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survived turkey day even on bed rest

Monday, November 26, 2012

well they say some of the hardest things in the world to do is to get up and moving when your body is not physically able to. or when you are in to much pain to. well thanksgiving was my challenge. you see my mother is a manager at a walmart super center and for the second year in a row. they decided that my mother was gonna have to work thanksgiving day. which meant that my mother would not have the joy of going to see her mother (my grams) and all her siblings. now for me..this was a relief..cause i am a estranged from the family. and they have not been a support to me on this weight loss journey. the last holiday function that they new i was attending they actually deep fried everything or cooked it in alot of butter and grease. or put items in it i was allergic too. or the fat content was so high i could not even imagine eating it. which led me to go to a local grocery store and by a smart ones dinner so i could eat. the rest of the time i sucked down bottled waters. while they drank like fish. so i had swore i was never going again anyway. but for me i was sad that my mother was not going. and i know my mother just as well as i know myself. when she gets bummed she will sleep until she has to work. and she actually had planned to eat just a bowl of cereal and go to work for 12hrs. and not eat. soooo even being on strict doctors ordered bed rest. i invited my mother over to my apartment for thanksgiving dinner with my witchlet, my fiancÚ and myself. she knew it would be healthy and as she has learned since i had the surgery ...little did she realize until then that her daughter has always really known how to cool.
so i rested the day before..and at 4am i was up cooking a huge turkey breast. i cooked from 4am till 4pm. when the last item came out of the oven and off the stove. i did it with all my timers i use to eat with ..and clocks and my son and fiancÚ kept watch as well. i made a very long large menu but it was actually bariatric friendly. as well as high in protein items. i made my 2 ingredient cupcakes..with sugar free icing..(allergic to aspartame so the icing has splenda in it). and it has less sugar in the cupcakes that regular cupcakes. was so yummy. made sugar cookies. but i only ate one later. i had ham and turkey. and bariatric friendly deviled eggs. and even altered some other recipes. when my mother arrived. there i layed back in bed. in my pjs. she came in with a hostess gift for me..Which i had never received before. it was this adorable night shirt...Loved it..she told me it was for inviting her to share dinner with us even then i was in so much pain and suppose to be on rest. i read her the menu..her jaw dropped. she said wait you cooked all that. i told her yep. if anyone could have seen her rush to the kitchen i swear it was priceless. counters full of food. and she just busted with joy.
at the end she ate, went off work happy, and bragged on how her daughter cooked. and when everyone asked..wait i thought your daughter just got out the hospital and was on bed rest..she told them..yep...she did and yes she is on bed rest...but my daughter is a survivor..she can do stuff that 10 people could not survive doing. and i love her for it.
that made me so proud to here. so for me...i want people to realize something...if you even survived not taking a second cookie, eating as big of a spoonful of something you would have eaten the year before, or maybe you passed on those sweet potatoes with the marshmallows on top this year. or took water instead of soda or diet soda instead of liquor. you are did great this thanksgiving ..cause some could not do that...and i am proud of etch of you..no matter who you are.

  
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PATTYR81 11/27/2012 10:34AM

    I like your strategies for food success and success for getting away from all those negative-nellies!!

Please rest and take care of yourself so you're out and about for Christmas!

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MISTRESSDIXIE 11/26/2012 1:15PM

    LunieCat always remember be proud of what you did accomplish not what you did not. its those baby steps that turn into a walk, then a jog then a run.

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LUNIECAT 11/26/2012 10:21AM

    Thank you for this. It makes me feel much better for how I handled both of the Thanksgiving dinners I went to. I did fairly well on the meals, themselves, it was the pies that did me in! The one family promises that Christmas they will not serve such large portions, or will at least keep mine to one bite... or none. They are all trying to help, but have no idea what to do, or how to change things. I'm working on that. emoticon

