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Half way there.....

Tuesday, August 09, 2011

I wish I could say I was half way to my goal, but that isn't where I am going with this. I am halfway there as far as making low carb a way of life eating plan. Depending on the day, I look at it as a glass half empty or glass half full deal. I try to stay optimistic as I have learned that life throws you too many serious curve balls and this is but a small hurdle within the bigger picture.

The glass half full side of me is happy that I have adapted my low carb eating on days when I am home or working. And even out to dinner if we are not celebrating some fun, gotta-get-dessert occasion. All good right?

Well, not so fast! The glass half empty side of me still can't stick with this plan on special occasions or when I am away for the weekend or, at my lowest points, even when I am out to dinner. I start out well......eating low carb the whole day and then....BOOM.....the whole family is getting ice cream or......BOOM.....we're celebrating a birthday at a restaurant and the waitress brings this heavenly looking, carb-laden dessert and 5 spoons. I gotta try just a little.....then a little more.....then just another tiny bite...well, you get the picture.

It is easier at home as I can prepare a sweet, low carb treat for myself on these special occasions, but away from home. Yikes! And the real kicker is, I "treated" myself 4 times in the last 4 days and only one, yes ONE, of those treats was actually really worth it.

Some may say don't worry about an occasional treat. Just enjoy it. The problem there is then the 3 pound loss I had comes back in a day (I know impossible based on calories, but believe me it is there) and it takes another week to get back to where I was........and then there is another temptation and before I know it this same 3 pounds keeps going, coming, going, coming.....and I can't get it off for good or move the scale further down to reach my goal. :-(

Bottom line, is I have a ways to go and some more tricks to learn. But this old gal is dusting herself off, looking at a glass half full and moving forward. A regular day today, so it will be a great one! :-)

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LORI-RED 8/17/2011 9:34AM

    I think anyone reading this, has probably been in your shoes, I know I have. I have overcome this for the most part, but it was not an easy thing to do. I have learned that when we are going out for a special occasion, I order a larger portion of meat of fish than I usually do, I make sure I get a salad and ask for extra dressing or olive oil. I will also ask for extra butter to put on broccoli or whatever the vegetable might be. When everyone else is gorging on cake, I order a coffee or hot tea with "of course" extra cream and add some sweetener. While I do add a LOT of extra fat into this meal, I am not adding the carbs that will no doubt sabotage my efforts. At least you are aware of what you are doing...That is the first step. Now you just need to find ways to overcome it. Which I know you can do!

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DEMURALIST 8/9/2011 8:00PM

    I just checked out your food tracking chart and it looks like you are not getting enough fat. When you do your percentages, what is your fat percentage? I feel like when I got my fat percentages up closer to 70% that I stop having cravings and not only that but it also makes it very easy to resist eating things that are not in my best interest.

The problem for me if I have a treat, I tend to not be able to stop having them. So I just don't start, I make a promise to myself to make one when I get home and just have a diet drink.

If you were a vegetarian, you would just not eat meat, right. No amount of temptation would get you to eat it. If you were allergic (or sensitive-which I certainly am) to carbs (lets say) then you would just not eat them.

You can do this.

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LILYBELLE8 8/9/2011 5:41PM

    But you know the old Chinese proverb: The journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step" ... well, maybe the old Chinese proverb doesn't say that exactly, but the point is you started (with a single step), and you are well into it now. I think it was Yogi Berra who said, "If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up someplace else" - and you do know where you are going. You just don't know "When" you are going to get there - right?

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Now...what to do with all I have gathered?

Saturday, February 19, 2011

We've heard for years that there are "hunters" and there are "gatherers". I do a bit of both, but I am mostly a "gatherer". I gather pieces of information about whatever is going on in my life at any given time.......

* Remodeling........HOURS online, reading books, talking to others, visiting model homes....gathering, gathering, gathering.
*Health issues......HOURS online, reading books, talking to others.....gathering, gathering,gathering.
*Students with Tourette's Syndorome, Asbergers, complex reading difficulties, etc.... HOURS online, reading books, talking to others.....gathering, gathering, gathering.

Well, you get the idea! From weight loss, exercise programs, skin care, parenting, you name it, I have researched it. I have gathered so many pieces of information/trivia, but nothing significant enough to win...say a game show with. :-/

I have "bought into" hemp seeds, chia seeds, aloe vera juice, various diet programs, supplements and the list goes on. And I truly believe in the merits of each. My problem is assimilating this information into a lifelong, steady program that works for MY BODY and STICKING WITH IT instead of incorporating, then abandoning each passing fad.

I had wanted to reach my goal weight and reap the health benefits of my "gathering" by my 50th b-day. That didn't happen and as I am approaching my 51st b-day, I have acquired some new health related issues this year so have "gathered some more". I know my body pretty well now........I know the diet plans......supplements......and exercise plans that work for me. I am not saying that there isn't more to learn. SparkPeople and my Spark Friends have taught me so much in these past few years! They have also been a GREAT support and source of information and humor.

