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Letter from my Grandma, 21 years ago.

Friday, September 05, 2008

I am fortunate to still have both my biological grandmas.

The crazy thing about my mother's mother, my grandma, is that I am 36 years old and we have NEVER MET. She lives in Iowa to this day, and although her letter states she has no intentions of staying in Iowa, 21 years later, she's still there. The letter that I am going to blog from her is dated February 24, 1987- more than 21 years ago...

At the time I was:

- 14 years old, 5 days from my 15th birthday

- skinny with long hair

- just went to a Valentine's dance with a friend.

- I wouldn't meet my hubby for the first time for 5 more months

- This letter seems to be a response from a letter I wrote her

- Grandma was almost 60 years old (add 21 more years, now!)

- Remember, we've never met

- I've talked to her on the phone TWICE in my life.

It's crazy to see her wisdom in the letter, as I have already lived out some of her advice. I met my hubby, whom I deemed was "worth it", less than 5 months after she wrote this letter. I learned to crochet less than 2 years later, while pregnant with my first son 16 years old. But, still, I see so much of me in the woman I have never met. Maybe it's genetics that makes us so similar in light that we've never been in the same room.

She seems wise with experience, but, bitter at the results.

Ironic, as I am losing weight these days, that she would include that issue.

Anyway, here is her letter.

It fell out of my "things" recently while I was going through them.

I forgot this letter existed...so...it's like reading it for the first time, 21 years later.

Reap some wisdom, grandma to granddaughter.

Dear Rikki, February 24, 1987

I received your letter today and really enjoyed it because it was nice and long and newsy.

Sounds like you had an enjoyable Valentine's Day @ Indio. Holidays seem to come and go without having much meaning to me anymore-- one day is about the same as the other.

Sounds like you like to dance; I always did too-- but I married men who instead of taking me dancing, did what they could to make me miserable. I have no interest in meeting men---to try to find out if by some strange chance there might be one worth having. Besides that, Sioux City isn't exactly the kind of place anymore that a single female much cares to chance being out alone. If they dropped a bomb and blew the midwest off the face of the map, I think they would be doing the world a favor.

It's quite pretty weather here, too-- and I believe that big storm is going to miss us again; this will be the 7th storm that has detoured around us so we have had barely any snow or harsh weather this year.

You should learn how to crochet--it's rewarding in its own way and simple to learn.

Broaden your interests while you are young and then expand on what you like best; I wish that someone had given me that good advice-- my life could have been (and should have been) much happier. Youth too often supposes there is more to be had out there in the big wide world-- but mostly what is really out there are people who want to use people and lead them astray. Of all the thousands of people I've met and in some cases, loved, I doubt that there are two dozen whom I'd care to ever meet or know again; I wish I could give a better report than that-- but, truth is truth.

I could have done such beautiful things with my life had I had sense enough to put ME first; it took me nearly 60 years to learn that-- the hard way, too. I hope you will be smarter than was I...though believe me, there's nothing simple about being smart enought to always know what is best for one's self. We do the best we can-- and then if we make an error, at least we have that virtue to fall back on to support us. Be careful about temptations, Rikki-- Let them go on without you and you will be thankful all of your life that you did; Always choose right over wrong. This is no lecture-- it's good advice from one who wants your life to be filled with happiness.

I don't know what your birthstone is-- but, I was going to send you a ring for your birthday, but, was afraid it might get damaged in the letter mailing process. I've decided all gemstones are my birthstones because-- who was it that said certain stones apply to certain months? I doubt that it was God. If you like what they say is the Feb. birthstone--fine--but you can choose whatever you like best.

If some people say you are skinny-- I doubt that you are overweight. If you feel good, that is more important than the scale and charts.

You said they are "lucky" to be 18; Take your time to smell the roses along the way-- you'll age soon enough, and, if like most, wish you were younger again.

I didn't know your hair was so long-- I bet it's really beautiful!

I saw One Flew Over the Cuckoo's Nest. I really enjoyed it, too.

They started calling me "Claire", my middle name, at school because there were too many students named "Mary".
Love, Your Grandma, Claire.

