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A lil' rant, and a new plan.

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Must be something in the air...or last weeks' Super Moon is still hanging around providing a negative influence.

A dear friend who has a life far too full and a difficult husband sort of went off the rails two days ago. I am at a loss how to help her. I finally decided to just tell her the truth (she thought we might be talking behind her back, and we were not) and then let it go. From the sound of it, their tv broke yesterday evening....her husband put up a message on a 'buy/sell' page asking if anyone had a tv for sale cheap. I messaged him and said we had one they could have. I missed the 7pm message back that they would like to come pick it up last night. We are early-to-bedders and I was already tucked up reading at that early hour. I sense she's displeased.....well, I can't help that. Like I said...all I can do is say my piece and let it go. I haven't heard from either my friend or her husband whether or not they want to come pick it up today.

And I rearranged my schedule to make a birthday cake for my derailed friend....which is no problem at all. Except another of our friends was supposed to get back to me about going to pick up a gift certificate to go along with the birthday cake. I offered to pick it up because I'm closest to the store. Well.....has she gotten back to me? No. And another friend....who is disabled and doesnt' get out much and was disappointed that derailed friends' birthday bash was cancelled for this Friday...I offered to pick her up and go out to lunch. She said "she'd see". Has she gotten back to me? Oh heck no. Has my brother from Oregon gotten back to me to acknowledge receipt of certain information regarding our trip to Kansas next week? Oh heck no. What a day! Let it go....that's all I can do. Let it go and just get my butt to the gym when they open again at 2pm, instead of sitting waiting for people to get off their own butts and communicate with me. ;)

I've been reading about the SNAP challenge - which is adhering to the strict food budget for the U.S. food stamp benefit program. There is a website called Budget Bytes which is a really excellent recipe resource - every recipe I have tried has been really good, inexpensive and very plentiful. Anyway, she is trying to feed herself on 3.50$ a day, which is what food stamp benefits are figured at, per person, per day. If you've ever tried this or been forced to by necessity, it's difficult. Anyway, I had 100$ less in my grocery budget this fortnight. My husband said to take it if I need it, but I am determined to put some thought and energy into planning, and MAKE it work. Then I think I will just continue to take the full budgeted amount, and I will put aside that extra as an informal savings account. If I just tell my husband that I'm not going to withdraw it, the money will just disappear. We aren't extravagent but it's difficult to save.

I've been searching for a part-time job but jobs are thin on the ground here right now. This might just be a sign for me though - there is so much going on with my family on both sides of the pond and I need to be available at all times for them.

My trainer gave me a program to use with my resistance band set while I'm gone for those three weeks. She also suggested a fit ball - which I could then leave for my dad to use. I wish he would! I'll see how I go with that. ;)

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TEXASFILLY 9/17/2014 2:43PM

    emoticon Honey, you can't be everything to everyone. You're right~ just let it all go and hightail your cute bum to the gym. They'll get back if and when they get back with you. I learned a long time ago that people pleasing is an utter waste of time. Keep up your progress at working out. I'm sure missing the pool. If I weren't sick with this stupid head cold, I'd go see if it's warm enough for a swim. Love you, gal~ *hugs* BB~ emoticon Stay the course!

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RDEE22 9/17/2014 6:33AM

    emoticon coming your way!!

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A New Focus.

Tuesday, September 09, 2014

I have been MIA since we returned from the States three weeks ago. Life is ramping up now and my head is spinning and it's hard to focus on much of anything. Nothing bad is happening, just the potential for changes - and very rapid changes.

We're going to put our house on the market soon. There's high demand where we live so we could potentially sell the week after it lists. After that, who knows? We'd like to sell to an investor who would allow us to stay awhile on a lease but that might not happen.

I congratulated myself on getting home on the flight with NO horrible cold. Then guess what? Two days later, I get the sniffles. Picked it up off someone here. Thanks very much. Appreciate it.

Looks like I will be heading back to Kansas within a couple weeks. My father wasn't doing real great while we were there, and he ended up back in the hospital last week. He spends a week or so in the hospital two or three times a year, so it was almost routine. When he moved into his new smaller house, nothing was done to sort through everything that was moved, so he's very frustrated. Things that he needs are packed away in the attic. So I almost jokingly said I would come back for a couple weeks and navigate all that for him while he sits in a chair and directs. I said if he couldn't decide if he needed it, I would make the decision for him. And he jumped at the chance. I spoke with him today and it looks like we'll have a couple weeks free and clear before the contractor shows up for the next round of remodelling.

