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Gifts of Clothing from others?

Thursday, January 19, 2012

So, my MIL decided that she had to buy me a dress to go to a formal event she is hosting, since I was not going to go. She called me on the phone and asked me my size. I had to be honest and I told her.

I have never felt so embarassed! I never ask for clothes because I don't like to have to admit how big I have gotten. I did view it has a BIG motivator though but wanted to ask my fellow Sparkers: Do you let others buy clothing for you? If so, how do you feel about it?

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DEVONA8 1/24/2012 11:12PM

    My niece just bought me a shirt for Christmas, and it is nice but I didn't tell her it was a size too small. I would never tell my MIL my size because she is extremely tiny and very weight oriented. She's always telling my husband he needs to lose weight and he's no where as overweight as I am.

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SKINNYPOWELL1 1/23/2012 3:28PM

    I used to hate when my family members would buy me clothing, that was before I lost all my weight but now... it's a totally different story. Nice of your MIL to purchase you a dress. emoticon Hope you enjoy the formal event.

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FANTASYFAIRY1 1/20/2012 6:03PM

    I feel the same as you. I never let anyone buy my clothes for me, and I wouldn't dare admit my size to anyone, I'm far too embarrassed.

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RAINYFRIDAY 1/20/2012 9:42AM

    Before I lost weight my mom would send me gifts of clothing because she knew I refused to by myself any thing. Now that I've lost some weight I prefer to buy my own because I'm still trying to sort out what looks good on the new and ever changing shape.

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JULIEANNCAN 1/19/2012 7:33PM

    Yes, I do. It's kind of hard to avoid with family for holidays and all. I wouldn't worry about it. After you've lost some weight, you'll feel proud to tell them about your progress!

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JILLYBEAN25 1/19/2012 5:38PM

    I'm very particular about how certain pieces of clothing fits me- pajama pants I like to be 2 sizes too big. Jeans I like to fit to my body shape (thank you, Lane Bryant!). Sweaters and casual jackets I like one size too big. T-Shirts I like just right. Dresses I have to get tailored, so I always go a size bigger. So, I buy my own clothing. I don't let other people buy my clothes unless I've tried them on first.

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PCOLAGATOR 1/19/2012 3:05PM

    I let other people buy me clothes because I usually get nicer clothing as gifts than I would be able to get myself

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WENDYSPARKS 1/19/2012 3:03PM

    I buy my own clothes as no one else knows my style real well.

Wendy emoticon

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MSLZZY 1/19/2012 2:49PM

    My daughters buy me sweaters for Christmas because
they know my size and color preferences, but I buy
everything else myself.

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How do I make SPARK Friends?

Wednesday, January 18, 2012

I have been spending some time online and Sparking. I have visited so many pages and teams and I ask: how do I make friends online and through Spark?

You see, I think that I need that to be more motivated. I want to step outside of the box and be able to meet others to go for walks and work out with me. Or to just talk to when I feel unmotivated or need to vent. I don't have an outlet of ANYONE who understands what I'm going through in my life. A complete transformation of my lifestyle isn't an easy feat....

So fellow Sparkers; what am I doing wrong that I'm not making the online friendships that you all have.

PS: Thanks so much to those who commented on my "fall" yesterday. I was pretty swollen and bruised and hurt so I didn't take that second walk, however, I'm going to get back out there and give it another shot! Thanks for the kind words and motivation.

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ABBEH23 1/19/2012 8:38PM

    Me! Me! Me!!!!

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KJDOESLIFE 1/19/2012 1:44PM

    I agree with others - commenting on people's blog and sending friend requests! Have a good day!

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CHRISTINA791 1/19/2012 12:27PM

    Here's another one emoticon

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ROCKINMOM77 1/19/2012 12:17PM

    Just like this emoticon

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MSPRIS3 1/19/2012 12:12PM

    Just "friend" people, that's what I did, eventually, i got "friended" back.

Commenting on other peoples blogs helps too

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PINKBEANBOO 1/19/2012 12:02PM

    I guess you found out - just ask!

I found your blog by reading on my activity feed that HORNETWIFE left a comment here.
And that's how I became friends with her not too long ago- she posted the same type of blog that you did & I saw one of my Sprarkfriends had left a comment on it so I went to check it out.

The next step would be to keep active. Blog & leave comments on your friends' blogs.
Also, when you find someone who you like or is motivating to you - friend them!
Are you active on the threads on your teams? Most teams have a daily check in or chat type thread. Just jump in - ask questions, comment on what someone else said, or just talk about your day. After awhile you'll get familiar with people.
Some of my teams I don't feel a "connection" with but there are a couple that I really feel like I belong.