Here I am, 36 years old...I know what she means that one day rolls into another. I read the weightloss comment LOUD AND CLEAR (although my problem then was that I was too skinny). I understand about expanding on what you like best and putting yourself first. I don't want to say things "could have been" better...
I need to lead a life with no regrets.
...and she is right. I wish I was younger, now.

She appears to be a pessimistic person. I don't know about that bomb comment, but...I'm reaping from the letter.

It's all in there.

I think I need to take better care of this letter.

So, there you have it. Words of wisdom from one who was almost 60, now 80 years old.



  Member Comments About This Blog Post:

SH1NYSTAR12 11/10/2008 5:32AM

    just looked at the post now... but it is still inspirational... we miss you at PIR... hehe.... Diane2008 is doing an awesome job...

the letter struck a chord with me... all those wise words of wisdom.. thank you!

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ABOUTTIME42 10/9/2008 10:44PM

    What a wonderful letter. Thanks for sharing it with us.


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SGTSUNNY 9/5/2008 9:28PM

    I agree Rikki, you need to go visit her. I wish I had a grandparent or even parent still alive (yes I am an orphan). It would be a special treat for you both!

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SUNNIEDAES 9/5/2008 5:13PM


What a great treat and thank you for sharing this precious letter from your grandmother. She imparts some wonderful wisdom. Go visit your grandma while she is still here. You'll be glad you did. :)

Blessings, Bonnie

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Saturday, July 12, 2008

I am SO EXCITED to announce my new Sparkteam!
It's called "Pregnancy IN REVERSE" and the first pregnancy happens JULY 21st 2008 and goes for 40 weeks, through April 26th 2009!

I will be leading as birthing coach emoticon, and commit to help the first group through their 40 weeks!

Experience your weightloss as a pregnancy IN REVERSE!
Designed to restore committment and gain accountability through small, intimate groups in the same "stage of pregnancy".
Each Monday, we will form a new "40 week pregnancy" group with one committed "birthing coach" volunteer for that group.

Stay committed to your resolve to lose weight, just like an expecting mother would follow through 40 weeks of pregnancy!

Take a moment, and stop by!


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JARVISTN 8/11/2008 10:47PM

    What a great mental concept....my daughter turns 9 months on the 20th and I am still 9 lb away from what I was when I got pregnant.....I'm on board, it worked for you, it can work for me....you look great!!!congrats....

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SGTSUNNY 7/18/2008 12:25PM

    What a great concept, I joined your team today. You have done an awesome job of losing weight!

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Injury setback...(with photo)

Monday, June 30, 2008

Well, I had a family reunion on Saturday (June 28th).
It was a blast!
I went into the ocean a couple times, challenged by the waves!
...and then my 13 year old nephew lost footing and slammed into the side of my knee, knocking me on my butt HARD. I couldn't even stand back up for a couple minutes, so, the waves were beating me, too.
Now, I have lovely new "accessories", crutches and a knee thing...and a one week follow up appointment. Oh well. It was fun.
I can't exercise on our new stationary bike. That sucks.
The question is...would I have been in the ocean @ my former weight of 222 lbs? NO.
So, I think we are more inclined to have these types of setbacks as we become more active!

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MISS_RIKKI 7/12/2008 11:43PM

    I have advanced to a bending knee brace!
One more week until I may be freed from it!

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MISS_RIKKI 7/4/2008 1:26PM

    I didn't realize how much using crutches helps tone the upper body!
Blessing in diguise, maybe???
I felt disproportioned, This might help me!

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SAYMORRE 7/4/2008 7:24AM

    Congrats on all of your successes. Hopefully this set back will just be a time for you to take a breather. I'm sure you'll be back on track in no time! Have a great 4th weekend!

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KANANIPOD 7/1/2008 1:33AM

    Hoo-hoo, look at you Skinny Mini!! Girl, you are shrinking! And look at your smiling face. God (or fate or whatever) just wanted you to take a break and do some knee brace modeling, lol!

speedy recovery to you! And keep blogging so we know you're getting better, okay?

