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Some Painful Days....

Thursday, July 25, 2013

I have not been on in a while, because of some personal issues. First, and easier to deal with was my daughter's oral surgery. She had adult teeth impacted in her palate and they needed to be removed. The surgery was yesterday and I was so worried for her, but she pulled through like a champ and is more upset with the inconvenience of it, rather than the pain! Next step, she must get braces and prepare for eventual removal of the stubborn baby teeth and replacement of those with implants. She's got a long road ahead and it is hard for me to see.
Next, and not so easy to deal with: Our dearest family friend recently had a very public nervous breakdown via Facebook. He has been suffering with severe depression for years, but it finally go to be too much for him. In his delusional state he did and said very unsavory things and I spent many hours crying with his wife and our mutual friends. He is currently being treated, but I have no idea what his final diagnosis will end up being. He feels shame, but we, his friends, realize that it was his disease talking and we have told his wife to pass on the knowledge that there is nothing to forgive and we love him. Time heals all, I know, but this is a tough one to wait through. I am grateful for the anonymity of SP, because my heart is hurting and I need to share my pain with others who do not personally know me.
Thank you for the opportunity to vent. Love you all. emoticon

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DONNYE2008 7/29/2013 9:40PM

    I am so sorry for your problems. Yesterday my adult daughter tripped and fell against her car, breaking one front tooth almost off and chipping the other. My daughter's repairs will not be as physically taxing as your daughter's ongoing oral issues will be, and I can definitely understand your concern for her. I hope all goes well.

What is often worse than physical difficulties, is dealing with mental breakdowns. It is so hard to know what to do in these situations--just hope for the best diagnosis and recovery. I can empathize with you in this case, and only hope your friend gets all the help he needs. I will pray for you, your friend, and his family.

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GEORGE815 7/29/2013 6:23PM

    Sorry to hear about the teeth problem. They sure take a lot of effort.

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REGILIEH 7/27/2013 10:00PM

    So emoticon

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ENCHANTEDBROOM 7/27/2013 12:42AM

    What a true friend you are!!!


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MARYJEANSL 7/25/2013 5:47PM

  I'm very sorry to hear about your friend. That situation has to be so difficult for everyone. But it is wonderful that you were able to be there for your friends. I am sure they are grateful for your love and your presence. I hope and pray that things will be better soon.

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AKATHLEEN54 7/25/2013 12:52PM

    So sorry for all your troubles. Your friend is lucky to have someone like you who understands and is so forgiving.
I know your daughter is going through a lot, but once the pain is past think how much better she will feel and will have a beautiful smile too!! emoticon

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GALINAZ 7/25/2013 11:47AM

    Depression is a chronic heartache and you are a wonderful friend to be so supportive during this episode.

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HDHAWK 7/25/2013 10:49AM

    I'm sure your friend appreciates your support. I'm glad your friend is getting treatment.

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Don't call me "Skinny"

Tuesday, July 09, 2013

Ok, so I saw my sister over the fourth and as I expected she was her usual self. She screams, "Oh My, You're so skinny!!"
Well, no, actually, I'm not...I'm healthy. I still have that pooch from carrying 3 children and that dang back fat that is SO stubborn, but I am in my goal range and I still work to lose more.
Sometimes, I think people say that to make you feel like you are anorexic or something. That you starve to get to your ideal weight. That you are only your scale number...and nothing more. It's a bit rude, if you ask me. She very obviously put on quite a few pounds since Christmas and I did not say, "Oh, you're so Fat!" So when you see me, say, "Oh, you look good, you look happy, you look healthy.
But NOT, You're so "Skinny".

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CATHEMARIE 7/27/2013 2:34PM

    Well said!

Our society has been so familiar with the abnormal that when we actually get to normal weight this is the reaction we get.

You're looking good! You're looking healthy!

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GEORGE815 7/12/2013 11:32PM

    Some people just want to see you one way.

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STONECOT 7/11/2013 7:44AM

    She might simply think that that's what you wanted to hear. After all people lose weight to look skinny! Right? emoticon It probably didn't cross her mind that you might prefer to be called healthy.

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MARYJEANSL 7/11/2013 12:30AM

  I suspect she is jealous and maybe using the word 'skinny,' which isn't normally seen as complimentary, as a bit of a dig. If she had said 'slender,' it would have sounded nicer. If you can, let it slide off like water off a duck's back - you know that you are in a healthy range, and continue working to stay there and you can be proud of it - whatever the adjectives people use to describe you.

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MJREIMERS 7/10/2013 9:59AM

    I think sometimes when people call others skinny they are a little envious of seeing a healthier person in front of them. (I know I used to be jealous of others that had lost weight and were better because of it.) Now I'm the healthier one!

I also think that Americans are so used to seeing unhealthy people that do weigh too much that healthy is the "new skinny." Overweight is the new norm and those of us in our weight range now seem skinny.

