Tuesday, September 16, 2014
Must be something in the air...or last weeks' Super Moon is still hanging around providing a negative influence.
A dear friend who has a life far too full and a difficult husband sort of went off the rails two days ago. I am at a loss how to help her. I finally decided to just tell her the truth (she thought we might be talking behind her back, and we were not) and then let it go. From the sound of it, their tv broke yesterday evening....her husband put up a message on a 'buy/sell' page asking if anyone had a tv for sale cheap. I messaged him and said we had one they could have. I missed the 7pm message back that they would like to come pick it up last night. We are early-to-bedders and I was already tucked up reading at that early hour. I sense she's displeased.....well, I can't help that. Like I said...all I can do is say my piece and let it go. I haven't heard from either my friend or her husband whether or not they want to come pick it up today.
And I rearranged my schedule to make a birthday cake for my derailed friend....which is no problem at all. Except another of our friends was supposed to get back to me about going to pick up a gift certificate to go along with the birthday cake. I offered to pick it up because I'm closest to the store. Well.....has she gotten back to me? No. And another friend....who is disabled and doesnt' get out much and was disappointed that derailed friends' birthday bash was cancelled for this Friday...I offered to pick her up and go out to lunch. She said "she'd see". Has she gotten back to me? Oh heck no. Has my brother from Oregon gotten back to me to acknowledge receipt of certain information regarding our trip to Kansas next week? Oh heck no. What a day! Let it go....that's all I can do. Let it go and just get my butt to the gym when they open again at 2pm, instead of sitting waiting for people to get off their own butts and communicate with me. ;)
I've been reading about the SNAP challenge - which is adhering to the strict food budget for the U.S. food stamp benefit program. There is a website called Budget Bytes which is a really excellent recipe resource - every recipe I have tried has been really good, inexpensive and very plentiful. Anyway, she is trying to feed herself on 3.50$ a day, which is what food stamp benefits are figured at, per person, per day. If you've ever tried this or been forced to by necessity, it's difficult. Anyway, I had 100$ less in my grocery budget this fortnight. My husband said to take it if I need it, but I am determined to put some thought and energy into planning, and MAKE it work. Then I think I will just continue to take the full budgeted amount, and I will put aside that extra as an informal savings account. If I just tell my husband that I'm not going to withdraw it, the money will just disappear. We aren't extravagent but it's difficult to save.
I've been searching for a part-time job but jobs are thin on the ground here right now. This might just be a sign for me though - there is so much going on with my family on both sides of the pond and I need to be available at all times for them.
My trainer gave me a program to use with my resistance band set while I'm gone for those three weeks. She also suggested a fit ball - which I could then leave for my dad to use. I wish he would! I'll see how I go with that. ;)
Tuesday, September 09, 2014
I have been MIA since we returned from the States three weeks ago. Life is ramping up now and my head is spinning and it's hard to focus on much of anything. Nothing bad is happening, just the potential for changes - and very rapid changes.
We're going to put our house on the market soon. There's high demand where we live so we could potentially sell the week after it lists. After that, who knows? We'd like to sell to an investor who would allow us to stay awhile on a lease but that might not happen.
I congratulated myself on getting home on the flight with NO horrible cold. Then guess what? Two days later, I get the sniffles. Picked it up off someone here. Thanks very much. Appreciate it.
Looks like I will be heading back to Kansas within a couple weeks. My father wasn't doing real great while we were there, and he ended up back in the hospital last week. He spends a week or so in the hospital two or three times a year, so it was almost routine. When he moved into his new smaller house, nothing was done to sort through everything that was moved, so he's very frustrated. Things that he needs are packed away in the attic. So I almost jokingly said I would come back for a couple weeks and navigate all that for him while he sits in a chair and directs. I said if he couldn't decide if he needed it, I would make the decision for him. And he jumped at the chance. I spoke with him today and it looks like we'll have a couple weeks free and clear before the contractor shows up for the next round of remodelling.