The only thing that makes me look forward to the flight is the fact that I achieved Silver frequent flyer status with Qantas this year. Got some fancy-pants luggage tags and an invitation to visit one of the lounges on my next flight. I will probably work that like quite a Diva when I fly out. ;)'s doctors feel that his weight is impacting his ability to breathe. They told him he needs to lose at least a hundred pounds. He's tried Nutrisystem before but lasted only a couple weeks because that junk is boring. So I am going to start Get into the habit of tracking so I can help him while I'm there. Have him purchase a food scale and get used to portioning. Maybe get him into the habit of taking along a snack when he has to go into town for appointments so he doesn't end up having restarant food and portions all the time. "Going into town" is a major expedition where he lives. It's a 45-minute one way trip to even hit the outskirts of Topeka.

So that's where I am. Hopefully I can use this rather stressful time to focus on myself and doing something good for myself before I head over there.

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ALIHIKES 9/14/2014 1:25AM

    I am really glad that you will be spending the time to help your dad. But I know that it will add stresses to your life! You will be a great support to him. emoticon

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DJ4HEALTH 9/10/2014 9:52PM

    sounds like he is glad that some one would help him with all his stuff and he probably did not know how to do it. Just make sure that you also take care of yourself too with your lupus.

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RDEE22 9/10/2014 7:46AM

    Take care. Such a busy time for you, at least you have the right idea about getting back on track and not letting the stress get to you foodwise. emoticon

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WENDYJM4 9/10/2014 7:28AM

    look after yourself

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UMBILICAL 9/9/2014 7:09PM

  Stress can spawn growth

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Just nattering you do.

Monday, September 01, 2014

Been an interesting couple of days. Yesterday morning, I spent several hours with my eldest daughter, who is expecting a baby in early Dec. Baby Gavin allowed me to feel him kicking, which was quite spectacular. :) My daughter is soo excited to be on this journey. Can't help but get carried along with her. I was thinking back to the days when I was incubating her - I remember when she first started moving and it was like a little goldfish fluttering, then my only other memories are late in the pregnancy where she rolled back and forth like the San Andreas Fault. I guess that in between i was too busy navigating my horrible marriage, to really pay too much attention to my belly. I'm grateful she has a loving, supportive partner who is equally enthused about looming parenthood!

Then in the evening, our youngest daughter asked to have a private conversation with me. She's our Aspergers' girl. She's worried about being 20 and still a virgin. So we had a big, long, good chat about all that. She's also fretting that she just "doesn't know how to meet boys" so I explained that the best relationships come from friendships first. I suggested just saying hello how are you? each time she encounters someone she thinks is interesting...whether it be a young man in her class, a young woman, or a teacher. That way she will gradually become more comfortable with social interaction. I also explained that just about everyone can be shy about making friends, and that relationships are much harder than the movies and tv shows make it all look. Turns out she wants to go talk to a female doctor about birth control, too. I jumped right into that and told her I'd make an appointment and go with her....then I went "WHOOPS" because I really had no idea what her father would think of all that. Turns out he's just thrilled he doesn't have to deal with it himself. So we are off to the lady doctor this afternoon.

Been having one of those "must eat ALL the foods" kind of days. Happens one day a month, I roll with it and don't sweat it. I've made two curry meals for my son to have in the freezer when he needs them....chicken coconut peri peri, and thai red chicken curry. Mmm...smells so good! Cooked way too much rice so tomorrow I might have to make some rice pudding. :) I also tried a chickpea and feta fritter recipe. Those are mighty tasty lil morsels. The magazine says to make a dip from plain Greek yogurt and moroccan spice mix, which sounds pretty good even though I have no idea just what's in moroccan spice mix.

Had to laugh...I went to the grocery store after my gym session. Was in the cookie aisle with a package of gluten free cookies in my hand - and here comes one of my trainers unexpectedly. She said "what ya got there?" I put it back. She wouldn't have judged me if I had bought the cookies, but I know for a fact I would have eaten the entire package easily.

Feeling sort of dopey and tired. I'm having an RA flare - weird fleeting pains and just now my hand cramped up. Dosed up with magnesium and a nap sounds nice.