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NCSUE0514 11/26/2012 5:34AM

    Hope you're up & about soon

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on the mend

Friday, November 16, 2012

well two days ago i was sitting in a hospital. making the staff pretty miserable. taking over 3-5hrs to find a vien to run a iv. i got lucky the ditzy nurse #6 as i called her..the 6th one that had come in and started apoligizing and crying after the 5th attempt with no success. well she left the curtain open. i was laughing my butt off. cause this is normal to me. well with the curtain open..i seen this nurse i knew very well..and i call her my goddess of iv...she lets me find a vien put my turnakit on myself. she plucks were i say..and then when i see the one i feel is right...then and only then will she stick. while i have a second turnikit on the other arm. well seeing her..and having low bp , low blood sugar and all i called out to her..she looked up and seen it was me and quickly came in the room. seen all these guaze and holes in my arm and started shakin her head. looked at the nurse and said i got this. she handed me 2 turnikits and bam we got a line..now its 2 days post release..i am still on nausea meds, resting in bed only getting up to go potty. and guess what..thanks to the fact that unlike most people with the rny gastric bypass i don't dump on g2. sooo ladys and gents i drank my 1st 32oz bottle of g2 this morning. omg with the help of nausea meds of course. hugs to you all and i would like to thank all of you for the prayers and support

  
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PATTYR81 11/17/2012 7:57PM

    I'm so glad that you are feeling better!

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I'm looking forward to more updates~

Happy Day!
Patty

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CHYNNA81 11/16/2012 9:45AM

    Continue to get well and keep sipping.
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MYBULLDOGS 11/16/2012 8:02AM

    get well soon

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MYUTMOST4HIM 11/16/2012 8:01AM

    GET WELL SOON

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DMEYER4 11/16/2012 8:01AM

  good luck on a speedy recovery.

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AJB121299 11/16/2012 8:00AM

    get better soon

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Hospitalized .....please learn from my mistakes

Thursday, November 15, 2012

yes you read that correctly i was in the hospital. had a glorious visit and stay at the hospital which ended with me now on bed rest and me very nauseated and tired. please no that dehydration is a awful thing and its nothing to play with. if you have a wls surgery of any type then don't play with it..you can get put in the hospital quickly. but you don't have to have the surgery to end up this way. drink fluids. if you get sick and start to get signs of dehydration dont wait to long. go get checked don't wait till its to late. blacking out is no fun. please take care of yourself

  
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MISTRESSDIXIE 11/16/2012 7:49AM

    thank you my dear ones...much love to you all for your kind support

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JAMER123 11/15/2012 10:43PM

    Hoping you are feeling better soon and keep those fluids going!!
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FRAN0426 11/15/2012 9:07PM

    Please take good care of yourself---you are worth it. Hope your up and about real soon.

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CORTNEY-LEE 11/15/2012 8:06PM

    hope all is well

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CHYNNA81 11/15/2012 1:48PM

    Oh my goodness. Praying for a speedy recovery. Please take care. Drinking water as we speak! emoticon

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SENIMMO 11/15/2012 1:46PM

    Hope you're feeling better. Keep drinking, even when you don't feel like it (especially then!) Keep sipping! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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do you know what you need to survive... i am still learning

Thursday, November 08, 2012

at 38 years old you would think i would know exactly what i need to survive. what i need to keep me from ending up in the hospital. well guess what...hahaha i am like a infant learning all over again now that i have my gastric bypass. at a year post op i still have to learn stuff. for a bypass patient we do not function like others. we don't have a cute stomach we have a pouch. some still call it a stomach mine i call oscar the pouch. the grouchy pouch. lol. but we do not absorb most things. we require a large amount of protein to just function and survive. we require a mandatory minimum amount of fluids a day to keep from being dehydrated. and we have to take suppliments for the rest of our lives. now here is the thing. after you learn all that ...and you are like ok i got this down pat..some times life will throw you a curve ball. for me that was reactive hypoglycemia. and it can occur to anyone but it really is a larger occurance in stomach surgery patients. and for those that don't know what that is...its when suddenly your sugar drops so low you can actualy pass out. well u can not take glucose to keep it up. for us we gotta eat and we gotta eat or drink protein to make it stabalize and i am just getting that through my head. i had a bad batch of it that i am dealing with right now..and i am eating more than i am use to..its like a child learning all over again. so to those that think when you get to a certain point you know it all about your surgery or your weight loss. please realise that life will always teach you something new. even if you don't want to be taught

  
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IVYRAYNE 11/9/2012 5:09AM

    It is so true. I am 39 and have only started my journey 3 months ago. I have not had surgery and I am hoping now I have started my journey I will never need it. But I too have hypoglycaemia and have to eat every couple of hours to maintain my blood sugar. It is not so bad right now and I have been lucky. But it's so hard when it kicks in and you feel so ill and shaky. I am glad you are now learning what you need to do to maintain it. Keep going. You are a special person, never forget that. XX emoticon

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KOFFEENUT 11/8/2012 11:55AM

    Our bodies are so complex, and each one of us is so different.... Good for you that you're hanging in there and figuring out what YOU need to do to have a long, healthy life. (And you're right - sometimes you'd just as soon not HAVE to learn what you're being taught!).