The only thing that makes me look forward to the flight is the fact that I achieved Silver frequent flyer status with Qantas this year. Got some fancy-pants luggage tags and an invitation to visit one of the lounges on my next flight. I will probably work that like quite a Diva when I fly out. ;)
Anyway....dad's doctors feel that his weight is impacting his ability to breathe. They told him he needs to lose at least a hundred pounds. He's tried Nutrisystem before but lasted only a couple weeks because that junk is boring. So I am going to start now...today. Get into the habit of tracking so I can help him while I'm there. Have him purchase a food scale and get used to portioning. Maybe get him into the habit of taking along a snack when he has to go into town for appointments so he doesn't end up having restarant food and portions all the time. "Going into town" is a major expedition where he lives. It's a 45-minute one way trip to even hit the outskirts of Topeka.
So that's where I am. Hopefully I can use this rather stressful time to focus on myself and doing something good for myself before I head over there.
Monday, September 01, 2014
Been an interesting couple of days. Yesterday morning, I spent several hours with my eldest daughter, who is expecting a baby in early Dec. Baby Gavin allowed me to feel him kicking, which was quite spectacular. :) My daughter is soo excited to be on this journey. Can't help but get carried along with her. I was thinking back to the days when I was incubating her - I remember when she first started moving and it was like a little goldfish fluttering, then my only other memories are late in the pregnancy where she rolled back and forth like the San Andreas Fault. I guess that in between i was too busy navigating my horrible marriage, to really pay too much attention to my belly. I'm grateful she has a loving, supportive partner who is equally enthused about looming parenthood!
Then in the evening, our youngest daughter asked to have a private conversation with me. She's our Aspergers' girl. She's worried about being 20 and still a virgin. So we had a big, long, good chat about all that. She's also fretting that she just "doesn't know how to meet boys" so I explained that the best relationships come from friendships first. I suggested just saying hello how are you? each time she encounters someone she thinks is interesting...whether it be a young man in her class, a young woman, or a teacher. That way she will gradually become more comfortable with social interaction. I also explained that just about everyone can be shy about making friends, and that relationships are much harder than the movies and tv shows make it all look. Turns out she wants to go talk to a female doctor about birth control, too. I jumped right into that and told her I'd make an appointment and go with her....then I went "WHOOPS" because I really had no idea what her father would think of all that. Turns out he's just thrilled he doesn't have to deal with it himself. So we are off to the lady doctor this afternoon.
Been having one of those "must eat ALL the foods" kind of days. Happens one day a month, I roll with it and don't sweat it. I've made two curry meals for my son to have in the freezer when he needs them....chicken coconut peri peri, and thai red chicken curry. Mmm...smells so good! Cooked way too much rice so tomorrow I might have to make some rice pudding. :) I also tried a chickpea and feta fritter recipe. Those are mighty tasty lil morsels. The magazine says to make a dip from plain Greek yogurt and moroccan spice mix, which sounds pretty good even though I have no idea just what's in moroccan spice mix.
Had to laugh...I went to the grocery store after my gym session. Was in the cookie aisle with a package of gluten free cookies in my hand - and here comes one of my trainers unexpectedly. She said "what ya got there?" I put it back. She wouldn't have judged me if I had bought the cookies, but I know for a fact I would have eaten the entire package easily.
Feeling sort of dopey and tired. I'm having an RA flare - weird fleeting pains and just now my hand cramped up. Dosed up with magnesium and a nap sounds nice.
I hope you are all having a good day and are making some sense of this weird Australian spring weather! :)
Thursday, August 28, 2014
Off to the gym this morning. Was more interested in socialising, sort of pootled through the workout. Then as I was leaving, the FitBlast (weights to music) class was starting and it wasn't full so I joined in that one. Only thing I couldn't do was hold the weight bar behind my head and shoulders for the squats, so that wasn't bad. What was meant to be worked, got worked....as I can attest each time I sit this afternoon.
There is a darling older lady at the gym who looks after me. She made sure I had the correct weights and even helped me with the clasps when I was fumbling. Then she made sure I had the correct weight for me when it came time for biceps curls. She's just the best! Everyone there is.
STILL raining here. I'm having a terrible time getting acclimatised after our two weeks in the heat. The living room is draped with laundry - we dash out between showers and hang it outside, then bring it in when it rains yet again. Grr. I know it's economic but it's sure irritating!
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