherited a double dose because both his parents are terrible worriers).

It is so hard for me to understand why he spends so much time worrying about things that may or may not happen. I just try to identify what might go wrong, do what you can to prevent the worst case scenario and deal with whatever happens if/when it happens. No sense losing sleep over it.

I really like katmommas comment because it does put a little perspective on a worriers thought process.

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1HOTMAMA2BE 3/30/2010 9:48AM

    I worry constantly, too! I will have to check out the books Susy mentioned that might help. I worry about my mother who I care for who has MS, my alcoholic father who has advanced stage cirrhosis of the liver, my one and only son who is off to college, my husband who has too much stress at work, my grandmother who is 92 and frail, and it goes on and on. I even worry about the puppy who is spoiled rotten. I recently have decided that I can just do so much and I can't worry about the future. I can understand where you are coming from though and know it takes a toll on our health. That's where exercise comes in for's a huge stress reliever and I feel so darned good afterwards. I will never EVER give up exercise! I think we have the food link figured out, too. Now we are set!! Let's go, Becky!!! We can do this!!!

XOXO Sherry emoticon

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FITKAT2010 3/29/2010 10:31PM

    Very good!

So, where does love come in to this picture, really? Don't you want someone who loves you to trust you? To know that you know what you are doing? To have confidence in your abilities?

When you fret, you don't trust. When you fret, you weaken. When you fret, you don't have faith.

Fretting is false love. Period.

Another way of looking at it is this: We fear something awful will happen because things are going better than we expect, or a loved one I'm feeling close to right now is departing, and we "protect" by fretting!

How nutzo is that?

Great blog!

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GETUP-N-GOGIRL 3/29/2010 6:31PM

    There are two books, both by the same author that are v-e-r-y helpful for helping a person constructively view the futility of over-worrying. The author is Eckhart Tolle

The Power of Now
A New Earth

I have to say, several of the principles have truly helped me overcome the "endless loop."

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CHASINADREAM 3/29/2010 4:07PM

    I am also a worrier!! emoticonI am always trying to figure out ways to deal with this emotion because it really does spin a person round and round. I have to remind myself almost daily to relax, especially with 3 little ones!!! LOL I feel like I am in a constant state of worry. If you find anything that helps let me know!!! emoticon emoticon

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