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To Donut or Not to Donut

Monday, January 24, 2011

I have a problem, can you help?

So I have a friend at work that brings me (only me) a donut a few days out of the week. I really want to lose this weight and live a great happy, healthy life. I feel bad if I don't eat the donut she brought me. I've already tried talking to her and telling her that I'm trying to eat healthy and lose weight. So she said she would bring in fruit, but that didn't happen and I got another donut today.

What should I do in this situation? I've thought about giving it away, but i secretly want the donut. I never buy myself donuts and would eat something healthy if the donut wasn't there. Yikes! I want to get this in control in the beginning of the year so I have a plan next time it happens.

Thanks for any suggestion.

  
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BERRIMOUSE 1/24/2011 3:48PM

    Thank your friend for the donut and remind her that you are trying to lose weight and that she promised to bring fruit, you do not have to eat it, make sure you have some fruit on your desk or work area daily so when she brings it in you offer her some fruit,she will get the message if you stop eating the donuts when she brings them in. A donut once in a while will not hurt, but it seems that she is trying to sabotage your diet.
Good luck! emoticon

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All I need is a Miracle, All I Need is...

Thursday, March 04, 2010

Richard Simmons...didn't work at age 10
Lean Line...didn't work at age 12
Medifast....did work in my 20's, but gained the weight back because you basically have no concept on how to eat normal food
Weight Watchers...didn't work, wasn't customized to my individual needs
Nutrisystem...at 30 didn't work, very limited food choices on the veggie plan and got bored.

Okay, so this sums up all the programs I've been on. At age 30, you would think something would click...but not really. All I know is that I want to have an organic vegetarian diet and lose weight, 30 lbs to be exact.

I want to feel healthy and not stress out about food all the time. Everyday, all-day my thought process is getting through meals and thinking about food. I feel as if this is draining me (referring to energy). I can't concentrate on anything else but food. The more I think about food, the more I want to eat...the downward spiral effect.

I wonder if other people go through this everyday of their lives. What do they do? How do you stop this process? I want to start thinking about other things besides what I'm going to eat at my next meal.

Would love to hear from insightful peeps!

Thanks for listening,
MsDarkOpera emoticon

  
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FOXMOON 3/4/2010 12:39PM

    I am sooooo glad you're back! I was thinking about you on and off since you left and I was hoping you'd come back again!!

That aside... I'm recovered (well, I have a TEENSY bit left that I think might be permanent psychosis, hah) from my eating disorder and where I used to obsess and obsess about this and that, I find that I don't anymore.

What really works for me is to plan in advance. Then, all the thinking is done for me when it gets to that day! Rinse & repeat for the next day. Of course, it depends on if I get surprised and go out to eat or have a party to attend, or even something simple like being out of a certain food I was counting on having the next day, but it's easy just to sub it in later on. For me, this brings my stress level waaaay down.

Also, I agree to start small! Don't get overwhelmed with trying to change everything in day one. If you cut down on say, soda to one can a day, then one can a week, then phase it out eventually -- great! Don't feel like you need to go nuts and throw away everything in your house and re-buy it all, either. Finish it and then make a list of sprouted whole grain bread (instead of white), unsalted natural peanut butter (instead of Skippy), etc.

YOU CAN DO IT! I am the stubbornest thing on the planet (I'm a Taurus, haha) and I did it and it feel sooooo satisfying to be at the point I am now where I don't worry about obsessing over food anymore!

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JUSKINNER 3/4/2010 11:01AM

    I understand the thinking about food thing. I have always envied people who don't think about eating, or "forget" to eat. I eat a meal thinking about what I am going to eat next! I truly enjoy food and eating. I have found that using the nutrition log, that I control what I eat and plan my meals better. I get caught up in my calorie/fat/carb/protein amounts, and I'm much more aware of what I eat. I still think about it, but it's in a healthier way. Good luck and I'm sure you'll find organic vegetarians here who will help you out.

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HIGHBURY.HOUSE 3/4/2010 11:00AM

    Hi and welcome - we have all being there at one time or another. I find (with myself) baby steps work. I focus on one thing. Cut out sweets. Then cut out cakes. Then cut out fried food. Then cut the size of portions. Then start eating more fruit etc. It does eventually work. We all fall off the wagon here - but it is not a diet or a fad. It is now your life and only you can create your lifestyle. If you want it badly enough - you can do this. Good luck.

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