Cheers Nice Lady!


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JAPSGIRL1 6/30/2008 10:55PM

    You still look amazing even with your new "ACCESSORIES." Take in all your doctor's advice and take it easy!!! You deserve a break.. Do some chair execises if you must, that stationary bike will be there when you're better!!!
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CANUCKER08 6/30/2008 10:02PM

    double post... sorry emoticon

Comment edited on: 6/30/2008 10:01:08 PM

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CANUCKER08 6/30/2008 10:02PM

    LOL love the pic and the little sad face. Oh well, life happens, at least you were having a good time when you got injured!


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TFROGHUNTER 6/30/2008 6:59PM

    my dear rikki, so sorrthat you are hurt,dont over do it and you'll be back at it in no time!!!!!!! girl you look soooooo GREAT !!!!!!!! I HAD TO SHOW HUBBY AT YOUR GREAT PROGRESS he said that is great see now tammy you can do it to. thanks for always giving me that extra boost and for all your comments & post ,you are a wonderful spark buddie !!!!!! get well soon take it easy, you really look great!

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ELECTRALYTE 6/30/2008 5:55PM

    awww, sorry you got hurt, but OMG you look sooooooooo cute!
your awesome lady emoticon

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AMHISPRINCESS 6/30/2008 5:28PM

    I am so sorry that you were hurt. But you did make a statement... You can do anything now.. You sure look great... Please listen to the doctor and take care of you.. OK? Keep in touch.. Hugs, Carol

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Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Did you know that Nachos with Cheese has 1,100 calories?
Me, either!
But, this was the purpose of my midnight runs to 7/11...
and mine ALSO had chili beans!
That was the old me.
The new me consumes about 1200-1500 calories PER DAY...
Not only am I losing the weight I gained...but...I have successfully reversed the causes of my weight gain.
I can count myself victorious because I have broken bad habits.
That's a HUGE change.
Over time, I will see it.
Even now I do...
How many calories were you consuming with your cravings?
Do some research.
I bet you'd be shocked, too.

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AMHISPRINCESS 5/24/2008 8:10AM

    I am so proud of you..CONGRATULATIONS.. What a motivation you have.. WOW.. I want to be able to loss the same way. I hope that it is possible. Keep me posted. Have a wonderful Memorial Day Weekend.. Hugs,

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AHHHME 5/17/2008 1:16AM

    That is the answer! You are doing such an awesome job!! Congratulations! emoticon emoticon emoticon emoticon

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Friday, March 14, 2008

11-14 grams PER SERVING! IT'S YUMMY!

Figuring Out the Facts on Fiber

When your parents told you to eat your vegetables, and when Grandma said “Eat your beans and cornbread,” they knew what they were doing. These foods are excellent sources of fiber. While eating fiber may be great advice…it has the reputation of tasting like cardboard. This could not be further from the truth! Fiber can be a delicious addition to your diet.

Read on to learn all the benefits of developing a fiber fixation, along with easy, tasty ways to add it to your diet.

What is fiber?
Fiber is found only in plant foods. It is found in dried beans and peas, fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. It is a type of carbohydrate that gives plants their structure. Fiber is not digested or absorbed into the body when eaten. It therefore contains no calories.

There are two types of fiber. Both are beneficial in different ways.

Soluble Fiber (such as pectin) mixes with water to form a gummy substance that coats the insides of the intestinal tract. There, soluble fiber binds to cholesterol and reduces its absorption. This helps to lower blood cholesterol levels. It also delays the absorption of glucose and helps with diabetes control.
Sources: oats, seeds, beans, barley, peas, lentils, apples, citrus fruit, carrots, plums, and squash.

Insoluble Fiber absorbs water, making the stool larger, softer and easier to eliminate from the body. It keeps the digestive system running smoothly, reducing constipation, hemorrhoids, and other digestive problems. Since the stool is in the intestines for a shorter period of time, less cancer-causing agents deposit in the digestive tract, preventing certain types of cancer.
Sources: bran, whole grain products, skins of fruits and vegetables, and leafy greens.