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No its not the easy way out!!!

Sunday, November 04, 2012

over a year ago i had a rny gastric bypass. and i loss so many friends over it. i had tried everything else. i was at deaths door. the thought of even walking to the bathroom with out my fiance 2 steps behind me scared me. i was a walking death trap. i had so little blood flow through my heart but no plaque or blockages. i did not look as heavy as i was. i have always stored my weight around my organs and i was killing myself one pound at a time. my organs were being suffocated. strangled, heck even smooched. when i woke up i had a new life. but a very difficult one. many set backs. to this day i still have set backs at time. but the biggest obstacle i face is people that still do not understand that just because i am not standing in a gym 24/7 it does not mean that i took the easy weigh out. bariatric surgery is one of the hardest things in life to do and succeed at. and its no joke. i fear failing everyday. i have no friends. no one comes to visit. no invites anywhere. and i am alone. its just me, my fiance, my son and my mom. all in all..each day of my life. i live and breath a surgery that was suppose to ave my life but instead it sheltered me more. but you know what i would not change having it for anything in this world. cause i make my son smile when i can put him on the bus. i make him smile when i surprise him at school. its worth it. but i can not say that fighting to lose this weight is not hard. and having no support anywhere. no one to call and take my mind off things for a moment. or drive to me or anything. it breaks my heart. so i have returned to sparks...along with my other sites. and hopefully i will maybe at least find someone to tell me good job from time to time. cause at this point. a world of silence is all i know. and if this was the easy way out. i don't wish this silence on anyone.

  
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IVYRAYNE 11/9/2012 4:56AM

    I am with you on being alone. I too have no friends. Over the years I have lost them. It can be such a lonely place to be. But you have done so much. Write a list of the all the things you have gained, and what you have done to get where you are now. I think it is amazing and I hope your list is a long one. Then when you feel down take the list back out and look at it. emoticon emoticon

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CORTNEY-LEE 11/6/2012 7:54PM

    It is far from the "easy way out"

You look great!

Yes, it is a struggle every day, and unless people have gone through the same thing, they don't know.

When people tell me that, I just smile and ignore their comments - come home, and rant and vent on my blog and the Gastric Bypass Sparklers team

((hugs))

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CHYNNA81 11/5/2012 6:11PM

    I can see how it can get lonely. Glad that Spark is a positive tool in your life and you are right. If you are looking for someone to root you on, Sparkpeople is just the place. Keep up the great work and welcome back to Sparks.

I am only 19 days post op. I am sure there is a lot I could learn from you. Looking forward to your updates and sucesses.



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TOPAZ-TURTLE 11/5/2012 3:17PM

    I was touched by the loneliness you expressed in your blog. Looking at your page, I can see that your transformation is remarkable. I don't really know anything about the gastric bypass procedure, but I don't think you would have done something like that lightly. Having any kind of surgery and dealing with its aftermath is certainly not taking "the easy way out." There may be many reasons you have lost your friends, but you have your son, your fiance, and your mother. You are a good mom, wanting to be there just to see your son's smile. If you are dealing with depression, things may look worse to you right now. I have heard that there are support groups for gastric bypass patients. Have you explored anything like that? Hang in there! As Kim said in her comment, there are lots of people at Spark here to support you.
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KTREK32 11/4/2012 4:06PM

    Don't let others get you down I had gastric bypass the beging of August and I can say also that this has not been the easy way out. Not at all I struggle every day to make the right decisions on what I eat. The surgery helped with the physical but did not fix my head and the emotional eating that I fight every day and to keep myself motivated to work out every day. Give yourself a pat on the back every day for what you did for your self and if someone says to you oh you did things the easy way know they do not know what they are talking about. Keep doing what you are doing and when ever you feel down there are lots of people on SP that know what you are going threw and are here to support you.

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