I've never met another Sparker in real life, but I have several friends that I care as much about as I do my face to face friends.

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SARAHJ19 1/19/2012 11:42AM

    Hi new spark friend! So glad you found spark! I am here for you if you need anything!
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RUBY_TUESDAY21 1/19/2012 11:35AM

    It took me a while to find friends on here, too. It's a big community and easy to feel like you get lost in the shuffle at first, but looks like you're off to a good start, judging from the response to your blog so far. :)

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JSPIN74 1/19/2012 11:15AM

    Hey New Friend :)


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LEAELLEN07 1/19/2012 11:13AM

    Hi Friend!!
I had the same problem when I first started. I'm shy in person and can be shy on Spark.
The easiest way to make Spark friends is to be one.
Feel free to swing by and drop me a line if you ever need someone to talk to!

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SKINNYPOWELL1 1/19/2012 11:13AM

    Ask and you shall receive. We are all on this journey together, would be happy to help you along the way. emoticon

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LORI-K 1/19/2012 11:08AM

    HI!! emoticon
I wrote a blog similar to this several months ago. I had been on Spark for 2 years and only had 2 friends. Lo and Behold, I got an overwhelming response from a BUNCH of amazing, supportive people who I am now proud to have as FRIENDS! It has made such a huge difference in my Sparkworld. All I had to do was ask.
So, you have done the right thing here. Please count on me as a new Sparkfriend!!

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KKINNEA 1/19/2012 11:02AM

    You've started a chain reaction now - I'm guessing you'll end up with lots of friends and motivation!!

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SCHWINNER! 1/19/2012 7:19AM

    Basically, reach out! When you run into someone who inspires you, or that you share goals with, or you identify with, send them a message! Post on their page, send a goodie. Anything - but you have to make the effort to make friendships! Like JILLYBEAN said, you call out, like in this blog, and people will respond. The key is just to put it out there and take the first step :)

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HAWAIIANMAMMA 1/19/2012 12:36AM

    We are all here to support you! If you ever feel like giving up or crying or yelling at the world, come here. You can rant and rave and complain all you want and we will offer all the support and encouragement we can. You are NOT alone, okay? I'm on here daily, so feel free to hit me up any time. Feel better, hun!

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SMILINGTREE 1/18/2012 11:37PM

    I used to (and still do sometimes) read random blog posts (you can find them under the community tab). Whenever I saw someone who made me laugh, seemed to have similar struggles, whose writing style I admired, or seemed like they needed some support, I left a comment and added them as a friend so I would be notified when they updated their statuses or wrote new posts. It's a slow way to make friends, but it worked. Also, when you read blog posts it really feels like you get to know people - or I do, anyway.

I'm addiing you now, and wish you luck in finding your spot in this busy community. Sometimes, it is so busy it's easy to feel lost or left out. Once you do have a group you regularly talk to, it is so much better!

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JILLYBEAN25 1/18/2012 10:17PM

    You call out! This blog is your call for support and friendship. I did the exact same thing a few months ago. I felt lonely, lost and isolated here on Spark, and I've been here a few years now. So, this is your first step. You've stated your needs for everyone to see and now we'll respond in kind. :-) I'm adding you as a friend! emoticon

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KSANDIEGO 1/18/2012 6:05PM

    Go to the SparkTeams under Community tab then search for a Team that fits with your interests, age, or your location - there's bound to be a Spark Team that meets one or more of those criteria. Then within the Team Page Message Board, look for the "introduce yourself" and click on that - then make a posting that you want to get involved, tell folks about yourself, and give them a reason to click on you to see who you are. Speak Up - people will hear you. You have to do some work by clicking on some folks in those pages, checking out their pages, making a comment on their pages, and seeing if they respond - I bet they will! Be BOLD and BEAUTIFUL and go out and find some spark friends that meet all your needs, just tell 'em what you want....and have fun doing it!

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HUNGRYWOMAN2 1/18/2012 1:20PM

    In my opinion, one of the best ways to make Spark friends, is when you feel a special connection with an individual either from something you have read, or a response they have given to you add them to your page. On the left hand corner of your spark page there is a tab add as a friend. It will go to them, and they will respond as they are able.
We are all a community, you are welcome to visit my page anytime.
I wish you the best on this twisted path we have chosen-and success as you follow your chosen life goals. emoticon emoticon

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CATHYINLA 1/18/2012 11:35AM

    If your interest is in SparkFriends near you then use the finder portion on your Sparkpage to find those near you. The local area teams are a good way as well. Simply read some the dialogue, some blogs etc. and then select some SparkFriends and the hit that ADD as SPARKFRIEND button on their SparkPage. If you are like me some will stay friends and some you'll find don't have similar interests. Some will join the site and then leave, but you'll eventually have a few friends that support and encourage you (and vice versa) along the way. It took me a couple of months to find about 3-4 friends on the site (none live near me as I wasn't looking for that) who have similar interests and issues.