What can fiber do for you?
There are many health benefits to bulking up on fiber:

Aids in Weight Loss - Fiber-rich foods may help your body stay trim. They take longer to chew, which may slow down your eating time so you eat less food. Fiber helps you feel full and slows the emptying of your stomach. In other words, fiber helps you to fill up before you reach the point of overeating. Fiber itself cannot be fattening because it isn’t digested and has ZERO calories!

Reduces Risk of Heart Disease - Studies have shown that people who consume a high fiber diet are less likely to develop heart disease. Certain types of fiber may help lower LDL cholesterol (the bad stuff). Fiber also helps bile acids pass through as waste. Therefore the body absorbs less dietary cholesterol.

Lowers High Blood Pressure - Fiber-rich foods are also a good source of potassium and magnesium. These two minerals are needed to help regulate blood pressure.

Manages Diabetes - Water-soluble fiber also helps to regulate blood sugar by delaying the emptying time of the stomach. This slows the sugar absorption after meals and reduces the amount of insulin needed.

Prevents Cancer - Eating a high fiber diet throughout one’s life may help prevent certain cancers, such as colon and rectal cancers. Fiber absorbs excess bile acids that are associated with cancer. It also speeds up the time it takes for waste to pass through the digestive system, which decreases the amount of time that harmful substances remain in contact with the intestinal wall. Fiber also forms a bulkier stool, which helps to dilute the concentration of harmful substances.

Reduces Constipation, Hemorrhoids, and Diverticulosis - Fiber absorbs water, softening and bulking the stool. This helps it pass through the digestive system more quickly and easily. As a result, fiber prevents constipation. There is less straining with bowel movements so hemorrhoids are less likely to form. Fiber is also a standard therapy for the treatment of diverticular disease. This painful disease occurs when the tiny sacs in the intestinal wall become weak and infected. A high fiber diet helps to keep these sacs from becoming inflamed.

How much do I need?

The recommended daily intake for total fiber is:

Adult males, under age 50 38 grams daily
Adult males, over age 50 30 grams daily
Adult females, under age 50 25 grams daily
Adult females, over age 50 21 grams daily
Adult pregnant females 25-35 grams daily

Where can i get more fiber?
Check out the chart below for the amount of fiber in some common foods.

Grams of Fiber Grams of Fiber
Fruit Grains & Pasta
Raspberries, 1/2c 5 ( 1 cup cooked )
Apple, 1 4 Bulgar 8
Blueberries, 1c 4 Barley 6
Prunes, dried, 3 3 Whole Wheat Spaghetti 6
Banana, 1 3 Brown Rice 4
Pear, 1 3 Couscous 2
Orange, 1 3 Macaroni 2
Strawberries, 1c 3 Spaghetti 2
Grapes, 1c 2 White Rice 1
Apricots, dried, 1/4c 2
Peach, 1 2 Cereal
Pineapple, 1c 2 Fiber One, 1/2c 14
Plums, 2 2 All Bran, 1/3c 14
Cantaloupe, 1c 1 Kashi, 3/4c 8
Watermelon, 1c 1 Raisin Bran, 1c 8
Grapefruit, 1/2 1 Shredded Wheat, 1c 6
Apple Juice, 1c 0 Wheat Chex, 1c 5
Orange Juice, 1c 0 Bran Flakes, 3/4c 5
Grape Nuts, 1/2c 5
Vegetables Oats, 1c 4
(1/2 cup cooked) Cheerios, 1c 3
Potato with skin, 1 4 Wheaties, 1c 3
Green Peas 4 Granola, 2/3c 3
Brussel Sprouts 3 Corn Flakes, 1c 1
Carrots 3 Special K, 1c 0
Broccoli 2 Rice Krispies, 1c 0
Cabbage 2
Cauliflower 2 Other Grains
Corn 2 ( 1 slice )
Carrot, 1 med 2 Pupernickel bread 4
Green beans 2 Whole wheat bread 4
Spinach 2 Triscuits, 7 4
Asparagus 1 White Bread 1
Celery, 1 stalk 1
Green pepper, 1/2 1 Beans
Lettuce, 1c 1 Lentils, 1/2c 7
Tomato, 1/2 1 Pinto beans, 1/2c 7
Lentil soup, 1c 7
Kidney beans, 1/2c 7
Ham / bean soup, 1c 6