Think of it as a compliment and keep living by example. Maybe your sister will get on board and they next time you see her you can yell, "You look so skinny." I bet she'd love to hear that!

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TRIING2GETFIT 7/10/2013 4:59AM

    You have to care more about how you feel than what others think. MAybe she is just a tiny bit jealous that you are toning up while she is adding on the lbs !

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TRUCKERWIFE2 7/10/2013 1:31AM

    Someone else I'm Sparkfriends with made a blog like that about a year ago that his family members made some comments. You just have to consider the source. My Mom says rude stuff all the time. When I was 125 lbs in high school she kept telling me I looked just like her Mom. The pictures of her Mom that I have are of a middle aged 200+ woman. Just like I am now. Not very helpful. Soft_Val67 had a great idea about responding to your sister with I look healthy don't I. You're doing great and that's what matters. emoticon

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SOFT_VAL67 7/9/2013 10:15PM

    hmm, im undecided how to feel about this, i have a friend who always asks me, "how much weight have you lost and dont tell me you havent lost any cause i can tell"
she has started saying this to me, since i broke my foot and my weight loss and workout had stalled, and maybe part of me wants to believe that shes saying it to encourage me to keep going.
by saying she can tell i have lost weight, when i havent in months, maybe its her way of trying to encourage me to stay on track and stay focused and not give up.
or maybe its a stab at me for not losing when she knows i havent.
but i prefer to think shes doing it not out of a desire to stab or hurt, or make fun, but, to encourage me and help me keep focused.
maybe your sister just doesnt get it that you arent all about getting skinney as opposed to getting healthy. maybe next time, instead of taking it to heart, just say something like, thanks, i feel so much better, i can breathe better, walk easier, dont ache all over, have good bp or cholesterol, etc
just turn it to good health. who knows maybe it will encourage her. emoticon

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Is That Even Food?

Tuesday, July 02, 2013

My family and I have been trying to eliminate processed foods from our diet. It started because recently I noticed that my oldest daughter is much more slender than the rest of our household. Hmmm, she eats almost all the same food as the rest of us, except for one deviation. She avoids artificial foods like the plague! Well, heck, works for me! So now, I make my almost all my own food from scratch...even burger buns! I will tell you that you will most certainly be satisfied with less, if it is REAL food.
This afternoon, after my workout, I dropped by the grocery store for veggies for dinner and something for my lunch. I saw these yummy looking chicken wraps and thought that sounded good...until I read the ingredients. It took me longer to read than it would've taken me to EAT! Wouldn't you think the list would be:
Chicken, Lettuce, Tortilla, Hot Sauce?
Nope! It was a list of chemicals and dyes and fillers, all for $7.00! I did what my daughter would have done....shook my head and put it back. I bought high fiber tortillas, Roasted chicken breast, (preservative/nitrate free), cheese and lettuce...for a lot less than 7 dollars and there are lunches yet to be made!
I'm full, happy and healthy....and it was real Food!

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MARYJEANSL 7/3/2013 12:15AM

  You are so right. I get disgusted when I read labels, even of things that you would think wouldn't have additives. I only wish making everything from scratch were as quick as convenience foods. When I am tired, I just don't feel like taking the time to make real food dinners. :-(

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MAGNOLIA416 7/2/2013 11:44PM

    Wow, what a revelation!
I remember seeing Michael Pollan interviewed and he said we shouldn't eat anything for sale at a gas station. Funny, but wise!

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CHAI49 7/2/2013 6:32PM

  I'm more conscious of what I'm eating / buying now, especially since my son became a vegetarian months ago. Of course, I have my husband (who is flexible) and 2 other adult children (non-vegetarians and one picky about his food) at home. It's not easy. It takes me longer to shop now (reading labels) and checking out if the ingredient has GMOs.

I like to listen to Dr. Fuhrman and other inspirational stories and videos (like Bunnykicks' 'Trip to Maui..."). I have a lot of work to do in changing my eating / exercise habits.

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BUNNYKICKS 7/2/2013 6:10PM

    Reading the ingredient lists on processed foods is eye opening and rather tragic! Even on things that appear "fresh baked" (like slabs of grocery store carrot cake or what have you)... sometimes I just look on in wonder. Foods that LOOK familiar, created out of "ingredients" i would never have in my cupboard - what is this sorcery? Where is butter, sugar, egg, flour, milk? Why instead is it all about "hydrolyzed soy protein" and "dried egg solids" and "modified milk ingredients" and "fructose" and "hydrated palm glycerides"?!!! Sometimes I'm in awe that the resulting product actually looks like food... but I sure do question whether it is.

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TRUCKERWIFE2 7/2/2013 2:59PM

    Good to see you eating whole foods. It's amazing on what we put in our mouths without realizing it. We still eat some processed foods but with dd's allergies we make most of it ourselves. Good for you. Let us know if this helps you lose weight more. emoticon emoticon

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ARCHIMEDESII 7/2/2013 2:52PM

    You know what ingredient list always shocked me ? crutons. Have you ever read the ingredient list for crutons ? it's long. very long. seriously how do they get so many ingredients into a half inch cube long ! I haven't bought crutons in ages.