Take the first step. You really can't go wrong.


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ALYSSAR2012 1/18/2012 3:07AM

    I just joined a few days ago, so I don't have any sparkfriends...
When you join, don't they put you in a sparkgroup with people from your area? I think you should friend those people, encourage them, comment on their blogs, and become active in that group. That way you'll be able to have people close by to go out and exercise with and whatnot. But of course, you should still make friends in other areas of as well, for extra motivation and support.

Hope your pain has significantly decreased, good luck making some new friends!

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JULIEANNCAN 1/18/2012 2:53AM

    Hi! I saw your blog and thought I'd respond. It took some time for me, but I have found Sparkfriends through teams or the discussion boards. I saw your blog because we are on one of the same Spark teams. So, welcome, and you can consider me one of your new Sparkfriends! emoticon emoticon

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Could Use A Pick me Up~I'm Defeated

Monday, January 16, 2012

Today I set a goal that I was going to go for 2 walks today. I set out this morning in high spirits and excited about a new week.

Half way through my walk I fell down. Scraped my knee and pinkie finger. Body is screaming at me!

I feel so defeated. emoticon

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ROOSTER72 1/19/2012 4:04PM

    Wishing you all the best for a speedy recovery from the fall.
When you feel up to it, try a little stroll - then a little bit more.

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CHRISTINA791 1/19/2012 12:31PM

    Ouch! Falls are never fun. Hope you're feeling better now that it's been a few days.

Look at the victory, though - you set a goal to walk and you did it! Even if you weren't able to do two walks, you got out there and started. That's always the hardest step.


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DEVONA8 1/17/2012 12:33AM

    You have no reason to feel defeated because you are not defeated. We only fail when we fall and don't get back up and you did get back up. You came to Sparks and hopefully we have given you the energy to start over again. Remember we are all rooting for you emoticon

Comment edited on: 1/17/2012 12:34:34 AM

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FITWIFEY86 1/16/2012 8:47PM

    That does sucks, emoticon. But just remember that tomorrow is a new day and emoticon.

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HIPPYCAT 1/16/2012 4:30PM

    If you were six, you'd have forgotten all about it by now and be out running around.

I hate six-year-olds, don't you? Crappy little balls of sunshine. emoticon

Anyway, the point is, don't let it stop you. Go out for your hobble tonight. You'll like yourself better for it, I promise!


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ICHOOSETHIN 1/16/2012 3:02PM

    Awwww, I'm sorry to hear that. But, you got one walk in - even if it was shorter than you wanted. Put some neosporin and a bandaid on your knee and finger and keep your promise to yourself to go for your second walk. You're going to feel great if you don't let anything stop you from doing that. Report back later and let us know that you DID IT!

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IAMSUPERGIRL 1/16/2012 3:02PM

    That bites. :( However... maybe the worst is over with now! Maybe it's all up from here!

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RASHEDAPOE 1/16/2012 3:01PM

    You were attacked, by a force that wants you to feel defeated...

I think that if we were fish, I would sing...

"Just keep swimming, just keep swimming, swimming, swimming..." emoticon

But we are not fish, and this is not "Finding Nemo", so instead I'll sing...

"Just keep walking, just keep walking, walking, walking..." emoticon

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ONTHEPATH2 1/16/2012 2:59PM

    Ahhhh - but you got back up AND walked back home - so you didn't do what you planned - but you did something. Not so bad!

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2012 Here I Come!

Sunday, January 01, 2012

So, here we are, January1, 2012.

Everyone always make New Years Resolutions on January 1. We spend the first month trying really hard to meet these resolutions.

Not Me.

This year I'm not going to set resolutions. I'm going to just do what I know needs to be done. I'm going to work on building and fixing some relationships. I'm going to take care of my health. I'm going to continue to focus on my schooling. There are nothing new....I'm just continuing to do what I've already started.

I'm excited and motivated. I've never felt better about who I am and knowing what I want in my life. I know that there are going to be lots of ups and downs...moments of weakness....I'm ready for it. I just hope that the rest of the world is!

Look out 2012, here I come!

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HAWAIIANMAMMA 1/19/2012 12:39AM

    You rock. Tap back into this motivation anytime you're feeling down. This is great! I don't make resolutions either. I just do what needs to be done, like you said! So let's motivate each other! Keep on keepin on!

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