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Wednesday, March 03, 2010

Okay, I have to admit, I'm learning new stuff on this site. I'm educated in healthcare (pharmacist) and I've read tons over the last 20 years to get in shape, but yes, I learned something about strength training yesterday. The articles and blogs on this site are amazing. This stubborn 41 year old is going to rearrange her strength routines to try to maximize their effect.

I'm fortunate to have a weight machine. Brian (hubby) insisted on buying one several years ago. You should have seen me at the store. This overweight mom-of-four, at the time, was making the sales person show ME how to use the thing. Amazingly easy to adjust, I let hubby buy it. Before the twins, I was able to get down to 165, and the weight machine was crucial to that weight loss.

Well, time to organize my strength training, then off to do it!! emoticon

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ASMPP1 3/3/2010 7:28PM

    emoticon I need to be more regular about my own strength training.

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SHELLKAYE 3/3/2010 1:57PM

    Every couple of weeks, I try and change my strength training workout. Many magazines these days have articles on different moves to tone this and that. I nip these out so I will have various ones to choose from. emoticon

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MUSICMOMOF2 3/3/2010 12:26PM

    That is one area where I lack, even though I am getting better at making sure that I do strength-training. I could do better though! Good luck!

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KIMMIE124 3/3/2010 10:17AM

    You're going to love it. My biggest benefit was the new way my clothes felt on me, and also the fun of shopping for new clothes. Get ready, because it is coming next. Keep sparking!

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Kid Quote of the Day

Tuesday, March 02, 2010

First, I have to set up this kid quote. Brian came home from work with a surprise for the kids. He bought an electronic snap kit, the kind kids can build different electronic items like an alarm or a radio. Five of the six kids were enthralled, following the directions and working together to build things. Brian asks the kids what they are doing. Sean (one of the four year old twins) replies: "We're angry scientists! Bwahaha!"

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ANNAX4 3/5/2010 9:45AM

  I hope you put it in his scrapbook. Too cute!

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    That's so cute!!! "out of the mouths of babes"

How awesome they were all working together and putting something together. Those moments just make your heart swell :)

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SHELLKAYE 3/2/2010 1:38PM

    That's cute. Kids have such an imagination.

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MUSICMOMOF2 3/2/2010 12:17PM

    Love it!!

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TLROYER 3/2/2010 10:01AM

    Don't they just make you laugh? I love when my kids say the goofiest things.

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Monday, March 01, 2010

I've been married for 15 1/2 years to a wonderful man, Brian. We've been through a lot together: moving to a small town, having six kids, two miscarriages, being laid off (but getting hired back at the same stressful job 9 months later), me going back to work part-time. I want to start by saying I love him dearly.

That said, I have to vent about his lack of enthusiasm with joining me on this healthy quest. I'm not the only one in this family with 50 pounds to lose. Most of our marriage, I have been active and tried to eat healthy and feed the kids healthy food. Brian encourages me and very often helps me to be good. On the flip side, he puts so much junk into his body, I can't believe it. I try to encourage him to exercise. We actually went on a walk together outside yesterday. I went easy on him. We only walked 20 minutes. He usually jokes about exercising. He says his plan is the "visualization" method. Yeah, it's all in his head.

I get so frustrated. I'm killing myself taking care of him and the kids and trying to get myself healthy at the same time. He naps all the time or plays computer games to relax, all while I am working hard in the kitchen or trying to get some help from the kids. He actually said this morning that he only naps on weekends. I quickly, but politely, corrected him. I realize he's tired and out of shape. Nothing is going to change unless he gets up and does something about it. I do realize I'm mostly a stay-at-home mom and that most of the household duties fall on me and the kids. I also work outside the home, 30 hours every other weekend. It's a lot to expect of one woman, to take care of the house, the kids, him and work part-time.

I guess I'm asking for advice. How do you get the message through that enough is enough? He really is a wonderful man. I just don't think he ever gets how hard I work to keep everything going.

Wow! I didn't mean to be a downer. I'm actually in a pretty good mood today. Guess I'd better go exercise now before I get upset about this again.

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LOSINGITALL4ME 3/2/2010 12:27PM

    Don't give up on him. I have been married for 25 years and have tried numerous times to change my life style and fought my husband all the way. This time with spark he knew I was serious and wouldn't give in to him. Amazingly, he has seen the changes for me and it has actually inspired him to eat better and not buy as much junk food. I don't say anything. I just keep on doing what I'm doing and it's getting through to him. I think he just realizes he needs to do it for his family. The exercise part hasn't come yet but I bet it will. Hang tough - I know it's hard. emoticon

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MOM-OF-SIX 3/1/2010 2:16PM

    Thank you everyone for all the support and advice. Just venting a little and knowing I'm not alone helps so much. emoticon

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TLROYER 3/1/2010 2:13PM

    When I started this healthy lifestyle, I made the changes for the whole family. No matter the age, eating healthy is a plus. For example, I only buy baked chips, whole wheat bread & pasta. I make brownies with black beans (they can't tell the difference). I have a lot of cookbooks with healthy recipes and the whole family is expected to atleast try what I've prepared. If they don't like it, they can fix themselves a sandwich or have a bowl of cereal. They still get to have a few foods around that aren't healthy, like cookies, but for the most part, they eat alot more vegi's and fruit. Just by having the healthy items around and serving healthy items could be a start.

