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NJ Sharing Network 3rd Annual 5K

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

On Sunday, June 9, 2013, Anthony and I ran the NJ Sharing Network 3rd Annual 5K. NJ Sharing Network is integral in the orchestration of tissue and organ donation. I was not aware that a 5K is run to memorialize those who have died and donated organs and honor those who are living donors and those who have received organs and are still with us today. I received a letter from NJ Sharing Network a few months ago and decided to run.

Anthony asked if he could run with me. Anthony immensely enjoys running although this was his first 5K. He ran the first two miles with minimal walking and then primarily walked the last mile. He repeatedly encouraged me to run ahead so I could get a medal (he's so sweet and thoughtful), but I said "no, we are walking and running together" (besides the fact that he is 5). He is a fantastic running buddy. We finished in 45:17.

He also wanted to participate in the 5K walk so we did that as well and finished in 1:40:00. It was a very enjoyable day.

We're going to be running in another 5K/1 mile fun run on the 4th of July. Anthony and Nathan are excited because they receive medals for running and being younger than 14 years of age :)


New Beginnings

Friday, April 26, 2013

This morning, I decided that I am going to lose weight, get in shape, and feel better about myself once and for all. After I brought the boys to school, I walked more than 3 and 1/2 miles around town. Never before have I appreciated all of the little nooks and crannies that my town has to offer. I absolutely love the foot bridge and want to run down and up it on the other side every time that I approach; there's a neat stream beneath it as well. All around town, neighbors are remodeling their homes, planting flowers, reseeding their lawns, and simply waving and smiling when encountering one another. Along my walk, I stopped at Dunkin' Donuts for a veggie egg white flat bread sandwich and burned it off as I walked. The boys and I are going to lunch and the park with some friends after school and I'm looking forward to that. Here's to new beginnings!

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CC3833 4/26/2013 10:31AM

    Glad you're back! I started walking a couple weeks ago... and I agree I noticed alot of things about my neighborhood that I never saw before. Hope you have a great day and an awesome weekend!

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WORDWOMAN7 4/26/2013 9:54AM

    Good luck with the journey! There are amazing resources waiting for you on the SparkPeople website (no, they don't pay me to say that!), and I would encourage you to read the great articles, watch the videos, etc. This is a very supportive community, too.

So hang in there, take small, sustainable steps towards your goal, and keep up the good work!


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New Directions

Monday, November 19, 2012

Three more overnights and I will go back to working second shifts at a hospital at which I had previously worked. I'm looking forward to sleeping every night, spending quality time with my family, exercising during the day(light) with energy to do so, and finally taking care of myself so that I can be the best version of me for my family.

David and I enjoyed a wonderful time at my sister's wedding on Saturday. I was very happy that David decided to come and he looked very handsome. He's been taking better care of himself (no soda, but has been drinking a lot of water; better eating habits; drinking protein shakes; walking on a regular basis; buying clothes that fit him better (he was "swimming" in his other clothes)) and I've decided that I really need to do the same.

I miss running. I neglect myself to the point that I don't get new running shoes because I use my money for taking care of my family (i.e. school expenses for the boys, new clothes for them, Christmas presents, day trips, food, car/insurance, etc.). That may be a noble thing but I use all of my extra money to get us out of debt and ensure that the boys are well cared for when I should be taking care of myself as well and simply spending quality time with them. I think I've tried to compensate because I feel like I am always so tired to spend quality time with the boys (i.e. I'm too exhausted to play, build train tracks, put on a movie, etc.).

The boys and I were the front car in a three car motor vehicle accident on Wednesday. The boys are fine and my back is a bit sore. The third car's driver hit the lady's car behind ours and then pushed her into us, not once, but twice (he hit the gas pedal twice). My car is fine as well, although the insurance adjuster has to evaluate it. It made me put a lot into perspective too. David came to pick me up from the hospital (I had my back examined) and we went to Target for my medications.

I'm still not sure what's going on with our marriage, but I'm leaving it in God's hands. When I was listening to the pastor's words at my sister's wedding on Saturday, I realized that I have not allowed David to be the leader of our household and to make mistakes. I think I do this because it's difficult for me to not have control and also because sometimes I feel like David is not leading our household.

I still need to see that he is trustworthy, but I do love him and I feel like the past few days have been much brighter and more positive than the past four months.

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AZTLAN777 11/19/2012 4:31AM

    Wow, you have a lot going on in your life! Have faith in all things good. You are in m y thoughts and prayers. Hugs

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Revisiting My Career Choice

Monday, October 22, 2012

Recently, I've been reconsidering what career field I wish to pursue for the remainder of my working years. Following college graduation, I was an assistant manager at PETCO and enjoyed merchandising, conducting store operations, hiring and leading my team to work together and grow, and having the opportunity to move up in my company. However, I changed my mind and returned to the field that I had wished to pursue since I was 10 years old: veterinary medicine.

