Saturday, November 13, 2010
Over my several years of living, I have attended my share of "feel good" meetings and seminars. Ones that make you feel like nothing in the world can stop you - until you go back to your normal life afterwords. Then you go back into the groove that you always have been in.
Humans by nature abhor change. We like our little caves, roving our little piece of land, and scavenging the same same bushes for berries. Most of us anyway.
However you can change that. Learn to embrace change. Make the statement "The only constant is change" a reality in your life.
This goes along with losing weight. The same habits, the same foods, the same lack of energy has gotten you where you are now. In my case it took me on the road to where I DIDN'T want to be.
Now I'm changing. I feel better and have more energy. I skipped the gym in the past because it wasn't in my "normal" life until I went enough times that now I'm almost a gym rat.
Take small steps, but do something different. Here are some ideas.
- Listen to music or a radio station that you haven't ever listened to before.
- Take a different route to work.
- Try a different food. Either find a new recipe with a new ingredient - or order something at a restaurant that you haven't ever had before.
- Read a book that is not in your genre.
- Listen to an audio book instead of the radio as you drive.
- Turn off the radio all together.
- Turn off the TV and get a board game to play with those close to you.
- Smile when you just want to frown.
- Talk to a stranger in the grocery line - even if it's just "Hey, some weather we are having, huh?" (Side note - I finally got a smile out of Cardio Girl at my gym when I told her that I admired her workout intensity)
- If you do weights - try cardio and the reverse.
- Turn off all the noise (TV, Radio, iPod) and just sit and look out the window.
- OR get up and go outside.
- Listen instead of talking.
There are SO many things in life that can help inspire us and motivate us that we don't know exist. We just need to take that first step. Like the journey of weight loss - changing your life is slow and steady. In the end, you never know. You might find out that there is a whole big world out there that is just waiting for you to embrace it. All it takes is a little change.
What are YOU going to do for change in YOUR life?
Thursday, October 21, 2010
Well I never thought I would see this day. Today I've been on this earth for half a century. The funny thing is that I don't FEEL that old! (and some have told me I don't look it either).
This is an interesting time for me. For the longest time I had put everyone first before me. Because of that I ballooned in size until I realized that I was on the fast track to the grave. Talk about an ah-ha moment! So I changed my thinking to change my life. I started putting me first and will continue that way. It's not be selfish, it's being realistic. I know I have a long way to go, but I am on the right road.
Ah yes, that road. The road of life. It starts out so big and vast. When you are little, the world is new and exciting. There are adventures around every bend. They might be as far as your back yard, but they are there. As you grow, the world keeps growing with you. You go to school, learn to play with others, find some hard knocks and hopefully learn from them.
It continues on into grade school and high school. The road doesn't seem as important now. Life is filled with different kinds of adventures. Body changes, emotions, learning the things that you hope will tide you well in life. Then in my case it was off to college for a while. More learning, more growing. The responsibilities of becoming an adult are thrust upon you. Work, making money, and more of the same.
Sometime along the way things like family are introduced. I was never blessed with my own offspring, but I was blessed to have the opportunity to raise a stepson. The road has been forgotten now because the pressures of life are at hand. Providing for those others in your life is so very important. Work has wrapped itself into your world and it seems that even your adventuresome spirit has dwindled to just a flicker. Life is good and you are happy, but it has changed from those very early days.
For me - fast forward. Life has changed. Divorce changed the family side of things. The money and the job was excellent but the pressures were great. The bills and life seemed to just take over.
Then last year my child re-emerged. I changed and rediscovered the me inside that I thought had disappeared. I took his hand and he started pointing out things to me. The big job with the big paycheck wasn't worth it. I didn't need a fancy car, or a fancy house. I saw my birthday of 50 looming and found that I wasn't rich, I wasn't famous, and I wasn't good looking. However I found that I can be OK with everything in my world. I also learned that I can be healthy too! Finding Sparkpeople and all my friend here has helped that a lot.
So now I've hit my milestone. I didn't hit my weight loss goal but I'm OK with that. I know it will happen in time. I'm in such a better shape than I have been in years. Heck, if someone would have told me that I would do 95 min of cardio almost all at one time, I would have just laughed. Now it's a reality. The big job with the big pay is gone. The house is small but comfortable. The car is a car and gets me where I need to go. The best part is that I'm HAPPY!
The best part is that the road is there again. The wonder about life has returned. I am looking forward to discovering more and exciting things. My "little Ed" is saying "Come on, let's go play!"
Woo Hoo! Onwards...
Sunday, October 10, 2010
I think I need some help...
Have you ever had that special someone that entered your life and it's like a light bulb went on? It's not just infatuation or a fling. It is more than that. When you think of them a warm feeling comes over you. You feel surround by love and caring. That person makes the day just a little brighter and easier to deal with.
However, they must have not felt the same because they leave your life. Whatever the reason was, they are gone. In my case I tried to be friends even after the fact but realized that I was only contacted when they needed something. So - I cut off all communication with said person. I harbor no ill thoughts about her or think she is evil. Far from it.
My problem is that her ghost still haunts my life. Passing thoughts, a song, a passing scent, a forgotten picture. They are still there and I know in my heart of hearts that I still have that love for the person even if they are no longer in my life. It's hard to extinguish.
Some of my friends told me, "Well, just forget her" or "Just move on". Heck, I never stopped moving and continue to move. My life didn't stop. I don't sit around wishing what will never be. Her leaving was the first "Ah ha" of my life to start this journey for healthy living. I realized that part of the reason that she left was my weight. I might wish it wasn't the case but it is true and I can see it in myself looking back. I AM a better person now because of that relationship.
Heck, I'm even out there dating and meeting new people (or attempting to). People say "You will find someone better". I have no doubt about it. There are many good people out in the world and I have yet to meet the right one. To be honest, it really doesn't matter because my happiness isn't based on someone else. It's from within. I am a good, happy, healthy person that is confident with himself.
My problem is the ghost. I didn't even have a ghost of my ex-wife haunting me after we broke up. For some reason this one was different. It was... deeper than anyone else had touched me before. It is hard to explain. The ghost is like the memory of someone that has died and is still with you.
So - how do I get rid of this ghost? What can I do to finally put this spirit to rest so she doesn't keep drifting into my thoughts? I know I'm not the only person that has had this happen to. For once I'm at a loss as to what to do...
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