As for exercise, I've always done different things with the kids..walks, hikes, bike rides, etc. I didn't force my husband to go. I asked him if he wanted to come but if he said no, we went anyway. He is now hiking and biking with us. I think if you set an example, he will follow. Good luck!

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SHELLKAYE 3/1/2010 1:58PM

    Hey, it's ok to vent to us. Getting things off you chest is also beneficial to your wellbeing. Luckily my husband is an active person so I don't have to push him very much. However through 2 pregnancies my husband and I gained quite a bit of weight. I of course was to blame for his gain since I cooked the meals or opted to eat out while working long and crazy hours and being tired and pregnant. Now men have thick skulls and it will be hard to get him to change. My suggestion is to try and envolve the whole family w/ an exercise activity. Go out for a game of bowling or try some out door activities. I want to get a Wii because I think it would be fun for the whole family. Hey its a video game, your husband might catch on. Even if he would join in right away, perhaps he will see how much fun you are having and the impact it's given you and he will want the same. Good luck.

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LDYBRIELLE 3/1/2010 1:41PM

    I have been married 26 years just to give you my background. The others are right that you can't force him to do something that is so internal but you also teach others how to treat you. You need to love him with no judgments and at the same time let him know what is expected helping you out with household chores. So I'm saying try not to comment if you see him eating junk or something you judge as not being "healthy". He has to come to that decision by himself but he needs to feel he deserves it. Maybe give him a big hug and attention and make him feel so good about himself he might not eat as much. When he participates in physical exercise with you, just keep commenting on how much more fun it is when he is along. As you get healthier and healthier and lose weight, you are going to need to really reassure him that you are not leaving him no matter what. Give him a small list of things around the house you need done that day. Let him decide when he will do it and how he will do it and don't do it for him if he doesn't get it done that day! Ask him if he thinks he can get it done the next day. You deserve some help and so it's a respect thing. You need to respect yourself and the job you are doing and then respect him and don't let it become a mom type relationship with him.

My husband is fit but he still feels really threatened as I lose weight although he would never see that. I see it in his behavior when he asks if I can hurry home after work and not go to the gym because he wants to do something with me. He doesn't know he is doing it and rather than call him on it, I say no, I am going to go to the gym but then he can have my undivided attention that night :) He is normally so supportive so it seems to happen only occasionally but I try to recognize it for what it is...not an attempt at stopping me but a cry out for attention and reasurrance.

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MUSICMOMOF2 3/1/2010 1:37PM

    Kim has the best suggestions. Lead by example. Maybe after he sees how much better you are feeling, it will spur him to get in gear. You can't force him, but at least he is motivating you! Hang in there!

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KIMH239 3/1/2010 1:06PM

    Do your best to encourage a healthy lifestyle by leading by example. Seek help from older children with some of the chores that take you away from your time to exercise. Continue to invite him along on walks, bike rides etc. Schedule family time doing something active.....going to a park or museum where there is LOTS of walking involved. He may choose not to join in but you will have asked. Thats the important part and who knows....once he sees what a great time you are having and what great shape you are getting in he may just jump on the fitness wagon!

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KMBRADY 3/1/2010 12:28PM

    This is tough - I think we know that you can't make someone do something, you can want it for them but THEY have to want it more!
My ex was a couch potatoe. After having my 2nd child I proclaimed we needed to diet - I'd tried to lose weight after my first son, and a gain of 65 lbs. My ex gained weight right along with me. We managed to lose some weight for the 2nd child, but it was after my 2nd was born that I decided we should really dig in and lose the pounds. I was greatly let down when after my research and planning he proclaimed that he wasn't going to diet with me. I figured if I knew I needed to lose 30lbs, how could he not agree that he needed to lose his 30 too? It came down to his desire - he had none, he was happy as he was at the moment. This DID put a stress on our marriage because I began to have a big turn around, I got healthy, became active, exercised, ate healthy and got slim - he was. . . . a slug. I came to appreciate an active lifestyle and watching what I ate and cut out the crap, and He relished watching tv in his lazyboy chair while eating crap.
He eventually lost weight - after we separated. But by then, for me it was too late, I'd been on the healthy track for a few years and didn't want to be held down any longer. Now, I'm not saying to divorce your husband - we had other issues that contributed to our marriage ultimately falling apart - but I will say that his lack of interest in bettering himself did nothing for my respect for him, and when I started looking for my 2nd husband, one of my criteria was that I found someone that had respect for themselves, their body and the desire to live a somewhat healthy lifestyle.
I'm not a total healthy crazy person, but I appreciate a healthy attempt at living a healthy lifestyle.