I had received an email in response to my application for an assistant store manager position at Road Runner Sports. The store is within 5 minutes of my home and entails working day time hours. My sister-in-law works there and loves her job; she said that the team is awesome. I would love to return to a day time schedule, sleep at night, and spend more time with my family.

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JILLIEWILLIE1 10/22/2012 5:30AM

    Maybe you can take care of the need to help animals and volunteer at your local ASPA. Just a thought. Congrat's on the Job offer.

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Potty Training/Everyday Life

Saturday, October 20, 2012

We're in the process of potty training Nathan. He turned 3 last month and has been letting me know when his diaper is soiled. His pre-K teacher had suggested potty training and I thought that he might be ready, but he's been throwing tantrums every time I try to put on underpants, sit him on or stand him near the potty, etc.

I'm going to purchase some Pull-Ups to see if perhaps he's agreeable to wearing those; Anthony's day school director had recommended not buying Pull-Ups since they're so similar to diapers and are more expensive. I did purchase a small potty that sits on the floor yesterday; Nathan chose it himself. It has a frog face on the back and Nathan can press a button on a module on the side so that a story is read to him about Frog using the potty. It also includes a book through which Nathan can look.

David seems to be extremely frustrated with this whole process. This morning, I unloaded and loaded the dishwasher and hand washed any dishes that would not fit in the dishwasher (all of which are David's "jobs" since we agreed on that; I wash, dry, fold, and put away all of our laundry). I also stripped the sheets off the beds and sofa bed, vacuumed the living room and sofa, washed, dried, and folded laundry (and am in the process of doing more). In the middle of it all, I've been trying to get the boys breakfast, change Nathan, make sure Nathan sits on the potty, etc. David's been sitting on his chair, watching TV, and putzing around with his cell phone since he woke up a couple of hours ago.

I'm just so frustrated. He says he wants a divorce and I know that a marriage does not usually fail because of just one spouse. Everyone (David's mom, sisters, my parents and sisters, our friends, etc.) says that I didn't do anything wrong, but it's still hard when someone tells you that he never loved you, married you because he got you pregnant, you drag him down and make him miserable, even if those words aren't true. I've been seeing a counselor to work through all of these issues, but it's still hard. David shows no affection, but we've gone out to dinner and a movie, talk more to one another now than we had, don't argue, laugh around one another. I'm so confused.

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MORYNIAK 10/20/2012 9:31PM

  Thank you all for your encouragement. I think the most difficult thing is that my husband has not filed divorce papers, we still live together in our apartment with our sons, we share a bed, we've been intimate, etc. We recently went out for a movie and dinner, but he doesn't want to do that on a regular basis "because we are in the process of getting a divorce" (even though we are not). I have a feeling that he is just not happy with where he is in life.

He recently turned 35 and spends a lot of time looking at and buying things on eBay, amazon, etc. He purchased a $100 pair of sunglasses and seems to be buying things that he has wanted but we did not put our money towards (because we have been trying to pay off our debts, which we have been accomplishing). I feel like our dreams (buying a house, raising our family together, perhaps having another child, etc.) are falling apart.

We have been talking more, spending some time together, don't argue, and I just don't understand what's going on. This is the first time in a while that he brought up the divorce and it was only because I had asked him why he didn't want to go out for dinner and a movie next week. He won't move out or file for divorce because he says that he doesn't have the money, but he's spending his money on things that he wants (a watch, sunglasses, etc.) and had mentioned taking a loan out of his pension so he would have money to put in savings.

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SLENDERELLA61 10/20/2012 1:00PM

    So sorry for your troubles. The potty training will come. I'm working on it with my granddaughter. It can be frustrating. I think Pull Ups are worth the extra expense, at least they were with my oldest granddaughter.

The marriage. Hmmm. I'm 63, been married 33 years, and will say (tongue in cheek) that I consider the fact that I have not killed my husband and he has not killed me one of the greatest accomplishments in both our lives. It is great you are seeing a counselor. I almost left my hubby several times and don't know if life would have been better or not on my own. I guess no one can advise you, but the counselor can help you see your path. I know it isn't an easy choice especially with kids involved.

Do focus on taking good care of yourself in every way so that your life improves no matter what. I'm so glad I have finally through SparkPeople learned how to eat and exercise. Living healthy doesn't bring about instant potty training or improve marriages (usually), but it does strength you so that you can live your best life in whatever available circumstance you choose.

Best wishes to you! -Marsha

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DWROBERGE 10/20/2012 11:11AM

    We are helping with our younget grandson's potty training who just durned two this past onth. He is difficult and we know from experience that it just takes time and paience. Best of luck. It will all work out.

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MORYNIAK 10/20/2012 10:29AM

  Thanks so much for your kind words Erica :)

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ERICADAWN1986 10/20/2012 10:23AM

    Relationships are complicated and there is no cookie cutter answer or solution for every family... but if he said those words TO you and he's telling you that he's not willing to work on it and move forward with you than, just as one person can't cause a relationship to fail... the responsibility to fix a relationship cannot be carried by one person either. Make sure that you keep taking care of yourself mentally and emotionally. Hugs!

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