So for now, I am going to stop "gathering" and spend more time on creating the "package" that works for me and following it. I have a week until I turn 51. I'd like to have my "plan in place" by then and then spend the next 6 months implementing the plan without much thought to new ideas (I'll still collect new ideas, I just won't research them until my 6 months are up). I want to spend more time getting in life's game and not thinking about meal plans! I would like my food choices to become habit and not my "homework" each night to plan tomorrow's food options.

I became an empty nester this year...only to college.... so I know they will flock back home (and I can't say that I will be upset about that! I love the presence of my more adult kids). Having more time, thinking about simplifying my life, the clutter in my home, and figuring out how my husband and I are going to fill these new found hours has made me aware of the time I have wasted ( I say that loosely because I have also learned a lot) on "gathering" information. Now that we have had a hint of spring (winter is back this week), I am ready to focus on the garden, getting outdoors again and I want to feel healthy and energized.

So I am off to "digest" my research and create a plan! I'll still log into Spark daily to track my food, fitness minutes, and check in with my teams and buddies. I hope to be able to let go of the time thinking about it all and "JUST DO IT!"


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WACHRWILL 2/22/2011 9:31AM

    Awesome blog, Karen. You certainly have a way with words.

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LILYBELLE8 2/21/2011 9:42PM

    Have you thought about a BIG computerized "spread sheet" to put all of this information into a retrievable format? Or a 3-ring binder with sections for each category? There has got to be a format for you that will make sense of all the information you've gathered. Good luck, friend!

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SUNSHINES3 2/20/2011 10:14AM

  Great Blog! I wish you all the best with your new plan.


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LILYBELLE8 2/19/2011 8:10PM

    Hey - I didn't know you have a special interest in Aspergers. Now that is one more thing that connects us - because I have a 16-year old grandson with Aspergers. We'll have to talk more about this later on.

I'll be singing "Happy Birthday to YOU" next week. And remember - this is going to be your best year yet!!!!

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ERYNNEC 2/19/2011 9:03AM

    Awesome! I'm a gatherer too, Not just a gatherer, but an "obsessive, if I'm doing this, I will be the BEST at it so I have to know EVERYTHING gatherer." I needed to hear this today.

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Saturday, January 01, 2011

Listening is a hard concept for many people. We "hear", but often don't "listen". Hearing is simply the act of perceiving the sound, but listening is a conscious act. It requires concentration to gain meaning. I think I have always been a good listener....maybe even great. I was never very confident in a crowd, so I listened and therefore, I understood things about people that amazed them.

In my 20's I worked retail. As a new manager, we all took a training class in ......Listening to the Customer. I gained a few more valuable listening skills there. The most important was: Validate what the customer is saying by repeating back their frustrations or concerns. "I hear that you are frustrated with our return policy that you must have a receipt in order to receive a full refund. And because your garment still has the tags on, you think you should receive full price". Knowing one is truly being heard by validating what has been said is the first step in a meaningful conversation. This training has come in handy in my marriage, with my children, in my workplace, as well as in a host of other situations. I am also more aware that listening doesn't just mean through our ears. I guess I have "listened" to body language, "listened" to others' emotions, and now am "listening" to my body.

Now just in my 50's I am learning to listen to my body (not sure I really learned it...more like forced into it). It has been a long time in coming. I think my body stopped being polite and just started screaming at me in ways that I am now unable to ignore. I have always been just a bit overweight and have been on some sort of weight loss program since 5th grade. I was always the pleasantly plump one.....about 10-15 (7 or so as a child) pounds overweight and try as I may, those pounds have stuck to me like glue my whole life. Because I have ignored my body and confused it with this plan and that.....low-fat, high protein, Slimfast, starvation then overeating, coconut oil, apple cider vinegar,....Scarsdale, Weight Watchers, Sugar Busters, South Beach, Atkins, Flat Belly, is FINALLY telling me it has had enough. And actually, I've had enough too! LOTS of wasted hours spent reading about diets, nutrition, etc... Ah come on...I KNOW what I need to do! Fewer calories, healthy foods, and exercise. Why not just do it?

Well I am here to say that, "Body, I AM listening!" I will use this year to give my body what it needs to get it feeling good. I did start this journey with my Spark friends and Buddies over this past year. I am drinking more water, getting enough sleep, and have been more aware of what I am eating (even when forbidden foods are passing my lips). This year as my body is yelling at me through some digestive issues, I WILL listen and get my food choices on the right track. I also will exercise at least 3 days a week. Hopefully more, but feel like I should be able to do 3 days consistently all year. And this year is about LISTENING and FOLLOWING THROUGH.

As we move into the new year, I hope we all learn to LISTEN to the things around us.....

Are we listening to our bodies?...what we should be eating, how much exercise we need, whether or not it would be healthier to be less involved or more involved at work or in extra curricular activities, what can our family members do to help us more at home, etc...

Are we listening to the people around us?

Are we listening to the sounds?

Are we listening?

May your newy ear be rich with health, happiness, and the ability to listen!



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  emoticon I also am "listening" more and there is so much to "hear" that Id been missing. Its truly awesome how it changes things. emoticon

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