Breyer's ice cream said it best, if you can't pronounce the ingredient, why are you eating it ?

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So Rude!

Friday, June 07, 2013

My oldest daughter has a good friend who is a bit older than she is. Therefore, everytime my daughter needs a ride to and from school this delightful young lady has assisted. We have helped with gas money and gave a nice Christmas gift, also we are intending on giving her a generous graduation gift.
My daughter recently commented that her friend had never been for Dim Sum, so could we take her pal with us next time we go and we said we'd be delighted. My husband asked if it could be set up for this Sunday. My girl sent her invite and then we got the response. Hmpph!
Another friend of my daughters, but only casually, due to a 9 year age difference, drove Mary and her friend home from rehearsals and then both girls ambushed her with the request that she be invited also! Have you ever heard of such gall? The other girl is 26 freakin' years old! Do not put a 17 year old in such an awkward position! My girl was so upset and my husband, who is usually generous to a fault was furious!
We wanted to cancel the whole thing right there, but that put Mary in an awkward position, so we said since the other children were not allowed to bring their friends, it wouldn't be fair for Mary to bring 2 friends. So now it is just us going and my girl is looking at her dear friend in a new light. Sadly, these are both nice young ladies, just lacking in common courtesy.

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WALKINGCHICK 6/17/2013 3:23PM

    Sad that you had to do this, but it was the right thing! emoticon

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NANADERRICK 6/8/2013 12:35PM

    wow, grace under guys have it!! You did the right thing. Seems to me no one has any manners anymore. What's wrong with people??? Hope your evening turned out well tho. Your poor daughter. HUGS!!!

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DJ4HEALTH 6/8/2013 12:35AM

    My late husband had a friend that would invite himself to every place that we would go and then expect to have him to himself and not spend time with me and he also did it to other people too and he is in his forties.

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LADYVOLSFAN1954 6/7/2013 8:04PM

    People nowadays don't think nothing of inviting themselves to everything. It's just totally rude and inconsiderate to all. I'm sorry you and your daughter were put into this situation. emoticon

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BARCLE 6/7/2013 7:51PM

    Wow that is bold - hope it all works out okay

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MARYJEANSL 6/7/2013 12:13PM

  You are SO right about some of this generation (hopefully, I have taught my kids better). You reminded me of the son of a friend of mine. He was on break at work, and two young ladies who also work there came in and said to him, "You're a guy, so you are supposed to buy us ice cream." He said, "Well, maybe if you acted like ladies, then I would."

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TRUCKERWIFE2 6/7/2013 10:55AM

    It never ceases to amaze me how this generation and some from the one just before rewrite the rules of polite society. I've taken a child to the movies who's family could not afford such a luxury to be informed when the movie was over I was going to take her back in and let her watch it again. She also pointed out she saw that I had money in my purse. I had no problem dressing her down about her rudeness and she was never invited again. I'm sorry your daughter's friends have not learned what is expected in polite society. emoticon

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    Rude as it is, this can be a learning/growing experience for your daughter.

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Working for my reward!

Thursday, June 06, 2013

Today is Smashburger Day at our house! It is the last day of school and we are going out for lunch. I promised the kids that once I could burn at least 500 calories in a one hour workout session, I'd treat us to our favorite burger joint.
I made it that number because that is about 3/4 the caloric count of my favorite Baja Burger. It is important to remember how much work it takes to burn off a splurge, but it is also important to give in to the rare splurge. I will also choose to have the veggie fries, rather than the delicious smashfries, but it is all about moderation and I don't think I'll feel at all deprived.
Well, for about a month now, I've been able to burn those 500 calories, SO we've set up today for the celebration that I've been working towards since January.
The good news is, since I've been expecting this day, I've been good all week and the scale dropped down a bit further. Good thing too, because I may need that extra cushion!
Enjoy your day!

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MARYJEANSL 6/7/2013 1:39AM

  Congrats - and good for you! I love Smashburger too, but rarely go there. My downfall is the Haystack Onions. They are delicious, but really swimming in grease. But when you are working hard and keeping your body in shape, a treat now and then is a good thing.

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JACKIE542 6/6/2013 10:40AM

    Enjoy emoticon

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SUZEMARIE73 6/6/2013 9:39AM

    Great work planning ahead for a splurge. You earned it!

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TRUCKERWIFE2 6/6/2013 9:33AM

    It's nice to indulge sometimes and by planning for this you won't be groaning too hard at the scale. Keep up the good work. emoticon

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GOLFGMA 6/6/2013 9:26AM

    Sounds great! Hope you enjoy your reward and what a great example you're setting for you kids, Work hard to receive rewards! emoticon

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STEPHANIE302013 6/6/2013 9:18AM

    enjoy your treat!! you've worked hard for it!

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