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Think Positive

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Think Positive

One thought does not mean much, but thoughts that we think over and over are like drops of water - at first there are just a few, and then after a while you've created a pool, and then a lake, and then an ocean. If our thinking is negative, we can drown in a sea of negativity; if its positive, we can float on the ocean of life.

by Louise L. Hay

  
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LIGHTHOUSE23 10/31/2009 11:20AM

    Very true. Positive thinking fuels energy. Negative thoughts are counterproductive. What you think, is what you will eventually do. Think positive and you will have good feelings and do good things. Great blog. Thanks for sharing.

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LEYETTE 10/30/2009 9:15AM

    I love Louise L. Hay!!!



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SOUL4REAL 10/30/2009 9:04AM

    We are what we feel, so true.

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DEBBIE_C 10/29/2009 8:52PM

    emoticon Positively... thank you!

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BELLESTARR1 10/29/2009 5:49PM

    Positive thinking brings positive results!

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BRAVENANGEL 10/29/2009 2:53PM

    I agree, if you walk around saying your sick then you tend to feel sick. I challenge people to walk around say I am happy and see what happens. After all there is power in the tongue!

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IFDEEVARUNS2 10/29/2009 8:27AM

    So true. If the messages in your head are negative, look out for the outcome! Time to get rid of all those old negative tapes, and record some new ones.

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PALMTREEGIRL1 10/29/2009 8:13AM

    I'm floating......Wise words!

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SEASHELL71 10/29/2009 7:02AM

    POSITIVE IS THE ONLY WAY TO GO!!
THIS IS WHAT MY FAMILY AND I HAVE
BEEN TRYING TO FOCUS ON WITH
THE HOLIDAYS HERE!

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BEAR128 10/29/2009 5:56AM

    I want to think positive and float on the ocean of life. Thanks for sharing. emoticon

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Yes another blog on SELF-ESTEEM

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

STRATEGIES FOR BUILDING SELF-ESTEEM
-author unknown-

Crises of self-esteem are a part of the human experience. When you feel troubled by low self-esteem, review the suggestions below and choose those that are relevant to your situation and work on them. Be patient with yourself: change takes time and steadfast work.

1. Free yourself from "should's". Live your life on the basis of what is possible for you and what feels right to you instead of what you or others think you "should" do. "Should's" distract us from identifying and fulfilling our own needs, abilities, interests and personal goals. Find out what you want and what you are good at, value those, and take actions designed to fulfill your potential.

2. Respect your own needs. Recognize and take care of your own needs and wants first. Identify what really fulfills you--not just immediate gratifications. Respecting your deeper needs will increase your sense of worth and well-being.

3. Set achievable goals. Establish goals on the basis of what you can realistically achieve, and then work step-by-step to develop your potential. To strive always for perfectionist absolute goals--for example, "Anything less than an A in school is always unacceptable"--invites stress and failure.

4. Talk to yourself positively. Stop listening to your "cruel inner critic." When you notice that you are doubting or judging yourself, replace such thoughts with self-accepting thoughts, balanced self-assessment and self-supportive direction.

5. Test your reality. Separate your emotional reactions--your fears and bad feelings-- from the reality of your current situation. For example, you may feel stupid, anxious and hopeless about a project, but if you think about it, you may still have the ability and opportunity to accomplish something in it.

6. Experience success. Seek out and put yourself in situations in which the probability of success is high. Look for projects which stretch--but don't overwhelm--your abilities. "Image" yourself succeeding. Whatever you accomplish, let yourself acknowledge and experience success and good feelings about it.

7. Take chances. New experiences are learning experiences which can build self- confidence. Expect to make mistakes as part of the process; don't be disappointed if you don't do it perfectly. Feel good about trying something new, making progress and increasing your competence.

8. Solve problems. Don't avoid problems, and don't moil about them. Face them, and identify ways to solve them or cope with them. If you run away from problems you can solve, you threaten your self-confidence.

9. Make decisions. Practice making and implementing positive decisions flexibly but firmly, and trust yourself to deal with the consequences. When you assert yourself, you enhance your sense of yourself, learn more, and increase your self-confidence.

10. Develop your skills. Know what you can and can't do. Assess the skills you need; learn and practice those.

11. Emphasize your strengths. Focus on what you can do rather than what you cannot. Accept current limitations and live comfortably within them, even as you consider what strengths you might want or need to develop next.

12. Rely on your own opinion of yourself. Entertain feedback from others, but don't rely on their opinions. Depend on your own values in making decisions and deciding how you feel about yourself and what is right for you to do.

