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Wednesday, November 17, 2010

Reasons a dog is a good healthy lifestyle partner:

They never seem to get tired.
They have an overflow of positive energy to share with the world.
They make introductions with neighbors easier than pie.
They HAVE to go outside at least twice a day--no more hermiting for me!
They forgive you if you don't feel your best that day.
They share their toys and ask you to get up and play instead of just sitting there.
They would eat your leftovers if you let them--nice way to end temptation (oops it fell on the floor!).
They remind you of what its like to be a kid.
They are ready to accept any kind of adventure.
They are happy about the simplest things in life and that helps you to be, too.

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    emoticon Great!

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RENA1965 11/17/2010 11:21AM

    Yeah they are good company..

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MRE1956 11/17/2010 10:00AM

    So true, so true (and I haven't had a dog since early childhood!)

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SKINNYPOWELL1 11/17/2010 9:42AM

    All very true. I love my chihuahua, unconditional love she gives me.

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adopting a dog today!

Friday, October 22, 2010

Today Rory and I are going to adopt a rescue dog. She's a five year old german shepherd mix.

Meet my new exercise partner!

I have a lot of work to do because I'm missing some time spent in order to get the adoption through and we have to drive to pick her up as well. I'll write more about her later.

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MODEL_BEHAVIOR 10/25/2010 10:46AM

    Thanks guys! Its going great so far!

Its making it easy to hit my walking / # of steps goals so far. Still getting adjusted but she's WONDERFUL!

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ME_HERE_NOW 10/22/2010 4:19PM

    how exciting, going to make your outside treks that much more fun! yay, not to mention the snuggles ;)

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WE-R-LOVED 10/22/2010 11:24AM

    She's beautiful. Congrats!!!

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THEREALDINANE 10/22/2010 10:53AM

    Ooooh yay! Congratulations! She's gorgeous! Look at those eyes. I can see how you HAD to bring her home!

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ZIRCADIA 10/22/2010 9:52AM

    awwwwww SO CUTE!

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taking criticism

Tuesday, October 19, 2010

I've been watching this season of Project Runway with a strange perspective. Lately I have been thinking about how I'm probably like the contestant Gretchen who is very strong willed and has had a hard time learning to take criticism from host Tim Gunn. She gets very defensive and upset and loses sight of the value of what she's being told. She "gets off her game" as a result.

I think I can be the same way. I think all the women in my family can be the same way, actually.

Last night my boyfriend said something to me before we went to sleep about how we are thinking of adopting a dog (its almost official), but that I should watch out that I don't lose sight of the other work I have to do because I work from home. I was so offended by this. I felt like he was saying I am not capable of taking care of my responsibilities. For various reasons this got right under my skin and pushed some weird buttons.

The thing is, its probably important we talk about this. Why did that thought coming from my partner's mouth hurt me so much? Should I take it as criticism, learn from it, or just get angry at the way I think he perceives what I do all day long? I feel like I am taking more offense than he meant and I'm having a stronger reaction than is necessary. I can't figure this out by writing a blog and not talking to him about it, obviously, but I wanted to write down that I think my ability to gracefully take criticism in stride has hindered me in a few areas of my life. I don't have time to sit and dwell and wonder about it. I'm simply recognizing that this caused me some fear and pain -- more than it should have.

Maybe its like paying attention to an injury you didn't know you had. What can I to avoid making more pain but to allow that to heal properly?

I'm sure we all have buttons that get pushed that lead us to destructive behaviors. I just feel like if I'm going to conquer weight loss, I have to learn to take outside opinions in stride a little better, and not jump to such an emotional state.

I'll write more about the dog in another blog post because she deserves her own words. :D If all goes well, I'll have a walking partner at the end of the week.

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MODEL_BEHAVIOR 10/20/2010 11:19AM

    Yes. Yes! Yes!! I think we are a good match and that we constantly work on communication in that same way. It feels great afterward, doesn't it? You feel such relief.

This ties into my own emotional eating struggle in a way. In the past I would have shoved these feelings down, kept them to myself, and sought comfort elsewhere instead of confronting the bad feelings I got and figuring out how to get past them (key: together).

The first step I had to take to learn to be okay with this process is to first acknowledge that we disagree, and my viewpoint is valid. I come from a large family and have a lot of siblings. Fighting can easily escalate to ridiculous emotional levels for all of us and I'm proud to say I have really grown up while I have been dating my R. He's taught me how to fight more gracefully and he's always coming from such a loving place even when he's stubborn. I'm lucky lucky lucky to have him.

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THEREALDINANE 10/20/2010 9:27AM

    Communication is a constant learning experience in a relationship. My husband and I have occasional yelling matches that after an hour or two of reflection can all go back to one misinterpreted word or phrase.

