Monday, March 01, 2010
I've been married for 15 1/2 years to a wonderful man, Brian. We've been through a lot together: moving to a small town, having six kids, two miscarriages, being laid off (but getting hired back at the same stressful job 9 months later), me going back to work part-time. I want to start by saying I love him dearly.
That said, I have to vent about his lack of enthusiasm with joining me on this healthy quest. I'm not the only one in this family with 50 pounds to lose. Most of our marriage, I have been active and tried to eat healthy and feed the kids healthy food. Brian encourages me and very often helps me to be good. On the flip side, he puts so much junk into his body, I can't believe it. I try to encourage him to exercise. We actually went on a walk together outside yesterday. I went easy on him. We only walked 20 minutes. He usually jokes about exercising. He says his plan is the "visualization" method. Yeah, it's all in his head.
I get so frustrated. I'm killing myself taking care of him and the kids and trying to get myself healthy at the same time. He naps all the time or plays computer games to relax, all while I am working hard in the kitchen or trying to get some help from the kids. He actually said this morning that he only naps on weekends. I quickly, but politely, corrected him. I realize he's tired and out of shape. Nothing is going to change unless he gets up and does something about it. I do realize I'm mostly a stay-at-home mom and that most of the household duties fall on me and the kids. I also work outside the home, 30 hours every other weekend. It's a lot to expect of one woman, to take care of the house, the kids, him and work part-time.
I guess I'm asking for advice. How do you get the message through that enough is enough? He really is a wonderful man. I just don't think he ever gets how hard I work to keep everything going.
Wow! I didn't mean to be a downer. I'm actually in a pretty good mood today. Guess I'd better go exercise now before I get upset about this again.