All this said to say - you can't force him. You will have to decide to do your lifestyle for you and perhaps along the way he'll see how great you look, how much fun you have, and how good you feel and he'll ask you to help him get there too.

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RENA1965 3/1/2010 12:23PM

    Tell him you and him have 6 kids to feed, if anything happens to him because he doesn't take care- whom will care for your kids needs? Sure a good insecurance policy is handy, but I have two teenages now (they where 8 and 10 when their dad died) whom still hurt, still get depressed up to the dato and watch with envy other families with 2 parents..
Ask your husband to think about you all- he is just as dear as you are.. I hate comforting my kids at christmas and they remember their dad because he was the all around home going daddy.. I went out to work..
My youngest is already showing signs of being down- efter 6 years it don't get easier- it is now they need their dads guidance most..
Ask Brian to read my entry- he may think a little over long term realities and warm up to the idea.. I ain't frightening no body to change but I lack parental support when boys need dad to talk to..
Hugs Rena emoticon

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Saturday, February 27, 2010

Groan... What's that? Oh, it's morning. That's the radio alarm scaring me to death. Ouch! Why won't my body move? Groan...

That's pretty much how I've felt every morning this week. I have to admit, I've been pretty slow to move in the morning. Many of my previously under-worked muscles aching and begging me to stay in bed. With six kids, four of which to get off to school, and a husband to get off to work, no dice. I'm forced to get up.

After the morning chaos and finally eating breakfast, I start perking up. Still a little sore, but each little ache reminds me of the progress I'm making. I'd be more upset if I were NOT feeling my abs every day.

February, overall, has been a good month. I found I've made SparkFriends who help keep me motivated and pick me up when I'm down. I've exercised this month, as regularly as I can. My work schedule gets in the way and that darn migraine took six days away from me. This last week has been particularly good. I've eaten well since Feb 15th and haven't had coffee at all in 2010. Now I'm ready to go exercise for the fifth time this week.

I'm sure I'll wake up slowly and feeling some more new muscles, but that will just reinforce that I AM making progress.

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ASMPP1 2/28/2010 6:32PM

    emoticon Yes, we all have days like that! Keep going, you can do it!

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MUSICMOMOF2 2/27/2010 12:39PM

    I have mornings like that, where I just don't want to get up. I know that if I'm going to get my workout done, I need to get up. Hope that you have a great Saturday!

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Country Songs

Thursday, February 25, 2010

Well, I did it. I finally sat down at the computer with my i-pod shuffle and had my husband talk me through updating it. I've had the silly thing for a few years now. Brian somehow loaded it with songs from the internet (mostly not the iTunes store) and from CDs. All good songs, many too slow to workout to. Complaining about it for months, I finally started clicking around the iTunes site to fix the problem.

Boy, has it helped my workouts!! I just can't go slow with songs like:

"It Happens" by Sugarland
"What Was I Thinking" & "How am I Doing?" by Dierks Bentley
"19 Something" by Mark Wills
"That's What I Like About You" by Trisha Yearwood

I have over 40 great country songs on my ipod now. Each one keeps me moving. I plan to add more playlists, so I would LOVE suggestions. I listen to country from every decade, George Jones to Taylor Swift.

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ASMPP1 2/28/2010 6:28PM

    emoticon I do not have an Ipod oranything like that.

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ETWBOK 2/25/2010 1:40PM

    Here's a few from my ipod:

Brooks and Dunn-Boot Scootin' Boogie
Alan Jackson-Who's Cheatin' Who
Clint Black-Nothin' But the Taillights
Glenn Campbell-Southern Nights
Gretchen Wilson-Here for the Party
Keith Urban-Days Go By
Kenny Chesney- How Forever Feels
Montgomery Gentry-Gone
Shania Twain-Man I feel Like A Woman!

Congrats on getting the ipod set up! I just updated mine last night with a new playlist and now I need to put it to use!

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MTNCLIMBER88 2/25/2010 1:38PM

    All great songs! Also, I happen to think Leann Rimes' "Nothing Better To Do" is awesome for working out :)

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    I'm not much of a country person but my fiance has turned me on to it. I LOVE Carrie Underwood and that new song "I thought I loved you then".

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