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There's only one YOU and you deserve to feel good about YOURself....

Happy Hump Day SP.....

J~
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FERGSGIRL2 10/28/2009 7:55PM

    Keep them coming J, it is meeting the needs of those who read them! Pray fo rme, I am not feeling well today.

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DEBBIE_C 10/28/2009 7:47PM

    How much is too much??? Keep it coming Ms. J... keep it coming!

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BELLESTARR1 10/28/2009 7:16PM

    Thanks Janisse for this blog... Keep em coming...I love this one!!! emoticon emoticon

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SOUL4REAL 10/28/2009 5:12PM

    Another great blog, I'm printing this one out!!

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PHONEBUG 10/28/2009 4:54PM

    Thank you got this blog!! It is awesome!!! emoticon

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ASLNUT 10/28/2009 12:22PM

    That is so inspiring!! I love your enthusiasm to help others!! I hope that everyone on our teams read this. It's incredible!

O.k. girl, now head that positive energy over to your team and shake things up!

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BEAR128 10/28/2009 9:37AM

    There is nothing wrong with self esteem blogs, please keep them coming. They are providing useful information for me and others. emoticon

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PALMTREEGIRL1 10/28/2009 9:22AM

    Great Blog!!! Truer words were never spoken!

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Build your Self Esteem

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Self-esteem is how you see yourself as a person. If you value the type of person you are, you have a good sense of self-esteem and you're proud to be you. You value your skills and talents, respect your own intelligence and act on your beliefs and feelings. But if you could feel better about yourself, these tips might give you some ideas about how to start.

Listen to Self Talk

We all carry on a steady mental dialogue. Do you ever listen to what you're saying to yourself? Do you put yourself down or call yourself names? Learn to hear the things you say about yourself, then replace that dialogue with positive images. Stop negative self-talk and take the first step toward a more positive self-image.

Recognize Accomplishments

Make a list of your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem to you. Maybe you won't win a Nobel Prize, but your accomplishments have worth to you. By recognizing them, you can begin to understand that you are important and that you have self-worth.

Be Assertive

Learn to be assertive and to practice clear communication. Say what you mean and respect what others have to say. Remember that you have rights, too.

Be Tolerant

Be tolerant of yourself and others. Nobody's perfect! Try not to criticize yourself or other people and don't expect others to criticize you. Recognize that a mistake is only a mistake and don't dwell on it.

Know Good Friends

Spend time with people who value you. Listen to what they say about you. If others are constantly putting you down, you might want to reconsider those relationships. People you choose to be around are often mirrors of how you feel about yourself. You can find the best in yourself and others by expecting it.

-author unknown-

  
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SOUL4REAL 10/28/2009 9:12AM

    Thanks Janisse, sometimes I need to hear this.

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DEBBIE_C 10/28/2009 3:27AM

    ... and the church said, "AMEN".

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SEASHELL71 10/27/2009 8:25PM

    THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR SHARING!
I AM SO THANKFUL FOR THE SUPPORT
OF SPARK PEOPLES BLOGS, IT HELPS NOT
JUST ME, IT HELPS MY WHOLE FAMILY!!

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PALMTREEGIRL1 10/27/2009 7:10PM

    Well said Janisse! That is some very good advice!!!

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BELLESTARR1 10/27/2009 10:47AM

    I have good self esteem...I love ME...and what other's say about me is really secondary.

emoticon Janisse I love this blog!

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CATLUVR1 10/27/2009 10:45AM

    Thank you for these reminders about supports for self-esteem. Much appreciated!

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SELF ESTEEM....

Monday, October 26, 2009

Self Esteem

There really is not that much difference between a spectacularly successful person and a dismal failure. But the little difference there is, is crucial. And the difference is self esteem. People who succeed are people who believe in themselves and value themselves. Successful people value their own time and they don't waste it. They value their health and they don't fill their bodies up with poison.

A well developed self esteem creates a confidence that enables successful people to avoid wasteful conflicts with others. Successful people sincerely respect and value other people, and that trait alone draws success to them like a magnet.

People who believe in themselves are willing to take responsibility for themselves. The losers in life blame their troubles on someone else, and by so doing they give control of their lives to others. I see so much of this, and it is painful to watch. People who refuse to take responsibility for their own lives are always frustrated and depressed. They are professional victims.

Success does not take a long time to achieve. In fact, you can go from failure to success in an instant. All in takes is an attitude adjustment. All it takes is a willingness to believe in yourself and to take responsibility for yourself. As soon as you can do that, then you are a success. You may not have a lot of money or fame or whatever, but that really doesn't matter. Because once you are truly successful, once you sincerely take responsibility for your own life, you can have whatever it is you want.