I hope you are all having a good day and are making some sense of this weird Australian spring weather! :)

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TEXASFILLY 9/2/2014 9:37PM

    Congratulations on that grandbaby boy! *hugs* You both must be incredibly excited! You are such a great mother to help your children with their grown up decisions.

I've got to get on the ball and start tracking my food again. My love of organic has gone above and beyond~ I mean, even organic has calories! HA! Just don't give up, gf.
emoticon BB~ emoticon

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RDEE22 9/2/2014 8:23AM

    Great that you can have those kind of talks with your daughter. Spring will get its act together before too long, and we will all be panting with the heat.
Have a good September. emoticon

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Thankful it's Friday!

Thursday, August 28, 2014

Off to the gym this morning. Was more interested in socialising, sort of pootled through the workout. Then as I was leaving, the FitBlast (weights to music) class was starting and it wasn't full so I joined in that one. Only thing I couldn't do was hold the weight bar behind my head and shoulders for the squats, so that wasn't bad. What was meant to be worked, got I can attest each time I sit this afternoon.

There is a darling older lady at the gym who looks after me. She made sure I had the correct weights and even helped me with the clasps when I was fumbling. Then she made sure I had the correct weight for me when it came time for biceps curls. She's just the best! Everyone there is.

STILL raining here. I'm having a terrible time getting acclimatised after our two weeks in the heat. The living room is draped with laundry - we dash out between showers and hang it outside, then bring it in when it rains yet again. Grr. I know it's economic but it's sure irritating!

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ALIHIKES 9/1/2014 6:45PM

    Sounds like a great gym class! I always hang my laundry indoors all winter long so I sympathize!

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WENDYJM4 8/29/2014 7:28AM

    sounds like great fun. Awesome having help from the older lady.

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TEXASFILLY 8/28/2014 10:53PM

    Good job on giving the weight class a whirl! Sounds like you did great & had fun, which is fundamental to a good workout. Sorry to hear y'all have the rain instead of Texas~ we're still in severe drought mode and in dire straits for some good, soaking rainfall. Good luck with the laundry getting dry! *hugs* BB~ emoticon

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Back at it.

Monday, August 25, 2014

Home again home again jiggety-jig. Back at the gym yesterday morning early...didn't go great guns because I was weary, but it was GOOD to work the muscles again.

I went on vacation with good intentions and you know how that always pans out. I packed my resistance bands, my sun hat and good shoes. Did I use 'em? You decide. ;) I was active, but it was just household activity. And this wasn't the usual gut-fest that family visits can be. My dad will be carried off one day by a heart failure episode, and he's been having problems for quite awhile related to this. He had one bad spell the night we arrived, and I took the phone message from his heart team nurse telling him it was "likely a heart failure episode" and to knock back the salt and the heavy meals and the booze. So that spooked me. We were moderate in all things which benefitted everyone. And yet with all that, my dad told me he'd had another bad spell the night we left and that was with NO heavy salty meal and no booze.

So I'm back in cold, wet Australia after almost two weeks in HOT Kansas. Almost 100F every day. Went ok with the heat except for the two days I didn't drink enough water and dehydrated real quick. That's a horrible feeling.

Had my nutrition consultation this morning with the new trainer. I'm going to switch up a few things. Try no carbs in the morning before gym time - have the carbs after. She gave me a list of low-carb high protein snacks/meals. So I floated over to the grocery store and bought all sorts of good veggie things for salads. Yes....floated. it's raining cats and dogs.

I mentioned the calorie amounts that Sparkpeople recommends for me to the trainer. She said she eats 2100 a day when she's training hard for a competition. So I am probably eating too much for my metabolism to handle. Gonna give 1800 a try and see what happens.

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TEXASFILLY 8/26/2014 10:14PM

    emoticon So glad you're back as I'm missing your smiling face! Hey! Send some of the much~needed rain our way~ we're still in severe drought mode. Hope your Dad takes good care of himself. Heart disease can be reversed tho' it takes some pretty dramatic changes. Way to go on your workout, too! emoticon BB~ emoticon emoticon

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MSFROGGIE 8/26/2014 8:32AM

    Hope you're able to find the right carb combination for you.

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WENDYJM4 8/26/2014 4:49AM

    welcome back.

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