I'm so glad you have already talked to your boyfriend about it. The longer things like that simmer the hotter your head can get. We try to keep the rule to no argument lasts more than a day. We have stayed up late trying to figure out why we are SO mad, and despite a lack of sleep, we always feel better about it in the morning. Love doesn't mean everything is going to be perfect all the time; it means you care about each other enough to want to figure out what went wrong so it can be prevented it in the future.

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MODEL_BEHAVIOR 10/19/2010 2:39PM

    Thank you for this comment! How true: "Sometimes, we hold ourselves to such a high standard that critism hurts us."

Thank you... we talked it out over the phone and I chose to say that my feelings are hurt by the words that you chose... I understand why you said this but I need to hear also that you are excited about getting the dog and that you are proud of me for all that I do well. It felt really great. I'm lucky I also called my Mommy first and she helped me see a neutral perspective as well.

Criticism can come from a loving place, I guess we know that. You're absolutely right--we're holding ourselves to a high standard, perhaps unachievable. We can't let that become what hurts us or holds us back.

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EDWINA172 10/19/2010 8:20AM

    I have the same problem with any critism. I just confessed this to my husband over the weekend. We've been married for 19 years and I just told him about my fears now!
Anyway, try to dig deeper into why the critism hurts you. In my case, I dug deep and realized that critism hurts my fragile ego. I feel that I look less in his eyes when he gives me critism. That feeling makes me scared that he'll leave me. He is nothing but supportive and encouraging! Sometimes, we hold ourselves to such a high standard that critism hurts us. I feel like I don't want to do anything unless its perfect. So, if I don't find fault with what I've done, then how could he? Silly and irrational, huh?
You were very brave to post this. I hope you have a great day.

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two day recovery

Thursday, October 14, 2010

After two days of eating completely amazing(ly), I feel so good. Writing this down to remember it. Its not pain, its glory! I have energy and I have some joy thrown in there randomly. So much more enjoyable than laying around and medicating myself with sugar. Remember this!!! Life is made up of energy and because I'm adding in vitamins and nutrients as my carbs, I'm getting so much more out of what I'm eating. All that I'm doing is changing up the fact that I used to eat so much bread and all vegetarian proteins made out of wheat gluten and soy... enough protein and fiber that I felt full, but there wasn't much vitamin content there. I'm finding its hard to eat enough calories by relying just on fruit and veggies for carbs and at the end of the day I'm so happy to have a chance to eat some pasta or a piece of cake and it technically fits into my calories for the day... AND if I eat some carbs at night, guess what? They make me sleepy. LOL Been getting great sleep so far this week. Mission: Keep it up!!

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MODEL_BEHAVIOR 10/19/2010 2:39PM

    Yaaay! Thanks so much!!

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ME_HERE_NOW 10/15/2010 6:13PM

    glad to hear about your positive changes, keep rockin it!

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gain a few, lose a few

Wednesday, October 13, 2010

I'm practicing living in the moment and forgiving myself. The past two or three weeks I have really been in a terrible mood (see past entries), and I worked hard to pull myself out of that funk. This morning I woke up feeling AMAZING! I woke up willingly before dawn and took care of all the annoying chores we usually leave until after dinner when we are exhausted. It sounds really dumb but that is such an accomplishment for me. I am working two jobs right now and I was really tired after my weekend of rock climbing and biking. But all of that hard work actually made me feel amazing. Hear that, future self? Hard work made me feel better than any binge on sugar / chocolate / coffee ever could.

So, here I am on my high horse and I decide to step on the scale. That's when the past three weeks came rushing back to meet me at my feet. Ah, that number. There it is. Payback for my indulgent couple of weeks was a few pounds put on.

But you know what? I really learned from the experience. I was deep in my funk when my friend convinced me to go rock climbing and it really pulled me out. What a cool lesson: if I push myself physically, I can come back from a pretty dark, depressed state of feeling bad for myself. Residual happiness from that adventure has been lingering in my dreams and in my conversations with my boyfriend, too.

Lesson learned. Thank you to my self for teaching me that and wanting me to have comfort and happiness. I forgive you for these four pounds I gained in the process and I will keep going to lose them soon enough.

Two places I have found inspiration this week: Reading a book by TV reality fitness trainer Jackie Warner (This is Why You're Fat), and watching The Dog Whisperer. Both have helped me question many of the assumptions about myself. Jackie's book is encouraging me to push myself harder. The Dog Whisperer shows me ways I can confront my fears, feel anxiety or fear or whatever it may be, and move through it. Keep moving forward. Cool stuff. There's more I can say but like I mentioned I have two jobs and I have to get going on my day!

Hope you are all well!


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MODEL_BEHAVIOR 10/14/2010 7:54AM

    Yes exactly. I dream of hiring an emotional nanny to keep my inner child moving. Just do it!

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THEREALDINANE 10/13/2010 8:44AM

    That is a great lesson! Learning how to drag yourself out of a funk is just great. I am slowly learning that running does that for me. Which is weird. I hear "runners" talk about how running makes them happy all the time. Never thought I could think like that.

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