Tasty ways to add fiber to your diet:

Try a high-fiber grain instead of rice. Bulgur, barley, and brown rice are great high-fiber substitutions.
Add beans to your favorite stir-fry, dips, quesadillas, burritos, and tacos.
Eat some type of fresh or dried fruit with every meal.
Start your meal with a large spinach salad, sprinkled with nuts, seeds or dried fruit.
Choose fruit instead of juice.
Make a pot of vegetable soup.
Add extra veggies and/or beans, peas, and lentils to soups, casseroles, and stews.
Try Middle Eastern cuisine, such as tabbouleh or falafel.
Keep nuts, trail mixes, and cereal mixes available for snacks.
Buy whole wheat pasta, breads, crackers, and cereals.
Top casseroles with wheat germ or bran.
Eat the skins of fruits and vegetables when possible.
Start your morning with a whole grain, high fiber cereal.
Ask for lunchtime sandwiches to be prepared with whole grain bread and topped with veggies.

Too much fiber too quickly may cause constipation or stomach discomfort. Increase fiber in your diet slowly, and boost your fluid consumption by drinking 8 glasses of water daily.
Use canned beans or dried beans that are thoroughly cooked; the undercooked starch in beans can cause gas. Discard the cooking water because it contains some indigestible sugars. If bothered by gas, try Beano, an over-the-counter product which contains an enzyme that digests bean sugars.

Laxatives…exit here: Do not take any laxatives for more than one week without checking with your physician. Do not take a laxative within two hours of other medications.

Bulk formers (Metamucil, Citrucel, Konsyl, Serutan). These products absorb water in the intestines and make the stool softer. They are similar to insoluble fiber. They are the safest laxatives.
Stool Softeners (Colace, Dialose, Surfak). These products keep the stool moist and prevent dehydration.
Saline Laxatives (Milk of Magnesia, Citrate of Magnesia, Haley’s M-O). These products act like a sponge to draw water into the colon for easier passage of the stool.
Lubricants (mineral oil). Lubricants grease the stool so it moves more easily in the intestines. They also can bind with fat-soluble vitamins (A,D,E,K) and can cause a deficiency over time. In rare cases, pneumonia can occur with usage.
Stimulants (Correctol, Dulcolax, Purge, Feen-A-Mint, Senokot). These products cause the intestinal muscles to contract and move the stool through the intestines. They can lead to a dependency.


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LUSKS1 5/6/2008 1:24PM

    Great information. I was going to try a new diet pill and someone told me that if you feel hungry often, eat more fiber. I am trying that and it is working out well.

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KARALEE4L 4/25/2008 4:51PM

    I love the Fiber One Raisin Bran Clusters! And if you are looking for another tasty, easy to tote source of fiber, the Fiber One Oats & Caramel chewy bars are like eating candy -- 140 cals, 3.5 g fat and 9 g fiber! emoticon

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AHHHME 4/20/2008 6:13PM

    This is excellent information! Thank you so much for posting it. :)

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GRMSHEALTH 3/15/2008 5:35PM

    THANK YOU for this excellent blog post! Whenever I get hunger pangs, I reach for baby carrots. I love-love-love them, and they're a great source of fiber. Also an apple. I also keep raw sunflower seeds in a bag in the freezer, and grab a small handful every so often.

You're a wise woman. Thanks for sharing what you've learned!
By the way, I love Raisin Bran and also Shredded Wheat, oatmeal, and Cream of Wheat. Yum.

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RENA1965 3/15/2008 10:21AM

    Hi Miss Rikki,
Thanks for adding me as a friend, enjoyed your entry. Fiber has been a big thing for me, too! Can't get by without my 20 oz of vegetable everyday! cheers

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