Nothing make you successful if success is not inside of you. Love the person you are enough to give love and respect to others, and your achievements will be unlimited.

-- Ralph Marston

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Believe in yourself and think positively of yourself. You are worth it.

Have a good Monday.

J~

  
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QUESTIONLADY 10/27/2009 8:09AM

    AMEN to the additude adjustment and I think I found mine......... emoticon emoticon

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BRAVENANGEL 10/27/2009 12:41AM

    I think I am going to make my son read this one! He so needs it right now. Thanks for being such an awesome person! God is so good!

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SEASHELL71 10/26/2009 10:13PM

    THANK YOU FOR THIS POSITIVE MESSAGE!!
VERY MOTIVATING, ESPECIALLY FOR A MIRACLE MONDAY! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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ASLNUT 10/26/2009 9:57AM

    This is so motivating and beautiful!! So you're not just a team mate but a cheerleader too!!! I love it! You should post it directly in your team! Thanks

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FERGSGIRL2 10/26/2009 9:45AM

    Wonderful Blog! Being the best I can be, that is SELF esteem. Thanks J emoticon

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PALMTREEGIRL1 10/26/2009 6:57AM

    It is funny that you would post this - when I met my boyfriend for the first time, he asked me if I had self-esteem. I DO!!!! Self-esteem is a very valuable trait, gift, belief (in yourself)...Thank God for all of us (YOU!) who have it!.

You seem like a very confident and successful type of person - my life is richer by knowing you - thank you for being YOU!!!
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DEBBIE_C 10/26/2009 6:36AM

    emoticon I can... emoticon I will... emoticon I must... emoticon I am!

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Have a blessed Monday and a successful week! Debbie

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BLESSEDBRNEYEZ 10/26/2009 4:31AM

    emoticon thanks for the blog !!

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IWILLREACHIT 10/26/2009 3:36AM

    Thank-you emoticonand you
have a POSITIVE day too!
Blessings~Linda

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MY GOALS FOR THE WEEK OF 10/25/09

Sunday, October 25, 2009

Here are my goals for the week of 10/25/09....

I met all of my goals for last week except 2. I didn't do the 30D Day Shred EVERYDAY (and I'm glad about that!!) and I didn't "pack my shoes" because I had a change of plans...which is okay too!!!

Some of these goals are repeats...others are additions...

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1. Balance my input (eating) and output (workouts)...

2. PLAN and PREPARE my meals ahead of time...(this always works for me!!!!)...

3. Be very mindful of what I'm eating to make sure I'm eating "enough" on a daily basis...

4. Complete Level 2 of The 30 Day Shred Sunday, Tuesday, Thursday and Saturday...

5. 60 minutes of cardio Sunday, Monday, Wednesday, Friday & Saturday...

6. Cross at least 20 miles with the use of WATP...

7. Concentrate more on my form, balance and coordination...

8. Take time out for myself (even if that means turning OFF my phone for however long I need to) when I feel the need WITHOUT feeling badly or guilty about it hurting someone else's feelings or upsetting them. I need time to myself...everyone does...

9. Do not allow anyone else's stress to become my stress...

10. Enjoy my 4 day weekend 10/30/09 - 11/2/09...

11. Make sure to do something nice (mani, pedi, eyebrow wax & lunch) for myself on the anniversary of my Mom's passing on Friday 10/30/09...

12. Select my classes for the Spring...

13. Accomplish the 12 goals above...

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emoticonby posting this I have reached my overall goal for October which was.....

"My goal for October is to simply post a blog EVERY Sunday in October with my goals for the week."

I didn't meet ALL of my goals that I set each week, but I met most of them. Some weeks I did meet them all and I'm very proud of that.

Thank you all for your support and encouragement!!!!
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FERGSGIRL2 10/25/2009 10:30PM

    wonderful, I think I need to do this....You have inspired me twice today! emoticon

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BEAR128 10/25/2009 8:28PM

    Great goals and you can do it. emoticon

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PHONEBUG 10/25/2009 6:36PM

    WTG, you have made such a difference in my life in the short time that I have met you! I am so proud of you.

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PALMTREEGIRL1 10/25/2009 6:23PM

    I'm so happy you are my challenge partner - we're going to be good for eachother!!!! Congratulations on meeting your goals!!!

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DEBBIE_C 10/25/2009 6:07PM

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YOU ARE SIMPLY... THE BEST!!!

Be blessed,
Debbie

p.s. Thanks for introducing me to the IMPORTANCE of goal setting & putting it in writing!

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